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@Chidoks and Pamshow,

The problems people have with these kind of advice/prayers is that while we see the husband's unfaithfulness as something evil spirits are behind and target with prayers, why can't husbands also pray for their wives when they cheat or do evil spirits target husbands alone?

And I assure you that the husbands 100% know what they are doing so don't go the 'jazz' stories... even jazz needs a contact (sex/food) to be effective.

The ridiculous instances is when a man spent his youth with various women and drags his empty sick body back to his wife for nursing in the twilight years.

Trust me, if more women start to walk out of cheating marriages, less husbands will be used by the devil.

And yes, the men will always support this line of thought. It gives them the free hand to gallivant without facing the repercussions of their actions.

He actually asked her to prepare cornbread?

Next time, tell her to bake bread from the scratch

@OP:

I don't know what to say o!

I would prefer Skype anyways or a cam so you can do live and not have it stored anywhere.

However, why should the communication reduce because you said no? This is a man you do not see at all, it is different from silent treatment amongst couples living together.

I think there are other issues underneath

An2elect2:
sweety, you sounded just like me here.

Thanks

jaybee3:
Thanks Dear

You are welcome, hope you had a blast

@naijababe: Thanks, the blanching is nice

tensazangetsu:
See better countries, oh God what did you do to black people o, whatever we have done please forgive us.

Lols

@OP:

Splendid

Sagamite:
That is why feminism is wrong.

It is promoted by fuuktards. There plan is to suppress men's rights.

If men decide to start their own movement, do you know what you will get? ................The suppression of women's rights.

Because it too would also most likely be hijacked and run by fuuktards.

Trust me, you don't want that. You wouldn't be smiling if men decide to retaliate.

People should understand what equal rights mean.

@Bold: What does it mean to you

@OP:
It is not straight forward.

First, What does Bride Price symbolize in their culture?

Speaking from a Yoruba POV, BP (w hich is not money but gifts) are brought by the groom's family as a guest and hosted by the bride's family as a host hence the bride's family handles the reception.

Often times, the cost of hosting would be more than the engagement stuffs but when you throw in the attire, hall, decor etc, they might balance.

I think demanding a refund of BP is simplistic as both parties invested into the marriage until it collapsed.

Even If you return the BP, you cannot return the man's pains, sacrifices, loving, caring ditto the woman's in the marriage. Perhaps they request a refund because the men invest everything during the wedding rites/ceremony.

In all, expecting to see a spike in divorce.

jaybee3 Many happy returns

Long long life and prosperity

Have a fun-filled day

naijababe:
Sister Opella, you attention is needed here. The spirit of laziness needs to be cast out asap

@bukatyne, well done. I was beginning to wonder why we nor dey see your break light again

Thanks

@OP:

Very good one...

I marvel when people hype on female virginity only forgetting it talks two to tango.

I see some shitty analogy about locks and keys...

What is the lock? What is the key?

If men are free to be promiscuous, who are the people they do it with?

Or are we encouraging homosexuality? Let the guys run amok with themselves

I hear virgin men are not good in bed... Please who was born with bedmatics? Every bad ass guy was once a virgin and learnt from women. How sweet will it be you both learn together

And again, the fact a man is experienced doesn't mean he will be able to satisfy you if he is unwilling to learn what pleases you as a woman

You do not know if a man is a virgin... you also do not know if he is a killer. You keep yourself pure because it is commanded and not because 'Nobody will not know'

Hello everyone

My coy registered us in a gym a walking distance from the office

Worked on the mill yesterday and lost about 150 Cal

Did 1 hr Zumba dance classes today

On the track o!

Yummy

Chillis:
Any one that has received the following double double blessing should contact me for tithing and thanksgiving.

If not, I go take am back dash someone else.


Kimoni
Cococandy
EfemenaXY

Damiso
Naijababe

Tearoses
Edwife
Bukatyne
All ye fitness people trying to look more seeexy. .. be ready to take whatever the outcome

I dey wait for testimon'y of 3 set of twins .

Make una begin mark ovulation period.

The male amongst us are not left out.
Watch out for wife or girlfriends.

Even the peepers. Miracle is on the way.

Chillisauce is never wrong

Lols

I don't mind twins

You sure say church no be your way so?

freecocoa:
I knew you'd ask.

Well, Everyone that knows me thinks me intelligent.

On a more serious note, it just kinda is obvious, I lack words, I don't want to appear proud.

Lols!

I will say intelligence is not useful in a relationship if you do not know when to give in and when to fight through

You might also be mistaking intelligence for exposure.

@Keppy: Ask your brother for his honest feedback. First step

tearoses:
Ah It wasnt bad o!
It was a little messy cos I had to grate the cauliflower and it went everywhere
It tasted not too different from chinese fried rice
Very healthy too as there was no rice involved.
But I will always choose the real thing over it if I had a choice though

Beauty is pain

keppyy:
Even if you were both athiests, they'll still wonder why you both don't go to church or the mosque or Pray...

My mother always explained when we Questioned...

Is your mom an atheist?

tearoses:
Freecocoa this is my view on the matter.

If you are not feeling the man, no matter how much he loves you, you wont appreciate it or reciprocate his love and it will be very frustrating for both of you.

The things you have also picked on that bug you are not things that can be changed either; He cant grow taller and he cant be funnier. Some people are blessed with the gift of the gab and being able to lighten up a room and some just arent. The anger he can work on, but thats about it.

This is a man you will be with for a long long time. If you are not feeling the man now, then you def wont feel him when the stresses of marriage come.

Some of the things you mentioned may not bother some other people but it def bothers you and so it shouldnt be swept under the carpet.

Ive missed some posts so my aplogies if I am repeating what someone has already said.

How did your Chinese Fried Jollof Rice go?

freecocoa:
Ehen there's this thing that might only be important on the list that I forgot(see my life)

I have taken this atheism thing really serious and I don't know what will ever make me go back and he's christian, in the course of our relationship, we talked about it a lot and he's cool with it but expects I accept and understand his, he says I talk to him like he's stup1d when we debate about God and religion, he said he knows it will sound like "just talk" when he says even if it means foregoing a church wedding, but that he's willing to do that for me.

Do you still think it will be great with this? I won't ask another question, no vex.

I think the issues are more deeper.

He is a Christian, I find it hard him considering marrying an atheist however inter-religious marriages are not rare

Take a deep breath and start all over again...

What's important to you? What is important to him?

moca:
U r right Buky but my fear is she is not at peace with his so called flaws.

It's ok since she has admitted it's too much novels.

Freecocoa, reprogramme ur mind to accept d flaws.

Eg,i hate people that snores so much cos I will be deprived of my precious sleep.

D first time me and hubby slept together,gal see drumming(lol)
I was awake all night
I was like"is this what I will condone for the rest of our sleeping together!"

But since I was at peace with my soul over him,i quickly adapted.
Started looking for solution to d snoring thing.
And if it disturbs me, I will go to another rm and sleep.

The cause was discovered and medically dealt with.

She got to do a SWOT analysis and see if his strengths surpasses his weaknesses.

freecocoa:
You got the picture well.

I'm not gay, neither is he, yet when we argue on the subject, I want him to see it my own way(i cast out every spirit of ITK in me) you know if I'm being totally honest, I just think am more intelligent and I guess it kinda bothers me, chai! Make una pray for me o.

Thanks a lot.

How did you come to that conclusion?

BABE3:
issokay. I'm doing good. I'm sure you are too.

I am splendid, thanks

@Edwife:

Okay o!

freecocoa:
Ah! Aunty me, I don steal the thunder? Biko no vex o, you know most of you have found "the one" make una just help me, as we all can need some guidance at some point, make una bear with me, for me to post this here, it's obviously serious biko.

Marriage is one place I want to get it very right, if I must do marriage, it has to be right.

Lol@ steal thunder

I thought we wanted to go back to the initial topic.

I have dropped my thoughts

@Bold: 100% true

freecocoa:
Okay ladies, so when does it become "expecting too much" in a man?

I should give a synopsis for better understanding.

Ok so you were in a relationship for say 2 years or more and it was okay, you both were in love but usually argue about things, not like in a quarrelsome way, just tend to see things differently a lot and are both very passionate about your views which kinda makes it get personal most times, but along the line, you noticed he's tilted a whole lot to your side, while still holding unto some of his.

Truth is you both will never have the same values on everything. My hubby can never never marry a lady younger than him. It once got heated till I was WTF? 'I am 4yrs younger' so what's the P? I can never get younger, we are married already etc.

Most of the argument might never even affect you guys e.g. stance on legalized gay marriage etc.

Besides, him tilting to your side and holding unto some of his shows a very very good man there who is willing to compromise. I will say he is a keeper.

freecocoa:
He tends to get really angry when he gets angry and doesn't really give people second chances and that's something you don't like, as you on the other hand can give chances die and you wish he was taller than he is, funnier and act in what you believe is a "more civilised" way, he's not bush or anything, you just believe there's still room for refinement.

Anger.... as far as he is rational, no P

@refinement: Marriage has a funny way of refining men, never mind the mouth they make here . If he is willing to change, you will be surprised with time. For the mean time, you can get the clothes you want to see him in and other stuffs.

Re taller: he can never get taller than he is. You either get used to it or let him go

freecocoa:
But are you sure this guy loves you? You can say a resounding yes and he does it with a passion that can literally be felt, sometimes you even fear if this is just love, he is extremely proud of you, all his friends place you on a pedestal, you are sure he'd defend you even if they say something not pleasant about you, in plain words, he adores you. Yet somehow, you can't get to look past the things listed, as you keep feeling like if he doesn't meet up to those expectations, you'd never really be happy with him, you realise you love him but just can't seem to admire him.

You have his love and respect, 100% check
You love him, 100% check.

Admiration grows with time except if the values you want in a guy are tall, sharp rich as opposed to love, respect etc. etc.

freecocoa:
Do you think those things are too trivial a thing to look out for in a man and hold onto? Or is she stuck in lalaland?

Cc
Bukatyne

Extremely trivial and she is in lalaland.

You see that perfect sharp young man with impeccable manners you see?

Marry him and you will know he spits all over the bathroom or snores or as very terrible manners.

At the end, the tall or sharp will not matter in the grand scheme of things.

The train has obviously moved.

Over to freecocoa

edwife:
Ladies please i know we women love gist but we need to organized a bit.

Are we talking about older men? Long distance marriages? little misunderstanding which one?

I think we need to cover a topic before moving to the next and try expand on it accurately.

It will be a bit confusing and not interesting. Just trying to keep us in order.

I agree.

Seems we are done with managing time (even though you did not drop yours as you promised to do so ) and moved to age difference of couples...

So

Anything above 5yrs is 'old' for me

As per younger, wouldn't mind 1 -2yrs younger.

BABE3:
I'm fine, thank you. You?

Oh For those that care to know, I'm no more a vegan. A couple of months into the journey, I realized it isn't my calling.

Bwahahahahhahahahhahahahahhahahahahahhahahahahhahahahahahahahhaha!

Sweetheart, not laughing at you, laughing with you

How are you?

Sorry for not mentioning you earlier.

Ewwww

@Peeps

Came across a funny quote..

'Marriage is a bribe to make the housekeeper think she's a householder'.... Thornton Wilder


'Marrying an old bachelor is like buying second-hand furniture.'.... H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

[quote author=ProphetUdeme post=29897097][/quote]You should be discussing with your wife and not us

cococandy:
I don't even know where the Op is going with this.
Maybe to teach us biology or something.

The OP is to remind women that they are inferior

Dyt:
Yes na
That's why the demon needs to be casted out

The prayers will prepare their minds bodies and souls
They won't think of another woman, it will be just the wife
As much as she prays, it keeps him away from cheating
More like the more the prayer, the no chance of cheating

Pls sis
Let's pray together
Hold my hands
We should also do 7days dry fasting
Solely on husband not to cheat

Oshisko repete

Hahahaha!

You know, these men know exactly What they are doing.