₦airaland Forum

coogar: why ain't i surprised?

myads890: We are in an African setting.

A marriage is not a place to start flaunting ego.

Don't worry, you'll understand better when you grow up and start dating

crackhaus: 8 out of 10 times, the man does. 1 out of 10 times, the woman does...and 1 out of 10 times, no one does (it just happens).

udemzyudex: None ..no worst response

I don't expect any reply from her..i always have that mindset,whatever she says won't affect me whether good or bad.

Whenever you don't expect a reply from her,you won't be sad if you recieve a silly reply.

Victoriousvic: I heard this in a bus this week. Actually, it was a phone call, and the girl sat beside me.

Guy: I love and miss you. I've been thinking about you all day, that's why I called. Do you feel the same?

Girl: I'm not good at lying, so I'll just say it straight. I don't think about you, and I don't feel the same.

crackhaus: This is a politically correct statement...kudos!

But the question is...between a husband and his wife, who should first give respect to the other before 'mutuality' comes into play?

Ngokafor: ...My dear why bother yourself?...
..you should not take some of the things single guys here say seriously you know..they sure do not know jack about marriage so excuse their childish ignorance.

...check the first poster who is a married man and compare what he posted with that of singles..the difference is clear.

sage2: My name is Sage. Not sage2. I don't know where Seun and his admin. Team got that postfix 2 from.

When you have a security breach, you advice or mandate users to change their credentials. You don't take it upon yourself to change their carefully curated usernames.

Back to topic.

In as much as I won't promise any girl relationship of marriage just to have sex with her, you really don't expect me to look the girl in the face and tell her that I just wanna have sex with her just once and then walk away, do you?

cococandy: Not in this case my sister.
You'll cringe if you hear the full story.

Seeing the man now having lost so much weight,I feel so sorry for him.
He trained this girl in nursing school too.
they married while she was in school.
She met him through the man's former girlfriend who was her friend.
Managed to snatch the guy from her friend.

Married him and he sent her to nursing school.

Trained her until she finished got a job while he was still doing his business.

They would have done well if she loved him.
But things fell apart when she came up with the 'brilliant' idea of them relocating abroad since nurses make good money over there.

No one saw this coming.

soulglo: She uses both names as a compound name. It's not as if she has refused to use his name. She uses it along with her dad's and her reason makes sense. If you have built a career on a name then it is totally understandable that she would add her husbands name to the name she is known as professionally. It does not change a thing about their marital status

MaxWellStores: The wife's job specifications are clearly spelt out in proverbs 31:10-31. Should probably use an Amplified Version Translation or MSG's.

But, in a case where the man comes in to find the above discribed senario, love demands he be the higher vessel by mopping up the mess, and counsel the kids. Then, talk to his wife, squarely!

Trust me, we wouldn't be LOL-ing if that paint was highly inflammable or corrosive, now would we?

Husbands and wives should clearly understand their God assigned roles, and be bold and devoted to them!

Husbands and wives are partners in the Union, BUT, the husband is the HEAD of that Union! They was never a time they both, and should share equal authority!!!

If many fathers were BOLD enough to counsel their daughters on this very foundamental Biblical truth, many would be successful in their marriages.

Wives, or would be wives; if you are of the class that believes in 'gender equality', then, be prepared for gender treatment! Because, a man naturally is at war with one who is at the same level with him! Even lions war against themselves over territory.

God word says.."Wives be SUBJECT to your husbands..." That words sounds simple, but it carries a lot of decision-making on the part of the woman. Ladies, if you are not ready to be under a man's authority, PLEASE, don ever get married!!! Else, you're signning up for a life of unhappiness and divorce.

Be subject! If you're born again, you don't need to struggle to BE it! It has been imputted in your spirit man. When God says be subject, He knows you have the ability.

He also says.."Men, love your wives as Christ loved the Church.." Meaning, it should be unconditional!

God is a wise God! He knew why He COMMANDED the wives first, before the men. Men are naturally wired to love! It is in their nature! If God says to love, He knows they can!

Wives, do your part, and husbands, do yours too!
Stop being an "Eve!" God is not an Author of confusion!
It was Adam and Eve, and not Eve and Adam!

You are his help meet, not supervisor or mother or elder sister!

Have a productive day, y'll!

pickabeau1: What reason do you think can justify the action of the woman above?


I agree with your comment on channelling his strength to his kids

Do you think God strikes fast.. i think He is extremely merciful

Nashville: Lol,

Thanks and ammended

Tantidora: My sister friend is not aware she is married.
This a person who most of her friends are not aware she is married..........
My sister has a thing for her friends elder bother ( a widower).

Nashville: Your sister is more than wrong. Soooo many wrongs.

Giving out her car, calling her husband a car and hiding the fact that she is married in the hope she can still get something on with her friend's brother. The wrongs are too much. Not even sure why she is married sef. May be she is not proud of her husband or he does not fit her social status. Why would you marry and be hiding it.

Having said that, slapping her does not solve any problem.

truthbastille: I totally disagree with your write up. Job opportunities in the private and public sector has been reduced drastically because of Nepotism. Very few employers look beyond family, tribe, business associations, recess clubs, church etc and base thier criteria strictly on merit and performance

Because your aunt didn't help doesn't diminish the truth abt the rot in the system. Don't get me wrong, very few positions are available on merit but the mediocrity, retrogression especially in the public sector is a direct result of man know man employment.

Smartsyn: hmmmm, I'll just go inside and sleep, the mother should go and do her job.

apolonius: I just skilled through some of your topics and thread contributions. And I am moved to do business with you from a christian perspective.

I like Myles Munroe a lot and his magna opus on christian marriage,for me,remains the foremost classic text that answers this question after the Bible.I am talking of The Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage. I will urge you to buy and read this masterclass. I can buy one from here for you!

You will see his analysis of the Garden of Eden marriage and the principles underlying it. By the way,this marriage was a marriage in Judaism as Christianity started with Christ millenia after this.

Now,Myles articulated marriage as a fellowship of love with God whom both couple owe fidelity to and are faithful to each other because of this. His concept of love is tied to our purpose on earth which is fellowship with God. Yet he acknowledges that our NATURAL NEEDS and how they are met sustains this commitment to each other that flows from a commitment to God.

For him,what keeps marriage is meeting our needs and staying fully faithful to marriage as a covenant of love entered not for the couple's sake but for God.

NB:I am a catholic!

Oya,bye!

fellis: Beyonce is a hypocrite!!!! Did you even watch that goddamn elevator video at all?

Rihanna = Queen for Ages, Beyonskank = two faced hypocrite

Read this link and be enlightened sugar pumpum
https://uk.news.yahoo.com/beyonce-jay-z-divorce-halo-singer-cheating-rapper-110544752.html

apolonius: Well,yes,if that concept of love has Christ at its core.

Amhappy: If she is having problems with people IDing her eg if she have important contract or projects still running,she should explain to her husband and keep the maiden name for sometime before finally changing it. This will help her counterparts to get used to her new name and make necessary changes. Though i have done change of name legally i still kept my maiden name on few things till they finally runs out to avoid the protocol of change and this was based on my husband advice.

apolonius: I am a Christian, yet I know that we are slaves of human nature in reality than christian ideals. For example,the Bible is clear on fornication,how many of us are virgins even as singles? What of adultery as lustful sight?

By the way everyone on Nairaland are not Christians. Do we now quote St Paul's letters to define love and marriage to everyone?Marriage is dictated by love but sustained by more. Go figure dear.

andromida: I see Anger and I don't give a damn!

damiso: True sha you have a point...the bias and prejudice is amplified due to anonymity. Thats Life sha if only..

Even the Good book says the heart of man is desperately wicked so I guess Hate will always be in the world.