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desvi:
you are NLs slut number one
always talking about how you can't stop f...... your husband
nymphomania is a burdensome disorder
not sorry for you

Hahahahhahahahhahahah

This girl o!

I don't even know where I talk about my marital sex life.

However, let's assume I do.

I am a slut and nymphomanic because I always have sex with my husband.

Hahahahahahaha.

Is it you I should be having sex with?

Or I should leave my husband and be hopping from one man to another to be a liberated modern woman?

Hahahahahahaha.

You know my dream: start thinking of bedroom retirement at 70 after fulfilling my plenty plenty bucket list.

Harmonyemerald:
Hello Fam,
Longest time. How have we all been doing?

Today’s discuss would be “inter-racial relationship”

Recently I have been seeing a lot of inter-racial relationship turn to happy marriages and it’s been giving me something to think about.
How does it work? Inter-tribal seems like a lot of work already to even think of inter-racial

Would you date one if you happen to see one that you have a connection with bearing in mind that you guys are different in even the little things.... choice of food, drinks, music, culture, idea, everything.

For people dating, how is it working out.... maybe that would be the nudge I need to step out of my comfort zone of Nigerian men.

I think opened minded interracial would work better than intertribal in Nigeria.

kristen12:
Because he's not coming out to say anything about marriage plus it's a long distance thing and she doesn't really believe in it.

Sorry just stumbled on this.

How are you doing?

desvi:
you are disgrace enough so I understand

Someone who supports slutty behaviors telling me I am a disgrace.

I understand your pain.

Never too late to retrace your steps.

desvi:
he made a wish when he was shooting without protection
simple!
after that the well-being of the child is the yardstick
not your madness
get help!

I think you are the one that needs help.

My question is simple.

Answer it.

desvi:
I swear I can't laugh anymore
this is too síck
goes even beyond stùpid
I seriously think that she is developing some sort of madness

my aunty who goes to church like every day told me once when I was younger and asking 1000 questions about the Bible
not to delve too deep into the Bible as it has the potential to make you overthink and lose your mind
here is the perfect example of such occurrence
this is serious oo

Of course common sense seems like madness until a stranded pregnant woman who should be catered to hands and foot is running around looking for how to get her reluctant baby daddy to commit.

desvi:
in the same way a man has the right and freedom to use a condom, a woman has the right to insist on the use of a condom
if they take the wrong decision at this point, they have to live with all possible outcomes and take responsibility
the rate at which you ask nonsensical questions is worrisome

Ok.

If the woman gets pregnant and insists on keeping it against the man's wishes, the man should be financially responsible.

What happens if the man wants the baby at all cost and the woman goes ahead to abort it?

essenceplus:
This been said it beats me how some ladies allow themselves get impregnated when they weren't ready for it. From contraceptives to condoms,we have a myriad of ways to prevent unwanted children yet abortion still refuses to plummet across the world. Help me here am I .

I don't get.

If a girl gets pregnant for a steady boyfriend where they can do shotgun wedding, I hear.

But a girl who is just friends with benefits?

And the irony is that they do not want the man, they do not want their kids to have a fatherly figure, they do not want to build a family.

All they want is his money.

Jezebels.

desvi:
how you come up with the monkey questions is a mystery

Maybe from surveymonkey.

I take it you have no answers.

desvi:
nobody gives a flying f.... what you will teach our children

Hahahahahahaha

On my way to bringing up quality kids.

And one more course: how to avoid washed up, overused sluts

I don't want desecration to our lineage.

desvi:
this stupidity in these arguments is making my stomach churn
a man sleeps with a woman, doesn't use protection, shoots inside and we are supposed to see him as a victim when he is asked to take responsibility for his actions and his child
like he was forced to sleep with someone without protection and impregnate them
and then she will ask me why he has no right to his money?
it can't get more stùpid, can it?

What do you call a woman who lets a man sleep with her without protection when they have not mutually agreed to have a kid or are not married?

Since the burden of contraceptive solely rests on the man, shouldn't we had over reproductive rights back to the men?

You see how stupid you sound?

In this age where there are even female condoms and after morning pills.

You are actually the one dragging women back to the 10th century when men determined if women would be mothers or not because there was no contraceptive.

And nowhere did I say the men were victims.

essenceplus:
Fieryy and bukatyne still on this matter

Which matter?

She's made only one post I can see on this thread.

I don't do matter with faceless people.

desvi:
a man decides whether he shoots inside or not, to use a condom or not
are you that stùpid or only pretending?

So a woman doesn't have the right to say no if the man is not going to wear a condom? When she doesn't want to be a mother?

The rate at which you lose and gain rights is alarming.

desvi:
tell your children mummy is a rapist apologist first

OH, you are ashamed to tell your parents you have chosen to be a slut?

I guessed as much.

Just internet braggadio.

Of course, I will teach my kids to be chaste and that marriage gives consent of sex to their spouses in addition to other things so they need to choose very carefully.

I will also teach them how to have fantastic sex lives with their spouses so to curb adultery and enjoy the God's gift in their marriages.

desvi:
I knew you would refuse this example because it contradicts your narrative
but such examples exist in real life too
step out of your bubble



yeah, right



no, she was pious and decent, still is



after the leak

This your thinking na wa.

Is Kim's sex tape now a yard stick of women liberation?

Do you know how many times she has regretted it?

Do you know that Kim doesn't even identify as a feminist?

Is there anything wrong with decency and been pious?

Acidosis:
You mean USA? There are over 190 countries in the world so USA is not a standard for all. And what do you mean by "we moralists". Nigeria is one of the most sexually perverted countries in the world, and one of the greatest exporters of prostitution, drug, romance scam and crime. So save that moral stuff elsewhere . When you talk about world's most conservative countries, mention places like Saudi Arabia, Ethiopia, Lebanon, Swaziland, Jordan, India, and many Moslem nations.

HIV is higher here because aside prostitution which many of you support, a lot of ediots have also added illiteracy. Rather than encourage girl child education, your lots preach desecration of private parts like Olympic competition.

Continue to preach what you would neither do nor condone with your daughters.
Las las, men will get you pregnant, run to school, and leave you behind to nurse babies.

@bold 1: when I see Nigeria is moral, I am baffled.

Maybe it is the Nigeria behind Nigeria.

@bold 2: or they drag him for child support. Unfortunately, Nigerian court will award N10k for 3 children. In addition to the psychological trauma of begging a man to be responsible for the seed he supposedly planted inside you.

KanwuliaExtra:
You already got your answer na.

Let me whisper it in your ears.

*no, marital rape is better*

You remind be of one of my sadistic ex-gal-pal who actually told me she only enjoyed sex after a goooood beating from her husband. Her own way of expressing her “feminine mystique” abi?


Uuuuuugh! The last time I heard of her was over 20 years ago.

Remember this too?

You are a danger to yourself and all women. Any female friend of yours will have do deal with every “highly-moralistic” fiber of your being. Is is your opinion that is best for all. I have seen your qualification on NL.

Like I said earlier, this is one of those days.

You are one of the most mature on this thread.

If a younger wife met you to advise her that due to her busy schedule, her sex life is suffering, what would you advise?

AmazonTopaz:
That is why things would continue to change for a more better, just and equitable society

That change will not come by women joining the men.

It would only make things worse.

Omoluabi16:
The world is pandering to anything and everything. It is not really acceptable, but we are told to respect,accept and give people medals for their 'choices'. A great number of the western world reject this system, and some are cowed into acceptance. It isn't about Africa or not now, because and the unnatural is being made the new natural.
What is order without a system? None

True

UjuJoan2:
People just want to put women in a box, and tell them what they can and can't do. But who is telling the men?

Why are people willing to accept that chilvary is dead, and yet don't get that women are no longer 'blushing brides'

Modernization has changed the world . . . we need to get used to it and stop trying to take us back to the stone age.

Is calling people to be more moral taking us back to the stone age?

If having young women worn out with alcohol, drugs and sex a sign of modernization?

Instead rolling in the mud with men, we agree that the vices are bad, can women not just discard the immoral men emass which would force them to be better?

Can mothers train their sons to be better?

Like Michelle Obama says, when they go low, we go high.

desvi:
and yet Kim Kardashian who was sùcking díck on camera got married to a rich successful man who could have easily chosen ten virgins

You are comparing an average woman to Kim Kardashian? Or Kanye West to an average man?

Where can I borrow sense for this girl?

Kim did a sex tape with her boyfriend which he leaked.

She wasn't a slut sleeping around on camera.

And she is a very very successful woman herself.

desvi:
so?

Tell your parents you are one and give us their feedback.

desvi:
you don't only tell women to be moral
(whatever that means from your subjective perspective)
you want to force your views on them
you are judgmental, self-righteous and patronizing
and to top it all you think you are saving Nigeria and compare yourself to Jesus
the only thing that is missing are the bombs
Isis-Bukky

You are the perfect case study for how radicalization develops

Define judging, self-righteousness and patronizing.

Now you know the above, skip my posts.

Whorism and slutty behaviors in men and women I would always condemn.

liberalchick:
Wow 13 pages?!! bukatyne, you should be a mod on this section. Just want to add, for what is worth, I don’t think you are misogynist. I have read and liked some of your posts that called out sexist tropes.

So you have conservative values, which is absolutely fine. However, you tend to judge other women by those values. Some of those values exists because of sexism and I get why some will say that makes you a misogynist.

Also, because you live by certain codes doesn’t make you a good or a bad person. Where your conservative principles end is where some other woman’s will start. Imagine a much more conservative woman invalidating your values and tells you it is her’s you should live by?

Ideologies occur on a spectrum, let men and women choose where they want to stand.

A mod ke? Thanks for the compliment.

I wouldn't say I judge women by my standards because I expect men to have those standards too.

I look at people who have exhibited such behaviors in the past, what their ends were and use that to caution younger people treading the same part. Will some people be exceptionally lucky? Yes.

For instance having sex with multiple people makes one fragmented because it is a spiritual, emotional and physical exercise. So why would I not discourage people from doing it?

In the past, only women were cautioned and we see it did not work. Let us hold men and women accountable. How hard is that?

Everyone is free to choose however must be willing to face the consequences.

desvi:
did you seriously think this argument made any sense at all?

they have a right to their sperm
nobody forces them to ejaculate inside of a woman and have unprotected s*ex

The more you talk, the more you paint women as stupid people incapable of thought or taking control of their lives.

If a woman wants to sleep around and knows that she is the one with the burden of pregnancy, wouldn't common sense tell her to be more careful?

She has more to lose and at stake, she needs to be responsible for her sexual health.

Except when a woman was raped, she has the right to insist that the man uses a condom. She doesn't and cries foul when the pregnancy occurs.

Again, a man doesn't have right to his sperm if only the woman can determine if she wants to be a mother or not.

When pregnancy occurs and the woman aborts it in spite of the man's insistence and demonstrated ability to care for the unborn, what do you call that?

liberalchick:
That’s my point, if we have to search for a word that covers both, then that should tell you men and women are not judged equally as regards to promiscuity. More proof is on this thread.

Most words are gender specific to tell you who did it. Or a word for the gender most likely to do it.

When you hear rapist, what sex comes to your mind?

doitforyou:
You actually need to hold your head not shake it, if you can not tell the difference between complimenting some one and telling them to do something. They are not going to rewrite the dictionary to accommodate your ignorance.

Knowledge is different from wisdom.

Pray for the latter.

ThothHermes:
I'm waiting for anonymous women and jambites to open their own version.

Some famous men have given staggering figures you know?

Tiger woods -- 300 plus

Antonio Cassano -- 700 plus

Lamar Odom -- 150 plus??

All documented. Straight from the horses' mouths.

These are the ones I know off the top of my head.

What do you think Giacomo Casanova was famous for

You mentioned 4 men out of the 3.5 billion we have now?

When discussing stats, I do not use celebrities and famous/powerful people . They have licenses others do not.

liberalchick:
Okay. Saying no will not automatically make it so. Validating doesn’t mean you are saying the choice is right or wrong, it just means you recognize and acknowledge someone else’s choice as important to that person.

@bold

Hahahahahahaha.

HungerMustGo:
When he doesn't have money to cheat, he will cheat with any lady that shows him kindness and gives him money.

Hahahaha

This becomed double wahala for dead body.

bluetopaz:
My immediate elder sister is in a dilemma right now. She has been engaged to her fiance for about a year now and she confided in I and my mum that the marriage plans are not being made because her fiance said she should get pregnant before starting. He said if he can't confirm to his family that she is pregnant, they won't follow him for the traditional marriage.
Me Sha, I've told her to close his chapter but my sister says where will she start from again, they have dated for 3 years and she isn't getting younger according to her.
And yes, she says they have been sexually active, pregnancy just hasn't happened and she can't explain why.
I told her oga is hiding something or what do you guys think?

What does she want?

Omoluabi16:
If they're old enough to have sex, then they should be old enough to start a Union. We are all free to make our choices, but let us be willing to live with the consequences.
They look happy though..I wish them a happy(ily) ever after.

Absolutely on point.

I am sure the parents will be very close by to guide them though.