₦airaland Forum

An0nimus:
Indian movies can be very nice with deep lessons bar the singing and dancing. The only ones I've seen in a long while is 3 Idiots and Slumdog Millionaire.

I'm OK with Hollywood. someone should please tell me they've seen The Equalizer

bellong:
Left to me, I prefer hair cut. It looks super cute on some women.

Braiding and weaving ain't bad too..

bennyrazz:
why are you hiding? are you scared or what??

byvan:
I think is more like dream killer + no dream = . Most women these days want something doing....i guess.

bennyrazz:
if it was not that @bolded , why did you include "feminism" as part of the topic? is it to drive traffic to your thread or what? you shouldn't have also mentioned "feminists" in your post it would have made a whole lot of sense. We know most of the people claiming to be feminist on here just feel like expressing themselves in a way they feel they can't express themselves in the real world because they are cowards that teach what they don't practice and I see no reason why you should advocate for their silly unrealistic agendas.

bellong:
Dynamism is the hallmark of a wonderful home. What matters is agreement and consent of parties involved.



Tufiakwa... I still support synthetic hairs/attachments but not human hairs. Who knows the kind of terrible curse on the original head..

byvan:
She probably might not be frustrated, some had no dreams.

Nonso23:
That is where we get it wrong. There were strong women as individuals and groups too. The O.p explained how it was in Igbo land. I might not be privy to in-depth information on how the Hausa women collectively held their own but i know the yorubas had trade unions that were very vocal.
The Europeans during colonization divided and conquered our traditional system. We were on the right path and doing just fine before they butted in and displaced everything with their own ideologies. Today their system is 'fine' for them and they are trying again to butt into the already disintegrated African traditional system. Polar bears can not thrive in the sahara.
Africa needs to re-invent herself from the inside with little or no external inputs.

Our traditional religious system was not terrible . Today it is just abused.

lilmax:
i have problem with hypocrisy, and btw what rights are you guys fighting for in Nigeria? Don't you guys have the same jobs Based on certificates?

byvan:
She doesn't but the dude obviously knows she is very pliable, she is serving the house 'wifeship' like a jail term and the fact that he refused her having a little business, even if she has to get a manager for it and still stay home is what I don't get. I completely took my hands off her matter and just say " nah so now " when ever she starts telling me stories that touch .

Nonso23:
Contrary to the generally believed opinion that women were non-participatory members of the community, they were an integral portion of the society of old. No suggestions were passed as laws in the land until every section of the community agreed upon it.
The origin of the christian mothers association today lies with the interest group the women formed in the olden days to voice out their displeasure, opinions and suggestions to the community.

Our society did not bully nor intimidate women. Those records are western just the way the Europeans sold to us the lies that our traditional religion was of the devil but that is a story for another day.

bellong:
You have been called several names? I called you a Pseudo-Feminist because I read a thread you created for and about feminists... The name is from you.

Have you seen a documentary on how Indian hairs are donated to temples before being sold by the priests?

Chillis:
I learnt the hard way .
I'm very straight forward . I tell you the first time, you take another route, I leave you to it.

You can't help someone that doesn't wanna be helped

bellong:
Can't forget a pseudo-feminist You will help educate women on how they can contribute meaningfully to development and growth without peruvian hairs...

Nonso23:
Very interesting! Though i'm aware of most of the stuffs contained in the o.p and subsequent related posts i'm surprised at one thing.

Africans or more specifically the Nigerian ethnic groups were a lot more ahead of their western counterparts in gender relations and equity until the Europeans thought the system was not 'right' and eventually succeeded in crushing that balance as we knew it with their power as colonialists leaving us for the worse.
Today though they do not colonize our lands, our thoughts and perception of everything is not only colonized by them but also ruled by their subtle messages covered in all kinds of alluring packages. We gradually are being left again for the worse.

Africa never marginalized the female gender. Certain practices may appear absurd today but they were agreed upon by all parties before they were carried out in the olden days. The men did not invent killing of twins. The community of old did. The men did not invent the ridiculous rites a widow must undergo after the death of her husband, the primitive society did, the men did not invent the laws that a woman should not own lands the primitive society did and that primitive society was made up of men, women and their children. Nobody should be blamed for anything. If ever we are going to develop in any way then our indigenous cultures should be modified to suit the current times. Nothing is more embarrassing than a people without a history. The Chinese did it and are currently the strongest economy in the world. They should be our role models.

Our culture is very rich and i agree that we have some very dark patches in it but we also have a lot of good aspects and funny, ridiculous components too. To neglect these areas and focus on blaming the men for where we are today will portray the current flock of women as weak and cowardly. That is not what the women of old were. They stood up for what they wanted worked for it and earned their respect. They knew what 'responsibility' meant. No sane man will dare to disrespect such a woman. Our grandmothers were not obnoxious, hateful, denigrating nor self-centred - the 'virtues' our women today embrace with dexterity (at least on the internet). Today, women have equal rights to education. Certain areas in Nigeria have the quota system in place to correct any cultural marginalization. Women are equipped to also contribute to Africa's development as they once did but unfortunately the most vocal ones would rather argue that women should smoke because a lot of men doing so or how women should go topless because the men can. Very absurd.

Our mothers were dedicated to their homes and prided themselves on the success of their family. They were respectful to their husbands and never hinged their loyalty on his earning power. Today all that is almost fantasy. If the women will only realise that that wife beater, that 419, that rapiist, that armed robber, that loafer, that cheat, that murderer was trained by both a woman and her man and that the currently terrible society we live in has as much input from the woman as the man can we can talk about moving forward. Till then we will still buy into the same unsuitable western ideologies damaging both the west and their homes; us and everything we stand for.


AFRICA NEEDS EDUCATION!

bellong:
I understand your position about not wanting to dent your integrity.

Yes, I will delve into politics when the time comes. Its high time we taught Nigerians what good governance, rule of law and transparency are.

aisha2:
Like the other poster wrote it was the women in her community who stood up against this practice and got it abolished. It wont scrap itself, we women loose most from it so we should be the ones who should stand up and say we want it scrapped if we do.

byvan:
I know one that is going for a PHD but has no intention of working because her husband won't have a working wife, some are in dire situation and really can't figure a way out.

bellong:
Hmm... I have natural God given assets too. Which of the assets are you thinking, capital or liability?



Those few ones will always be around as long as the world exist. They are incurable medieval people that unfortunately came in the jet age.. We shouldn't subject discussions to the myopic thinking of those few people.

Meanwhile, Bukatyne when are you contesting for an elective position in Nigeria?

Chillis:
I don't do protest. I do my sh1t silently. You want those hungry looking niajirians to kidnap and butcher me .

Besides, most of them girls are comfortable with their 100naira 'recearch' cards they are getting.

They are comfortable the way they are. I only Help those who want to be helped.

All other mgbekes can stick to what they love best.
I wan enjoy my life abeg. I no be Jesus who sacrificed for the ones he loved. At least he knew he will rise again on the third day

Stillfire carry go.
Education is all. Most of them girls with all their education prefers sitting in the kitchen and giving births. Why did they even go to school at the first place

Stillfire:
Igbo women I hope you are hearing.

bellong:
Mind reading is a course I never passed . What is it that you think, tell me..

Stillfire:
Very true!

lilmax:
exactly

Stillfire:
As Kanwulia would say, those are ghetto feminists!

bellong:
This ship has sailed. Gone are those days when men insist their wives shouldn't be financially independent. The current economic situation in the country does not encourage the man to be the sole provider except for the stealing politicians and very few money bags.

Meanwhile, it is not being financially independent that should be the message you need preach to women but developing themselves. Adding values to the society, family and people around them, aside the heavenly assets most use to navigate their ways through deep waters.

Stillfire:
Very mental. A very damning mentality that is why you get a barrage of dependent girls in the society today asking for money for hair, icecream and a host of other demeaning crap. There is absolutely no excuse for the African woman to reduce herself to such nonsense. This thread is to break such mentality.

bennyrazz:
if I get you correctly, the basis of this thread is to say women are or should be the head of the family? if this is your internet belief, why should I waste my time quoting you when I know reverse is the case in the real world. My only problem is most women on here don't practice what they preach. Their posts are geared towards misleading young innocent ladies out there.

Gamine:
Submit

Submit

Submit

If we could all just submit to each other

this world will be a lil bit better

not possible, but we can try

Pride is our problem