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kentblues:
Please is it proper or adviceable for a married woman to hangout
with a male friend? Please what could be the reason

In what context?

What kind of hangout?

How did they meet?

Iceking1:
The only thing i will surely and definitely miss about her is her understanding, she nor dey disturb me for money, i nor dey give her 1 naira even transport, and she dey carry raw rice and beans dey cum give me sometimes, i like her small but her disturb too much she dey always come my house every single day and i must have sex every day, no day dun pass when i never have sex, am so exhausted all my body dey pain and weak me as i dey here, all my joints dun scatter finish, even my eye's dun dey float if i look up, i just tire..... The girl dey disturb me die, she dey call me more than 20times in a day, every single minute i dey miss u, i miss u, i miss u... I dun tire i nor dey fit concentrate for life again, i dun finish

Apart from her insatiable need for sex, what else is wrong with her?

sapien:
Good evening, Fam.

I moved into this new area on Lagos Mainland some couple of months ago. However, I just noticed that my middle-aged neigbour in the next building has a penchant for stripping his quite voluptuous, 16-year-old teenage daughter naked in order to punish her whenever she offends him.

I made some enquiries from my other neighbours and I learnt that he has been engaging in this "ritual" for the past 2 years. He sends his wife - the girl's mum and his 2 other children - boys - out of the room, strips his daughter naked and starts whipping her until he is satisfied. I was shocked when I further learnt that the mother had never protested or raised an eyebrow against her husband's weird ritual, but she would rather walk out of the house quietly until whenever the husband was done with their daughter.

I want to enquire if there is any NGO that can take up such case in Lagos and environs, if reported or, better still, if there is any alternative solution to this seemingly case of perversion.

The mother is a failed mother and the father a pervert.

I would not be surprised if the father rapes the daughter.

Just curious : how come you and your neighbor know so much about them?

lilmax:
As far she's not killed

boys go through worse

leave them to live their lives

liberalchick:
Yes you misread the OP. He said husbands should protect all wives even the ones that exposed their genitals to the world. So I am wondering why self righteous bukatyne all of a sudden is parroting what some monikers have been telling you since which is “it’s people’s choices and we should mind our business”

Why would I stay off you posts and threads? They amuse me.

Signs.

We should respect the marital bond is different from we should condone immorality.

That was why I painstakingly used other examples that had nothing to do with indecent behaviour.

A man is to protect his wife: In this OP, Kim Kardashian is Mrs. West who is Mr. West's wife.

When we talk about Kim Kardashian as a woman, we can discuss her morality or lack of.

liberalchick:
1. Based all on your posts here you have made it clear you disagreed with the lifestyle of ‘sluts’ so all of a sudden why are you okay with Kanye’s choice marrying and protecting a ‘slut’?

2. Isn’t Kim one of the sluts that is making the world dangerous for your kids to grow up in? (Your words ).

3. I am not considering Ray J because two consenting adults made a decision to make a sex tape together.

4. You lost me too, can’t decide wether you want women to live accordingly to a pre-defined standards or you are for women making their own choices in how to live their lives.

5. It seems for you that choice is only reserved for men.

1. Except I misread the OP, he was hammering on husbands protecting their wives and not slutty women. Let's stick to topic.

2. Kanye's choice is Kanye's business. He has the choice to marry whom he will. He has, and we should respect it. For instance, I can't go to Kanye's instagram page to call his wife a slut; it is NOT in my place to disrespect his wife.

3. Ok

4. This is not about women. I encourage everyone to do the right thing. Is it so bad telling men and women to maintain sexual purity/ stop having multiple sex partners, be respectful, decent, hardworking and other good virtues there are? Is there anything wrong with promoting decency in the society? While indecent people continue to promote indecency, I and others interested will continue to promote decency. Anybody not interested in decency should stay off my threads and posts. Sometimes I see mentions and I am wondering if I told women to stop going to school or achieving great things. All I have said is be decent and to achieve your dreams (easier), marry a good man!

5. My posts are plain enough for all to see that I have never promoted nor supported waywardness or indecency in men or women. I hold both parties to same standards and I even have a couple of threads addressing men.

A part of my post on another thread:

bukatyne:
A red pill man who sleeps around because women are more sexually 'liberal' is a fool and defintely not a man worth having. This paragraph is as crazy as a NL lady who was happy that her friend dumped her ex days to the wedding because men jilt women. This is where I differ with the two schools of thought:
School 1: a man can sleep with as many girls as possible while a girl must be chaste.
School 2: a woman is free to sleep around because men do.

I believe both parties must be as chaste as possible. if as a man, I have kept myself, what is my business with women who have played the field? I will seek for a woman with my values ditto a woman.

I wanted a guy with as little body count as possible and I got it even better. I do not want a man who has wasted his youth sleeping about. Sex is spiritual as it is physical. I believe it is about values really, My siblings and I were brought up to be sexually pure and i am glad we stayed d on track.

https://www.nairaland.com/4436386/transactional-vs-validational-sex#66768727

Fourwinds:
to be sincere, I don't know the custody of the child should be awarded to the woman with such complains

I wonder.

What kind of nonsense is this?

It is not enough the marriage did not last two years, you announced the break on SM.

What a pity

LilMissFavvy:
1. The outcome of my decision is my business, stop bothering.

2. Ibokun,Folorunsho, etc, are lucky with marriage because they had supportive husband's. Husband's who did not kill their careers. A WOMAN WHO PLACES HER MARRIAGE AS NUMBER 1, WHO HAS AN UNSUPPORTIVE HUSBAND MAY STILL FAIL IN HER MARRIAGE/CAREER.

3. We have women who DUMPED THEIR CAREERS, wash, cook, do laundry for their husbands, yet still got dumped by their husbands.

4. Many women who saw their careers as lesser or abandoned it, are living in abusive marriages because they are totally dependent, so why shouldn't career be placed at the tops?

5. The lady in the story talked about how she was unwilling to dump her dreams because of marriage. Her very supportive husband made it work, a man also needs a supportive wife who encourages his dreams. Take note that I am not in support of all the ladies actions in that posts.

6. What women need are supportive husband's, not husband's that want to kill their dreams, of course we are aware that the commonly seed facade in our society is a situation where women are pressured to abandon their dreams, and at the end of the day, they have neither a happy marriage nor a career. An independent lady with thriving career can still live a happy life, wether single, divorced or married.
N/B: I would appreciate if you stop quoting me, the above is the truth and my opinion, tanx.

We both agree that Ibukun Awosika is a good mentor for women. See what she has to say:
https://www.nairaland.com/3660038/nuggets-ibukun-awosika-chairman-first

Author of Lean In and COO of Facebook (Sheryl Sandberg) said this:
"Who you marry is the single most important career decision you make."
https://www.glamour.com/story/sheryl-sandberg-husband

Late Dora Akunyili's name would be in sands of time. Yet she left PDP to save her marriage:
https://www..com/talk/topic,64275.0.html

Oil magnate Folorunsho Alakija has written 11 books. Not one is on business:
https://folorunsoalakija.com/books/

Pepsi's CEO Indra Nooyi
https://www.nairaland.com/1796655/successful-career-women-cant-it

Goodluck with putting your career first as a wife and mother.

Squillaci:
For teenagers, yes

Before teenage years.

A lot of abused children are pre-teens.

Biglittlelois:
The only pattern is that you are obviously confused.

Clap for yourself, you have achieved something today.

GistMore3:
GistMore.com

President of a Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan on Monday dissolved an 11-year-old marriage between one Jimoh Ibrahim and Barakat over unrepentant dirtiness and waywardness. Odunade held that the court was puting an end to the relationship between Jimoh and Barakat due to loss of love between the couple.

“The marriage between Jimoh and Barakat has ceased to be in the interest of peaceful coexistence. “Custody of the eight year-old child produced by the union is awarded to Barakat and Jimoh shall pay a monthly allowance of N5,000 for the child’s upkeep in addition to being responsible for his education and other welfare of the child,” the arbitrator said.

Earlier, Jimoh, a businessman and a resident of Oja-Iba area in Ibadan, told the court that he could no longer cope with his wife’s dirtiness and adultery. “For 11 years now, I have waited over and over to see whether Barakat would have a change of mind in her bad attitude or not.

“Instead, Barakat’s dirtiness worsened such that I had no option than to be cleaning the house and washing our wears myself. “I also have to bathe our child and do every other necessary things in the house. “As if those are not enough, Barakat now move around with a gang of riffraff for the purpose of prostitution.

“My lord, she followed men to distant places like Ghana, thus abandoning her responsibilities at home,” he said. The petitioner also said that the respondent was highly disobedient and disrespectful.

“She is so disobedient and disrespectful not only to me, but also my relatives. “Barakat has no time to look after any child,” Jimoh said. The respondent did not oppose the divorce suit nor deny any of the allegations against her.

Barakat, who lived at Odo-Oba area of Ibadan, however, told the court that her husband’s intention to seek for divorce was not new. “Whenever there was any disagreement between Jimoh and I, he packs his property to his parents’ home. “In fact, I usually go and beg Jimoh in his parents’ home to return to our own apartment,” Barakat said.

See more here; http://gistmore.com/11-year-old-marriage-dissolved-over-wifes-dirtiness-waywardness

If the wife is wayward, dirty and disobedient, is there any reason why the custody of the children is given to her?

Is the child care relied solely on the husband while they were together, who would care for the child now they are divorced?

That judge needs a bat to his head.

liberalchick:
oh Ok as long it’s a man you have no moral injunctions for him because it’s his choice but for a woman you roll out your moral edicts so you can save women from eternal damnation. Got it.

You have lost me.

This post would make sense if I condemned a Lady D for marrying a Charlie Boy.

Isn't it funny that you are not even considering R Jay that she made the video with.

This is not about man/ woman except you tell me you consider Kanye to be morally better than Kim Kardashian.

The post is about husbands protecting wives yet you still find a way to prove I hate/condemn women.

These things are principles.
It might not be a Kim: it might be a virgin who can't conceive; the husband should protect her.

It could be that his family doesn't like the way she cooks, he should protect her.

Etc.

Biglittlelois:
I think I get her, she loves the way people argue cos of what she says, it gives her a kind of fulfillment, she really doesn't care about any of her topics, it's just an entertainment to her.

Madam psychologist, I am very passionate about my topics especially those I created myself.

You should have noticed a pattern by now.

liberalchick:
lol you are not consistent at all. So you don’t have any moral instructions for Kim? All of a sudden you are okay with people’s choices? Because of you there’s a 20 page thread and counting of people losing their minds because you insist that your way is the right way for women. Why is kim different?

Hahahahahahaha

If you understand marriage as I see it, my post would seem inconsistent.

This post is not about Kim or her choices; it is about Kanye's duty to her.

Whether Kim is indecent or not is a different matter.

Pascopele:
A sex tape and several failed marriages & she still did not consent to being made public, d world was convinced Kanye West had lost his mind when he decided to marry Kim. They made jokes about him making a song about gold diggers and marrying one. The world was convinced that the union would not last after all to them Kim was just a gold digger and a LovePeddler without brains. Now it's 4 kids later, after Kanye's depression, after Kanye's many failed business venture, after Kanye had declared bankruptcy and Kim is still around. Kim is still is still Kanye's pillar and Kanye has never been crazier about Kim.

My bro, the world will always have something to say about your partner - they will call her a LovePeddler because she has done the same thing men do everyday, with many sexual partners. They will call her a gold digger because she chooses to be compensated for her time. Some will even tell you about her one night stands, they will even know her favourite positions and will tell you about that. However, if you ask me, your woman is yours. She is a reflection of you.
It is your duty to protect her honour. It is your duty to not to gossip about her with those people but fight for her to be respected and never stop loving her because of other people's opinions her.

BE THE MAN AND PROTECT YOUR WOMAN AGAINST ALL ODDS

I agree 100% with you.

Kanye knew who Kim was and is fantastic with it.

EOD.

QueenSekxy:
You have a point actually, especially @emboldened.

Thanks

LilMissFavvy:
1. You got no right to tell me what to do or how to live my life, okay?

2. It is possible to have a career and have a home.

3. To me career comes first.

4. With a partner who understands, a woman can carry both along.

5.If you prefer marriage with no career, or marriage before career, that is your business!

1. I am not telling you what to do, I am telling you the outcome of your decision

2. There is nothing new. We have the Dora Akunyilis, Ibukun Awosika, Folorunsho Alakija, etc.

3. Refer to my previous post. You can't put career first if you want to have a successful marriage. You can however have a successful marriage with a successful career. Dora Akunyili told us she made her husband's meals specially, Ibukun same thing; Madam Folorunsho still told us she washes her husband's undies. My point? Your duty as a wife and mother comes first in that order before you talk of a career. Ditto a man. Funny how on their deathbed, NOBODY ever said they wished they worked more.

4. Now, you are talking.

5. This is not about me.

Funny thread.

LilMissFavvy:
You got a different opinion? Suit yourself!

If you think career comes first, don't bother with marriage.

You would make your husband, children and self all miserable.

LilMissFavvy:
Beauty with brains! Yes, Career comes first, every other thing comes later. Tho I feel bad you regret having your child. You can regret marrying a man, but should never regret birthing a child you carried for 9months.

Career comes first?

Hahahahahahaha

@topic:

I believe God calls whom He wills.