₦airaland Forum

Ada Nri1: I can never leave that house for my friend to take over. If I do, that will be falling perfectly into her plan. I'll hate that man forever but I'll make sure that girl never moves in.

GboyegaD: Is that a good reason to move out of her matrimonial home? The deed is done already and I would have loved it if she can just take her calm, win back her husband, allow her friend have the baby and then run a paternity test to confirm if it is for her husband. If yes, all she has to do is to ensure the husband pays for the baby's upkeep because it isn't the end of the world.

Elevation: Actually what the OP is trying to say is that the girl should be submissive i second to that,some proud young ladies would think its foolishness dont worry by the time ur husband starts keeping late nights n ur home is at the verge of collapsing that is when u start attending marriage and family seminars,i wonder how some ladies think,those words he used,he is just trying to explain the virtue in a virtuous and respectful lady,it amazes me wen Gals on Nairaland think he is promoting stupidity,its high time Nigerian Ladies start learning some good marriage culture if not the current scenario of broken homes would only aggravate.

akinreals: My dear, what can i do, when my ever beautiful and lovely wedded wife, my handsome son and my adorable daughter with her two teeth is all i av got, why won't i make d best out of dem? I love them soo much, may God Almighty keep them for me.

akinreals: I always go home after work, i always drive like 2hrs to get home because of lagos traffic, d fact is dat my wife is my best friend and i always look forward to jisting with her and ofcourse, her delicious meals is another weak point for me anyday, anytime. Home sweet home.

kedukc: it's called 'keeping it real', prude.

Uwakuwak: if you don,t accept my post, u respect my person. Inugo!

cdamsel: dress up & go 2 d market & ask pple hw u look na?"ask pple around u",who u know 4 here?mtchewwwww

Ninilowo: Yes! We gat to condemn it cos its not [B]African[/B]

meyri: \

Then don't have kids. I don't see how people can immediately start having kids soon after marriage. Children should be planned. It should be marriage...years...then kids.

meyri: U don't automatically love a person then date that person..... I avoid dating while in school, if my intention of dating is to eventually marry someone why get into a relationship if you cant see that person as a marriage mate or marriage in the near future. Time wasting

meyri: You should be matured doesn't mean you will be mature...finishing school, getting a job, and being independent are big responsibilities u must have a level of maturity to be successful in these areas. An 18 year can be "mature" but is inexperienced, and is bound to change. I dont see how you can be in relationship and be considered single. Unless dating is considered hanging out w/ friends

myeri: I don't agree with either long or short courtships. Now whether that turn into a marriage or a happy marriage depends on the two individuals it not a time factor. That notwithstanding, within a short amount of time you should easily be able to decide whether or not a person is right for you. Your relationships continue to grow and you continue to fall in love while married. So I don't see why courting should take years.

Any relationship is bound to fail it a given. It depends on the persons involve.

Slimzy baby: who is dis !diot? are u dat stup!d or u just lack common sense? anyway i can see u are a frustrated pu.s.sy.ur type no go even get boyfrnd sef! see as u resemble wiiiinch

bukatyne: I don't appreciate when senseless people quote my posts without understanding the subject matter.

Uwakuwak: my boss is asking me out, i will rather quit the job than consent to that, meanwhile she has started dating him.

Slimzy baby: Sharrrap dia,na ur type dem dey talk abt 4 dis thread...ugly thieves

fellis: Na wa. I wanted to tell her the same thing before but I decided to keep quiet so it doesn't look like I am taking the thread too seriously.

tearie: The way guys keep saying (proudly o) disgusting, shameful, and embarrassing intimate things about ladies, I don't know why ladies won't just take a cue and zip up and stay away from such men till they get married. We just keep giving them bullets to fire us with. Too bad

lynpetra: I use to be slim...just that Pple where complaining that I was too skinny!!!Now am fat and I don't care :-Xna lie o.She dey on diet pills

OkparaIgbo: [b]Bitter ke? Unto what levels na.. There are so many of my African Sisters around to begin to even give a hoot about an efulefu like the OP..(No Pun intended). You should be asking why I am furious and I think I have answered the OP on that. I don't need to live with either of them to know of a functional marriage and unless my black sisters begin to emulate such humble characters in their marriages to Black men, then we will keep having situations like this.

My post didn't prove anything not already known of the OP.. Yes I am aware that she wants to marry a fellow "woman man" called a whiteman one who will go and cook on wednesday because the rota says so and one who will wash her pants too because she is at work or clean the toilet because she just finished mopping the floor and it is his turn to do so..

I laugh @ some African women who have become so conned like ships in this westernised, women liberated culture that the principles of our roots have become a waste. There is no disadvantages in marrying whomever and I have not or will not say any.. OP please feel free to marry whoever you so wish BUT DON'T YOU DARE INSULT ME OR MY BROTHERS AND PUT US BELOW the white man.

pmc01: Why are the catholic students not banned from wearing their rosary to school?
#Hypocrites!

meyri: Unfortunately many set themselves up for long courtship, like dating a person who still in school or while you are in school. You automatically enter in the waiting game approximately 4-7 years bc u or the person has to finish school, find a job, and set themselves up. Then pray that years from now that you or this person still like each other, not that either of you have done something wrong, but because people change. You not the same person at 25 that you were at 18. Uni days should be for forming friendships, connections, and finding out who you are.Finish school, find a job, and enjoy being single. Then dating/courting and marriage will fall in place. By then you should be mature, know what you want, and secure. You don't find yourself stuck in relationships because of uncertainties or insecurities,if need be you know how to find a exit. You know what you want in marriage mate and you go looking till u find him/her. Yeah it easier said then done, but it makes sense.

OkparaIgbo: [b]Some African ladies are fools and have nothing but pulse in their big head that they coat with fake hairs.. If I am to make a random guess on you OP, I will say that it is either your dad got divorced from your mum which is unfortunate and no fault of yours, or that you have been brainwashed by the white man and his media to believe gibberish. Who told you that black men don't help out their wives and don't contribute to the running of the house? You see here is the thing, as a black man myself, I wouldn't in any shape or form be selfish enough not to help out my wife and all in certain activites as long as 1. it is not on compulsion that I do it 2. My wife doesn't go as far as setting it out as a routine which we must split (As in she does it monday and I do it Tuesday etc) 3. She doesn't take my input and help for granted.
Yes I am a typical African man that loves his culture to the full and respect it too. (Why would the white man come and tell me to drop my culture and take up his own all in the stupid name of "westernisation or Women liberation" are you going to be worth more than some African women who have attained the apex of their career yet cherish and love their husbands like Ngozi Okonji Iweala, Mrs Obama etc. Infact OP please go and marry a white man so that we can eliminate you and people like you from the African race. Now I am not racist but I hate when people say they want to marry a white man and then go further on to insult the black man and speak rubbish.Watch this you ignorant mofo

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and marry who the f**k you want to and I assure you, you aint gonna be missed not even an inch..Mtcheew[/b]

2buff: This is interesting! .... Because a lot of my nigerian female friends have told me they can't marry white men because they are too polite and too nice.
Apparently they like stubbornness of black/Nigerian men who can command them just by looking at them or telling them to "Sit Down!" even if they don't want to.

Fellas just be yourself. Don't let the OP start making you "re-think" your ways. A woman will never admit to certain things (unless you are close friends), but at the end of the day, it is what their very souls respond to...whether they like it or not.

I hear a lot of married white men bitching and complaining about their "old bag" at home who disrespects them and doesn't treat them like the man of the home. You think the relationship didn't start off all lovey dovey? It is because in the process of the lovey dovey many years back, the man never asserted his dominance nor did he ever use his voice and natural authoritative standing, until it became too late.

The result, 5-10 years later, is then a wild woman who has little to no [size=18pt]natural [/size] respect for her HUSBAND because she grew too free and comfortable with hardly any boundaries placed on her. For a woman, respect must be on the instinct level, and not just superficial, for her to in-turn be a good wife.

2buff: This is interesting! .... Because a lot of my nigerian female friends have told me they can't marry white men because they are too polite and too nice.
Apparently they like stubbornness of black/Nigerian men who can command them just by looking at them or telling them to "Sit Down!" even if they don't want to.

Fellas just be yourself. Don't let the OP start making you "re-think" your ways. A woman will never admit to certain things (unless you are close friends), but at the end of the day, it is what their very souls respond to...whether they like it or not.

I hear a lot of married white men bitching and complaining about their "old bag" at home who disrespects them and doesn't treat them like the man of the home. You think the relationship didn't start off all lovey dovey? It is because in the process of the lovey dovey many years back, the man never asserted his dominance nor did he ever use his voice and natural authoritative standing, until it became too late.

The result, 5-10 years later, is then a wild woman who has little to no [size=18pt]natural [/size] respect for her HUSBAND because she grew too free and comfortable with hardly any boundaries placed on her. For a woman, respect must be on the instinct level, and not just superficial, for her to in-turn be a good wife.