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Beautiful OP

God continually bless your home

What a lovely write-up.

Have a great day OP

Khd95:
End time pastor.

Mary in all her portraits wore a veil/scarf or better stil hijab...wot poo is d pastor saying

And Jesus Christ was a white man with long beards....

He even wore gowns and hijab So bros, hope you don't use trousers?

@OP:

I wonder if I am the only one who has never seen any beauty in their love story....

1. He was 24, she was 15
2. Over the span of 14yrs they were together, he have 5 babies with two other women.

And yet, Tuface 'loves' Annie....

How many of us would support our younger sister/daughter/relative marrying a guy who had 5 babies from two baby mamas in the relationship?

Hilarious thread

coogar:
the husband could have slumped all these years too.



domestic chores!



your friend should sack all those people. the wife has lost the rights to be spoon-fed. if she's not contributing to the family financially, she doesn't deserve house-maids.



work schedule?
she brings nothing home from the work schedule.....what's the point in going to work when her salary does not add a single dime to the family? your friend should make her tender her resignation at work & become a full time housewife.



tell him to cut out all those incentives.
the wife is taking the piss......your friend has been taking care of all the utility bills & that simply means he can cope even if the wife is unemployed.

I agree

Saylawchar:
My friend told me that he even employed someone that comes to the house and washes their clothes on weekends including the wife clothes and the baby's clothes. He also employed a cleaner that comes home every weekend to clean the house. That the wife claims she doesn't have the strength to be doing both considering her work schedule and she wakes up 5am to bath for the son and get him prepared for creche. My friend further said the wife doesn't make him breakfast nor keep food for him to eat. He cooks for himself most times.

Considering her schedule, she would obviously be very tired.

Like my mom says.... if a job will choke your life, make sure it. is paying you very well

I think she needs to resign or restragetize her life.

Very soon, the husband will start feeling used and conned.

coogar:
if she cannot trust her own mother to keep her legs closed then she'd better not put herself under the weather.

a wife that cannot contribute financially must find other ways she can contribute to her family. that to me is the fair deal!

I thought the wife in the OP was a model wife to you?

bellong:
Bukatyne,

Thanks for the "gossip"...

Welcome back Ile, I thought Coogar arranged snipers for you, been looking for how to arrest him..


Efe, the moniker may need to proof she is Ile but her " Tennis buddy" line to me sounds convincing. She is the only one that calls me that.

Bukatyne, your "gossip" resurrected the handle, I guess.

You are welcome

[size=2pt]What is the next moniker we need back?

jennykadry, moca and MarvellousGod[/size]

iykedare:
To all those girls that ever slept with married men,your husbands will cheat on you too. Fvck vow.

Karma is real.


See them trying to shift the goal post to suit them.

Hehehehe!

So what's the karma for a cheating husband?

sihom:
You are welcome.

I've been feeling your insightful and wise contributions in the family section for a long time.

Thanks a lot.

I am blushing and shy...

On a second thought, why shall I be shy?

sihom:
I read a lot of different threads and posts on NL for fun & information.

That's how you caught my eye with the good English thing, you and a host of others like Bukatyne, Cococandy, Coogar etc.

Coogar could do with a mouth wash though jeez the guy can sha insult ooo.

Thanks for the compliment

cococandy:
My mama no care o.
According to her "you're still my child even at 50"

We still have outstanding drama to face because she doesn't know I pierced my nose yet.
Hehehe.

Lols!

I wish you luck.

Ileobatojo is back; she is now burntpalace

Mindfulness:
How did I miss this comment?
Bukatyne, thanks for quoting it and Efe 100 000 likes.

Sending my invoice ma'am

EfemenaXY:
Lol! Thanks, Bukky.

You are welcome

Burntpalace:
Lol!

Hmmm, if JK, carefree, osisi, shollypopz et al regrouped on another forum, they didn't invite me

Shout out to bukatyne!

E-hugs....

Was reading the thread from where I left off joor.

Ileoba.... I missed you

Welcome back once again.

Burntpalace:
Lol. Burnt palace=ileobatojo in English.


It's really me. I could prove it by going around collecting scalps but I don't think I'll stay for long.

How can I convince you?

Welcome back

How is your family? Work? Life? generally?

Bellong, ileoba is back

Mindfulness, this was the moniker I thought you were

byvan03:
Hahaha, you didn't remember that? Chilis, cococandy, bukatyne, sophyrocks, one of them must remember. Is a thread about how women become unattractive with age and as usual you proved that men are even scarier to look when age sets in.

I heard my name o!

edwife:
But as a wife on the side chick's perspective,why will i blame her?Why was she called an I/diot?Why do most of the posters here always attack any female who is a second wife?I still remember the thread that got us banned in multitude.

Don't get me wrong,i am one who will never tolerate infidelity-i might not sing it everywhere but i will find it very difficult to forgive.

I will also not in any time approach any mistress or even call them to order BUT if she crosses the line and comes for me,i am gonna go for her too.

If she threatens me,i will have to protect myself.I have a friend who was harassed by her husband's mistress for 6 months even when the man cut off all contact with her.She almost got her kidnapped just to take her place,and you really think i still have nothing to do with the mistress?

A second wife will be insulted because she is the one posting.

If a guy opens a thread that his babe is sleeping with a married man, the married man is NONE of the guy's business; his cheating girlfriend is and I do not care if the married man chased her or jazzed her.

If a side chic attacks you/the kids first, then she has made herself your business (God forbid)

EfemenaXY:
Not necessarily. Don't get me wrong, I'm not absolving the girl on the side of all blame, but honestly, in a union, who are the people responsible for keeping the union sanctified? Does the man not owe it to his wife to be faithful and likewise, the wife to him too? Who then should mistress "A" be accountable to? The man? His wife?

Holding the girl to ransome is akin to saying you'll hold all his "bits on the side" to ransome. If the guy is a chronic womaniser, how many of his side-chicks will you go after na? 10? 50? 100? 300? At what point should the wife draw the line with her Valentino of a spouse?

I get what you're trying to say but personally, I just can't agree with it because it's just one step away from monitoring the ladies and that in itself, is just one step away from confronting them.

Biko, the best thing to do is let the man know he's walking on a tight-rope. He either sticks with his wife or he gets the hell out. And while he's moving out, she should get herself a good lawyer and take her cheating spouse to the drycleaners and squeeze him of every Penny, Cent, or Kobo he's got.

That way, she gets something (hopefully everything) from the split. Then let's see if he'll be that keen to jump beds, or better still, if side chicks X, Y, Z will still "love" the broke man.

I am giving you a sitting ovation here

Toks2008:
A MARRIED MAN OR WOMAN CAN NOT BE JUST FRIENDS WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX

It’s no secret: guys and girls being friend is a concept held by only the dreamers. Any lady who believes that she can be a friend with a guy other than co-worker, co-student, or just on a hi-hi level is infact the most myopic lady to walk on this planet

A guy’s friends consist of, well, only guys. The only reason a guy would be friends with a girl would be to bed her. No guy is going to waste their time just being friends with a girl because it’s not like she is a sports freak or a transgendered.

Guys have enough guy friends and won’t waste their time listening to ladies talk from a girl just to be their friend. Plain and simple he wants to bed you except of course you don't mind or he has not made it obvious yet.

Guys being friends with girls is a farce: either he wants to sleep with her, or she still believes in unicorns, because a guy cannot genuinely be friends with a girl.

Want to prove me wrong? give him a kiss and watch him stop you. After-all you guys ought to be just friends. If you don't respect yourself as a lady, no man will respect you and you will only be approached as you present yourself to any man. STOP BEEN A DUMB!

And for the maried man, snap out of your delusion and tell yourself hard fact...YOU ARE OLOJU KOKORO...Let your wife be your only friend,best friend and close friend and same for the lady.

Keeping friend of teh opposite sex wehile married is an emotional affar and its even worse than actual physical affair.

Just trying to make common sense.

@Bold:

I agree

goldfishsk:
I had given my wife all the liberty to use facebook, whatsapp and other internet applications. She is not a regular user of these applications. One of her co worker(married with one kid) whom she had a bad remark, like he is always chatting with some other lady who is also married. She had a negative remark of this person. After few months this guy turn to be in her friend circle and occasionally she used to tell me details which sounds different from earlier comments and sound good about that guy.

Later he started to sent 'Hi', 'How r u' etc in Whatsapp and facebook and she used to show me and reply with my permission. I took this as a good friendship and did not noticed much about it. In recent one month somehow I started checking the messages. The messages were normal and nothing sounds different.

He got another job and maintained this friendship. What surprised me us in addition to messages in facebook or whatsapp, they communicate also in SMS but content is very decent. The count of communication has increased and now a days she dont tell or show his messages may be she might be thinking that I am convinced of their friendship.

My wife basically hesitate to send messages if I ask to send details of any things to buy from shop and also was very cautious of not wasting money by SMS. But now she replies to all his SMS and not bothered about cost.

Few days back I openely discussed this with her and she told you can check our messages any time and there is nothing of bad nature. Also she said since I dont like this she will stop sending messages. infact he used to send messages between night 9.30 to 11. Since I objected she messaged him in front of me that not to send messages as I dont like that.

what worrying me is whether this communication continues and if the messages are deleted I wont come to know.

So far both of them have not dealt in a wrong way. Reading above what do you feel whether this is a good relation or shall I put constraints on it. Also how will I bring back my wife from this relation though it is not crossed boundaries so far

You gave your wife liberty?

Is she a 12yr old? Lol!

What is thee basis of their new found friendship considering the fact she was filled with negative testimonials initially?

byvan03:
I really understand where you are coming from but this girls cannot be excused. It's just like saying that the thief is blameless because I kept my money carelessly. I really believe that they deserve whatever the husband got as his penalty in good measure, shaken together and running over. I feel no pity for these husbands nor their mistresses.

If the man will burn at a stake for his shyte, the girl should too. There is a reason why an accomplice is expected to serve some time in a real life criminal case. It's a different pot of soup if the mistress is under aged.

I am not excusing the girl but the wife has nothing to do with her just how the husband/boyfriend of the girl has nothing to do with the cheating husband.

In God's court, He might punish them together How He would punish a boy & girl who commits fornication.

shozillo:
@bukatyne...U are Right

Smooth Home Running is very Paramount!!!and helping each other in all aspect of the house would go a long way in making life a little bit better!

Dats y they call them MARRIAGE PARTNER

Thanks

LewsTherin:
Can there be a nobler reason?

babygirlfl:
Lol. God bless them for us.

Amen

cococandy:
I totally would.
In fact it's not too late to play this one on her.
Let me see how she will react.

Now when you are mama ejima?

It would be sweeter when you just finished university

Mindfulness:
[size=3pt]Bukatyne and Bellong, kontinu! I like this kind of gossip.[/size]

xtervaganza:
wow I'm really upset at this comment of yours



So what's love then? Just 6 months and the love you have for him will poof and disappear?


And bringing the man to the man's house? If anybody tried that with any of my relatives ilk find the man and deal with him, maybe kill him but I'll definitely deal with him

Upset that What really?

Which man's house? What if the wife was the one paying the rent?

In all honesty, if that wife remarried after one month after Her husband's death, she has commited no sin.

byvan03:
Once the girl in question isn't under aged, she should take equal responsibility as the man. She is as guilty as the man, on what basis do you classify right or wrong? Everyone cannot measure with your yardstick.

These girls cannot be excused, if the man will serve any penalty, they should serve same. If you are going to condemn evil, do that on both sides. You can't tell people how to react to spousal infidelity, they will react as they deem fit.

Babes, I don't agree this one.

The husband took a vow with his wife and he is the one mandated to keep it.

Yes the other lady is committing fornication but whose business is it?

On the flip side, if the lady has a boyfriend, will he blame the married man for his girlfriend's unfaithfulness

Wondered why husbands do not call fire and brimstone on their wife's lovers?

They understand that the issue is the cheating wife.

Let them pray from now till next year or pour acid on all their husbands' lovers....

If the husband has decided NOT to change, it is an exercise in futility.

Sorry step dad .. you should have had your ex arrested for attempted fraud .

It is a pity you spent 10yrs before realizing that you were not welcome to their cozy family.

Don't look at you have spent So far.... it was an investment in. love.

If I were the groom to be, I would be having doubts about marrying the daughter: she is an ungrateful person and doubt the marriage would last as the husband might just be the next ATM.

@ Single mother, carry go; your recompense is just in front.

buggaboo:
Agree with the bolded.
However leaving or staying in an terrible marriage can both lead to raising highly dysfunctional adults. I have seen live examples of both.
The peculiarities of the situation should determine the better option.

I also agree with you.

If both parties are willing to go back to the drawing board, why not?

If a divorced couple finally learn their mistakes and they are both willing to change, I also see nothing wrong with them coming back together again.