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Yustash001:
Kudos!!!!!
I can't believe this is coming from a woman....

ipreach:
A Social Media User has taken to the social media to advice newly married couples to stop using hotels to spend their first night.

In the post made on her Twitter page, @JustSociety4all said the same bed hired by some men to sleep with prostitutes is where some people lay their marital alter.

She continued by saying even if you have one room, sleep there and don't mess up your foundation.

See what she tweeted:



https://twitter.com/JustSociety4all/status/1226917226445524993?s=19[/quote]I very well agree with the OP.

TonyeBarcanista:
I pity Nigerian/African men that marry European/Western based Nigerians/Africans. I also pity those that teleport their Nigeria/African wives to the West.

It is a fact that the West operates matriarchal system that many females take advantage of.

I condole with him!

missimelda01:
There's a post currently on the front page about a man who cheated on his wife and infected her with STI, and to think some men are defending the husband is so disgusting. Please why does it have to be this way? I'm young and unmarried but what I see, read and hear these days makes it impossible to believe that there are decent and goldly men out there.

crackkhaus:
Lol, your mind is an interesting maze of intricate inferences.

Just ask the OP why there was a no-sex relationship before jumping up and down.

Jarvis22:
Hello Nairalanders
I am actually not new here, but I had to create a new account for this. I am really sorry to bother you guys with this, but I really need some elderly/brotherly advice.

I'm a 21-year-old guy, recently graduated from a university in the East, haven't gone for service yet. I am currently fending for myself as I make an average of 70k monthly as a site manager. (this is for people who will tell me to go and look for work.).

I started dating my girlfriend from year 2 years ago in year 3 before industrial training. She's a nice girl, feminine charms and all, and she's the same age as me.
Before we kicked it off sexually, I made sure we made it clear on the area of body count and exes. We've both had 2 relationships before, or so as she made me believe.

Fast forward to thursday of last week, (She has been behaving raather weridly for some weeks, not replying chats and stuff like that), so beause of these I decided to pay her a 2 day visit. When I reached her place in the evening around 2. She was in another guy's room, she opened door for me and left me in the room for 3 hours while she went back to the guy's room.

I no talk, I carry face thruout the night, and in the morning we made up, thinking that we'll use that day (Friday) to talk about shit. This girl abandoned me in the room again in the excuse she's going to buy fish for pepper soup. Na so from 10am to 8pm I no see my so called babe. Damn! I had had it up to here.

As she came back, without tangible explanations,, I made it clear I wasn't doing again. She begged and begged. I considered and we made up AGAIN.

Now yesterday morning, (I also noticed shes been spending much time on WhatsApp now which was unlike her as I was literally the only person she chats with).

I asked her for her phone and she appeared fidgety, which much reluctance she handed it to me, and I went straight to whatsapp.

I noticed she's wiped most of her chats and I noticed a guy's number in her list, someone she dint tell me about. I opened the chat and saw that It had also been wiped. But she mistakenly left the part where they discussed about sex and hows hes the first to fuvk her on her menses.

BROTHERS! I WAN CRAZE!

This is a girl ive dated for two bloody years, I have been extremely faithful as we were in the same dept. she has access to my phone whenever and however she wants.

Why she hid this guy from me, I do not know. I also saw shes been begging him to take her out (I'm in a kind of tight spot financially as I literally blew up to 150k on her new place, so I haven't been yielding to her requests.) Don't judge me, I was badly in love.


I broke up with her immediately yesterday morning and left the place.

She has been calling and begging me since then, I blocked her everywhere except whatsapp. Truely, she loved me very much o, and also made a lot of sacrifices for me. But her dishonesty and her behavior these past few days are the main reasons im taking a walk.

I really dont know what to do guys, I am not a newbie to love matters and the deceitful ways of women, which was my motivation to stick to one woman. But this one, ah!


I am still a young man with a bright future ahead of me. All this woman matter no be for me, but this loss is really hurting me badly, and the fact she kept on holding on to the fact that its just two guys for two bloody years.

What do you suggest? I'll be in the comments.

Shibaraba:
Start with "I am". Maybe that's why you keep meeting Broke Girls. Most rich ladies are intellectuals. Use of am irritates them. As it does to me.

Only broke men notice broke or rich girls. When you got cash you don't give a shit. You just date

NeedAdvice00:
Do you think I should break up?

I once asked that why you accept gan self. She say she wan get am well with dating. Say she no dey good for dating.

crackkhaus:
I'm confused.

Is there somewhere in the OP where you read that she has had sex previously before marrying the 12" man?

DenreleDave:
We met 2 weeks ago via michat n later got to no dt she is a single mother .... we get along and me ma sef dey use my brain sha... within 2wks dt we met, spent close to 6k oo..including trying to help with her daughter school fee... i really pity dt small girl dt doest av a responsible father... So she came to my place on friday sha and we still agreed to meet tmao i.e Monday ... Yesterday , she asked for card n i told her later ... but i notice say babe go dey use baby, heart for me , i dey laff for mind ooo even though i get good intention for her... i was robbed on tuesday by some armed robbers ooo.. Normally i recharge her from my bank account n i avnt nt retrieve my number back... The money wey me, i wan buy phone but slot no get am and spectrum wey get am talk say 37500 compared to slot 34500... so for my mind, i said i rather wait for slot to av it and send dt 3k to her just to help her daughter school fee oo but i no tell am.. i kept it in mind to surprise her atleast.. But today, she was just insulting me anyhow cox of the card she asked oo... I noticed dt she dey call me baby, heart weneva she wan ask things but me dey look am say see this wan oooo

uthlaw:
which one is happiness at heart?

JONNYSPUTE:
.. My sister honestly I can't tell. I'm even planning to go to their school tomorrow to find out.

crackkhaus:
Lmao..anytime you want to make a point, at least try not to distort what I said.
The argument was that a virgin will only expand as much as the tool that first enters her.


This lady here, if the story is true, would have been able to accommodate him somewhere down the line if she was patient enough - her mother is wise.

The judge only found it easier because she has had kids and can easily stretch wider without pains.

crackkhaus:
So she divorced the man, then got angry when the man moved on quickly with the judge whose puccy was wide enough to accommodate his pipe.

What an idiot...

I suppose she expected her ex to be crying daily and suffering depression after she divorced him..

Overestimated sense of importance, that's the sickness your niece is suffering from.

frozen70:
It's quite painful but as a guy and a gentleman that you are, as they ask for forgiveness, tell them you have forgiven them, but cut off every single thing you have with them

For your fellow guy, slowly withdraw from him and don't ever share a drink or any edible with him, change your apartment key and don't let your him in especially if you are nit around and if he comes when you are around, keep your eyes on him

But have it at the back of your mind that he is dangerous and you can't be safe with him

As for your girlfriend, cut all ties with her immediately, tell her you have forgiven her but run for your dear life, apology can never erase the indelible mark of what she did.

Just forget her and her tears it's already over

ugolinze123:
Hi guys have been in this heated argument with her since morning cus i called twice and she was away from her phone and now shes annoyed that i was supposed to call atleast 4times before coming to conclusion on her not reachable.. So I decided to ask, How many times should be enough to ring one's phone? Me I think 2 times is enough to get the other person pick the call.

crackkhaus:
The difference between laws of Moses and those originating from God
Are you even reading what you're typing?

Is there any of the 66 books in the Bible that did not originate from/inspired by God, not to mention that it's Moses of all people that wrote anything he did not receive from God?
Moses just woke up and started writing his own laws. Lmao..
Someone whose every move and action was sanctioned by God. Where did you learn your own Bible abeg?


Deut 22:22 is talking about a man sleeping with a married woman.
I asked you to provide the verse talking about punishment for men not found to be virgins before marriage, whether it's in the Torah or in the Pentateuch or in the new testament or middle testament...just provide that na.

bukatyne:
If you don't understand the difference between the laws of Moses, and Laws originating from God like the ten commandments, golden rule etc. you cannot grasp my point.

There is no punishment for men who did not marry as virgins because there is no physical proof. What could be proven (Adultery) for men was punishable by death in Deut 22:22.

The above is still not God's direct commandment. Infact, after a while, those laws were not followed again.

As early as Proverbs, the writer was warning men to shun adultery or sleeping with married women as apart from the spiritual implications, the husband could deal with the man in annoyance and jealousy.

Lexusgs430:
1 - Do you buy him gifts?
2 - Have you ever given him money before?


Why would you think someone that would not spend money on himself, would spend it on you?

Pesin wey go give us cloth, we go look the one wey dey their neck........

Kgdavid:
self explanatory, im a little busy now so excuse the hasty and probably ill composed writing.

1. mood swings, very annoying and irritating,
2. menstruation and pregnancy, very nasty stuff!
3. the desire to dominate and have their way always
4. always expecting a man to perform the function of a bank
5. crying!!!!
6. why women feel the need to be naked around their friends
7. being rude to guys who ask em out, we guys have no choice but to try, we're taking a risk here at least be nice when you say no
8. why are men expected to face grave danger ahead of women? are our lives worth less than theirs?
9. female bosses
10. gossiping!!

BadRadio:
¹The materialistic ones

²The nymphs

³The Cheats

⁴The side Chicks

⁵The disrespectful and arrogant




pls add urs

crackkhaus:
Lol, this woman sef.
You're deflecting this way off from the epicenter.

Laws of Moses are laws from God, Moses did not make any laws on his own accord.

Just provide a verse in the Bible that can be likened to Deut 22:21 talking about specific punishment for non-virgin men - whether it's in the old testament, new testament, or middle testament.

This is all you have to do.

Belafonte:
So, the older women don’t like their marriages with their ‘domineering’ husbands, the younger ones don’t like their marriages with their malleable husbands. What’s left? Maybe marriage isn’t worth it after all. No wonder many are opting out en masse.

About marrying the person that loves you back, we don’t know who loves us back or if said love will last. I’m sure people who divorce didn’t think they’d be unmarried down the line.

The redpill/mgtow is actually a response to what you just said above, women using men, at least, this is how men see it. Women complain and nag and make lists of what makes marriage last long and at the end the women aren’t satisfied. So, the men are like “well, f*ck it. Find your happiness elsewhere. I’m done tying to please you.” That is the root of the redpill. That nothing you do for a woman is neither appreciated nor worth the effort and so just do your own thing.

Princyony:
I have created a new account for this as I need advice desperately and I have no one else. Apologies if this turns out to be long.

I come from an abusive, broken home. I used to watch my Dad beat my Mom and he used to hit me too. I was sexually molested by a cousin and basically had a a very bad childhood. Lots of anger and yelling all the time is what I remember the majority of it to be. I have a terrible temper and have known this for a long time now. I am an only child, I lost my sister when I was 4, she was 11 months when she died. My wife comes from a solid family with an older brother and sister, her parents have been together for a long time and are happy. She never experienced any of the sort of trauma I did as a youth. I am 29 and she is 26.

My wife and I recently celebrated our first year wedding anniversary and have been going through some tough times lately. We have had a lot of fights in our first year. Mostly caused by me being drunk and I have been physically aggressive with her before, grabbing her by the arm and once pulling her down a set of small steps by. She got pregnant before Christmas so when she told me I was ecstatic with happiness and everything was still fine so last week Saturday my plan was to have a couple of beers with my friend after work to celebrate a special occasion he had and I send her message I’m having a celebratory drink with my friend and she replies yeah I thought so and so now I know she is annoyed and I text her asking whats wrong, it takes about 5 texts and she writes back an hour and half later saying "I knew what you were doing all along, the reason you text me so you could hang out with your friends" and some other stuff basically to the effect of: I picked drinking with friends over her.

So at this point I have had a few beers and I'm in trouble with my wife so I knock back another one or two and at this point I am now pretty drunk as I was drinking fast. I go home and she shows up and she is really angry and yelling at me , the marriage is over , I'm going back to my parents home" I lost it at this point and her to be angry at me now combined with all the other pent up emotions, I just exploded. I pushed her on to the ground and kicked her in her legs a few times. I grabbed her hand and bit it really hard and then bit her on top of her head. I completely lost all control and was consumed with emotions. I felt like I was losing my mind. She looked up at me in terror and I stopped. She got up and told me we were finished and she never wanted to see me again. She punched me in the face and broke my glasses. We threw some dishes and things and I just completely crumbled. She wanted to leave but I was preventing her. I smashed her phone on the ground and pulled her bags off of her. I stopped preventing her from leaving and she opened the door and walked out. I followed her out in the street and tried to talk to her. It was useless of course. She went home.

Her parents are on holiday right now in Canada so it was only her brother who was there. I called the house and she answered and told me to Bleep off basically. So this morning her Sister calls and says they will be contacting the police etc. I am now sitting in my house surrounded by her things which I have to pack up so her Sister can come collect them. I have no one else. My Mother passed away 4 years ago and I have no contact with my Dad. My family structure is basically broken.

I am a good person. I am not violent normally. Anyone I know would tell you "Hey that guys is a really good guy, he has a good heart." This is why my wife loved me, she chose me because I'm a good person. Yet... I feel like a monster. What I did was MONSTROUS. I hate myself right and can barely stand to be alive. I have a problem with alcohol and anger management. I know this much but I don't know where to go for help. I have just ruined the best thing thats ever happened to me in my life. My wife is SUCH a good person. She is literally an angel to me. She does not have a bad or mean bone in her body and look what I did to her. I can't believe it I don't know to deal with it. My worst nightmare is to be like my Dad with women and I have gone and done it. Please help me

Shibaraba:
You're a very good writer...
Let me assume this is real

Dear guys. Hide nothing from your wife to be. While dating if she had known you were a drinker she wouldn't have married you. If she still married you after knowing your habit she won't have complained. You see the root of the problem? The foundation.

How many I Don date Wey leave me because of kpef. Them plenty. Immediately I date you I go tell you, omo I dey drink o. And I like clubbing. If you can bear it no wahala. Due to the understanding sef na me go reduce the kpef myself.
That being said you beat your woman. That makes you weak bro. If a woman can control you till you get annoyed she has power over your emotions. A person that has power over your emotions have power over you. You Don mess up. Solution. Go beg am.
But if she insists she wants to leave Abeg leave her be. She no like your habits,be sides a woman who just a few months after wedding and you make mistake wan go, imagine when una Don enter una sef well. I don't support divorce but if she wan go no wahala.
You sef sofri drink. If not for anything for your health. Drink maybe one crate a day no go beyond am. You go dey alright

Stevecovey:
I hate Yoruba movies wt a passion. It really commonizes and promotes adultery. Even the TV shows on Africa magic yoruba portrays adultery as a fact of life dt wives arent supposed to bat an eyelid about. And every story is so sexualized, all of odunlade adekolas jokes are about sex, eulogizing some lady's bum or boobs. You can tell all the producers are dirty Randy old men. Little wonder all these small boys in society are messed up. I am Yoruba and I made everyone in my family eventually hate those movies.

Only tunde kelani and kunle afolayan makes good Yoruba movies.

fairfora:
if it was a myth , it wouldn't be increasing so rapidly. It's real and those who indulge in it know. Nemesis would surely catch up with them, it's a matter of time.

Homeboiy:
Hollywood producing vampire movies are also encouraging it abi?

Yeye minister of darkness

Belafonte:
The attires and all are traditions and customs, I’m talking about how people actually live and relate with each other.

The older generation men lorded it over there wives and had longer marriages, today’s men are more malleable and have shorter marriages. Today’s men are more romantic and they receive more disrespect even with better living conditions. Many men have been burnt. Why do you think red pill threads are being published with a vengeance? Go and read all the threads, it’s always a case of I thought she wanted an equal I was wrong. You talk like this because you are bound by your Christian faith, many women aren’t even the churchy ones.