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johnson232:
U have said it all. The bold doesn't apply to women alone, but all humans...

Very True

Rukkydelta:
When in comes to building up marriage the woman has the greatest responsibility but when it comes to running of the family, the man is the head and has the greatest responsibility to make decisions. If a marriage will work it will work, if it's destined to fail it will surely fail

What is the difference between building up marriage and running of the family?

babygirlfl:
I am not surprised at OP's thinking. Honestly this is the result of the society he grew up in. If that's what he has been taught and saw it play out in marriages he has witnessed and was in the audience where someone preached this kind of message, he won't know any better.It is particularly troubling that the OP has an audience who he feeds these kind of information.We might not agree with him but this article of his and his other replies should ideally worry anybody born and bred in the same society. We as a society should be worried that some people actually think like him. We should be trying to do something about it.

The truth is people are opposing him because he opened a thread for it in 'peace times'

Let a woman open a thread that her husband constantly cheats on her... most of the advices would be 'pray more', 'get closer to him', 'cook fresh fish', 'save your home' etc.

How is it any different from what the OP is saying?

Isn't 'a wise woman builds her home' a popular verse of the Bible?

So what really is the OP saying that is different from what is obtainable?

bellong:
You got it wrong. The essence of encouraging women to be in STEM courses is to disabuse their minds about its gender stereotype.

In every university, check percentage of ladies in Engineering and science compared to administration and social sciences.

There were only 5 girls in my department in the university, 2 in civil engineering for my set, mechanical had only one ati bebe lo..

@Bold:

Could it be that they are more interested in social science courses and that's where their strengths lie?

I would say all students are enlightened on STEM courses and thereafter, let them choose what they want themselves... that's why we take all classes in Jnr Secondary and our G & C teachers put us through during placement into Senior School.

I am sure those 5 girls would probably do the society better in future than 100 girls coerced into Engineering.

doublex:
thanks for this thread.you are right,and theirs alot more to it too.am still in highschool but will pursue chemical engineering after

You are welcome

I am glad you know what you want to be in future

5minsmadness:
Why do women need to be supported at all? In a society that believes so much in gender equality, why the extra push

The fact the 'society' believes so much in gender equality does not mean everybody believes in gender equality just how the fact Lagos is projected as a developed state doesnot mean there are not a lot of shanties in Lagos.

I will even say there are more people who don't believe in gender equality than people who do.

One of the things that I really strongly believe in is that we need to have more girls interested in math, science, and engineering. We’ve got half the population that is way underrepresented in those fields and that means that we’ve got a whole bunch of talent…not being encouraged the way they need to.”

-- President Barack Obama, February 2013

The development of world-class talent in science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) is critical to America’s global leadership. The Obama administration understands that fostering an open and diverse scientific community that draws from an array of unique experiences and viewpoints is a necessary step to realizing this goal.

Supporting women STEM students and researchers is not only an essential part of America’s strategy to out-innovate, out-educate, and out-build the rest of the world; it is also important to women themselves. Women in STEM jobs earn 33 percent more than those in non-STEM occupations and experience a smaller wage gap relative to men. And STEM careers offer women the opportunity to engage in some of the most exciting realms of discovery and technological innovation. Increasing opportunities for women in these fields is an important step towards realizing greater economic success and equality for women across the board.

The Office of Science and Technology Policy, in collaboration with the White House Council on Women and Girls, is dedicated to increasing the participation of women and girls — as well as other underrepresented groups — in the fields of science, technology, engineering, and mathematics by increasing the engagement of girls with STEM subjects in formal and informal environments, encouraging mentoring to support women throughout their academic and professional experiences, and supporting efforts to retain women in the STEM workforce.

https://www.whitehouse.gov/administration/eop/ostp/women

We also have WISE ... a campaign to promote women in STEM with this goal... Our mission is to get 1 million more women in the UK STEM workforce. https://www.wisecampaign.org.uk/

Now the reason for this thread:

Must more ladies be enrolled into STEM courses? Must there be a gender based quota as regards the enrollment into STEM courses?

I am not against encouraging more ladies to join STEM courses; I am against making people feel STEM courses are more important than non - STEM courses because that is the reason behind pushing more ladies into STEM irrespective of their personal interest. That is why we also see a number of ladies drop out of them after school.

Yes, a person in STEM night earn more than a non-STEM however, money alone does not determine the importance of a profession.

If a lady is not in an environment that discriminates against women in STEM courses, then she should be guided to choose a profession based on her strengths and personality. That why, the society can benefit maximally from them.

Sweet

Well CMD, husbands sucking their wives' breasts would also create and cement bond between them

The picture is very nice (family bonding)

GodnGold:
The wives revolt by JP Clark.

Very nice book

Read it in Jnr School.

Teespice:
I guess you missed the sarcasm in her post.

My dear,

Sometimes, silence is the best answer

Funny thread

But this is What our society preach na...

Why the outcry?

OP carry go.

johnson232:
Men are no saint either, but this fad for gender based appointments promotes mediocrity and incompetence, it is condemnable and should be decried with all sense of sincerity.

True

hahn:
The moral of this story is wrong. Marriage is not tit for tat.

How will one night's lack of sex affect my reasoning. If she didn't agree to make love at night, we can do it first thing in the morning.

Only men who are single and live with their parents will find this amusing

You are right.

Does the husband pay the wife money (gifts and all) to have sex with him?

Maybe this would be sensible for a Olosho type of relationship.

funlord:


You both Seem petty 2 me! The worst part is none of ya'll is getting shagged so you both lose! SOUR!

As in.

Maám,

Your husband is NOT irresponsible; you and your family are.

For your husband to have the guts to beat you and your parents and you are still dilly dallying in court means you and your family is not responsible.

babyfaceafrica:
we need quality not gender-based representation,also the former female ministers didnt do well

And the males did well?

I agree with you on the quality thing.

cococandy:
Haha abi?

I can't imagine sha

The first reaction to this story is laughter
Second reaction is laughter
Third is laughter

Maybe the fourth reaction would be to propose a solution

What is the son is the first and the last? Aka only son?

Pidggin:
This culture is anti-women sha.

The first male inherits all the father's property, the last male inherit all the mother's property obviously your culture doesn't value females @ all.

Very funny

Why don't the women inherit the mother's property?

Whatever sha

cococandy:
So funny.

He could have just faced the music.
How did he know she won't forgive him?
He just made it worse.

Hilarious but it seems they respect marriage enough to have a drastic reaction.

Nor bi like Naija

cococandy:
Sambarry for the last time I'm not yellow pawpaw.

I'm just mildly light skinned.
Mildly.

You know like erm I dunno omotola or maybe she's even lighter. I don't know a good example to use that you can relate to.

You're light chocolate pawpaw then

JoeCutie:



So...are you a giver or a receiver?


Your profile picture is so so sexy. I'm hungry.

Sorry at the hunger

Giver.... receiver? Which one is she?

cococandy:
I don't know about calabar women o.
Maybe they do

Any Calabar husband in the house?

xynerise:
Because of how hypocrisy has eaten up the minds of most Nigerians, especially the religious fanatics, we think that when a woman initiates sex, she must be a very loose or spoilt woman. Initiating sex is not one person's job for crying out loud. Gosh! See why I love my woman

I don't think it is religion; I think it is the conservative nature of our society.

A woman is supposed to be innocent on such matters. I am sure that as the society becomes more liberal, such things will be past tense.

Any idea if Calabar women feel free initiating? I know they used to teach their young women/wives the art of love making.

Cc: cococandy

JoeCutie:
I can't date/marry a lady who even though she's so Hot, still pretends not to, and wants me to always 'beg' for sex. Lubbis!

Dear future wife, please, I beg you in the name of the Almighty, if you ever do shakara with 'that thing' for me, you're a gonner! I don't phucking care. Please, tell me to give it to you. Don't pretend. Don't assume. Even if I'm tired, just tell me first. If I'm really tired, then I'll see how to make it up to you. Baby, sho gbo mi?

It's always so romantic when ladies do the initiating...

So funny!

How do the women there cope?

esosuo:
HAHAHAHA,GUY U ARE A BAD COMEDIAN ,BLIKE U DON TOO EAT BANGA RICE OR U DON TOO EAT D OTHERS AND PLANIN TO CHANGE DIET TO STRICTLY BANGA RICE?

How did Hello Food and Mama Cass start?

Trust me, If KFC introduces Banga rice to their menu, we would rush it.

cococandy:
I don't even think any of them looks age inappropriate

They are too fashion conscious for their age

But again, these are pictures and they magnify things....

I am sure in real life, these children would not look like this.