₦airaland Forum

NoToPile:
You are right

No today?

We operate a 'were dun wo, ko se bi lomo' society.

Adakintroy:
It's because many of you Christian have not seen anything. You think Christianity is for babies. Everything you express shock. Everything. Come to the ghetto and see what happens daily. With time you will learn to let go nobody will tell you.

Moreover the man is advicing as a Christian. Forgiveness. Everything leave the marriage. Everything advice to leave. That's the only thing many people know how to advice.

Growing up in the ghetto, all this a child's play. No pun intended

I do not know the Christianity you are talking about.

Forgiveness does not mean the person doesn't face the consequences of their actions.

After all, the thief on the right hand side was forgiven and went to heaven yet he still completed his death sentence.

Anyways, thinking that a marriage where the father raped three daughters can continue is a product of your environment.

NoToPile:
Loool, what did they expect him to say before on a church owned TV station. He is a representative of the church at that point so he has to sound the way he just did.




I wont be surprised if his personal views differ.

Thanks jare.

Let the husband of his sister rape their three kids then you know what he really thinks.

Interesting interview.

The pastor is wrong.

However, I blame the caller expecting any other type of advice from the pastor on a public forum.

Someone said every woman knows what to do in situations like these and I concur.

The pastor did not carry the kids for nine months neither does he have the direct charge to nurture those kids.

If the wife in question does not know what to do herself without calling on her brain-box aka pastor, then she is not fit to be a mother.

@lalasticlala:

God bless your daughter and provide all you need as parents to train her to fulfill her purpose here on earth.

I am curious the relationship between praizenews and lala sha.

ddjay:
Thats the modern marriage that women want na, it's called equality

Let's assume the modern woman want an equal marriage.

That would mean the husband and wife works and takes care of the home.

dominique:
She didn't have to bring it to social media though

True.

lilbest4:
most housewives also have maids, does that also make it them useless?

Whether they have maids (which I would like a percentage) or not is not the issue.

Does the husband of an house wife come hone to a clean home with everything in place?

Yes.

How she got it done is outside the scope of this thread.

lilmax:


so what is wrong with this now?

he acknowledge the role of house husband na


and this right here guys it's the best to have money for yourself and family

women cannot stand a house husband

get the money and be in control of your family instead of being humiliated

This man doesn't sound like a house husband (opposite of an house wife.)

An HW cleans, cooks, cares for the home alone, always there for the kids, provide emotional support for the husband, etc.

Can a house husband do that?

If no, then get to work!

The man in the OP does not even provide any support or relieve the wife in any way.

MJBOLT:

where was it written that the job of a man is to take care of a woman financially,what is stopping the woman from having financial independence?

What is the job of the husband traditionally?

faithfull18:
Hmmn, it is common place in most Nigerian families too but on Nairaland the men are always providing, while the women are leeches when we all know in reality, reverse is the case.

Hahahaha at men are always providing, women are always leeches.

Add the all men come back home to wives doing nothing all day.

@OP: Hard to conclude.

How did they start, what went wrong?

And the public exposure? In bad taste.

God console his parents and bless the Spanish Government.

Nigerian marriages....

coputa:
You got it all wrong.A married woman attracting the husband to bed is not to sstop him from being promiscuous but for intimacy(a necessary ingredients in marriage).

Very funny.

What is intimacy without faithfulness?

You can't build genuine intimacy with an unfaithful person.

I am honestly wondering why a wife should be reminded to be sexy for her husband.

Ladies know to look good when they will have their lovers esp. when unmarried around.

There is a rule for every engagement.

If you know what to do in marriage with a willing partner, you will enjoy it whether 'good' or 'bad'

GreyBlood:
A lady came to my office to buy a laptop, she was pointing at some really heavy ugly laptops and I told her how skeptical I was about her actually liking those ones if I bring them out for her then I suggested something slim, pink and more feminine.
She shut me a mean look and asked why I chose this for her and I explained that it looked more feminine and colourful . She got offended and left my office. I tried stopping her but she said she doesn't like people like me and stumped out.

While I understand what you are driving at, you never know her situation.

What if she has been constantly bypassed at work because she's female and she wanted to change her persona?

Bigbright7:
Oh I see, I understand that it's based on income, that's why I specifically said "low earners".
Now for this man that earns 95k, i feel that 20k for child support is a little unfair, I think it should be a little above 10k or 15k at most, my opinion though.

20k per month is unfair out of monthly salary of N95k?

martins21:
What is She going to gain in this union considering her age.

If she was with her 1st husband, do you expect her to divorce him at this stage?

She decides what she wants to enjoy.

And right now, she is doing great for a 60+ woman.

That's another discussion on it's own. Still wondering why Samuel didn't turn out bad too

His did too.

JennyOfOldstones:
Whitewolf8, You had better stop leading that girl on and tell her straight up that what you want with her is just sex ASAP. Seriously, What is wrong with you?!! You allow her to do chores for you and have sex with you but you're complaining about her wanting your keys. What the hell were you expecting when you didn't put a brake on her doing wifely duties for you? Don't start what you can't finish.


Women can be SO stupid sometimes, I wonder why they set themselves up to be used by people like this guy and then cast aside when it's no longer convenient.

Honestly, I wonder who bring up these girls.

Juliearth:
That isn't the problem. The ish is that the babe is already feeling too comfortable and seeing herself as a fiancee. Op needs to reset that thinking.

Ma'am, you are wicked.

when she was cooking, she wasn't too comfortable.

And you are a lady o!

Hotfreezer:
When he says he's not doing again you ladies would say men are scum.

Look at how she's throwing herself at him like okrika cloth.

Instead of her to allow him make his intentions clear, you're setting her up for heartbreak.

Assumption is the very root of heartbreak.

When she cooked food, bros did not mind the throwing; ditto the cleaning.

Now she feels you both know yourselves and wants spare key, story enter.

I am not supporting the girl; I am pointing out the hypocrisy of the guy who is fine when she crosses boundaries that suits him and cries foul when she wants to cross a boundary that suits her.

bamisepeters:
Wait, you trust the food she cooks and you are happy she id helping you with chores. Why not just tell her not to do all those for you if you ain't committed.

There is something you are hiding, how did you guys started and what have you done together outside cooking and washing, or let me say what have you spoken about as regards relationship?



Dropping your key with her shouldn't be a problem if you could trust her food.

If you have not talked about relationship then she shouldn't have entered your kitchen or do chores for you as those things works with our emotion, and relationship can easily develop through that. You never even mention that you have someone you are dating, so share more light please

Please answer all the questions i asked as there is more to the situation than what you have said up there.

You sabi wella.

What's wrong with him calling her pleasant and delectable?

SMH

Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??

See this bobo o!

When she cooks, you eat.

When she cleans, you accept it and the less than a month does not matter.

Now she wants spare key which is phase 2, you suddenly remembered that you've only being together a month and you did not make any 'committment' to her.

Bros, not every man will propose 'will you marry me' before they live together.

Also note that eating her food cooked in your kitchen is already a sign of acceptance of commitment.

I don't understand the 'introvert' ish. Won't your wife live full time with you after marriage or pregnancy?

How old are you both? What stage of life are you in?

Do you have excess that you were doing out cash and credit to a married woman for 5 months?

Or were you hoping that you can be the side bobo?

If my detectives find out that you did not help all the needy around you during these five months, 12 strokes of the cane fall on you.

Tellemall:
That's the problem with most images/videos involving fighting partners. Nobody knows what happened before or what will happen after the clip.

Don't be surprised the man is acting cool because he is at fault and knows that even the bro code will not exonerate him.

Very true

lonelydora:
Omo, she sleeps by latest 8pm ir 8:30pm

OK.

What's her daily routine?

8 - 4 is eight hours sleep which is on point.

6digitscomrade:
i sometimes quote morons here but selectively because some are higher morons...like the guy u just quoted reading his epistles is like listening to a lunatic...

Hmmmmm.

Sometimes, I fear the way supposedly sane people rationalize nonsense.

Funky123:
Have heard some parents saying if she is not 25 yrs and above marriage is a no for her,but some said they can release their daughter anytime she feels like getting married
My question is Will u release ur daughter to get married in her final yr in sch. Nb her husband to be is a working class and is ready for marriage
Or can u allow ur daughter to get married in her early twenties
Pls matured comments only

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