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cococandy:
Why not tell her how her attitude makes you feel?
At least tell her first.

And in future challenges, let her work it out herself no matter how tough. Just sit around and fight the urge to help her out.
Maybe she will be forced to ask and then you can say you won't do it bluntly because she won't appreciate it if you do.
That could open the floodgate for more outpouring. Don't shy away from it because you want to avoid a fight with her. No.

That 'fight' is long over due and you have to have it before you can amend things and move on.
No matter how 'one' you've become, spouses should always be appreciative of each other. Even for the smallest things. Taking one's partner for granted can lead to many other bigger issues.

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@brimicx:

If lack of submission can cause divorce, you don't think lack of love can cause divorce as well?

I don see am for SAMBARRY'S hand

@The boys: their clothes are decent BUT some are very age inappropriate.

Those styles would look very sharp on the boy's father or uncle.

TooNoisy:
So you were defending dyt (dirt) by asking that foolish question. It is very obvious dirt derailed this thread with her unnecessary assumptions and when edwife called her out, your resorted to asking silly questions.

Your IQ must be ridiculously low for asking such a question. No wonder your on/off husband has left you to your fate and then you come bitching on nairaland

Please don't involve ever my family negatively in your madness again.

@ The rest of your post: I have never seen a more absurd post. There are a list of posters you defend and a group you don't?

Besides you asked me questions in another thread: where you defending someone else?

Absurd doesn't even qualify this.

Dyt:
Hahahahahahaha
You really can't predict these women married to wonderful husbands

How can TooNoisy be telling me that Edwife answered me and I went on and on... on this same thread?

Or is there a thread behind this one?

TooNoisy:
Now I see you are a hypocrite. Did edwife engage you before you asked her that daft question. Even when she ignored your unintelligent post, you still went on asking her to respond to a dumb question. She finally responded and you went on and on.

What exactly is your problem?

The question should be to you really...

Did Dyt engage edwife before she quoted dyt?

Are you plain daft to see you caused the wahala on this thread.

The funny thing is that if edwife felt no obligation to respond and you did not jump in, this thread would not have gone downhill.

Edwife finally responded and I went on and on?

[size=14pt]Are you edwife? [/size]

TooNoisy:
You are such an hypocrite. You accuse me of being her spokesperson and a mind reader, yet you say here that 'she is a firm believer in women taking charge '..

Dunce, you don't assume what people have said or claimed to be. If TooNoisy says "she is a muslim", it is NOT an assumption if tomorrow 'I say TooNosiy believes in Allah'

Clear?

TooNoisy:
Yet you are not a mind reader and not her spokesperson. Just let her speak for herself next time before making assumptions...

Shouldn't this be directed to you?

Or what is the purpose of question asking?

TooNoisy:
You and youur association of married but jobless feminists who depend on your husband for everything can keep deceiving yourselves..

Lols! this line is extremely stale

What are we deceiving ourselves about by the way?

TooNoisy:
Your best friend who claims to be a feminist left everything she was doing in Nigeria to go become a housewife @ age 25, yet she shouts feminist...

Hahahahahahahahahaha!

I did not know a feminist cannot be a housewife neither did I know that you have tabs on her life.

Please what did she eat last night? I need the info desperately Help a sister, will ya?

TooNoisy:
I can see why both of you are frustrated. You both have very unhappy marriages.

You actually sound like the frustrated one.

I am genuinely sorry for you.

nasha1:
Enemy number one, the chief association of frustrated women. Grow up!

Enemy of who really?

TooNoisy:
Stop making this a gender thing. I only called you out for asking a daft question. Next time think before you type. Now run along.

You are the major problem of this thread.

TooNoisy:
You little piece of dirt derailed this thread. The topic had nothing to do with feminism and there was no need to make stupid assumptions about her husband.

Then the itk bukatyne jumped in with a most ridiculous question. One wonders how she went through high school if she could ask such a question.

Then the chief feminist joins. The 25 year old feminist housewife! Rubbish

One needs to wonder at your sanity at this point.

I engaged two people on this thread... lilmax and edwife who the liberty to respond or not.

You jumped on my post and I still told you that your answer would not suffice.... I will wait for the person I asked to respons

So what exactly is the problem?

Or do you want to be an 'housewife'?

nasha1:
When i supported a thread that said women are their worst enemies,they wanted to eat me alive.We can clearly see it and they will deny it.

mtchewwww

Yes, you are right.

You and Toonosiy are the chief enemies of women on this thread.

Dyt:
Bukatyne
Something's are better ignored

Its not like I can't reply her
You know it makes you bigger when you ignore

I don't expect her or anyone agree with me
What I think is diff from what she or anyone thinks
Which don't have to deal with having faulty men in ones life
As she wrote, you write/say something's don't necessarily mean you have been I'll treated by men
This is a large world where anything happens
But like I said
What do I know
Them mamas knows it all

It is so funny how I asked a question and the other madam de madam jumped on it

I hope the woman in the OP achieves her goal to become the big boss.... It is the most important.

cococandy:
@bold not on NL at least. Here everything is the woman's fault.

I guess we should wonder if they didn't grow up with responsible women in their lives at the rate of female bashing that goes on here.
No single respect for womenfolk.

It goes both ways.

@topic true she could be a single mom or widowed. That's the first thing that came to my mind.Anything is possible here. I'm surprised we didn't think that first before assuming the man isn't doing anything.

And someone already implied she might have been irresponsible in her youth. So she might have been a hoe? Talk about assumptions.

All along gender lines too.

You know I wanted to respond but let it go...

On NL,

All Nigerian men are bad;
All Nigerian women are bad;

I even remember one guy who was searching for foreign girls abi na foreign love

Yet you do not see anyone insinuating that the men did not have good mothers or wonderful wives

edwife:
[s]You know what let me just answer her because she is assuming a lot. [/s].

Not necessary, that was the reason I asked you that question.

The intro by your friend was not necessary either.

edwife:
You can see that my question was directly directed to dyt post, even if i didn't use the word exclusive-anyone can see what i meant by that.

What you meant was not clear.

This was dyt's post:
[quote author=Dyt post=38770675]Later now they will shout feminism
Where's the man now
Is that not his duties to take care of the kids, why does she have to work so hard doing the mans role
Bunch of lazy men every where
Figure heads

And you replied:

edwife:
[size=14pt]So a woman posts about how she has three jobs and struggling to send her kids to school without saying anything about the husband or a man in the picture,but you just concluded that the man is somewhere doing nothing?
Did you consider that she could be a single mum or a widow?[/size] And when does working became a man's role?
@ topic, that is what a mother should do,when you don't have support from anyone,get those hands dirty to support your kids rather than blaming the world for your situation.

The bigger face fonts is a perfect response to dyt.

When does working becomes a man's role is not. It means working is not a man's role.


And I asked the question below which still stands:

bukatyne:
@Bold:
What is a man's role?

edwife:
[s]And don't assume things because you chose to read my posts the way they suit you[/s].

@struck: not necessary either. Assuming would me not asking you questions.

And what is with all this 'assume and read meanings into your posts?' Are you passing a salient message? Do you assume and read people's posts out of context?

lilmax:
we are speaking from two different angles remember?

Are we?

lilmax:
You dey vex? I mean at the other posts above

No

TooNoisy:
She's not gonna answer you, becos you asked a not so intelligent question. It is obvious what she meant so if you don't get it - too bad!

I can see you suddenly have become her spokesperson and ready for noise making this fine morning

I am not a mind reader So What she meant is not 'obvious'. She is a firm believer of a wife being in charge of the home domestically So it is only natural I assume the husband is in charge of finances.

Now she asks 'when does working becomes a man's role' and I believe the logical question to ask is 'What is a man's role'.

Except you live in her mind or you are her alternate moniker, shut up and let her answer What she means herself if she is inclined to do So.

keishablack:
I don't think there's a man out there who wudnt agree to assist his wife with the shopping every now and then. So dear Omotola, kindly keep dt piece of info btw u and ur (probably emasculated) husband

Why do you think her husband is emasculated?

TooNoisy:
She meant when does working become exclusive to the man! I thought that was very obvious

Ma'am,

I would prefer if you let her answer for herself.

Her question is 'when does working becomes a man's role?'

So pardon me if your answer doesn't address my question.

[quote author=lilmax post=38784666][/quote]Well .this blows your first point out of the water.

edwife:
So a woman posts about how she has three jobs and struggling to send her kids to school without saying anything about the husband or a man in the picture,but you just concluded that the man is somewhere doing nothing?

Did you consider that she could be a single mum or a widow? And when does working became a man's role?

@ topic, that is what a mother should do,when you don't have support from anyone,get those hands dirty to support your kids rather than blaming the world for your situation.

@Bold:

What is a man's role?

jnrbayano:
Dear Op,

Lesson 1: Dont lump all men together in cheating escapades. Same with all women. Non-cheaters may find it very offensive.

Lesson 2: Treat every case of cheat in isolation. This man (singular) cheated here and his actions only should be analysed.

Lesson 3: Lack of self-control and judgement are the prime reasons for any cheating. Temptations by the devil, freedom, exuberance, to revenge etc, are only accomplices to the prime reasons.

Lesson 4: Unless is a rape case (no consent granted) or the one there is consent granted but by "the hand", it is worthwhile for questions to be asked of the cheating pair and not just a part of the pair.

I disagree with this

A cheating spouse is answerable to his/her spouse.

If Man A and Girl B bang each other....

I will blame Man A alone if he is related to me;
I will blame Girl B alone if he is related to me.

cococandy:


How far babe?

Good good

And yous?

klem93:
Gospel leading father and mother in gospel movies, Mr and Mrs Mike and Gloria Bamiloye celebrate 27years of marriage with a major throwback of the wife during engagement. The family has been blessed so far with 3 children succeeding after them. Two male which are into Acting and Music simultaneously and a female.
http://www.maxgist.com/2015/10/photo-mr-and-mrs-mike-and-gloria.html

See how the wife blossomed over the years

Many more married years to them.

cococandy:
@bold, yet you are looking for who to blame for your crusade of painting the men black.
My point is "stick to your POV"
Next thing you will start lambasting those who agree with you that all men cheat.

Confused much?

[size=18pt]Seems like people around here say whatever matches the moment without considering their past affiliations[/size].

Scream it out loud!

I guess that is where a number of conflicts stem from.

NashvilleTN:
Why is it that bad girls marry good guys and good girls marry bad guys?

Bros you don try. I don't usually prescribe ultimatums but may be needed in this case. Just tell her that the next time you see her chat with the guy, you wiill not take it lightly!

And if she does chat with him again, expose her cheating ways to her parents, call family meeting and you both should decide whether or not you want to remain married

100% agree with you

@ryut:

I will say don't wait till next time

6yrs is enough time.

SAMBARRY:
@
Bukatyne bukky. Too much emphasis on girls jare. What of this cute little boys

Cute boys

The shade and dreads is a no no

These children will live long ke; let them focus on been kids now... there is a time for everything

TooNoisy:
So the wife should be unhappy when her husband's mother comes and should be excited to see her mum?

Should the husband also do the same?

It is the wife's choice isn't it?

It is also the husband's choice.

SAMBARRY:
@ bukky bukatyne you mean long like Beyonces daughter's own?
this type of long?

Now this is a beautiful baby girl

Knee length or slightly above the knee is ok

Though in all honesty, for kids very little (2, 3yrs), the length of the dress doesn't matter

All you would see is a short moving object

SAMBARRY:
is it the sunshades knickers or blazers.which one is wrong there?

no make up and no earings o

Sunshades (there is sunshade for kids na) and knickers (I would prefer the multicolored ones and not jeans).

The blazers is more of an overkill for me jare.

Make the pikin child play

SAMBARRY:
Or this
@bukatyne

Hair... on point
Face on point

Dress? A lil' bit longer and no need for the jacket

5minsmadness:
Na lie o.
From what I've learned on this family section all men are cheats (except your husbands) until proven otherwise.

O well, maybe those women are talking from experience

SAMBARRY:
Bukky this one nko?

Wrong Wrong wrong

Children have sweet natural beauty.

TooNoisy:
Who is mother and who is mother-in-law

The mothers in relation to the wife

The OP is about the wife.