₦airaland Forum

Skyview01:
You see, growing up in our house, Ogbono soup was my favourite dish because of the way my mom used to prepare the soup.

She would always garnish with chunks of Okra and ugwu leaf with lots of dry fish .
In fact, I could eat ogbono in my dreams. After marriage, I realized my wife prepared Ogbono soup differently in their home and that made me despise the soup.
Its always bland without any Okra or leaf to chew in the Ogbono and she would add turkey meat in the Ogbono and sometimes add bitterleaf as well. I hate bitter leaf in my Ogbono and my hatred for this soup developed.

I honestly believe Ogbono is best when you mix with Okra and some leaf with dry fish and isi okporoko with other living creatures!

How do you like your Ogbono soup?

Have you shared with her how your mother cooks it?

Have you decided to make Ogbono soup daddy's delicacy and prepare it the way mama did so you keep the legacy alive in your family?

You don't have to 'hate' a once beloved soup; there are solutions to fix it.

Damilolly:
Many posters have given sensible replies of which this is one.

I just want to reiterate to the OP that Pastor Jerry celebrates Hilda the cook for her fame, position and wealth; till today he's not had anything to say about her way of life. If your wife does similar, shakes her bum almost naked, wears just netting etc but hits the jackpot she'll be celebrated by people like him and testify of financial blessings. He was recently called out for giving a very rara actress a huge amount of money for her birthday. Men like him preach "prosperity" not the "gospel" that Jesus came to share. Yes, he might utter one or two sentences about holiness once in a blue moon but 99% of the program is about how much you can get if you fully submit to him/his ministry. So hopefully you'll also give him some money while doing all you can to get more via your professions even if it's dressing skimpy selling lust.

Perhaps it's time as the spiritual head of your home to decipher what it means to follow Jesus and then begin to institute it in your home. Read the Bible yourself in your home as a family daily so you see directly what God says, not outsourced to men who plucked verses out from all over the place to make a selfish point totally out of context and for their own benefit. Thankfully you already have a child who can align with you as you direct your family but hurry before she becomes a teenager.

Ps: please do not lie or do anything illegal, immoral or unethical.
If you succeed in deceiving your wife, falsely imprisoning her, destroying her passport etc how does that build your home and relationship with not only your wife but your creator and what does it teach your child? If your child intends to remain in the West you need to be intentional about the values you teach her. If the examples set are that it's ok to break the law to have one's way it will be hard for her to resist temptation when she is faced with it. She might be a doctor, lawyer, teacher, IT professional etc but she's tempted to take some meds, breach confidentiality, etc and that can ruin one's career in a land where the law is mainly followed to the letter.

You're the man of your home, lead in love as the head, serve them, help some more with the house work.
Your wife is earning more and doing most of the house work. I assure you she hasn't picked up UK attitudes. She won't be doing that if it was the case. I pray you do the right thing for your home.

I love this

pocohantas:
Hahahahahahaha. Now you are giving me ideas.

As in!

Before when a lady says her partner is abroad, I am like 'hope you are not missing him too much' bla bla.

Now she would make me think 'hope it is not a married/taken man somewhere'.

ppogba:
So, the folks on Nairaland should come and do another naming because that name is registered with CAC?

amadil14:
That is exactly my problem bro

You frankly don't have a problem except you don't like peace.

What is your business with what your SIL names her son?

So if you have a work colleague called Majesty tomorrow, you would resign or ask for transfer? Or if your new neighbour is Majesty, you would relocate houses?

Imagine you told your wife the name of your ex and she reacts 'somehow' anytime someone random mentions the name?

Abeg, don't find trouble that is sleeping.

mariahAngel:
Same dance steps.
Shameless boys! Hahahaha

They shouldn't from there and turn drag queen dancers shaa, because na from clap them dey enter dance for oyinbo land.

@Bukatyne, update on the Happie boys as promised.
We must see this series to the end.

😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆

Thank you.

The boys obviously lack advisers.

Saw this Solomon Buchi's video which is a great resource for this thread:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Ct_ZUFsPY0N/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Bigplatoon:
Yes, truth... God has saved the Muslims the stress of conflicting opinions by humans.
Islam is Beautiful

What is the timeline stipulated by Islam?

coputa:
This is not about respect for the dead husband but for her dignity and self worth,a woman should be reserved,she should remarry at least after two years even if the husband is an armed robber.

I have seen some wise woman whose husbands died when the kids are still tender, they refused to remarry, their focus is to bring the kids up,unless of course if they've not gotten any child/children.

This mad rush by widows to remarry is alarming and also speaks volumes.

If a widow decides to not to remarry because of the relationship she enjoyed with her husband while alive, she couldn't find a suitor worthy enough to continue the marital journey with, she is not interested on another marriage because the previous one scarred her or she wants to train her kids, she is free.

However, the marriage covenant ends upon death of a spouse. There is no special reward for spouses who decide not to remarry.

brain54:
Too early…

1 year is okay.

“He died on top his side chick”? I am tempted to say go ahead even at 2 months.

But I have always maintained that once death is involved in any situation we should always forgive and let go.

Forgive the dead… stick to the 1 year.

No grudge should go beyond the grave!

In any case you/she can date privately only letting the relationship become official/public after a year.

I believe in respect for the dead!

This captures my opinion on the OP.

Maysdevices:
Speak for your woman who’s head is probably filled with air and designer purses.


I work, I clean, I bring ideas when needed, I nurture, I love unreservedly.

This way a man flourishes.

I bring dedication, financial help in perilous times, peace, joy, stability, unwavering loyalty, calmness to my man who navigates the troubled waters of this world for our sake and the sake of our future children.

When he’s angry,
I am calm
When he cries,
I am a shoulder.
When he complains,
My ear is waiting.
When he’s not in the mood;
I am more than quieter than the sea at night.

This makes him cherish me more than anyone else in Earth.

He is the crown on my head and I am his neck.

I really pity men who live with women who don’t know what it means to be a woman.

Did you listen to the video? Apart from the financial assistance during perilous times, I would have sworn you were elaborating his points.

NoToPile:
Hahahahaha



E shock me so tey I just opened my mouth.

Also the babe cannot exercise in peace again , I thought a well fit woman is what men supposedly want? First time I am seeing someone complain about flat Tommy sha.

I think the OP was complaining she exercises too much.

Adesuwa has always been slim so I would wager she doesn't need lot of exercises. However, I haven't seen her of recent so can't comment on that.

There is flat tummy with curves e.g. Beyonce, Shakira, Adesuwa before childbirth and there is flat tummy like a man e.g. Kate Henshaw

NoToPile:
You no serious OP, walahi. I opened my mouth ah while reading this.

As in, very crazy writeup.

He said it was Banky W that taught local Wizkid and broke Skales to sleep around.

By the grace of his preek.....



This OP would know how to yab someone and instead of vexing, the person would be laughing.

It is after everything has settled and the person is ruminating on how the day went that he would understand the gravity of insult the OP gave him

My company incorporated traditional wears into our dress code and most of the guys switched to Senator/Atiku.

See sharp men with well carved beards and matching shoes & lather laptop bags.

Hubby decided to try it at his place of work since they are flexible and plenty people have joined his train. I kuku got him a brown lather laptop bag to complete the ensemble as my odogwu.

I don graduate from turtleneck and jeans or oga's stomach has gotten bigger

GodWrites:
My friend make money, Senator or not ladies will love you. But personally, Senator is a blad wear. There is nothing unique about it, except making you look older than your age.

@bold:

You need to get a good tailor & good colours especially the tone that fits your skin.

fineboynl:
This I have noticed. Women are not attracted to guys with senator dress. But with guys on jeans.

What level or class of women?

@twang414:

I think I remember your previous story.

You need to honestly ask yourself some tough questions:
- Why did I really relocate out of Nigeria?

- What was my goal of relocating to the UK? Why did I choose UK and not US, Canada or another location?

- What can I forgo to achieve my UK dream? For some, it is marriage, some is children, some is their peace of mind, some is wealth etc.

Question three is particularly important because it seems you cannot hold on to your family and the UK dream at the same time. Day in, day out, your wife puts up attitudes you find strange: if it is a lack of opportunity in Nigeria, she just 'rediscovered' herself in the YouKay or this has always been 'her'.

If for instance, you realized that you japa'ed out of peer pressure and Nigeria isn't so bad after tasting the other side (let's face it: Nigeria has not significantly improved since you left so deciding to come back means the 'insecurity' and other circumstances that drove you out of Nigeria did not really matter to you OR you have realized there are worse situations) so you want to come back.

Come back to what? Do you think your madam would want to come back or would take being deceived to come back lying low? What if she still wrecks havoc in Nigeria? What if she still decides on a divorce in Nigeria? How would you feel?

As for destruction of passports: that's spiting your nose to save your face; never ends well.

Her son for Gentry is her current husband's carbon copy

Eku hajj, Alhaja Minnah (hope I got the spelling correct).

Susu, if this whole saga is true, breathe!

Don't let him drag you in his cover up shenanigans.

This OP is a clown!

GODPUNISHALABI:
Yul didn't cheat on his wife he only married a new wife.

He cheated on his wife with a married woman and married her after she had his son and their news cast..

He belongs to their WhatsApp group.

Icrave4u:
See all 3 of them on gorimakpa🤔

Dear Future hubby, please avoid this hair style🙏🏽😑
He get y!

You think the issue is with the style?

I pray God console and comfort the families and friends of those students.

Water is really vexing these days.

Ki Olorun shanu.

NoToPile:
Nothing concrete.

I am seriously hoping this is not true walahi, the way bloggers are milking this story ehn, next thing now is to be dragging pastors and the church.

Social media can be terrible sha.

Na, I don't think Pastors would collect this time. He was not well known as a Pastor.

It is people who do social media PDA that would be dragged.

It is BankyW that disgraced his family na. Sadly, one of the cons of fame.

From what I am gathering, Adesuwa knew the stuff he was made of and should never have married him. He was sleeping with the Niyiola babe steadily since his previous babe served him breakfast. He married Adesuwa because 'she has good girl image'.

Some people have alleged that he is very promiscuous and not sleeping with only Niyiola.

The question is 'what was Adesuwa thinking'? That her 'good girl' would keep his d*ck in his pants?

Same Banky W was accused of sleeping with Gabriel Afolayan's wife when that one started doing drugs and beating his wife.

I don't know Adesuwa's game plan upon marrying Banky W. And she doesn't have emi wahala at all. No negative press, goes her own jeje, keeps to herself.

I pray she survives this. There is only so much someone can endure before they break.

NoToPile:
I am hoping this news not true, the guy has said he will see in church, so I assume he go address the Mata for church today.



People are already rubbing pastor blessed sef(mercy chinwo hubby) as both are close friends.


Chai.

Church never dismiss?

Wetin im talk?

Some people alleged that the Pastor Blessed was cheating when his wedding with Mercy C. was publicised.

Again, one does not know the one that is the work of haters and the work of people who see beyond the facade.

tonytony208:
Even you, will you love yourself if your life has no value?

Why bringing a gun to a pillow fight?

We4all:
I have been waiting for a news like this since like forever. Divorce loading....

Ha!

Why?

It is only the head I do not eat.

JennyJossie:
she is a tailor but not that good again. And also an ND holder

Then she should brush up or revamp her tailoring skills.

Beverlyjean:
1. Amala Ekwunobi is no different from justpearlythings ,just like candace owens... these women are open minded and don't follow the wokeness train ....

2. JPT doesn't have low self esteem ...she's a very confident lady , only a confident lady will do what she does ...

3. and truly , apart from sexual satisfaction and most especially child birth...men don't need women ...

4. without men, women can't survive earth... animals will take over ... we can't build or maintain infrastructure, we can't even invent anything that will impact the world technologically .... all through history there us no woman mentioned that created a solid invention we enjoy today , from cars to ships to airplanes to phones to telecoms to computers to medical breakthroughs to weapons ... if not for men , this world would have gone extinct...

5. if your argument is based on women were not given a chance or subjugated... what of in the past few decades , the electric car , the internet or social media or robots that have been the new inventions ...all invented by men ...

6. its not our fault ,uts the way God created men and women .... God created man first and he survived earth B4 he created woman ...

1. I prefer Amala and even Candace. I agree with you that they think outside the box which is refreshing today.

2 & 3. It is low self-esteem for a woman to think men don't need women. I don't know where you are getting this from but a woman is a solid support system for a man. The woman builds the family, makes the man's life beautiful. Even men know this that's why they would rather 'dictate' how a woman should be to suit them than do the nonsense 'independent man I don't need a woman' women do.

4. If we measure a fish by its ability to fly or a bird by its ability to swim, both would feel stupid. A man and a woman are two different entities. A man builds the society, a woman builds the home. We know the family is the building block of the society soboth parties must work together to build a successful society. That's why a man who builds planes and conquers the world might be inept at home on managing the home or caring for the kids. And a woman who is an amazon and resourceful at home might not invent anything. In addition, individuals have different calling and so a Florence Nightingale might not invent any nursing equipment but revamp the profession to the beauty we see today. We have also seen women bring that feminine touch to the society and bring new perspectives to public administration.

5. I am not an advocate of victimhood in any form. It is one of my pet peeves and irritates me to no end. Marie Curie won a noble prize when women did not go to school; Harriet Tubman rescued a lot of slaves during the slave trade; one Iranian woman won a noble prize in mathematics in a country that doesn't prioritize girl education; Rosa Parks was part of the early activists against racism in racist America, another woman wrote a book (Uncle Tom if I remember correctly) to spark public discussions on slavery; when women couldn't vote in America, some women (Babe, Elizabeth) and men raised up and fought till they were able to vote. If a woman wants to do something great or is inspired to do so, she will. I read the story of an African woman who wanted to go to school by all means and her husband stopped her. She kept pushing till he cut off some of her fingers which still didn't deter her till the news picked it up. We have great African women writers who shaped the continent and world with their pen.


6. I don't know the God you are referencing but if it is the God of the Bible, He created the man, said it was not good for him to be alone and created an help meet for him (the woman). Solomon said he would finds a wife, has found a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord. Another part says 'a good wife is a crown to her husband'.