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crackkhaus:
This lady is not gonna report anything.

She is going to let that man sleep with her before the end of next week.

It's only after they have done it the first time, she will come to her senses and feel some regret.

Crackhaus says so...
...But the OP is never going to admit any of it here.

jendor123:
My wedding is taken place in two months time. Pls how do we plan for the wedding as both don't know much about it. What are the things grooms family need to do and what are the things the bride's family need to do. Thanks in anticipation

Michellekabod2:
Martinez I can see you viewing this thread. Please I beg you don't come and fight us

funmisticqueen2:
This post is not to bash ladies. It is Just a compilation of things I have noticed in ladies in the personal hygiene department, both at work, and talking to other people, both men and women.

I will come for some certain groups of women, please do not take offense. Any attempt to derail this thread will be nipped in the bud ASAP. Any degradatory slur or comment will be removed ASAP.

Let's get into it then;

WEAVES: this includes any form of synthetic attachments, especially kanekalon braids. They should not last on your hair for more than a month. They're made of plastic and will make your hair smell. Especially as people don't wash their hair while on it. If you fix human hair as a protective style, it is possible to wash the hair with diluted shampoo and conditioner applied to the tracks underneath. It is quite disturbing when it begins to smell as time goes by, also when you tap the weave like beyonce said we should

I want to give a special mention to my women in the Hijab. They're clothes too, make sure you get ones with natural quality material, not that cheap polyester or rayon stuff that traps heat and body odor. I am tired of BO wafting through my nostrils whenever I want to examine something under the Hijab, especially the long ones, or the ones that cover head to toe and face.

MAKEUP: if you know you will be busy throughout the day and you do not have time to touch up you appearance during the day , please do not wear full coverage foundation that will make your face look like the top of a cooled down cake later, disgracing your pores in public. Just use concealer on your spots and use a good powder. No makeup makeup is trending. Don't be caught outside looking yellowish like a sick person or orange like LASTMA traffic cone. You look embarrassing. Use foundation that matches your skin tone please. If everything else is cheap, your foundation must be longlasting and original.

BREASTS: please wear your correct size of bra. Especially the sisters with correct front ministry of D cup and higher. I Know it is a struggle, and getting properly fitted bras come with experience, but please, your bra should not divide your boobs into 4 or have a small outgrowth by the side like a tumor. If you know that ancient of days black bra that hasn't seen soap and water in 3 months is not enough, please add a tube for moral support.

To my front deficient sistersof the A cup and below, don't despair, please wear the armored cars of foam to move your ministry forward. Packaging is everything.

SHAVE THE ARMPITS: I don't care if your hair grows slower than a snail on a marathon,they stain blouses and generate BO. Apply a scrub so that you can raise your arms with confidence.

LOOK AFTER HANDS AND FEET: no chipped nail polish. Use a good hand and foot cream so that they are soft when boo touches your hand

BODYSHAPERS: they are a must, especially if the stomach is not flat, or the ass is not like the peach emoji,as normal as it looks, it isn't sexy at all. But beware, don't wear BODYSHAPERS with jeans or tight trousers then go to the doctor's office with a female issue, that smell of stale sweat can cause a misdiagnosis. Pregnant women that like to shakara, pls take note.

THE PATHWAY TO HEAVEN: must be shaved or trimmed like a manicured garden, no sambisa forest down please. Wash the Hoo-ha after you pee or poo from front to back. Whether you are team water or team tissue paper to tamba, make sure there's no evidence of the crime such as wet trousers and panties or tissue sticking from the back ,infact use baby wipes after the ministration just to be sure. Make sure it is clean enough for mouth action. Your feminine duty is to the vulva only, the vagina doesn't need your extra assistance, so douching is no no. Please exofiolate the area with body scrub, at most 2 days after shaving to make it look smooth.
If you caught BV after sleeping with your man or girlfriend, and you have a fishy odor or a funky smelling or looking discharge that is not like normal, please treat it straight away. Men don't know that they can transmit the bacteria that causes the fishy smell.

DISPOSE OLD UNDIES: you know the undies I am talking about.Do so before they disgrace you in public. They can also be a source of recurrent infection.

olabrinks:
the reality is that we all need human beings to feel complete. Whether it’s your friends, your cousins, your mum. We are not wired to be on our own 24/7 and be completely isolated from the world. A lot of people come online to fill in that social isolation in their lives because of this. So yes I need people to feel complete, including my husband. I refuse to accept isolation as the norm like this generation wants to push forward. I will proudly accept that, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you have the right people around you, it’s unlikely you’ll feel lonely. Unless you’re dealing with personal issues that you need to deal with.

mynaijadj:
Actor Bolanle Ninolowo shares a throwback picture he took with his wife 16 years ago feeling cool and rocking his bathroom slippers. In his words :

"The only thing all that money & fame cannot buy.
#TBT 16yrs ago if anyborry talks about my rubber slippers, chop dem asap"

Source
https://www.instagram.com/p/B78Yoq2JYuu/?igshid=mvra86nn7koi

Toks2008:
Naija men hardly forgets a lady who was there in times of lack...they may cheat on her but will hardly leave her.

Ilekokonit:
True dat. Men get dangerously carried away at the start of a relationship and end up selling their birthright for a quick lay on the bed and end up regretting later when its too late to claim their God given leadership position.

Ephesians 5:22 New American Bible (Revised Edition) (NABRE)
Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord.

1 Corinthians 14:34-35 New International Version (NIV)
Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says.
If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home ; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.


If these hard of hearing women want to argue, let them argue with God who made them subject to the man.

Blindersoff:
Amen and may you find what you are looking for if by any chance you find yourself in her shoes too as a vulnerable female

Blindersoff:
Her motive is Justice same with the other 16 women accusing Trump of same thing. Is he no longer bold to GRAB THEM BY THE PVSSY as he said?

Blindersoff:
New York (AP) -- Lawyers for a woman who accuses President Donald Trump of raping her in the 1990s are asking for a DNA sample, seeking to determine whether his genetic material is on a dress she says she wore during the encounter.

Advice columnist E. Jean Carroll’s lawyers served notice to a Trump attorney Thursday for Trump to submit a sample on March 2 in Washington for “analysis and comparison against unidentified male DNA present on the dress.”

Carroll filed a defamation suit against Trump in November after the president denied her allegation. Her lawyer, Roberta Kaplan, then had the black wool coat-style dress tested. A lab report with the legal notice says DNA found on the sleeves was a mix of at least four people, at least one of them male.

Several other people were tested and eliminated as possible contributors to the mix, according to the lab report, which was obtained by The Associated Press. Their names are redacted.

While the notice is a demand, such demands often spur court fights requiring a judge to weigh in on whether they will be enforced.

The Associated Press sent a message to Trump's attorney seeking comment.

Carroll accused Trump last summer of raping her in a Manhattan luxury department store dressing room in the mid-1990s.

In a New York magazine piece in June and a book published the next month, Carroll said she and Trump met by chance, chatted and went to the lingerie department for Trump to pick out a gift for an unidentified woman. She said joking banter about trying on a bodysuit ended in a dressing room, where she said Trump reached under her black wool dress, pulled down her tights and raped her as she tried to fight him off, eventually escaping.

“The Donna Karan coatdress still hangs on the back of my closet door, unworn and unlaundered since that evening,” she wrote. She donned it for a photo accompanying the magazine piece.

Trump said in June that Carroll was “totally lying” and he had “never met this person in my life.” While a 1987 photo shows them and their then-spouses at a social event, Trump dismissed it as a moment when he was “standing with my coat on in a line.”

“She is trying to sell a new book — that should indicate her motivation,” he said in one of various statements on the matter, adding that the book “should be sold in the fiction section.”

Carroll sued Trump in November, saying he smeared her and hurt her career as a longtime Elle magazine advice columnist by calling her a liar. She is seeking unspecified damages and a retraction of Trump’s statements.

“Unidentified male DNA on the dress could prove that Donald Trump not only knows who I am, but also that he violently assaulted me in a dressing room at Bergdorf Goodman and then defamed me by lying about it and impugning my character," Carroll said in a statement Thursday.

Her lawyer, Kaplan, said it was “standard operating procedure” in a sexual assault investigation to request a DNA sample from the accused.

“As a result, we’ve requested a simple saliva sample from Mr. Trump to test his DNA, and there really is no valid basis for him to object,” she said.

Trump’s lawyer has tried to get the case thrown out. A Manhattan judge declined to do so earlier this month, saying the attorney hadn’t properly backed up his arguments that the case didn’t belong in a New York court.

The Associated Press typically does not name people who say they have been sexually assaulted, unless they come forward publicly.

Carroll said she didn’t do so for decades because she feared legal retribution from Trump and damage to her reputation, among other reasons. But when the #MeToo movement spurred reader requests for advice about sexual assault, she said, she decided she had to disclose her own account.

Trump, a Republican, isn’t the first president to face the prospect of a DNA test related to a woman’s dress.

Former President Bill Clinton, a Democrat, underwent such a test during an independent counsel investigation into whether he had a sexual relationship with onetime White House intern Monica Lewinsky and then lied in denying it under oath.

After Clinton’s DNA was found on the dress, he acknowledged an "inappropriate intimate relationship" with Lewinsky.

Clinton was impeached by the House in December 1998 and later acquitted by the Senate.

https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2020-01-30/ap-exclusive-woman-who-says-trump-raped-her-seeks-his-dna

Ariza:
How?

Chizuru01:
It says, That you are a virgin doesn't mean you can't cheat

SeyiDominion:
Living in the Dark


My regards and honor to whom honor is due.

Dear worthy friends, you are welcome to another scintillating story.


Every one is welcome.


Living in the Dark

Cover Picture: Pexels.



Seyi Dominion
© 2020


Tayo is married, but he is a man that cherishes philandering ways of life. His affairs with the sister of his wife causes a lot of crises. His wife packs out and makes a shocking revelation that shows that they have been living in the dark.







Martha felt some warmth building up inside her. It was a warmth that made her skin feel responsive and sensitive. There was a glint in Tayo’s eyes.

The corners crinkled with amusement, his face so handsome and rugged. His attractive features made her heart beat faster. He looked at her like she was a tantalizing meal and he was hungry and ready to eat her.

Her nipples became sensitive to the soft cotton t-shirt she was wearing. Heat flowed down her body, and she could feel that her pussy was throbbing. Weightlessness formed in her stomach, as if she was gliding into the space where the force of gravity had no effect.

Why did Tayo turn her on so much? She didn’t understand it, yet she reacted to him like no one else. The warmth hit her face as she pictured kissing those warm lips and having his hands on her boobs.

The thought of being held in his arms, the safety and comfort and excitement it gave her, and his gentleness, brought great desire inside her.

Deep inside her, she was proud she could turn him on and was delighted that they were having passionate time together. She liked that he wanted to kiss her. She liked being desired. It was a new sensation she still wasn’t used to, but it was enthralling.

With her heart thumping, Martha stood up, moved to him, smiled and settled beside him on the settee. Tayo was certainly not having the best of time. As much as he wanted Martha, there was a big factor holding him back. There were two main factors, actually.

The first one was he was married. Yes, he was happily married and should have nothing to do with another lady. The second factor – now, this was a serious one – was the fact that Martha was a sister to Mary, his wife.



You can download full story at: https://okadabooks.com/book/about/living-in-the-dark/30957

Ariza:
Ma, I never typed that men can not love but men can't learn to love. There's a difference. Toks postulated that but I didn't hamper on it because I do not believe that it neither is it the subject of discourse.

Ariza:
It wasn't my intention to answer it, I only intended to air my opinion about learning to love. But if it is the answer to my question,then it's all good. Lol.


That's it, Men can't learn to love but can learn to tolerate. If that is impossible for Men, then I wonder how it's possible for women. . Believe me if it's possible I would gladly do it but I have realized it's not. But Sir you are right about containing one's feelings.No be every butterflies in the belly be butterflies,some butterflies are just waiting for the perfect time to turn to mosquitoes.

thablogger:
What will you do if after your first night stand at his house, on your way back home, you saw on his status, ''done and dusted'.

Be sincere!

Source: http://www.musictori.com/2020/01/after-first-sx-with-him-she-saw-this-on.html

ETWs:
then end it with.

I WON'T DIE ALONE.

addictiv:
The fear of loosing the initial attraction along the line and the marriage turning to a brother/sister kind of relationship where we no get attracted to each other and just cohabiting and focusing on work and kids

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Maybe you're mistaking me for someone else, but no where did I cheer her up, or type words to heal her emotionally

She came for advice, and I came to learn. I expected people(probably married) to advise her with their experiences.

What has having a partner got to do with that?

If it was a widow, would you not advice her? Or will she have to get married again, so her question can be valid?[/color]

crackkhaus:
See question

The feeling of being desired is something a lot of young married women love to explore. That even if they're married, they can still be the object of attraction for men...and whether it's just sexual attraction or genuine love, it doesn't matter.

It makes y'all feel good.

Annstar:
my dear I have been doing that..

I just pray he shows up soon

izzou:
[color=royalblue]A very very invalid question

The op actually loves herself, and that's the very first step to recognizing your self worth

So if her partner says she's fine, she should just delete the thread and be happy abi? Is she not supposed to have a mind of her own?

I don't need to know if she has a partner or not. The woman isn't comfortable with her size and skin currently. That is what should count, and not whether she has a partner or not

That's a very stupid question, to me[/color]

Hildagirl:
Please I am currently 8 months pregnant and I just want to know how mothers deal with this. My stomach is filled with black stretch marks all over, they’re not manageable. They look disgusting, I’ve added so much weight and this is making me depesssed. I’m a young woman in my early 20s, what have I done to deserve this? Why do we have to go through all of this just to bring a child into the world. This is affecting my self esteem and mental state. I cry every time I look in the mirror. What can I do about these horrible stretch marks, mothers in the house? What can I do about my low self esteem? I just can’t take this anymore.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Nairaland is something else sincerely

Someone came to seek advise on her weight and changes on her skin since she became pregnant

And people are asking if she's legally married?

Nothing wey person no go read here[/color]

crackkhaus:
I honestly don't understand why some of you let these things get to you.
One of the most level-headed, calm, mature, and goal-oriented women I ever met from this forum is a divorced single mother to two beautiful children and based in London.
She's not active anymore though.

As at the time she revealed it to me, it was a real shock because despite the negativity surrounding single motherhood on this forum, I had never seen her making comments like this or trying to legislate people's opinions on the matter considering she was one herself.

This is my point:
Emotional & psychological stability is easy to detect in people who know who they are, people who are aware of the part they played in what they have been through, how much they have grown, and what exactly they still need to do to be better to themselves, their families, and society.

Opinions will be opinions, and people will always have them. You will continue hurting yourself by reacting to things people who don't know or care about you type on an anonymous forum, because you have not discovered/made peace with yourself and your decisions as human being - I tell you though, that once you accomplish this, every comment talking about your situation will fly off of you with ease.

If I didn't think it was possible, I won't suggest it to you.

PrincessJoyy:
Good day Nairalanders, pls I need your urgent advice on my present predicament. It is going to be a long read so pls be patient with me.
Been married for 11 years now and it was love at the beginning. My husband has been loving and caring but after some years the romance began to dwindle and the love I had for my husband began to drop. I complained to him but he came up with the excuses that he had so much in mind especially catering for the family. It continued that way till my love tank for him became empty so to speak. December last year something happened, my husband came to me in the night asking for my forgiveness for not showing me the much desired attention and care that I deserved that we should let the past slide to begin afresh, then we started dating again, taking me out and the joy and happiness that once eluded me was restored. He however, kept tabs on my conversation and chats with a childhood male friend without my knowledge and what he deduced is we still have feelings for each other and our chats was full of regrets for not marrying each other and we called each other first love. He confronted me with his findings which I initially denied till he brought facts. I never had intimacy with this said guy which my husband knows being that my husband is the one that deflowered me. We ironed it out and settled the issue. My husband expected me to end whatever it was with the guy though he didn't say so directly. My chats and calls with this guy continued without my husbands knowledge, until last night when my husband asked me what I have with this guy, I told him nothing. He said I should choose between him and the guy. I should severe/cut all ties with this guy if I choose to be with him, so I asked why, he said no arguments that I should do what he asked me to do. After much talk, I discovered he saw my chats with the guy (the one I forgot to delete). I got angry at him for monitoring me and told him in annoyance to take his phone (he bought it for me) and give me the sim, which he quietly did but refused to give me the sims. I dragged with him but he overpowered me, I also tried to seize his phone but failed he even threatened to vacate the house for me at that ungodly hour if I continue with my madness. After a while, I apologized to him, he accepted the apology but refused to give me the phone. I am using my laptop to send this. How do I handle the situation for peace to reign. I don't know what he feels about me now. Sorry for the long write up. NB I told him in annoyance that he is monitoring my chats because he bought the phone for me that I'll buy mine and he said not in his house that I shouldn't dare

crackkhaus:
Lol, and some people like that don't understand why I like you
That person knows herself

Extraordinarily introspective questions.