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lovetwins:
since men can be forgiven, why can't women be forgiven as well? Is there a gender advantage in marriage?

Dimples192:
Ok thank you. I think for him to say it's not rape just scared me. Thanks for explaining that for me. I dnt follow the bible.

SmartFaces:
Good evening great N Landers. Am sure day is coming on well... Happy post Electing.


Divorced 11Years After Marriage and He Blames His Dad.

11Years ago, he took his bride to be home to introduce her to his parents, his dad said he should not be in a rush, he should hold on so they can pray about it.

Weeks later, his father told him not to marry her, that people from her side of the country don't last long in marriages... they stay with you for a while, after which they leave you back to their father's house, not minding if they have kids with you or not.

Name of the girls place withheld, though from the southern part of Nigeria but the guy is from the eastern part of Nigeria.

Inquiring to know if it was God who spoke, his father made emphatically clear that it's not God but his instincts.

He went head to marry her against his father's wish. 10years after, with 3kids, the marriage crashed and he blames his dad for breaking his marriage... Saying if the dad had not said or pronounced that ultrance, that his marriage wouldn't have gone down the drain.

Was it his dad that actually broke his marriage with the words of his mouth?m Or

Was it his inability to handle his marriage issues that got it crashing?

Or other issues?

What i want to know is "When our Parents speak against our marriage intentions, are they actually right or wrong?

Dimples192:
And the bible justifies a man forcing himself on his wife Because he said forcing yourself on to your wife is not rape.

thorpido:
He must be joking then.

Gracyel:
Babes abeg ignore the guy jare...Its obvious he's still a kid. He'll soon grow up to realise he's been living in a world of fantasies.

Dimples192:
Rap*ist Alert!!!!!! So marriage is slavery now?

I shall leave you to your opinion.

dre11:




Abi nah.....
The man dull small.


But I don't just understand women just like this serene did play in court too

“My husband cannot sexually satisfy me in bed” – Woman tells court


This is a woman yearning for more action while this woman is just dulling the action

women...... You can't seems to understand them

Unibenstudent:
I have seen her opunu

Unibenstudent:
Sarcasm failed,anyway when i see a real girl i will know,a lady who has African principles enshrined in her brain

thorpido:
Opiosko and Evina?
I wish u guys the best.

Unibenstudent:
1)helping her wash clothes
2)helping her write her exams
3)allowing her slap u playfully
4)giving her liberty to flirt with other guys when u r dating her
5)helping her carry her handbag
6)condoning her shouting on u
7)add urs

Kimoni:
what is the subject of this thread again How to treat ur mother-in-law ba??

And yes I was expecting to see people proffering solutions on how best you can handle tantrums from MILs but the first few pages is people taking jabs at other posters who have contrary opinions to theirs.

You then wonder what this thread is really set out to achieve.

Not cool!

cococandy:
OP well there's really nothing She can do about her son coming to you for advice since you guys are gonna be married very soon.
How long can one hide stuff from his wife?
So that should not bother you.

Although I can understand her being uncomfortable with the uncanny way your predictions always come true. But that doesn't warrant her calling you a witch. Pls Just forgive her.

Her real problem is that he now listens more to you than her.

Well you guys needn't rub it in her face that the son takes advice from you abi how else does she know except he tells her?
Talk to you fiancée. (these guys need lessons in diplomacy )
He doesn't have to tell her all that since he knows she is not ok with it.

Just thank her and make her feel appreciated for her advice then do what you planned to do all along.

If she finds out you guys didn't follow her way, you can explain it away by saying stuff like you guys did what she said, it didn't work so you tried another way.
All she needs to know is that both of you came up with the solution as one. She doesn't need to know whose idea it was.

I'm not saying you should dimish yourself or act dumb to please her, but Don't go flashing the 'my predictions are always right' card in her face all the time.

InvertedHammer:
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Employees = slaves.

Just a matter of semantics.

What is the difference? By January 1st each year, your employer tells how many days you be can sick in a year.

You can form all the big boy/girl you want. It only takes three words to reset your destiny--"-You are fired".

Labour unions are trying their best but the key to.your destiny lies at the feet of your employers.

I wonder what could have happened if Buhari believed that as a General he is too big to take insults from ordinary civilians. He had his mind set on a goal and no roadblocks frustrated his effort.

Do you see where the OP is lacking? You have to serve someone (and take rubbish sef) before you go become oga. I no sure say op get ambition.
/

eyeview:
What I have seen here is clearly two sets of advice from two types of people in our society.
Group 1: those who are naturally wired to be entrepreneurs and captains of industries.
Group 2: those who God created to be natural employees and faithful servants,happy to have a job and free from the 'wicked labour market'

Find where you belong in the two.

kaboninc:
Bukatyne, see oo

Chillisauce:
Thanks.
Its healthy if you couple it with exercise to keep your heart burning and moderation.
It all depends on how you cook it .In terms of size of oil and how many times eaten in a week.

wait for efemenaxy and babe3. Their regime strict sha



but gradually it will pass.

EfemenaXY:


You didn't like the video, Bukky?

moca:
I once saw ur picture. Ur figure is superb.
Try and maintain it o!

EfemenaXY:
Very bad jor.

Our foods are / were designed to help our ancestors cope with the backbreaking manual work they did in those days. From waking up at dawn before the cock crows and working till dusk doing things like fetching water from the stream in clay pots, to using grinding stones, digging yam ridges, chopping fire wood, climbing palm trees, and so on.... but these days, no one works like that. Not with modern appliances and office / less manual jobs.

But the food hasn't changed. Instead of eating with just bush meat, you've got cow leg, cow nose, goat meat, stockfish, pork, chicken, periwinkles, snails, etc in just one pot of soup laden with palm oil...not to mention the portion or size of Eba/ poundo/ Amala/ fufu to go with it.

Listen to this sister's trials and tribulations...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6SqrtXmDDaM

BABE3:
Another (this one no be mum, she was just overweight).

cococandy:
So true and so funny

Stillfire:
Today I pledge not to be a cantankerous MIL, rotflmao!

Stillfire:
Yeah the story reinstated the old aged belief that MILs are the rabble-rousers and chief commander in confusion and commotion which is akin to witchcraft and the DILs are to adapt to their ways . But we have still not dealt with the crux of the matter. How can we make decent, upright, virtuous, diplomatic women out of MILs, rotflmao, so you don't have to go diabolical or pretend to 'kill' her with love instead of juju.

What if the juju was real? This MIL would have died for being a cantankerous woman.