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Rammycares:
"well said "

uncastableodd:
Good morning everyone.

In the middle of the night today, I tried to look for duvet to cover up my son on bed. I decided to check my wife wardrobe.

I saw a pack of mycoten in the wardrobe. She already slept this time. So I had to chill till this morning to ask her questions.

So, this morning when I asked her, she said it was her mum that gave her bla bla bla..
I saw a piece of paper prescribing that cream for her in that same bag I found the cream.

I googled the uses of mycoten and I found out it was nothing serious because it is use for yeast infection and vagina odour. My wife dont have vagina odour and I understand yeast infection can be gotten from toilet or could be infection of body skin that spread or so.

I actually know she lied about her mummy giving her. But what baffles me is that I got a whatsapp message from her when she was coming from my son school..

She wrote that I nag a lot. That I should give her space. That u think she can't cope without me. She said she will look for work to take care of our son.She said we have been together for six years and I don't even trust her a bit. She said I think she can't leave without her. She didn't even address the issue of allegation of infidelity I threw against her(i deliberately did that #.I replied her I can't give her space in my own house and if she is fed up, she can pack her bags and go to her parent house. I told her if my son is infected or if I am infected , I am going to kill her and hand over myself to police. Immediately she blocked me on whatsapp and I did same. After an hour, she unblocked me.

Could she have been sleeping around her? Or are there any other uses of mycoten I don't know?

In my mind though, the cream I find is not really something to worry about but the message I got and her reaction is what I don't understand.

AfroKnight:
Toripe o je eyin ni o. I ready to fight before.

Ilekokonit:
AVOID dating unemployed women

The longer a woman is unemployed for the harder it is for a man to have a productive relationship with her.

For starters she has had lots of unproductive idle time to perfect her manipulative skills to use on men. In fact being so idle for so long has made her s master at manipulation.

They have spent countless idle time trawling social media to pick up all manners if manipulative skills to use on unsuspecting men who are unfortunate enough to come their way. Such unlucky men can NEVER win am argument with them as that is the woman's USP - unnecessary arguments and strife.

These idle women also spend countless hours on FREE dating websites looking for their next male victim.

Women who have been unemployed for too long have become chronically lazy such that their living room is a mess with carrier bags and dirt littering the whole place.

Their kitchen sink is so dirty with lots of used plates, cutlery, pots and frying pans left unwashed and soaked in water when the lazy unemployed twats could have washed them immediately after use.

And yet these unproductive twits have the biggest mouths ever as they overcompensate for their lack of productivity by being arrogant, rude, combative, loud and brash.

Such women may accidentally piss on the bed in their sleep and instead of getting up immediately tobtidy up their wet bed will shift to the other side and continue sleeping.

They also have a sense of entitlement which is difficult to understand although most black women also have this.

The only thing women who have been unemployed for too long are good at is arguing with men, shouting, sleeping, social media, drinking and/or smoking, eating, manipulation, mind games, quarrelling, laziness, fighting, social media, computer games, Facebook, Instagram, gossip, not minding their own business, too much talking, partying and being a first class nuisance.

Foodqueen:
Pls don't take it out on me. Am just playing around.

AfroKnight:
You want a piece of me? You want to try me?

TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship
Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista

AfroKnight:
You just had to quote the lengthy post.

uruba23:
Life is about packaging every body wants to be holy but no one is only.

Xisnin:
She died for something.
Something great.
Something liberating.

daisidavid:
thanks... God bless

eni4real:
I love Bukatyne's questioneer

uruba23:
KONJI she was probably forming no sex until marriage for the OP.

Foodqueen:
Girls don wise up, na them de get side guy pass now.

daisidavid:
So I date this lady for 3years (student) she's been sick and have been paying the hospital bills thinking is malaria or typhoid. Not knowing that my said beloved sweetheart had an abortion for another guy entirely!
It happens to be that she was to write her exam this month but I was called on by her friends that she's sick so been the partner have to rush down there outta love..hmmm... we moved her to the hospital with her friend! I suggest we use our hospital (family hospital) but was denied by her friends that they've got someone to treat her in her own store or house which ever I okay it then on getting there I discover that her friend was the one with her phone receiving her calls with a very hot tone! I was like maybe they switched Sims or whatever that might happen that isn't gonna be possible for her to be showing up attitude like to somebody else contact. I just boned that side... the nurse demanded for 18k I dropped it! But before that I have to use the atm to be able to get the cash I saw her friend with a guy outside yelling! I just rush down to take the money so I retured! Fast forward my gf was alone on the bed then the nurse start giving me hot advisable words like "what you guys did is too dangerous! Why not use condom! Why not take contraceptive drugs! Blah blah" I was like okay nah mistake it won't happen again! So the nurse asked me maybe m dude responsible i said Yes! Meanwhile out of my curiosity I was praying and waiting that nothing should happen to my gf.... I slept on the floor barely that day! Mind you m self employed o! Her friend left that day for her exam and to see some lecturers for my gf health issue too... then before she left I asked her what was all that about I saw in the afternoon she said to me Kokoro that nah her ex I mean my gf friend ex okay! E no concern me! So she left her phone with me which a particular number keeps coming in with the name YB so I didn't pick! Fast forward I wanted to call her friend to come over with some of her dress blah blah so I can go and hustle for more bills to pay by then my gf is responding to treatment so she gave the password! I called the gf and told her that someone was calling since yesterday like the world is burning down then I told her the name she hiss and continue her rest! Now this where the thing start to baffle me! I ask my gf whatsupp why hiss! Who is the YB self she said nah her course mate! Behold a message pop in apologising for what happened between them that she shouldn't have done it what she did! Fast forward I keep mute I deleted the message! Then I went behind her back to check her WhatsApp with that her friend then I saw the shocker of my life where everything that has happened and that it is to happen next where been chat!!! I went out to man up and act normal! Should I confront her or just let go cause right now! Meanwhile it was after I get all this info the nurse called me in and ask me to be thanking God that what we did didn't destroy her womb! Now m so confused on what to do..... God... Relationships is so gross

TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship
Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista

justnock:
Be a GAMMA male. Alpha + Beta = Gamma.

Lionqueen:
My 30th birthday is in few weeks time. Am scared because I don't have a boyfriend. It's beginning to give me sleepness night. But is marriage the ultimate? Please no body should insult me����

uruba23:
Lol monitoring spirit.

sisisioge:
Hello people, my uncle's wife is about to celebrate her 40th birthday and he wonders what special gift or special thing he could do for her. Please note that they live abroad, each have their car and phone and are basically living low key.

There won't be a big party, just a parlour thing and he would be doing the cooking. He initially wanted me to get a nice low cost singer/abi na comedian to do a one minute video skit for her but I think that won't impress her biko. So he asked me to bring out ideas...what would you ladies want for your birthday? What would you gentlemen gift your loving babes for her 40th? Please help...many thanks.

Additional note: the babe like paparazzi small sha

Andotee:
I was just thinking I probably shouldn’t have informed him about the whole brouhaha. I could have just tasted her cookie and ignore the code

Andotee:
I have no regrets.

I asked a question

Andotee:
Apologies for the long post.

This issue started about 8 months ago. I met a girl at a friend’s party then I made a move towards her. During this period I did, I made sure I confirmed her relationship status which she convinced me she was single.

One thing led to another we started chatting daily, exchanging pictures and the usual drill.

I got to know this same girl and my guy are dating (meanwhile she is still telling me she is single).

I realized this guy has fallen deeply with a slut so as to protect a friend and respect the Bro code I informed him about everything that has been happening between us. I made sure he sees all the conversations I had with her just to prove to him that I got his back and will never betray him.

I advised him not breakup with her. He should just have it at the back of his mind that she isn’t the kind of girl he can date. If she can do that between two friends, what will she do with other guys?

After telling him all these, he went on and told the girl everything. As expected, the girl denied everything and being the idiot that he is, he continued with her. The thing now is she went on to tell our mutual friends that I tried coming between her and her boyfriend. (I am not bothered though)

The question now is, should I have ignored the bro code and have sex with his girlfriend?

Annstar:
my fear is finding the right man

izzou:
[color=royalblue]I just wanted to know, so i don't argue with someone who has an experience.

I usually perceived you as someone who's married. I apologize for asking[/color]

RisenPhoenix:
Actually, I think you're right. He does seem to have already decided to abandon women and face his life for now. An mgtow in the making .

izzou:
[color=royalblue]And we have just seen that it's too quick to conclude that he doesn't love her just with few lines of text

Are you married, ma'am? [/color]

izzou:
[color=royalblue]And how do you know he hasn't done all that?

Meanwhile, why aren't you condemning the list?[/color]

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Firstly, I believe the thread is scripted sha, but let's agree it happened

So because he's pulling out means he didn't love her? If we go check our blood groups and we are both incompatible for child bearing, will you say I never loved you because I quit?

Don't judge what you see because of few pictures. You only read a chat of few lines. What about the phone calls, pleas, arguments?

I agree with what you said about bargaining, but saying he doesn't love her no follow [/color]

uruba23:
shouldn't you be in bed

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Wow

How did you come to this conclusion Abeg? [/color]

RisenPhoenix:
As a woman, don't you think it's shameful that somebody should be 'pricing' you? Just curious.