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snazzylove: Yeah you are right. But guys always got each others back, a woman would rather help in pulling you down while pretending to be a friend.
Most women are never happy when a fellow woman is presumed to be doing better than them.
I call it envy!

You feel that way because you are on the other side

I have seen countless threads where guys complain that fellow guys would rather help a lady than them. Some guys have even been called mugus etc.

Some guys feel the same way too

It irks me when women say women's wahala is too much

Kinda reflect on the kind of women speaking

moca: Buky take 5 for that comment

The mind is a very powerful tool indeed.

So on point.

Hope married life is treating u well?

Yelllowpawpaw,

Splendid

Thanks

pickabeau1: Why the statement you guys?
I feel it stereotypes both genders..

Staying for kids is not always a bad thing

guys here refer to men; husbands.

Well, I am not for what is popular

What is the use of a father if he teaches his kids that it is ok to cheat?

If a wife stays with a cheating husband, does she tell her kids notto follow daddy's footsteps or does she keep mute and watch jnr and princess do the same thing?

You know why girls will keep marrying cheats and abusers? Because they saw their fathers do it.

snazzylove: Imagine a woman being ur boss in the office.

Imagine going for an interview and discovers that the head of HR is a woman

Imagine waiting for the approval of some project and its a woman that has the final say

Imagine getting married and you need to get the approval of MIL-to-be

Imagine a woman as your landlady

Imagine so many other positions/events wia you have to encounter a woman. The experience most times is not pleasant at all.

I'd rather deal with a thousand bad guys than with one horrible woman.

Even on NL. Imagine the way they fight themselves. Faceless fight oo. If they meet one-on-one I wonder what will happen

Umumnwanyi!

Are you saying that if you are in any of these positions you will behave same way?

Don't guys/men engage in e-fights or is it a woman's thing?

@OP: Most of them are not in control of their lives and grasp at any seemingly chance to control whether real or imagined.

Some are just plain evil

Besides most women are not respected until they prove themselves

pickabeau1: I'm no prophet... Just an observer...


If all that can come out of a woman's mouth is all men r rãpists or bad or wicked...it gives u an insight in what she went through


I can go on n on

Bukatyne

Well most people talk from their Parents' marriages that is why I hate the staying for kids advice

I was discussing with someone some years ago and she insisted all men cheat and I naively asked if her father was cheating and she gave me this look

She ended up marrying a cheating husband

NL does not help you guys either

carefreewannabe: Nice comment. I agree.

Thanks

okotv: i want the best for carefreewannabe and crackhaus took the mighty challenge

Lol!

crackhaus: Haha..don't you ladies just love drama

You will be duly e-invited

Who does not like drama?

Expecting my e-invite

egopersonified: Sometimes, it boils down to the uncertainty of who dies first. What if the wife is next of kin and she dies before the husband or they die together? This is assuming the kids would have a longer life span than the parents. Where a child is made next of kin instead of his mother, at the man's death, the child would make sure he takes care of his mum and in a situation where the woman remarries, he is assured that his 'sweat' is not enjoyed or transferred to another man.

I thought the marriage vow was till death do us part?

Or does marriage continue in death?

Did the woman not work together with the man while he was alive?

Blockus: [b]LAWYERS in the house please correct me...


Last time I checked:: If your your child is under the age of 18, they cant inherit a single thing and in the absence of a Guardian, your estate MAY be taken over by the Government.

Now if the Mother is still alive, your estate wold be handed over to the Mother who is the legal guardian of the Minor to hold in trust for the child pending when they reach the legal age of 18.. (so last last, the woman still controls your property)..

If the Child is 18+ (meaning youhave been married to the same woman for 18 plus years) and you die and leave her with nothing to live out the rest of her life, rather subjecting a Mother to depending on stipends from her child to survive, then that Man is cursed even beyond the grave..

And what makes you think that the Woman would not marry someone wealthier than the man?!




I still maintain that if a Man does not pass on his estate to his wife or leave his wife a sizable portion of his estate for her to live off of, then that marriage should end whilst everyone is still alive so the woman can put her effort into a marriage where she counts.

The above suggestion makes the womans contributions in the marriage look trivial..





NOW!! What if the Woman has all the Money and properties, is it okay for her to leave them to her Kids and have her husband live off of the handouts from her kids?![/b]

Hmmm

This is really deep

pickabeau1: The video expresses the warped thinking some of our women have...they believe a man can't love them for who they are or guys are bad....n thus find themselves with the bad guys thus fulfilling the prophecy ...

You be prophet?

The mind is a very powerful tool; you can only achieve what your mind can conceive or dream

I really saw it manifest in my cousins' marriages

They got everything they wanted

Blockus: Any Man whose wife is not his next of Kin simply means:: Your Husband does not trust you with his fortunes.




Na those kind women go dey house, Husband brother go show, tell her to enter bedroom go position for bed wait am, whilst ehn take inventory of the properties wey ehn don inherit.

Including the one wey dey bed abi?

Nashville: Lol,

Ma'am, love is both with your heart and your head. Loving with your head is called "common sense love". Both and all are the same thing.

Nbanu, you have remixed it

It is the first one God hears

Not loff, common sense.

It is difficult to add common sense to love until you see sege

strangest: He looks gay... beside BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL

I don not know about gay look but black is certainly NOT the color of beauty

Arabs are arguably the most beautiful set of people in the world.

Blacks do not even come close

Blockus: ANy WOman who isnt her Husbands 'Next of Kin' has no business being married to that Man..





The Day the man dies, dont be shocked to see his next of Kin show up to claim ownership of everything. Even your child can take over everything and kick you to the curb.

You wan scatter many marriages be that

Nashville: Not love, its common sense. If I put my father's name as next of kin, he will be the one to tell me to change it. There are little children involved here and these should be the primary responsibility of the man and not his parents or brothers. Even if you are worried your wife will marry another man after you... so? Do you want that man training your own children or should you not at least provide enough for your own children. Life itself is a risk and putting your wife's name as next of kin is certainly a "risk" worth taking.

I am shocked

You don't loff your wife?

Kai! let me dig out her number...

Nashville: Which is exactly my point. Isnt that stupidity? Why bring in little children into the world and make them suffer. He now leaves everything he has for his aged father who probably has only ten years or so left to live. He should have thought of his children who still have their entire lives ahead of them rather than leaving everything for his father who frankly does not even need the money.

Most people are really not married

Nashville: I have my wife as my next of kin. I married her because I trust her and in case of any unexpected events, I know she is best able to take decisions in the interest of my children. And besides, my wife does not need my money to survive. She earns a living and can survive on her salary.

But if you think your wife wants to kill you, it's better you get a separation than live in fear. Why are people sooo scared of their spouses?

Loff wan tintin

How are you and madam law?

Okotv,

This your thread is working

See, Carefreewannabe and Crackhaus are really digging it

Please send us e-invite o!

Nashville: Not sure I agree with this comment o. In fact it may be the other way round. Most men would quickly divorce a jaguda wife and not die of heart attack or broken head!

They may divorce jaguda wife in the end BUT will maintain their space till they do so

Funny enough, most marriages I know broken do not have jaguda wives or those with jaduga wives just disappeared

Once you can tell a person he/she is wicked, then the person is not really wicked

carefreewannabe: The author generalises because he is "currently dealing with several of these great husbands".

1. How many are several?

2. Who says these husbands are great?

3. Has he talked to their ex-wives?

Useless article.

Another thing is that a good man is not necessarily a good husband

There is a difference between doing what I think you like and doing what you like

But in the end, a great wife will still appreciate a great husband

So men, find a great wife

Nashville: This simply means work out your own "salvation" with fear and trembling. No two marriages are alike and marriage is not a one size fits all. Couple need to know what works for them and not what Nairalanders want for them!

Gbam!

But I must say that most Nigerian women do not like 'soft' men as it were. And it is basically a Nigerian thing. We tend to respect people we know can 'deal' with us than people who respect us. A man will most likely cheat on a docile wife openly than a jaguda he knows will break his head with bottle.

@OP: Human wants are insatiable. The women coming back shows they do not know what they wanted. They can try Nairaland men if there is scarcity of traditional men.

okotv: you are welcome


as for the flattered part...easy abeg before oga chase me with pestle

More like a gun and prayers

5minsmadness: You don't know ladies.
Many of them are just making mouth.
Nobody, not even an oyibo woman wants to be a single mother.
It usually happens by mistake then they defend it so they dont feel bad about themselves.


I remember one monicker that opened a thread on Nairaland a few months ago.
She was arguing vehemently how she would prefer to be a single mother and raise her kids by herself.
Others came and formed 'supporters club' for her.
Imagine their shock when she unconsciously announced in response to another thread that 'her hubby can't treat her that way'!
People started asking 'ah, so you are married?''why that other thread na'?
Her response was she was just catching her fun.
Meanwhile some people don carry her matta for head.
j

So leave them.
I repeat: No sane or emotionally balanced woman deliberately wants to raise a child on her own. Its just circumstances that make it so.

This is a bit of generalization

Some people (men & women) are not kin on marriage but want to have their own biological kids.

It may not be a norm but there are some people serious about it and will delibrately seek it.

SMALLPENIS: see who wan marry., I checked her profile and from some of her topics Ehn, you no be wife material.
sister, that man don get new babe, but you know the funniest thing??
.

I thought they slept together or you mean he gave her oral intimacy?

Are you the guy in question?

Happy Birthday and many of God's blessings.

okotv: the mention was about intelligent posters i have met on nairaland in my small stay here.

Ok

Thank you

I am flattered

okotv: keeping your self pure and controls your thought process and emotions.....self control is the word here.

LOL!

Marriage sets no boundaries. Individuals do.

There is no magic in the marriage vows that automatically makes an irresponsible person responsible or a cheat faithful.

P.S.: I saw your mention in your dairy. I did not comment because I do not think it is allowed. Don't know what is about however thank you

The woman should be tried for attempted murder

@OP:

Is your hubby a Christian?

Em you are asking if it is wrong for your husband to have extra matrial affairs and dupe a lady howbeit a foolish & greedy one? Deep down, you know the answer

Why are you not working since hubby is using that to box you to a corner? Any kids yet?

ogawisdom: I hope they pay their teachers in dollars too

They rarely pay their teachers well

I heard Greenspring's teachers are treated as contract staff whose contract is renewed yearly.

I applied to Atlantic Hall at Epe about 2yrs ago and I heard they start with 40k - 50k per month for a graduate

But then, it is hearsay

laudate: Women are their own worst enemies.

Some married women act as if 'marriage' is a trophy and a passport to paradise. Yet, if the truth is told, their marriages are probably nothing to write home about, and they are just trying to console themselves by acting as if it is the best thing to happen to them.

Some single women act as if they are incomplete, without a man by their side. They act as if marriage is a destination they must arrive at, irrespective of the stress, strain and headache they encounter during that journey called 'courtship.'

I weak oh!

Lol!

You are very right