₦airaland Forum

realestawe:
Can't you people praise God. Everyday is about man, woman, wife, husband. Just do you ok. Being a housewife is good and being a career woman is also good. Both have its advantages and disadvantages based on the variables and partner involved. Happy Sunday.

@bold:

Ema binu ma

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's only if she's a housewife as a broke person. Housewife pass housewife. There's "housewife" and there's "Nwunye odogwu" AKA "Oga wife".

No time wey see finish no dey ever dey. If you have to work your head out to prove you have value, you were never valued in the first place.

@bold:

I always say this.

This is solid gold!

Crystalom35:
this is trash.

It's not low self esteem that makes a man say his woman should be full time house wife.

It doesn't also mean that the woman is incapable of anything else.

For some, the arrangement works. Most women love it. That's all that matters.

All these western things have brainwashed many of you

😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 at Western Things.

If I don't know of any other place, I know that American men & women embrace housewifery more than the average Nigerian.

And it is not a 'punishment' or 'potential limiting action' as it is seen here.

TemplarLandry:
Don't indoctrinate anyone here.
No man wants to marry a liability.
Women should go to school or learn some skills.
Real men look forward to marrying industrious women. Not an “alabordo”(a woman who's being fed only for coitus).

Not surprised you are a Yoruba man.

A woman who stays at home, manages the family's resources and manages the home is a 'liability'.

Merry100:
Some men ask their wives to become full-time housewives after marriage. However, if you are not interested in being a full-time housewife, it is important to emphasize this to your partner before marriage. This is one of the factors that create problems in a marriage.

Can I be a full-time housewife if required? Yes.

TemplarLandry:
Only archaic men with lowest of the lowest self-esteem imprison their wives under the guise of housewifehood.

Women are not dullards or nonentities. They have parts to play in every functional society. A real woman has to make some money for herself too.

Being a housewife means you're only useful to your husby as a copulation machine and a babies-producing device. Zero contribution to a functional society. That's bad bad.

You think a woman staying at home to train and care for her kids and family is adding zero contribution to a functional society?

This is how low standards have fallen.

The family is the building block of the society and if the family is not well taken care of, there is no functional society in the first place.

Does the average Nigerian man see marriage as access to free maid and cook services?

What happens to the false accusers?

When would these men learn to raise above the antics of these Jezebels?

When?

If you can’t control yourself, can’t you protect yourself? Get digital & physical explicit consent forms, keep the signed copies. Also record your conversations, ensure there is post-sex convos stating what was done and get her feedback that she enjoyed it backed up everytime you have sex.

Tough and strange however, that is the society you guys want and built.

SwissMass:
Well it is to cushion the effects of subsidy removal, it is not a complete salary or income

What can N8k per month 'cushion' for the common Nigerian today, let's know.

mariahAngel:
It's corn season. YaaaY!!!

Corn is a very popular street snack in Nigeria, and I doubt there's a Nigerian who does not like corn.
As for me, I always look forward to corn season.
I like my corn boiled, but I can't decide between ube and coconut, which I prefer to pair with my corn.


So, how do you prefer your corn? Boiled or roasted?
Which is your favourite pair?

Picture credit: Instagram

Team A, B, C, D depending on availability and as the Spirit leads.

Sometimes, I do boiled with ube and coconut or roasted with ube and coconut.

Sometimes, I do all the combo: one boiled, one roasted with ube and coconut. That becomes a meal sha.

N8k per month for a family?

Daddy wa, what can N8k buy for you at home?

usecondom:
You are a deceitful man and then jam the real game player who beat you in your own game..

Gbam!

Two ge four.

Something tells me that the wife knows the husband is impotent.

And the story has been recycled several times.

May God console her family and all she left behind.

Thank you for the joy you brought to our screen while alive.

It's like one month, multiple deaths in the Nigerian movie industry.

Klass99:
Sukk.ot what brand of weed are you high on?
Is this one of your scientology or astrology speculations and predictions?
I am still trying to figure you out though, are you a believer in God Almighty/Christ Jesus or are you a believer in something else?
Personally, I think that every day in the world, it is someone's birthday, a new baby is born, or someone dies. But I attribute to that natural causes and a normal cycle of life.

Is it only Sukk.ot that seems high on weed on this thread?

I thought the mother removed her wrapper sef..

Nice one mama, you would reap the fruit of your labour.

How sweet if it was back home; all the women there or in her circle would have rallied round her in joy

I am yet to see how the one minute display 'interrupted' or 'disturbed' the occasion.

Going through this thread again, I realise that the average NLer (especially male) always determine possibilities and impossibilities through their meagre earnings.

Using Lagos as an example, we are approximately 15m people.

Out of that 15m, about 20% (3m) are living lives you all consider fairytale with legitimate income. Another 10% can live fairytale lives but are constrained by their responsibilities (especially rent & school fees) running into almost tens of millions so they might not flex very regularly. These 30% of people consist of men & women: Single & Married.

I say fairytale to you because some people are knocking their heads over N120k food per month.

Just move around on Sundays and see all eatries jampacked with full families having brunch after Church dismissal. I assure you that some spend more than N120k per month for such outings even if they cook at home for the rest of the week.

Some others might do a weekend getaway in a very standard hotel once a month spending more than the decried N120k even if they cook at home.

Some can like breakfast at XYZ or exploring all restaurants spending more than the bemoaned N120k per month. A few families I know eat about 70% of their meals outside the home.

Some others need to eat special meals due to health issues or acquired taste and spend more than the N4k per plate in their own houses.

Just like grocery shopping; some families spend hundreds of thousands per month; some other families earn less than N100k per month.

In all of this, I acknowledge that the bottom 70% (~10.5m) are at different stages of earnings and some are really dirt poor.

However, instead of bad bellying them, look at them:
1. How did they get there (into those organisations or built their businesses)?
2. What are their qualifications? How can I start from where I am and grow in my chosen field?
3. What do they invest in?

Should I also mention that most of these peeps have max 3 kids thereby reducing the resources required to give their kids the best.

Also, when I talk of fairytale or flexing, it is not the Dorime and co done in clubs; these 30% worked hard for their money legitimately.

Zigzagman:
Oga, it's not poverty mentality.

Go and check the thread you posted up there and see the responses to her 3K also. We no dey abuse the babe. We just dey aggregate the cost of her food alone.

Why una dey like lie for people like dis? Na una type go dey deceive woman wey don marry say her husband no dey try for am.

How many married women for Nigeria fit dey carry dem family go dey chop 4K for restaurant every day? How many?

Imagine say husband and wife get 3 pikin. Five of dem come dey chop 4K each for restaurant every day. Na 20K be dat daily. Times am by 30 days, he go come mean say family dey chop 600K food monthly. 600K! Unless dem dey work for police wey dey collect roger for road, or dem be agbero wey dey collect owoda.

Even if husbdan and wife both dey make 1Milla steadily monthly

How dem go take pay rent, fuel car, pay school fees and build dem house?

Na bad tin. No dey try disguise am say na flexing. I no fit marry woman wey dey proud say she dey spend dat kain money on top food daily.

@ bold:

Good you recognise she is not in your league and decided to steer clear.

busomma:
I hope foreign investors will be spoken to / discuss business in hausa language. U wonder how this people will civilize with this mindset. Even the so called educated ones are as illiterate & uninformed as the cow herders.

How does a Chinese man do business with a German or French man?

Nathan2016:
It doesn’t matter the language they speak. This shouldn’t even be a topic of discussion. There are minority tribes in Bauchi.

Who do not understand Hausa despite staying in Bauchi?

Then they should learn or get an official interpreter.

Penguin2:
Lol!

Instead Aboki will be making progress, Aboki is regressing.

I’m sure they must have a lot of illiterates in their midst which is why they deemed it necessary to lower the standards to accommodate them.

They might as well incorporate their different dialects as well.

Ndi ala😏

How can adoption of their mother tongue be regression?

I am sure the Chinese or French or Germans are also not progressive by your definition.

Does it occur to you that English is the language of our colonialists and each zone in Nigeria have their major language?

Sirchiboy:
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As long as the one that created me who has lived for billions of years does not go hungry.
I, my kids and my generation will never go hungry.

The same person who created you said only an unwise man would start a building without counting the cost.

God doesn't support irresponsibility.

Sirchiboy:
I earn 35k working as a security man with 5 kids

You are a very irresponsible father sir EXCEPT you had multiple births more than once. Again, one would expect that if your first birth is multiple, you would lock up. Only if you had one the first time and quadruplets thereafter.

And you have the guts to blackmail someone with 'if you want to help, help'.

Who helped you impregnate your wife 5 times?

What was your game plan breeding those number of kids?

Tried none though Ridi, Ukwa, Ove and Onunu might be tried.

The amount of palm oil in Onunu gives me palpations I guess that's why an almost oil less stew would fit.

I think I would pick Ikokore (based on preparation) over Ojojo.

pansophist:
You don't give water to a man that is not thirsty and also didn't ask for it. Usually when you give advice to people that didn't ask for it no matter how well-intentioned, it may not be well-received.

Leave your sister alone, stop troubling her. If her ways are good or bad, reality will reward her accordingly. Though arrogant, humans think they can manipulate the structures of reality and go scot-free. Nope. What you sow, you shall reap. Results for the work of our hands may be delayed, but they shall be delivered.

Did you read the so called 'advise' post to his aunt if this story is true?

It was terrible.

The pastor is greedy and an hireling just to profit from the Gospel.

The family ungrateful and entitled to what is not theirs. Since they got the amount they requested for, they should have shown gratitude to God, the pastor and the members thereafter treat their child.

They did not even have the right to ask the pastor for the balance.

In the Bible, when a Church contributed for another needy Church, the whole contribution from the wealthier Church was sent to the Church in need.

TheMostComplex1:
I wish her well. The death of their son was really a big blow to her yet Yul was re traumatising the family.

Every Yul in our lives die by fire

# bold:

This is a gun to a pillow fight ke

07kjb:
There is nothing wrong in marrying two wife's MAY IS JUST A BAD WIFE,HER ACTIONS IN THIS SITUATIONS SPEAKS VOLUME

HER STUPIDITY CAUSE THE DEATH OF HER SON

May is a stupid, bad wife agreed.

Only a mad man would insist on staying with a stupid, bad wife.

As it stands, this divorce is doing Yul a huge favour; his stupid, bad wife who caused the death of his first son is leaving the picture.

Yul should do thanksgiving in his place of worship on their day of service.

ab1x:
This is a very wrong decision if it is true. You want to leave your home for another woman. Right? At the end of the day, you will become a side chick to another married man. This life self no balance.

Drink water, re-read your post and ask if it makes sense.

A home consists of father, mother & children. Father stepped out of the home, chose another woman, pregnated and married her.

Wife said she is not interested in polygamy (which is her right) and the battle was on.

In the midst of the madness, their first son dies and husband starts doing tiktok videos with second wife.

Which home is the woman leaving? Is there still a home at this point? Wife has decided to give the husband space to enjoy his second wife very well and you are shouting blue murder.

What tells you that she is interested in another man at this point? Didn't you see women in our mother's time separated or chased out of their husband's home staying on their own?

Aren't there married women cheating on their husbands while married?

Let May be. It is not till all her children dies or the second wife kills her before she leaves.

Alliswell248:
A Christian woman would never leave her home.

Tell me more!

Which part of the Bible supports this?

Did May tell you she is a Christian?

But a 'Christian' man can destroy his home abi?

thesicilian:
She seemed to be fine with it all these while. It's like they've poisoned her mind

She was never fine with it.

I believe the death of her son and his actions thereafter sealed her decision.

myyansh68:
Where was the God?, what was he doing when the stranger was preparing to destroy the happy home?

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I always look up to you.
Now you disappointed me. Sometimes, your God is playing foul play in some ways.

Where was God.....?

Everyone has the freewill to do as they wish. They would also reap the consequences of using their freewill.

Righteousness2:
Very Wrong move and Action by may.
You cannot leave your Home for a home robber.
The Stranger is the one that will leave your Home.

May Edochie cancel that move. 2 wrongs will not make a right.
GOD ALMIGHTY is still seated on HIS throne.
Stand in Gap for your Home.
Visit the Lord's Chosen. The GOD of Chosen is tested and Proven to restore your Home.

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Adultery is a very valid reason for divorce in the Bible.

Secondly, we do not know if they married according to the tenets of the Bible or in the Church in the first place.

Yul has also consistently shown he is tired of his first marriage and you know what the Bible says: if the unbelieving party wants to go, let him/her go.

At least May would give him the space to do tiktok and Facebook videos with his new wife without feeling guilty or bashed.