₦airaland Forum

willyo: mute and watching this over matured ladies for marriage without husbands who think they've known much and trying to roger the culture of the white man which they know nuffin' about. "U" can't kneel for ur husband cos u dn't have one. buh u kneel and cry the whole nite out for ur teenage boyfriend. i just dey laff una. "pride cometh before fall'

I wonder why some people feel everyone should flow with their style. Has it ever occured to you that some men will never allow their wives to kneel for them?

warrior101: when you come off age you will understand... I rest my case.

That I have a different opinion doesn't mean I am not of age. I see my hubby as my other half, my friend, my lover and can't kneel for him. You believe your wife should kneel so where is the growing up coming from? Abeg o!

phabouluz: Now I see why many young ladies miss the track this days. Asking u to kneel for ur husband isn't humiliation but it shows respect, humulilty and good upbringing.

Anyways I dnt demand my lady 2 kneel for me but she's done that a few times though not in public but I know she can do that in public if the need arises but I'll not even allow her do that publicly.

My point is, if a lady admits she can't kneel for her man publicly then she's on the road to a big fall cos that's the height of pride.

Thank God it's your point.

tintingz: who else can send the wife packing... The wife can send the husband packing *chuckles*

ok a woman is the head of the house...You are the one that proposed to your man in marraige...took him to the alter...abi isnt that what you trying give out?

The topic is bout kneeling

Do you know what it means when God said a man is the head?

Justiyke4u: 1. Guys love to marry an Independent and Matured lady... So instead of sitting there and waiting to be bluffed by a guy, focus on getting a career that would take you out of the house wife category...

2. Never let the sweet talks of guys deceive you, most times they just want to go between your legs and run off thereafter.

3. Remove the mentality from your mind that guys will keep springing up to approach you. The older you get by the day, the less toasters you will have.

4. Playing 'too' hard to get is the worst thing you should ever start, remember, Nothing lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured single ladies looking up to GOD FOR A MIRACLE.

5. Never extort things from a guy you don't love, guys always have ways of paying a girl back, either through their FRIENDS or total 'PAID' STRANGERS....BE CAREFUL.

6. Never be deceived you can trap a guy through sex. A man will also return to his wife who sex starves him for years once he loves and trust her. You can never win a man over with your body.

7. If all you take to the relationship is the mind set to EXTRACT MONEY from him, don't complain if all he ask from you is your body. He has seen you have nothing else to offer...

8. Don't be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl, they will say that same thing to an80year old woman they want to get intimate with.

9. A guy always taking you to the SILVER-BIRD, FAST FOOD (pizza in or galitos), MALL AND EVENTS AT CONFERENCE CENTER /NATIONAL THEATRE is no sign that he loves you, if he doesn't care to ask and PLAN YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER then you are just his 'SOCIAL MATE' and nothing else....

10. If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house and do his laundry, then just know you are his "executive house help".

11. If he avoids meeting your family and close friends then it is an obvious sign he is just playing games with you.

12. Don't always change the tv station from NTV to CHANNEL O, MTV and Fashion TV. Take time to find out what is bothering him and how you can help out.

13. If the only places he doesn't frown when you enter are his bedroom and kitchen then know you aren't welcome (only being used).

Have you noticed that most of the ladies that end up being emotionally abused are the ones at the receiving end...Always with open arms, requesting for something and ready to receive...

The more you widen your arms, the more he widens your legs...

A grown up guy who gives the excuse about his parents being wild when he brings female visitors to the house is a sign that
HE HAS A SERIOUS GIRL AND HAS INTRODUCED HER TO HIS PARENTS ALREADY... ADVISE YOURSELF...
FINALLY, I ALWAYS SAY THIS AND WILL REPEAT IT AGAIN... It's better to be sitting in a taxi smiling happily than to be in your husband’s fresh air conditioned BMW x6 with bruised eyes wearing a fresh Gucci shades alongside a Burberry scarf....

JUST REMEMBER, THAT DATING A RICH MAN DOESN'T GUARANTEE HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE... MONEY IS
NOT EVERYTHING.....MAKING RIGHT CHOICES IN LIFE IS WHAT MATTERS MOST...

I really like this!

I really like this!

debby4: Lies upon liessss. This nairaland shud be closed down. There is nt even one truth in everything u guys said. She has a condition in her case note dat she's been battling with for years. U dnt all these and you are just writing lies. Secondly, d pregnancy was expelled from her because its becoming a threat to her. The fetus was removed because her condition culd no longer carry a baby. Why re u now saying she aborted and died because of d complicationsss.. U people must be judge by d spirit of d deceased... Stupid pple.

LOl! when did Nairaland become a company?

trolling: if u r conversant with your bible you should know that the men of Israel had been taken as captives to the land of the east by Nebuchadnezzer, more proof read the book of Esther you'll find out that our people dwelt among them, i'll say it one more time the God of Israel wouldnt call astrologers to make obeisance to His Son, the Star they saw doesnt have anything to do with astrology,if u r spiritual you'll understand why they were led by that Star....My God is not into astrology,He told us not to worship the host of the heavens and told us not to observe times,...case closed,u can rant all u want...wont waste my energy on u

Are you a muslim or Christian?

bjcole: see you, how can it a problem, is it not d role God handed to him so as to fullfill ur desires, if its possible to shift d pregnancy to us, na only men 4 dey carry belle, God take dat one pass una.

So God handed down a manual with who to do what in a home? Please just stop already. There are types of husbands and wives. Pick the one that suits you but God forbit I pick a husband that feels it is degrading to clean his own house and babysit his baby!

trolling: a humble wife will show respect to her Head by kneeling down before him,but i wont want her to kneel down in the public before me because some people wouldnt understand what it means,like some fools said in this topi "it means humiliating and molesting her", if i have a respectable wife,i dont need her kneeling down before me in the public to show me her respect,however if we were living in the era of our forefathers,kneeling down before me in the public wont be look down upon.For those proud women remember that Mary knelt down before Christ and wiped the dust of Yahshua's feet with her hair moreso in the nearest future seven women will kneel down before the men of Israel if they want to be in the Kingdom(Isaiah 4)

So you are comparing a mere man to Jesus Christ? Stop Sebe! And pls, don't quote the Bible when in doubt! Where did you read 7 women will beg an Isreali man b/4 they enter the kingdom? Once again, Pls STOP misquoting the Bible. Oshe

tintingz: no one says a wife is a slave to her husband...she just gat to show respect to her hubby

well since you and your wife are mate in the family she can send you packing then she is also the head of the house

So to you, the headship of a man means he can send his wife packing @ will! This is what happens when non - Christians tries to apply biblical principles without having the foundation. Of all the people ranting a man is the head etc, how many really have the fear of God? How many are really ready to show their wives unconditional love?

lalaosky: i don't know what's the fuss all about?...the OP didn't specify on which occassion a wife should kneel down before his husband...if it's in the wedding ceremony, it's okay by me but me allowing my wife to kneel before me in the public like the market place prolly cos we had a misunderstanding is too damn shamefull...at least spare her and yourself the embrassment and sort it out at home


my 2cent

That's what people have being saying........... It's not respect, It's the height of shame!

lumideezle: Its the same thing to me o. Kneeling/ postrating is a way of showing respect to some particular individuals (your husband inclusive ) in my culture so its what I would do if I were a woman 2 my husband.I won't even consuder it as derogatory @ all its the way I was brought up sha. Can't vouche for any other person. In as much as I do not go about looking 4 a woman 2 kneel 2 me, I expect my wife to do it if she thinks its what she should do at that particular time. Once had a GF who was earning X5 what I was back then and anytime I got angry @ her she wld kneel down to apologise. To be sincere that act alone melted my heart.

Anytime you got angry? so why is she now an ex?

warrior101: The bible said, "wife, respect your husband; husband love your wife"... I believe this was said in the new testament... You people are just trying to be witty about the whole thing, taking the piss out of the unwise and gullible people reading this... No one said it was a master and servant relationship, you are the one blowing it out of proportion... It is what it is. Our culture recognizes it and it stands for those who are cultured... The akatas can do otherwise

And when you read that Bible passage, does the marriage set up in our culture reflect this? You are the one trying to be witty.@The bolded, my question still stand: Are we Nigerians using a different Bible?

lumideezle: Gba yi jare Omo dada I love peeps that show off their culture.
As a proper yoruba man born and buttered, I would postrate to my mum, Dad, grand parents, no matter where I see them be it in America, london or ijebu ode. I don't see anything derogatory about it,em so I'm now a Big boy and icannot show respect anymore abi. Not me !

Quit comparing apples and oranges! can you compare kneeling for your dad/mom to kneeling for your husband? or your mom shouting at you in public to your wife shouting at you in public?

Niiade: dear, whateva type of marriage all i want is a blissful one with peace and happiness in my family. shikena so you dey fear those type of marriage lmao

I want to leave long on happiness and be the apple of my baby's eyes

bjcole: i guess he is busy doing domestic chores & baby siting, abi or is it not what u 21st generation ladies want, new generation dadies according to what my sister is preaching. More grease to ur elbow debrief & jidegirl, powerful women of purpose or what shd i call u, that is why to work under a woman, e get as e be. God help us.

so for a man to clean the house he stays and babysit his own babies is now a problem? Now we desperately need God's help.

greatgod2012: this thread affect men too, since they are also involved in both family and career, but d consensus here is that.......women sacrifice more to family while men concentrate more on career, leaving d women at d forefront of family, which makes employers of labour frown at women more on their field of career.

If couples cooperate, it will be easier for them both to build their home and careers.

Niiade: Lol this is a funny thread o, well if she decides to kneel there should be a reason for that. but i wont be demanding such from wife.



Did your grands operate this your master servant relationship lmao

Do you honestly pray for the type of marriage your grandparents had esp if you are a woman?

[quote author=maxwello.yg]this kind marriage wey 1 partner no go submit during a fight just to save d marriage. Nawa o![/quote]The husband has decided to be the submitting party by controling himself and keep his annoyance till they get home so what is your own again? You read the Bible and pick what suits you. A man that loves his wife will not want to humiliate her in public!

warrior101: In Nigerian, Your husband is your bo$5 and you are second in command. Kneeling is a sign of respect and it will gladden his mind to love you more... It doesn't mean that you are foolish but you know what you are doing. Any woman that is from a culture where this is practice and is here disclaiming it is suffering from a serious mental sickness... PERIOD.

Why in Nigeria? Are we reading a different Bible? And please, the husband wife relationship is not a master servant relationship.

dabrake: No doubt, some women can kneel in public for their hussies(forget all these keypad i-know-my-right people here). The question should be can you allow your woman kneel in public? For me, NO EXCEPT she humiliates me in public, then I CAN consider it.

I like that! Expect for ceremonial reasons, why should a man let his wife kneel for him in public? Thank God a man knows it's humiliating and debasing. Can a husband aslo postrate for his wife in public? Why can't we keep our dirty linen private?

goodmike7: The difference is WO

Please what is WO?

goodmike7: Are you now equating yourself to a man ni?

What is the difference btw a man and a woman?

goodmike7: With this your upgraded mentality. You will never get married. Isen

Na you dey in charge of giving husband for her village?

goodmike7: I like the way you talk politely hence I will answer you in like manner unlike those razz she goats,ehen back to it,it will not cost you anythin to do it in public and besides no man will demand I. Haba is your wife a primary skul pupil to ask her to kneel What I am saying is that,if you offend him in the public and he gets really mad,common sense will tell you to do whatever you can to calm him down with apology right there coupled with you bent knees if possible.

But for that goat that said she will wait until she gets home before apologising,I pray make she enter my house oooo

Don't worry, she won't open her eyes enter your house o!

There is no need for argument peeps! water seeks its level. Some women would crawl on the floor for their hubby; some men would never let their wife do that. so everyone should seek a spouse that suits him/her and not shove their beliefs down the throat of others!

[quote author=Adeniyi A.]whaaaaat!... Mynd?
share chores? who shares n for who?
the husband can only help when it's absolutely necessary and the wife should see such as a favour not as an obligation.[/quote]Is d hubby handicapped? Or does d wife only contribute when she feels like? There are some nice points in d OP but some re . Pray that you find a girl that suits you and stop generalizing. Oya be nice and tell mom why single men are not getting married?