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Feminist:
You people wont stop mentioning me on NL . Wetin I do you

I created this account to see how many mentions I will get in a day

5minsmadness:
. Extreme feminists. Focus on the title.

freecocoa:
Exactly.

5minsmadness:
Feminism as a word has been viewed with much hatred by male and female folk alike even though the feminist movement is supposed to be a noble cause i.e fighting gender discrimination.

So what has caused such strong animosity between feminists and other sane individuals? I think females who exhibit feminism to the extreme are to blame and they usually have the following characteristics :

1. Extremely rude. One cannot hold a reasonable discussion with these feminists without it turning to an insult fest especially when the other respondent is male.

2. Disrespectful. Just because you are a feminist doesn't mean you should be rude to others around you.

3. Man hating. Anything to do with the male folk they are immediately up in arms about it. Everything about men is bad. Except for thier brothers, fathers and husbands.

4. Biased. As long as it's an argument/fight concerning a man and a woman such feminists will always support the woman even if what she did was totally wrong.

5. Delusional towards themselves and society. They believe a single mother or divorced woman is more appealing to the male folk than women without any excess baggage. They are ready to defend this anywhere since it falls in line with a woman being empowered and able to leave a marriage at anytime.

6. Anti-marriage. They don't believe in making marriage work. Once the man is giving you a little stress it's time to pack up and leave. Marriage is not a loving union to them, rather it is slavery. Divorce is the solution to every little problem. And thier mantra is they will be happy when divorced. This is a blatant lie but they would want to believe it with all thier heart.

7. Anti-christ. Of course since Christianity used that terrible phrase "submit to your husbands" they have been crying foul. Many of them would rather turn atheist than follow this simple principle of leadership i.e a follower must submit to a leader. They would rather deceive themselves by saying they are a "team" and taking decisions "jointly."

8. Seeing evil in everything male. They make Hasty generalizations with every male they come across. Any male that does not agree with the feminist view is a cheat, a slave master who sits in the parlour all day and drinks beer while his slave wife works in the kitchen, a wife beater or a rapist. This comes across as very infuriating and discouraging for the good men out there.

9 Naive/Young. Many of these rude hateful feminists have not really had any real life experiences. They just blab at things they can't do if they were the ones in the same situation.

10. They like using the word "Hypocrite", even though by their very actions they are the most hypocritical bunch of people.


Many other characters of nairaland feminists abound. You can add yours.

iamkingzlee:
Please, bukatyne vote Iamkingzle!!! Thanks in anticipation.

stevedure:
Just today, i visited my mother who is now remarried to an Akwa Ibom man, residing at Ikot Ekpene, after seperation with my Dad. On reaching there, I found out she's no more in her matrimonial home, she directed me to her new residence. Seeing my mum, tears rolled down my cheeks because she's been greatly abused with bruises on her face and head by her dismissed soldier husband. I thought of going over and fight the man myself, but i had a change of heart, knowing his army trainings may be employed to my disadvantage. I need help on what to do. I reside in Calabar, Cross River which is also my state of origin and a student in the state university.


Cc Seun, Ishilove etc

5minsmadness:
NO I wasn't. It's fact.

5minsmadness:
Maybe no or maybe yes. Some women are beaten for no reason at all. Those women deserve to be pitied. But the truth has to be told that some women provoke thier husbands to beat them. By the time they receive a pounding or two they will tone down on thier verbal abuse.
Brutal and wrong, yes. But very effective.

5minsmadness:
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Yes it would!
You totally get my point.
Wait...

You are being sarcastic aren't you

SirAweezy:
I was ready to maeke it work but 2 years later she called it quit.. owing to the fact that she too guilty after I caught her with a man.

See example of men forgiven is not so far... I know a footballer very popular one at club 10 those days, his wife over cheated on him. Even many warned him to leave the woman, but he did not......... The whole nation knows he bought a car worth over 40m naira for her just to celebrate her birthday last year or so... I know the guy very well. So don't say men leave a cheating partner to the past only.

TooNoisy:
Ok, but you are a moderate feminist. Even though I do not myself as a feminist, I identify with a lot of issues feminism stands for. Not trying to derail.

TooNoisy:
Don't think she is a feminist too. Typical feminists wouldn't see anything wrong in what she did and will put the entire blame on the husband. May he slapped feminism out of her!

5minsmadness:
Oh, I'm very sure they would if they could. What with all the cases of househelp abuse we see everyday, it's a definite fact that men are not the custodians of physical abuse.

I would even go so far as to say that women are more violent when given the chance to be physically abusive.

olumidazz:
I hear dakores in laws put her in serious check leaving her with no choice but to be scandal free. if not for the wealth of the Akandes and her no nonsense mother in law dakore would have been hopping from bed to bed like the rest of her colleagues.

Tay16:
what can you say, they are simply defending their own kind.

cococandy:
@bold, I think that has been established already.

They are giving advice they can't take.
At least put yourself in someone's shoes before telling them to endure and pray over something that will make you even kill someone.

Where people drop their conscience sometimes I don't know. Mtchewwwwwwwwwwwww

dBard:
He speaks the Truth.
It's important for couples in a relationship to Bond, and bonding cannot be done in d aforementioned places.
What happened to taking long walks or just chilling together so u can talk, read n understand each other.

It's such situations that give rise t threads like this.

@ o.p..Lemme tell you what a lot of ppl are too considerate t say...You have a part t play/responsibility in Ur own tragedy.
You got warned prior to the wedding, u didn't investigate but obviously it left a mark hence Ur snooping ( the recycle bin Is one of the Most unlikely places f ppl t pop into except they looking f something).

About Ur Marriage, it most likely won't survive this.
Your husband's a wandering dic.k, that has No respect for the marriage.
A mistake is having sex with , maybe an ex, prior to d white, premeditated is Recording It.
Also, he's clearly bringing prostitutes into Ur home with the connivance of his friends.
Introduction is a contract of future marriage, and that should be a basis for future commitment.
Add to that, the fact that he u gave Ur PreCious, priceless virginity to.

Confront him, preferably outside d house (to avoid stories that touch), and also Talk to an Elderly, Long married, respectable fellow/ preferable,couple t help u put tins in proper perspective, but eventually the Choice of wat to do next is urs.

SirAweezy:
Yes I'll !! (Eventhough in this case they weren't married yet) I remember... My ex of 5years cheated on me with a lecturer in OAU that year.. Caught them pants down, and I was still willing to make it work after a year they were still seeing and I confronted her with proofs and she admitted thinking I'll end it.. The least I did was to withdraw the engagement ring I gave to her and tell her to prove she has change.

You wouldn't want to know what happened at the end. But all are stories now and I'm still me.

Sometimes you make it work(not forcing to work though).

But in this case the OP needs to be patient for real. (My spirit tells me she will be the loser at long last). That guy will grow up for real.

5minsmadness:
Maybe no or maybe yes. Some women are beaten for no reason at all. Those women deserve to be pitied. But the truth has to be told that some women provoke thier husbands to beat them. By the time they receive a pounding or two they will tone down on thier verbal abuse.
Brutal and wrong, yes. But very effective.

zube01:
am in my finals in the university studying geology..starting degree exams in a months time. though this days I feel very reluctant to read. uni wasn't how I imagined it will be but then I am happy! was told it's a free world in here but ever since I set foot here I haven't seen any free something. was also lied to that gals will come rushing but I never still see them! had a hard time gaining admission though but when I got in saw people who stayed at home longer than me! Happy for my mum she's my rock! #cheers

DanjaNinja:
Dear Mum,

They said you were beautiful.
They said you were kind.
They also said you were very nice.

They tell me stories of how you would host the entire family - brothers, sisters, uncles, aunties, cousin - for Sunday Lunch: Jollof Rice with Secret Sauce and Chicken. They say till this day, no one does Jollof Rice any better. They say every Christmas, you would make clothes for everyone - you were a fashion designer. Sadly i dont remember any of it for you died three years after i was born.

Three years. I was three years old and my sister- your last child, was one, when you passed away. How is it that i lived within you for nine months, lived on your milk for four months, gave you endless sleepless nights for several months and yet, I don't remember you? I have searched the deep recesses of my memory, every nook and cranny stiil, i cant find you. I don't know what you sounded like or what your touch felt like. I've seen your pictures but it feels like we never met. I would have preferred growing up with you and i know you would have wanted the same but life had a different plan for us. God knows best they say.

There is something uniquely irreplaceable about a mother's love they say. No matter how another tries, its sadly not the the same. But mum, wherever you currently are, i want you to know that your sister - Aunty G, whom i call mum has done an excellent job. If she had not told me she wasn't my biological mother, i wouldn't have known any better. She loved my sister and i like her own. There were no preferential treatments - whatever she gave her kids, we got - even better in some cases. She made sure we never felt your absence and i must confess she succeeded. Mum, I had an amazing childhood. Kai i was stubborn o. Not troublesomely stubborn but curiously stubborn. I was always curious and wanted to know more and i was a certified trouble maker - chai, dem flog me well well...lol. Life has been good to me, i attended good schools, made amazing friends and i have so much to be thankful for.

Why am i writing this Mum? I just want the world to know that true love, Love that knows no preference nor self-interest,still exist and it can be learnt. I have seen it, your sister lived it. So it saddens me to see people suffer in pain cos they lost their mothers. We saw no pain. God, through your sister made it so. I pray that she lives long enough to experience the fruits of her love and sacrifice. If i don't take care of her, mum, biko, wherever you are, "KNOCK ME". Knock me with the spirit of Gratitude cos i would be ungrateful not to reciprocate your sisters love. Please know that i will forever love you, i will forever miss you and i will forever be grateful for the love that you shared with those who lived with you.

P.S: I want to use this medium to encourage everyone to look beyond ethnicity, religion and race in loving your neighbor as yourself. All we need in this world is love, patience and understanding. We are not perfect but we can help those around us if we try.

One Love My People.

Nonso23:
My parents did not raise a mugu.

Even the flavour guy self has his own harem... 2 na just to warm up...
Don't be so sure about that o.
The problem is that the average Nigerian lady is not willing to demand their fair share of respect from their man.
I mean what is even there to demand
Ask them what they intend to make out of their lives in the next five years and the majority will just start gawking like demented heifers.
Ask some guys how their mothers dealt with them during the turbulent phase of adolescence. Firm but loving. Consequences for actions or inactions were clearly spelt out. (for them good mothers o). There were boundaries and they were adhered to.
Today's woman is more interested in replicating mill and boons in real life than taking more pragmatic approaches toward their marriages. Whilst that in itself is not a bad idea but then again no sensible person goes about cutting down a tree by plucking the leaves.
Marriage today is a contract where the negotiation for value is a till-death-do-us-part activity - a staring contest if you like.
The moment the woman thinks she can get a better offer outside, the husband is gone. The moment the man notices that he can cut a better deal on the sides he goes for it. The latter is more prevalent because the man, in most cases, sports the bulk of their combined financial muscle.
Happy marriages are those where both parties have acknowledged that the value they provide for each other is worth way more than any side attraction can offer. Where the man goes out of his way to please his wife and the woman won't stop at anything to cater to her husband's needs.

I refuse to accept that the woman is suppressed. I think the movement of society's focus from moralist/socialist foundations to capitalistic tendencies is more to blame. The women of the last generation had to combat with the inculcation of monogamy in their men thanks to Christianity and when it seemed like they were succeeding the "sex sells" adverts started to receive attention. Their target - those with the most money to throw around -men. Then morals boundaries became a question of "how much do you want?" . Women became more open to trading their morals for money. Young men who couldn't meet up were forced to step up and those who did wouldn't settle for less and whenever there appeared a better deal they stepped up yet again and the woman again is left with the shorter end of the stick. This is the reality of most of today's marriages.

The unfortunate thing is that both good women and men are the victims of this vicious cycle and it is not going to end anytime soon.
Trust is dead today. Everyone is as loyal as their pockets' depth.
Are there still good people?
Yes.
How can you find them?
I don't know. Try Tum bum tum bum...

5minsmadness:
You agreed with this?

mcdokwe:
If only we can all learn to tell ourselves the truth, especially the acclaimed feminist and desist from creating unnecessary tensions in our homes in the name of being women and weaker vessels who should be treated like queens even while acting trashy gotten from a family-inclined page on Facebook.

Joy1706:
Hahahahaha! Chai! Ur on point. They never fail to say that phrase. Hypoceites