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tpacalipse:
Feminism and the destruction it brings.

Feminism is destruction or a man washing his wife's underwears brings destruction?

Ubdavis:
Am not very comfortable when i see mothers looking more beautiful than daughters.

It is a common phenomenon.

Especially when the mother is exceptionally beautiful.

Who has the full story?

yehmy:
They used to date when she was in school, u won't even understand what i went through in her hands... This girl can lie

My point is that he wasn't her ex if they were still in a sort of relationship.

awwfar:
lol ..I get your point, but I'm 99.9% sure she was in to me ... and the most craziest part is that she was always screwing my phones and computer for any form of dirt.. she had serious trust issues ,I guess her unfaithfulness caused that tho or probably a facade to cover her track

Well, you were the one with her.

Take care

It is standard practice not to tangle with anyone who has nothing to lose.

They are the most dangerous lot.

yehmy:
Told me nothing is going on between she and her Ex (that is currently in Dubai) only for me to caught her sending the guy I love you good night message ... Even told d guy she can't sleep bcuz she didn't hear from him all through the day Women are SCUM

How could he be her ex?

awwfar:
she came visiting one night ,tho prior to that night I was already suspecting her way wasn't pure .it was around 11:30pm, so I was on the floor working on my laptop with a headset on bopping to a Ryan Leslie track while she was on my couch smiling, smirking her face sometimes and frowning to her phone (she was chatting with her other boyfriends I guess)..unluckily for her ,few minutes before her phone rang, they took light and since it was already late non of us suggested putting on the gen..so while she was on the call I paused my music and was still faking the head bops.. and I could hear clearly cos everywhere was quiet as some guy(probably the main bf) was asking the hoe where she was, angrily and that she should put her roommates at school on.. like he wanted to be sure she was in her hostel as her reply to the conversation was incoherent ...immediately she dropped the call I busted out laughing to my system without saying a word.. out of guilty conscience.. she just dropped it..
"that was my mum asking if I can make it down home tomorrow as early as possible "

I was like oh! really? no problem..she became strictly my sex doll after that night I discovered my assertion about her wasn't wrong ..we fhucked for more than 3years(with protection of cause) before I finally dropped her like bad habit and I cut out any form of favour from the relationship..

Dammy where ever u dey thunder go fire u!!

When I read stories like this, I chuckle.

Except the girl was sincerely interested in you (which I 99.9% doubt), she was enjoying the s.ex and happy to part ways when you did.

According to you, there were other benefits so she probably gained both ways.

StupidInyamiri:
There are no more Buhari's followers or strongholds in the North. This election is between two Northerners, one is a Failure (Atiku) and the other is tested fit for productivity and good governance. (Buhari).

I am holding no brief for Atiku however can you in good faith really say Buhari is fit for productivity and governance when he can't remember the positions his co-party members are running for?

Someone actually snapped them and shared?

We've got sick people around us.

TheWhiteBox:
#2: I do agree that a man should love a woman more than she does him, but the onus to love shouldn't entirely rest on the man. Love is a two-way street.

#5, 6: 100% agreement to both! Some women don't ask questions b/c they don't wanna appear eager or desperate, but as a woman you've the right to make your expectations known + know where a relationship is heading. Steve Harvey is a huge advocate of this.

#7: I was totally agreeing with this tip until I got to the part about promising a guy sex after the introduction. Either someone is a virgin or not, it's best to wait until after the wedding《traditional or white》has taken place to have sex. A woman should be wary of a man who keeps insisting on sex before the wedding/marriage. Advising women to yield to men's pressure for sex isn't a good idea b/c introduction doesn't always guarantee marriage.

7. I disagree with the school of thought that makes it seem a woman is doing a favour having se. X with a man.

Don't women have sex.ual desires? Do you know that some women want the S3x and chase it?

I also disagree that a man who wants S3x doesn't really love you. One of the major manifestations of erotic love is s3x. Some people are patient, some aren't.

I am not saying that a man cannot just want sex: I am saying that just like lies, premarital s3x is a sin some people commit with people they love/like/just want to chop.

A woman who marries a man that genuinely loves her is blessed.

Hmmmmmmm

Erums:
Hello guys,

I'm going to be brief,

Im starting to receive pressure from family to get married, mind you im just 27 and i have a job, payment is average if compared to the nigeria economy monthly basis if i work pretty hard 200k upward. It's not really abt the money but my family feels I'm all prepared to be married as at now. Thou I have the intention of traveling to the west and starting a life, what I'm gonna do there I don't know yet, thus I'm still keeping a low profile on that not letting family know.

I just need candid advise from matured minds.

Is it not too early to marry?

Can 200k sustain a family pretty well?

. I don't want my family lacking, atleast my wife and my kids should be able to get thier demands averagely met.

I need experience people to guide me out here. Thanks

You are not ready to be married hence the questions.

When you are ready, you will know.

Fishermancom:
Update: 15-year-old nursing mother married off to man with down syndrome in Anambra has been returned to her parents
15-year-old girl, Miss Chinwe, that was recently married off to an older man, Izuchukwu Igwilo, from Anambra state, has been rescued.
Last week, there was a public outcry on all media platforms after photos from the introduction ceremony of Chinwe and Izuchukwu surfaced online.
Activist, Prince Harrison Gwamnishu, who championed the course for Chinwe to be rescued, gave an update on Saturday. According to the Gwamnishu, Chinwe who is 15 going on 16, has a six-month old baby and she has been taken back to her parents' house. He also stated that on Monday February 4th, she will be officially handed over to the Anambra state Ministry of Women Affairs.

''I promise to #RetrieveChinwe and I kept to my promise.
#Correction: Her baby is six months old and not one year. Igwilo's family married a nursing mother.
#Handed over to Ministry of Women and Child Welfare Anambra State.
Thanks to Commissioner Ministry of Women and Child Welfare Anambra State, Barr. Ajuebor Favour Kene Ezika Efficient Grace Ume Anwulika E. Udanoh Young Boss and Nigeria Police Anambra command for their quick response.
They alleged Izuchukwu Igwilo is 25yrs old and a Business man base in Lagos
The mantle has been handed over to the ministry. They are trained and strongly believe they will deliver.
Thank you great family for your prayers. The struggle continues to end CHILD MARRIAGE and abuse of the girl child '' he wrote

Update: 15-year-old nursing mother married off to man with down syndrome in Anambra has been returned to her parents
Chinwe and her baby pictured above with activist, Harrison Gwamnishu

Update: 15-year-old nursing mother married off to man with down syndrome in Anambra has been returned to her parentsUpdate: 15-year-old nursing mother married off to man with down syndrome in Anambra has been returned to her parentsUpdate: 15-year-old nursing mother married off to man with down syndrome in Anambra has been returned to her parents

https://vipsglobal..com/2019/02/update-15-year-old-nursing-mother.html

I sincerely hope all the activists involved in this case weighed all options and went with the best for the girl and her baby.

I also hope they are willing to follow through to the very end.

Pavore9:
Children are observant on how their father treats their mother. A man who maltreats his wife, most times get abandoned in his old age.

Very true.

However, they treat their wives badly and start whinning in old age when they are abandoned.

Gaddafi1:
Please let's post this in every social media until justice is done.
Someone will surely come to her rescue, indeed this is evil.

Come to her rescue for what?

Cloth her, feed her & child, sponsor their education, give her a good footing in life?

XhosaNostra:
The lady's ramblings are stupid. The guy won't do anything to her as she claims, so what seems to be the problem here? Because the way I see it, the situation would have been more the same or even worse had she remained with her family. For one, she had a child at such a young age, which the writer herself blames on her home situation. Now she's been married off to a wealthy family, that to a husband who's incapable of exploiting her sexually. She already has a child, no doubt her in-laws will help take care of her & the child. Isn't that better off than to remain at home with her parents, where she could be taken advantage of again, which may lead to another pregnancy with no father in sight? Her arranged marriage imo, is the better of two evils. At least she's not out there popping her p*ssy to different men, in exchange for a plate of food or money. The outrage is a bit ridiculous considering that at home she didn't fare any better.

I very much agree with you.

Unless all the activists would be responsible for her tertiary education and take care of her kids, they better leave this girl alone.

I have seen enough poverty to know that some people need to choose lesser of two evils by crazy marriage alliances.

She could end up as a maid servicing oga, trafficked as a prostitute/go into prostitute, retire to the farm or become a community beggar.

If this marriage would help her with a better life for her kid (s), so be it.

And I wonder why people are not thinking she would be the one stepping out on the man instead.

Madam Dolapo,

Please siddon look like your senior wife.

vickydevoka:
N haven't u seen a case where a wife killed her husband because de next of King is written in de woman's name. Pls. Brother everything for dis life na luck.
For me de first thing wen u get married is to observe de woman's character at least for a decade b4 u think of changing de next of kin.
#Fear woman of this days after God.

And didn't you see a thread some days back where the husband killed his wife during their honeymoon to inherit her stuff.

It goes both ways bro.

Elder0001:
Women -- The Gatekeepers Of Patriarchy



When engaging the subject of patriarchy, we rarely acknowledge the contribution women make in endorsing this evil, as it is in the public and exclusive spaces that women hold where patriarchal mannerisms manifest and men are placed on a pedestal, even in their absence.

Patriarchy a system of power dynamics where women are kept dominated and subordinate, and thus, prioritises men in both public and private spaces.

Appreciating that patriarchy is a deep-rooted construct, it means that even within a modern context, it keeps creating obstacles for women to succeed, even if they work on merit. It gives priority to men and the dominance manifests both within homes and in broader society; furthermore, patriarchy finds its strength in that it manages to adapt and find expression even in the changing of social and political spaces, and fundamentally, the buy-in from women to maintaining this 'phenomenon'.

According to radical feminists, in supporting this view, a patriarchal society is one where men appropriate all social roles, placing women in inferior roles, fundamentally so, it is a system which is universal and is not limited to time [Charvet, 1982].

We could then concede that patriarchy will require both men and women to contribute towards changing the status quo, and fundamentally for women to actively participate in changing this culture. Yet the question still remains, how do we place women at the centre of this change?

Firstly, we need to be sensitive to the fact that patriarchy as Lerner [1986:54] argues was not a "one-day event, but developed over a period of nearly 2,500 years at different times and places, from China, Mesopotamia, Egypt, India, Mesoamerica, Africa, Europe and Malaysia, and was formed by both men and women..." [cited in Wood; 2013]. This view was justified by the "rationale that women are emotionally dependent species and men hold the authority and are superior to them".


https://www.google.com/amp/s/m.huffingtonpost.co.za/amp/siphokazi-tau/women-the-gatekeepers-of-patriarchy_a_23198479/




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Your contribution will be appreciated

What is your definition of patriarchy and practical examples.

bryanarchie:
Dear family,

I need your opinion in this dilemma.. Our marriage has gone through it all but I'll give a summary...

Last year December, we had a quarrel in his family house and I left (we were just visiting( and I left without his notice or fathers pleas.

I traveled back to our home and he never looked for us or checked on us.

I felt really sad and humiliated and I sent him a text that I'm done with the marriage but I later called and apologized for the message and my facebook post and asked we moved on but he objected, saying it had gone too far.

He called me days later and said, he was done with the marriage and all...

Immediately, I got a house and moved my stuffs out and he said I can move out with everything (which I did(...

And then he called again asking me how we will sort out our rent this year and then I reminded him that he told me he was done with the marriage and I had moved out my stuffs...

He then tries to deny that he ever told me that but I insisted and I was ready to swear with my life before he accepted.

He comes back form his holiday and we talk about everything and we decide to settle it all but he tells me he has to seek his family's view and they may disown him if he settles back with me...

My main issue is we split the family monthly expenses 80:20, I'll be doing 80 because of his msc program but I insisted he has to refund me the rent money I paid for the house because I got it from shop and I have to restock it.

He says no that he will not contribute a dime for the rent but he will move in with me because it's a taboo for me to have moved out and he won't pay...

We earn the same money and I feel cheated paying our annual rent and still taking up 80oercent of the responsibility...

Please I'm putting it out here to get a non-biased view on this issue... Thank you

Will be back.

Kagawa10:
Lol. Show me where I said I would vote Buhari. Fact is I've opined the Buhari govt have much better in 4yrs than pdp 16 years despite earning 60% less. That's a fact that can't be disputed.

But on whom to vote, I don't know if I would either take a nap on election day, vote Sowore or vote Buhari but I'm definitely not voting Atiku. Neva again!

What exactly does Buhari's govt have over PDP's if your earning is 60% less ditto your purchasing power?

Are were you earning illegally prior to now?

Bluetooth2:
The motto of the PDP should be

Steal but invest it in Nigeria

Hahahaha

Chop I chop party.

However, I prefer them to this current APC's style.

naptu2:
Kadaria says that what Obasanjo said doesn't necessarily exonerate Atiku. That it's like someone saying I want to move on, not necessarily that there was no problem originally.

Atiku says that nobody was investigated by Obasanjo as much as he was, yet Obasanjo didn't charge him with anything.

He says that if the referee didn't find any fault, then it's up to the employer to choose

As in

Lagbaja01:
Now, this is something more than a sliver spoon!

A diamond spoon more like

Congratulations.

Hmmmmmmm

What happened?

pocohantas:
Bad marriage/relationship can turn person to philosopher sha. See as she just dey drop nuggets

As in.

Why did she husband doubt the paternity of her baby?

Such allegation is heavy and shows he finds her untrustworthy.

I think Yvonne should calm down and alley his fears of distrust.

No comment on Bimbo's quote.

LordKO:
Yes. Friendliness vs friendship: There's nothing wrong with a woman (person) that is friendly to/with many people, because it is not a form of relationship, and it doesn't require mutual ethical leanings to maintain. However, friendship is a different thing entirely; it is a kind of relationship akin to love (parental and romantic love) with the only difference being that, unlike love, it has no observable biological necessity.

A friend has many steps ahead of an associate in order of importance, just as an associate does over an acquaintance. So, don't mistake a friend for either one of the latter, also reverence him/her.

Personally, I know and understand that a woman (person) that has more than one person - one's spouse or lover - as a friend at any point in time, either doesn't know what friendship is, or can't be a source of positive energy to those she considers as friends, and vice versa.

A friend is not just someone whom one is friendly with or restrictedly closely relates with, but someone whom one shares same ethical leanings and unrestricted closeness with. Aristocrats understand this well. Because it's a Herculean task to find such a person that shares same ethical leanings with one, so it better be of opposite sex when one is lucky to find him/her, so as to automatically become not only friends but lovers too.

Petty people always strive to build friendship with many people - unfortunately, they usually end up having frenemies - while aristocrats always strive to have many people as associates and always end up having loyalists. It takes more than loyalty to bond as friends - altruism and faithfulness are the core attributes of friendship.

Over familiarity will always breeds contempt where ethical leanings differs. Once more, a friend(s) is someone whom one shares ethical leanings with - contrary to this, what one has is a frenemy.

Hmmmmmmmmm

You just explained what I have been grappling with.

Thanks.

Adakintroy:
Again he was talking as a christian. And it's a deep level of tolerance beyond the sense. You fail to understand that the man is weak or sick and needs help. Anyone who rapes his own child needs help.

The attention should not be with the woman. She is fine. But the man. All sins are pardonable. But go and sin no more.

I am not surprised.

Your normal is not my normal.

Even the constitution knows that a husband who rapes his children deserves to be punished.

Let me ask you: why did God punish the Israelites? Or Ananias and Sapphira? Or king Agrippa? Or Bar-Jesus?

The Bible has never peaches your type of forgiveness else there would be no hell fire.

Are you not even concerned about the Children's lives he has ruined?

Is maintaining a face more important to you than those innocent souls he has destroyed?

The attention should not be with the woman? Do you understand the gravity of what the husband did?

Na wa.