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@Eghosa1 and Joy...

The 'battle' is of the mind using Joyce Meyer's words.

If a woman believes she is inferior to a man, there is nothing you can do to make her believe otherwise....

Even if she is under the tutelage of the finest minds.

You know... It's in you! (Peak)

Siena:
[color=Blue]I'll respond regardless.

My wife is 8 years younger than me. Others may see the gap as too large, but it works great for us. [/color]

Just 8?

Thought she was younger.

Chukzyfcb:
Who determines equity? It starts with you & I. If we are gearing towards a nation that will treat both gender with fairness then it starts with us and the character we instill in our children. You know why? Because THE MIND OF A CHILD IS WHERE THE REVOLUTION BEGINS

Maybe I was not clear.

You said it should be equality and not equity.

Who determines what is 'fair' for a person/gender?

Acidosis:
Some ladies do that so they can get away with certain attitudes and actions.

It is easier for a girl of 22 married to a man of 40 to cheat, than for couples of same age group to cheat on each other.

Older men generally care less about certain ill behaviours. The older men gets, the less time they have to spearhead and 'monitor' their spouses. More so, older men have high chances to forgive a cheating spouse than the younger ones.

Conduct a poll and ask ladies why they prefer older men, you'd understand that their reasons revolve around the behaviors they can get a way with. It's never about the man or how to make the man happy, it is always about them, selfish interest, and things they can freely do without anyone showing any concern, one of which is cheating, maintaining contacts with ex boyfriends of same age group, etc.

As for me, if I don't meet a lady of my age group (+/- 4 years), then I'd stay single. I don't see myself marrying an undergraduate or a lady 10-15 years younger.

In theory yes,

In practical not so straightforward

Siena:
[color=Blue]Guilty of what?[/color]

Marrying a way younger wife?

No need to respond anyways....

Rukkydelta:
Me too

Lols

Siena:
[color=Blue]Lord have mercy! This really got me cracking up.[/color]

Why?

Are you guilty?

Chukzyfcb:
There's been an abuse of the word equality. There should be Gender EQUITY and not gender equality. In otherwords there should be fairness in treating both sexes, whiich is equity not equality.

And who determines 'equity'

Kudos to the people who at one point helped to Bette the lot of women.

Shame on women who worsened the lot of fellow women.

Dyt:
He also wants a baby right?

Lols

AVRecruit:
Many women have turned State sponsored divorce laws into a lucrative business. Find a well to do man or a man with potential, after several years or a decade, file divorce. You get to keep his house, alimony and child support payments, half of ur future income goes to her while she sleeps with other men!

im not sure what the laws are in Nigeria but guys wise up, only do traditional lest u part with ur landed property and union bank shares!

For white wedding just call pastor to pray for u.

In this Nigeria?



Even a correct church will not wed you without a license from the court or a marriage certificate obtained from the registry.

Peeps are still queuing to get married at the registry

Watever rocks your boat

misreal:
hmmmmmmm...i get your point madam..from the way u souding,i can tell u r angwi..please dont be angwi my friend,we r just airing our opinions...liike av always said,it is only a foolish man who thinks being the head,gives him the right to ignore his wife and treat her like trash.a true leader listensss..the fact that your husband sits with you to discuss family matters,shows that he is a good head/leader..but dont forget that he is your head,so anyday he disagrees with your opinion/decision,then u just av to submit to his will and hope things works out well..take note,you r not inferior in anyway to your hubby,just becos he is ur head.....i hope we gud now my friend.

I was getting impatient not angry.

@ the end, whatever works for each of us

@MarieSucre: that's a crazy one.

No.........Old guys irritate me

I think it is practical serving the father in plates that can't break.

Recherche:
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Listen, am a woman and I would be honest with you.
The one person who needs to be more concern about the success of your marriage is your wife.

Obviously you are the only one carrying this marriage matter on your head.

I know you want a peaceful marriage, but you are too soft.

So a 'man' should not be more concerned about his marriage to show he is 'manly' ba?

There is nothing wrong with the husband, the problem is with the wife.

mrDennis:
If the woman can disrespect her husband by calling her in-law to return stuffs already given what happens when the husband hits a rough patch?

Forget what the bible says family is more important than a wife (a stranger who has known her hubby for most times less than 4 years).
Tomorrkw the woman can divorce him , but family is till and even after death .

This is what happens when guys refuse to "be open " when courting babes for serious relationship /marriage . You should create scenarios and events that create quarrels so u see the ladies reaction /actions .
Not coming to NL to ask if u married the wrong woman

Yet I can bet my left bum you will not forget where the Bible said a wife should submit to her husband.

Selective much?

yemi16:
Its really amazing how what is taught during pre-marriage classes quickly fast becoming almost irrelevant in the real world..
During the pre-marriage courses, the counsellors will advice that there should be togetherness, and that no one should hide anything from the other....no matter how little or insignificant.....and that there should be no secrets...
Nowadays, this theory is almost not application anymore especially....really a strange and changing world!!

The pre-marriage class is right.

However, it is quite 'unfortunate' you married a 'Nigerian' wife and such rules/classes might not necessarily apply.

Since you are buoyant enough to help your elder brother, then she should take a blast and never disgrace your elder brother that way again. Whatever it costs to ensure she gets her acts right, please do.

And remember not to have joint accounts with her.

misreal:
so does your husband being your head,makes you inferior??.

You tell me. You said women who claim equality with their husbands are looking for trouble. That infers a woman is not equal to her husband. Now I ask if a woman is inferior, you said no... she is 'strong'. I ask again... if a woman is not equal to her husband, is she inferior to him?

misreal:
hahahaahah......winks...or you just hate the idea that the final decision is left with your husband.

This is not about what I 'hate' or what I 'love'. There is no 'final' decision the way we operate

misreal:
i hope this is not you problem because if it is,dont worry experience in marriage will teach you better.....lol....wait till he you have different opinionss concerning a thing,only then will you know whose decision is FINAL........

I have already told you we discuss issues like two mature adults and come to a conclusion to what is best for our family. No ego tripping, No I am the head you are the tail thingy. What is best for us at that point in time.

misreal:
i rest my case.

Please do.

At the end of it all, the way MY family is run doesn't add N1 to your account.

misreal:
i think i have answered your question in my other quote...i pray u dont give birth to a child with two heads.....winks......havin fun too my friend.

Save your prayers bros.

I certainly do not need them.

Can't break down your points to show you are going in circles.

misreal:
can you just read what you wrote again. i think what is getting you scared is the idea that your husband is your head,because i can see dat we r saying the same thing.when he comes,home with a problem,what do you do?you discuss it,this is where you state your opinion and how u feel abt it.then because u r able to convince him,he gives into you,but if you cant convince him,he wont give in.this is where his authority as the head comes in.

Bros, you need to try comedy.

We are definitely not saying same thing.

So when he is 'giving into' me, he is no longer the head?

LOLS!

misreal:
submission my friend doesnt make u inferior,it makes you strong..no matter how hard u debate this,your husband remains your head,and he isnt your head just for fun.

Lols!

I asked a simple question, see answer you give me.

So a husband is the head and a wife is the strong!

Hahaaahahahahahahahaahahaaaaha!

Who even mentioned head or tail?

Having fun this evening.

misreal:
nice.so your husband takes permission from you before he does anything,or he just seeks your opinion and advice??

None

We sit down and discuss whatever issues there is depending on the facts and circumstances on ground.

misreal:
nooooooooooooooooo.a woman is never inferior to a man.u r misunderstanding me...a womans place is to give counsel to a man where necessary,and that of the man is to take the final decision.....only a foolish man will think his wife inferior.

If a wife is not inferior to her husband and she is not equal, then what is she?

misreal:
it really bothers me that most ladies commenting on this thread are craving for equality in marriage i.e man equals woman..well i dont blame them at all,its just that many of them dont know what it means to be submissive,neither do they know the power of a submitted wife...marriage is like a kingdom ruled by a king(husband).decisions are delibrated by the counsel of elders(wife),where everyone of them is allowed to make meaningful contributions.the final say is with the king.a wise king surrounds himself with wise men,but what do you think will happen if every elder chooses to act as the king?..ur guess is as good as mine....chaos.......women,no matter how hard you debate this matter,you can never be the head of your husband,you can only help him make wise decisions..dont quote me if u will abuse me.

So a wife is inferior to the husband?

@Bold: Na so you dey fear?

misreal:
hmmm.obviously you are not married..

Haahahaahahahaha!

You will never know, will you?

LOL!

I am so amused by NL this evening.

There is nothing wrong with the pictures and I find the topic odd.

They both own the baby.

misreal:
what is your point exactly?

My point in my post you quoted bro.

misreal:
if you are implying that a woman is equal to a man in marriage then you are mistaken.submission is not slavery my dear,it is the best way to control your man if you play your cards well..the final decision should be left with the man but a woman can SUBMISSIVELY bend a man at will...

Hahahaha!

"'Nigerian marriages'....

Always wanting to bend themselves or conquer themselves like it is a conquest.

Carry go

businessnoni:
You should always know the type of people that you can offend...some people will give up their lives to pay you back...cos to them, the offence that you committed against them is same as killing them. You should have known the kind of person you married. In life learn to never offend the wrong person, they will prefer to die than to let you off. Take it from me!

There are things I can't forgive anyone and no matter how powerful you are, how long it was, how close you are, I will plan and execute in retaliation as long as I live.

Did I mention that my 'vengeance' will be done repeatedly and at any available opportunity? So you should note...Your wife may have that personality too

Very True

The OP clearly mentioned his wife was good before the incidence.

zeongeon:
All you girls calling bebe all sorts should first try and secure a man and then hope he gets married to you and then you spend 20 years in marriage..then you can now talk trash about bebe.

The response of some girls here just shows they are not emotionally intelligent and matured for marriage.

Forgiveness, patience and wisdom are some key ingredients to marriage expected from the wife ONLY.

For the girls all blabbing about how they will bring down hell if any MAN cheats on them when married, you ladies should ask yourself this question "Is there any man ready and even willing to marry you and call you his WIFE"

Before you talk of bringing down hell on a cheating husband first get a guy to date you if you pass that stage then he proposes and then may be still goes ahead to marry you. Then you can expect he cheats and you bring down hell and we see how far you go.

@ Bolded,

Corrected to reflect your thoughts.

obstead200:
O yes!!!

Dis is arrant nonsense. The man made a mistake. He is humble enough to ask for forgiveness. The st.upid woman should forgive him so that life goes on.

There was a time I used to cheat. My wife caught me. I sincerely begged for forgiveness and everything was forgotten that nite. Like it never happened. I learned my lessons and stopped.
That is what marriage shud be. Love, understanding, respect for the man, and compromise by all.

Why do I find this line funny?

Mynd44 please move to the front page

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