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cococandy:
it is simple really. Let the men who feel they do not need women have kids their way. Kids that are totally theirs without any contribution of gametes from a woman.

At least we will be spared the touching stories that come out of loveless marriages.
And they don't have to deal with 'unpleasantness' that comes with associating daily with a woman.

They are happy, we are happy, everyone is happy. Win win win

#in my dreams in know.

I am with you on this

homesteady:
www.nairaland.com/attachments/1994453_guessag5_jpegbdeac8c0f80a871a346ad86db125b7d2

This girl is pretty!!!!

Very and her make up was not much.

An average person's face is quite oily in the morning. For those who want to test beauty, check after she applies white powder

Whatever you decide to do, DON'T SLEEP with him.

This should be taken offline and discussed with some of your intimate family members. He might even be a NL member you know?

He might need koboko to restore him to default settings

To you: you do not sleep with a guy and you sleep nak.ed in his house? Are you alright? If you are not interested in s.ex or marriage, What are you doing in a relationship?

Tomorrow someone will fail into This mess again

And yes, he might release the pictures. Prepare yourself and if he does, hunt him down.

Chillis:
Buka don vex.

If a house fly enters the house. Two things. Open the doors hoping they will fly out or you kill them with insecticides or broom.

I prefer broom. Like that you know that same housefly won't bother you again.

Now if you let it go, it will keep buzzing in your ears and attracting its colleagues.

I hope you get my drift.

Pls, relax. Don't let anyone change the real you. Not worth it. Sometimes the people behind the computer will baffle you. Happy New yr

Thanks a lot

Not changing for nothing

Take care

EfemenaXY:
^^ Why na?

I didn't really say anything that was worth quoting...

He is not the first

A poster some days back mentioned me (as unto feminist things) on a thread i had stated my opinion and moved on. Simply told him not to mention me again unless necessary

This is a new year and how the year starts might be how it will end

5minsmadness:
No I didn't. Not categorically. But it doesn't matter.

.

You will not tolerate? So what will you do next time, flog my bottom? Chill out Jo.

I admit you were not the main culprit in this matter. Your case is more like one finger touching palm oil and another getting soiled.

I try to avoid e-fights myself as much as possible but it seems inevitable in this section.
Frankly I'm tired of the whole shlt.

You're right. Its a new year. So I'm going to take a step back. Happy new year.

@bold: I am not the main culprit Can you quote my post that was offensive on this thread? This is a challenge

If you do not want e-fights:

1. Do not quote bystanders as a message to people you have issues with
2. If you see posters you do not like their post, jump and pass
3. ....

Please take some steps back

Take care

EfemenaXY:








ROTFLMAO!!






Okay, back to viewing mode...

Needed to do that

Dr. Olukoya again

For a man that seems hard (due to his stance on some stuffs and prayer pattern) he is very concerned and teach about such a lot.

He refers to the wives of these men as glorified housemaids

Stillfire:
This is for the buy red pants and bra crew when a husband is obviously maltreating his wife...

http://www.artsrn.ualberta.ca/amcdouga/Hist247/winter%202010/additional%20rdgs/sitting_on_man.pdf

"Sitting on a man" or a woman, boycotts and strikes were the women's
main weapons. To "sit on" or "make war on" a man involved gathering at his
compound, sometimes late at night, dancing, singing scurrilous songs which
detailed the women's grievances against him and often called his manhood into
question, banging on his hut with the pestles women used for pounding yams,
and perhaps demolishing his hut or plastering it with mud and roughing him up
a bit. A man might be sanctioned in this way for mistreating his wife, for
violating the women's market rules, or for letting his cows eat the women's crops.
The women would stay at his hut throughout the day, and late into the night,
if necessary, until he repented and promised to mend his ways.24 Although this
could hardly have been a pleasant experience for the offending man, it was
considered legitimate and no man would consider intervening.

In tackling men as a group, women used boycotts and strikes. Harris
describes a case in which, after repeated requests by the women for the paths to
the market to be cleared (a male responsibility), all the women refused to cook
for their husbands until the request was carried out.25 For this boycott to be
effective, all women had to cooperate so that men could not go and eat with their
brothers. Another time the men of a village decided that the women should stop
trading at the more distant markets from which they did not return until late at
night because the men feared that the women were having sexual relations with
men in those towns. The women, however, refused to comply since opportunity
to buy in one market and sell in another was basic to profit-making. Threats of
collective retaliation were enough to make the men capitulate.

How did we go from This to red bra and black pants?

badoolee:
thnks mam

Thanks ma'am

badoolee:
My dreamm
To help my man actualize his dreams
Its really a good thing when we say stories of how we startd from the root and how I stood by him





But then,I have to see the zeal in him and how determined and hardworking he his

You actually edited your posts; that's commendable. Have a prosperous 2015.

ileobatojo:
It's not the same family. They are two completely different articles from one random wife and one random husband as far as I can tell. No evidence that they are related.

Happy new year!

The OP claimed they are the Same couple

Happy prosperous 2015, my regards to your family.

5minsmadness:
All you girls had to do was click the link and you would have seen both the original story and a man's side of it as well.

But no. You were too busy falling over yourselves to defend the woman even though the article clearly states at the beginning that the man was the one that cheated and walked out on the marriage. The wife actually did a lot of blaming and shaming of the man before she came to the realisation that she had a part to play in the breakup which is what was clearly stated in the first paragraph.

Even if I wanted to bring out the man's version in another topic the next day there was no longer any need as the whole idea of the thread was lost on you girls(you know yourselves) and the man's part would have simply been met with another round of illogicality.

You people have made family section so unfriendly that there is no talking to you know-it-alls. Quite frankly it is disgusting . You take anything issued at the female folk as an attack on your personal selves and honestly I can't fathom why. You take any issue/problem a man brings up as an opportunity to attack him even when he claims culpability and is simply looking for a solution. It is appalling.

And yet you call your cause noble and look for people to recruit ....whatever that cause is.

I am tired of explaining posts to you group of girls. I can honestly say I see no maturity in any of you(once again you know yourselves). I only hope people with more objective minds read and get the message from the post. Thank God its a free forum.

Feel free to insult and revel in response to this post as much as you like...i know its therapy for some of you. It is just unfortunate that many others find it difficult to stoop down to your level. But don't worry, I'm sure you will attract and retain the kind that will, especially on this section.


Over and out.

You better direct your rants to the appropriate channel

I stated my opinions on the subject matter and when the second/husband's version came, I did same

Very funny you are playing the victim doing the same things; you lot, you This, you that.

Can you quote my posts on THIS thread that was an attack or a rant? Did you take time to read my posts on This thread or you just saw bukatyne and went into e-heartattack?

This is a new year please, respect yourself. This is a plea.

If you and others have problems with a group of posters or a particular one, quote the concerned and address your posts to them. You lot, you group etc. disgusts me a lot.

It seems some poster's know others who will avoid fights and them quote them to rant and refer to the ones they have problem with.

This is a new year and I will not tolerate such. I will avoid e -fights but if any yeye poster quotes me as a message to others, it MIGHT not be funny.

badoolee:
NOTED

Go and sin no more

Happy prosperous 2015

badoolee:
My dreamm
To elp my man actualize iz dream
Its really a gud thing wen we say storiesm of aw we strtd from d root nd aw I stood by him





Buh den,I have to see dzeal in him and how determined nd hardurkin he iz

Start by writing in full/English

What is dzeal; to elp; aw we strtd

Hardurkin What is the difference between the former and hardworking? What is the extra effort required to write well?

@OP:

Nice one

iykedare:
Good to know. You will definitely be his last.


@Op

I feel you should make yourself the guy every lady love to be with . We all know that the ladies in this part of the World are rude but you just have to overlook all that.


I'm so much in love with the puxccy so I Sometimes take the crap too. You should realise that there is always a time for you to return the insult after getting What you want.



SO everyone knows that Sophyrocks hate men.

Thanks, Amen

FrankDude:
Well said. Thanks for the advice.

You are welcome.

All the best

Beautiful pictures

Most pictures are not Ankara anyways

damiso:
Same to you ..may it be a fruitful productive and healthy one for us all by His Grace

Amen

This is beautiful

ATOB:
Argue? Yes. When you said there are not marriageable guys too.
You talk as though that it is girls that chooses guys for marriage in reality.

I said ladies say...

Why would I say when I am married?

My point: Both sexes should work on themselves. Besides people get married every Saturday.

ATOB:
Okay I dont want to argue.
I trust you are well anyway and HNY.

Argue?

Same to you

ATOB:
Hmmm there is still some part of him that likes her right?
How is marriage life going anyway?
All the best.

I dey fear. Most girls nowadays are unmarriageable.

Who is the her?

Marriage is wonderful. You design it to be whatever you What it to be.

Strangely ladies say there are no marriageable guys also.

ATOB:
Hope you haven't experienced the bolded.

No

I was my husband's first love and will be the last Amen

chisco82:
Help me ask her o!

Lol!

She is probably the goddess of fertility; was it not after marrying her the wife got pregnant?

dorlapoh20:
Reasons are best known to her,from what i read i think she felt sorry for the man.
Even if those u metioned were her reasons which i really doubt no man has the right to lie, use and dump a lady. The lady was used as an open door to their child bearing. The man should have been truthful to her in the first place.
And do you know what? she would agree if what she wants is money.

When did she become God solving the problems of infertile couples?

The man is 100% wrong .

ATOB:
I feel you.
There is usually a thin line between love and hate.
I believe some of the rejections you got and some heartbreaks is what makes you feel this way.

I am beginning to dislike girls too and also thinking they dont deserve the committment and attention most guys give them nowadays. In fact I feel as though saying you are not dating a girl anymore after a while shouldnt be a big deal if it doesnt work out because afterall they do too.

The different thing between us is that I dont hate them and I dont resent them because there are good ones and sweet ones out there.

I just hope you find yours.
My only concern with girls is this, they get that guy who sincerely loves them at one point in their lives but they egoistically let him go.

@bold:

100% agree

Sophyrocks:
Yea. he just got divorced. I even heard there was someone new.

He can teach them to his new wife

Happy new year

damiso:
Seconded..

Happy new year

Harrychocoberry:
"MY ENEMIES ARE AT WORK

May you see your enemies in your rear-view and never with your head-lights.

May your enemies be forever in your boot, but never in your bonnet? Don’t say amen here o. Some Ferraris and Lambos have their engines in the trunk instead

Happy new year

This is a Well thought piece.

Denying the existence of enemies has the same results as attributing everything to them.

Whether we like it or not, metaphysical powers exist and the possessors use it as they deem fit.

This is not an African affair; Harry Potter is dedicated to witchcraft; some American season films also feature the supernatural (legend of the seeker,Game of Thrones, Merlin)etc.

There are enemies who are capable of doing different things; there is also the place of laziness on our part.

We should encourage people to be prayerful and play their own part. Enemy or not, if we take the first step, we are on our way to victory

@masks: your friend muSt be a JJC if he doesn't know that several spirits are invoked to those masks.

Onegai:
There's a Part 2 to the story:

4 BIG MISTAKES I MADE WITH MY WIFE

At this point even bothering to call myself a husband anymore is just a sham.

If you're looking to learn from some other guy's mistakes when it comes to torpedoing your marriage with stupid oversights and selfish dumb-ass-ness, well, you’ve just waltzed in to the right place, partner. I've got the goods, the knowledge, and the juiciest steaks this side of Texas, so listen up. (And in case you think you don't need what I'm serving—trust me, you do.)

Chuckle if you want, but take it from moi: even if you think you're happily married, you're probably a whole lot closer to schlepping your six or seven boxes of comic books and old football trophies up to your new crib than you can even imagine.


Here are the 4 ways I screwed up my marriage:

1. I got fat

Okay, by "I got fat," I don't necessarily mean that I got fat-fat. I mean, I did get fat as a married guy in the sense that I added a few LBs, but I also got mentally lazy in my marriage. I got way too comfortable and I took everything for granted (just like a lot of married people do). And just like you're doing right now, probably. Marriage seemed pretty easy to me right from the get-go. I thought that my wife, Monica, and I got married because we were perfect together and that was that, and I was 99 percent sure that I could just be me and do whatever the hell I wanted to do (within civilized reason) and we'd be just fine. But I was wrong. I was so, so wrong. She made mistakes too, but I failed to address so many things, so many little things. 'Hey, how was work today?' or 'Yo, do you want me to rub your feet while we watch TV?' I didn't think of my marriage or my wife in the way that I was constantly thinking about, say, my job or how much money I had in my wallet or what I was going to have for lunch. I barely gave the marriage much thought at all. I was on auto-pilot, and that was a monumental mistake on my part. So start paying attention to your marriage the way you pay attention to stupid crap like the NFL or what music you’re downloading into your new iPhone. If you don’t, you're doomed. That's a promise.

2. Sex was all about me

I was just about one of the worst lovers of all time. You might feel a little bit smug hearing me say that, and that's cool. I live my life close to the honesty bone now and I'm a better man because of it. I'd be willing to wager a cold six-pack that you have no idea how badly you actually suck in the bedroom. You're probably saying, "But Serge, I'm pretty happy with the way things are going. I still have sex pretty regularly and that's more than most of the guys at work can say, huh?" I get it, bud. I thought the same thing. I'm 42 and I'm pretty fit and I can still have sex and dig it like the main-line narcotic of Biblical proportions that it is. But I must confess: the sex in my marriage was almost always about me. Not intentionally, mind you. I wasn't some sweaty drunk college linebacker trying to date-rape my wife. But year after year, even though she was fairly articulate and open about trying to tell me things that "worked" for her, or "didn't work", I never got it — because I was never really listening. In fact, sometimes I intepreted her intimate act of honest trust and confidence as her telling me I was doing it wrong. I loved having sex with a hot woman and that was it for me. But be forewarned, you Hot meatheads: These days, I have sex with no one.

3. I didn't help pay the bills

Look, I don't care how much your wife loves handling the finances, or how good at it she is, you should have a role in helping connect financial dots beyond just having a job. Don't get me wrong, I made money. I was never, ever happily unemployed. I made as much money as I could at every job I ever had. But I let her handle the family finances, and no matter how much more responsible and skilled my wife was at it, that was a huge mistake in retrospect. Most women want and deserve to feel cared for, no matter how independent and strong-minded they are. They want to feel that kind of security that can only ever come with knowing that her partner is both aware and proactive when it comes to sustaining a life together. And part of that is the actual act of paying the bills, making investments, and knowing what you’re spending at the grocery store. So deal with it and play your part.

4. I said things I can never take back

Nothing, and I mean nothing, can ever erase the things you say to another human being. You can try for years to wipe certain slates clean, but take it from me, when it comes to hurtful words (even words mostly spat out in the heat of some argument or insults you didn’t mean at all) you will regret them for the rest of your life. I know because I've spit venom. Many times. It was my main line of defense when my wife and I battled over this little thing or that. I didn't realize at the time how immature and stupid it was to deal with adversarial situations by throwing up castle walls of protection just so I wouldn't be hurt by someone else's accusations or attempts at grown-up discussions. Hopefully, this nugget of advice doesn't apply to you. Hopefully, you are the soul of calm/cool/and collected and you never, ever say mean or nasty things when you argue with your significant other. Seriously, I hope you're one of those guys. Because then you have nothing to worry about when it comes to the #1 absolute worst mistake I ever made in my marriage. But if you DO have that certain chip in you that sometimes kicks in when you're overwhelmed or hurt or outmatched or drunk, get help, however you can. I found a way to control my emotions and the things I say to the people I love. It certainly wasn't easy, but by being mindful every second of every day since my marriage ended, I've finally come to a place as a man where I wish I arrived long ago. Think before you speak. Really THINK before you speak. Breathe. Bite your lip until it bleeds. Walk the f*ck away. Just don't say things that hurt, okay? Because you'll never undo the hurt, my man. Yeah, I know, I know: you think you're so tough. You think you'd actually dig having ESPN blaring all the time in that little one-bedroom apartment where you'll end up when the marriage falls apart.

You think you will be just fine, microwaving your own dinners, the newly-single dude, free as a bird, dining alone on his new (used) futon couch.

But buddy, you have no idea.


http://www.yourtango.com/2014226873/mistakes-husband-ex-husband#.VKVibXtyWRg

OP didn't dig out This part or didn't know it existed.

Couldn't the wife also tell Hubby what she wanted? Nobody is a mind reader.

That said, now they know their shortcomings, can't they adjust and make up?

They are now armed with the attitude that will make their marriage work.