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emmaodet:
Nice write up bro.

Also, I think the issue of bill sharing at home is making many men compromise a lot. Unfortunately, it is very hard to run a family alone without wife support in this present generation.

May God help us all

1. You are correct.

Running a family is not easy, especially in this age where the Gini coefficient is high as a result of hyperinflation and taxes.

2. That's why as a man you must choose a woman whose ambition streamlines with yours because in doing so both of you end up pursuing a common goal. There is always great value exchange.
However, men don't care about this if they can provide for the family wholeheartedly, the only challenge is an unstable economy.

3. Once you have started experiencing that financial boom as a man, it is good you set up a business that your wife can fit in. She can start helping you to build part of the family from there rather than you bearing the risk and burden alone. You are the manager, she's the supervisor.

4. Once you begin to share bills with your wife, your authority becomes featherweight. Better to leave her as a full-time housewife and call the shot when you wish than share bills.

5. Independent women have no use for men, once they got the money, they don't regard men, except the men richer than them.

Marrying at your level + sharing bills = marital chaos. You marry a woman that depends on you, not like a dúmbass or a parasite, but an attachment that looks like a catalyst that stimulates your growth.

6. Marriage isn't about equality, nothing itself is equal. It's a leader-follower relationship, men lead, and women follow. And the one who needs the other the least has the most power in the relationship. And if you provide solely, you've all the power to pull the strings at will.

Thanks.

Cc. Hedgefunds

emmaodet:
Yea please, go ahead.

1. Women don't like going against the group because of the herd mentality + the group guarantee more safety than being alone. Again, women can follow the order of one man if she's far from the group.

What do I mean?

2. Our mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers were submissive because the women within their communities were submissive to their husbands. Because that's what the group does and likes. Men were roughly on the same level except for community leaders, kings, etc. But on average wealth inequality was not obvious.

3. If she goes astray, she will be shamed by the group.
NB: Women slút shame other women than men.

4. Back to our modern age. Shaming tactics no longer work because belligerence, arrogance, complacency, dishonor, weakness, pleasure, and materialism are being praised. Social vices are taking the top place of virtues in our society because virtues are deemed for the weak.

5. We are now in a social media age. Women can see men on different geographical terrains in the comfort of their homes. + she's able to get attracted to a tribe easily which can influence her behaviors.

6. Exposure harms women. It corrupts them as they can't handle temptations without a reputable virile figure and a brave woman behind her. These figures guard her and coach her as she begins to interact with the world.

7. Women say they want freedom, but can't handle freedom. You give them an illusion of freedom while raising the bulwark. Women don't act right by their volition, you make them act right. You cooperate with them. This must be done if you want to enjoy them. Any assumption must be jettisoned.

8. This doesn't mean you must act like a commando because if you do, they will resent you. They are like chameleons that will assume the present color closer to them and will change to another once you turn your back. Observe how a mother treats her child, and you'll get a better understanding of how men should treat women - the left hand of discipline; the right hand of love and kisses. Both hands must be present.

Left hand only, she will hate you albeit covertly. Right hand only, she will ignore your boundary and make jest of you. Balance is all that is needed.

9. Women are the way they are today because men don't understand that women are using social media scenes to judge them + are unable to use social media effectively.

Women are not satisfied because they see what's beyond their rank every day on screens, hence, start comparing their spouses to those scenes. If by chance she's able to have a taste of that expensive luxury or cuisine, she will never like to dwell with men below even though she's not better than them by an ounce.

10. The only condition where this is paramount is if she has a good and strong father. Her father becomes a benchmark she uses to select good men. And that's why most women with no good father relationship or absentee fathers turn out worst. The sons become weak, lazy, and effeminate.

11. I like what you did with your spouse. It's not an easy feat for the average man to pull. Why?
A. Blinded by romance.
B. Need a constant supply of sex.
C. High investment in the relationship.

12. Women follow men, anything that men tolerate women explore. If men don't care, women will care less.

We expect women to act right and sensible because they are humans, however, as leaders and shepherds, men must sound it like a band of cymbals in their ears daily. And also maintain the frame.

13. The wife must understand that the husband has power over her and can pull the roofs over her anytime or day, this will at least keep her on track. And as a man, be bold in your ranks and take full charge.

Thanks.

Cc. Emmaodet, Hedgefunds.

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmmmm

Thanks Mr cave for the good write up.
I still owe you something for all your write ups on TRP thread. Will send to you by ending.

Thanks sir. I do appreciate it.

PS: Would have gone further but had some break. Will continue if you insist.

On manipulations.

Be wise.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1614888605528494081?t=LwedkWuoY_ICVPERi6QjUw&s=19

You are being cajoled to do what you don't want to do. You want to do the right thing but end up doing the wrong. What is responsible for this? How do you set yourself free?

Manipulation aims to silence you or make you a slave. You must become cognizant of the game and level up.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1614888605528494081?t=LwedkWuoY_ICVPERi6QjUw&s=19

emmaodet:
I won’t blame those men much.
They wanted to make their wives happy and the home peaceful but in the process, it will turn to something else.
Also, it is always very very hard to change something you have started later in the marriage.
Example- I do wash plates for my wife occasionally when I notice she is very busy or lay the bed but after a while, I noticed she took it as normal.
She won’t lay the bed while watching the tv until after 10 in the evening, expecting me to go and lay the bed.
So when I noticed this after doing it consecutively for 3 days, had to tell myself enough.
Told her she has to be laying the bed by 9pm but she countered that anyone can lay the bed and it doesn’t have to be mandatorily her. I told her as a matter of fact it is her duty and because I am helping out doesn’t mean it is my job and if anyone can do it, why has she not been doing it then? After all, anyone can do it.
So told her henceforth, I am not doing it again.
She formed angry, laid the bed why nagging regularly. I didn’t even look her side for more than 2 days before she came back to her senses. She called her mum and asked her if it is the duty of a woman to be laying the bed or any of the couple can do it but her mum fell her hand and told her it is the duty of a wife to lay the bed her husband will sleep on.
I don’t even care whether the mum supported her or not, have made my decision and if she is not comfortable with it, she can take a walk.
Any man that is not strong will not be able to deal with a modern woman and there are many reason modern men are compromising- they share the house bill so the woman will always push back for a better deal. After all, she is also paying part of the bill.
A man that takes care of his bills will hardly take shit from a woman.
I told my wife if she continues like this, then it is better to have a house maid than a wife because if am giving her and the kids 200k per month, a house cleaner comes twice a week to clean the house and wash the clothes etc yet to cook promptly and take care of the general home is still a problem, then a maid is more productive than a wife aside sex.
If I hire a maid of 50k per month, she will cook my food daily, wash my clothes, take care of my kids etc so while paying 200k for a wife then?

Men have never had issues taking care of women. The average man can cater to a woman so far the average woman is ready to make things work for the good of the relationship. If a relationship seems difficult for men today, it's because the average woman aims for what's above her, yet she doesn't have the required value and character, and personality to attain that which she desires. I get the point about hypergamy, however, in terms of value, the average man still supersedes. The problem is that the modern woman uses the top <20% of ultra-rich and powerful men as a benchmark to judge the >80% of other men.

Women are like children, it's the boundary you set for them, and they'll follow, once you abandon that boundary, and grant them a leeway to do their thing, they go off the mark and cause problems to themselves, family, and society at hand. That's why their so-called rights are impeded in some parts of the world, especially Islamic nations and middle-east. Compare them with their counterparts in the West and you'll see the glaring reasons.

Women love to test your boundary. Ignore them at your peril. They don't care whether you love them or not, once you goof, the relationship becomes a mess. You must always hold your ground.

Social media is another reason they behave absurdly because they've inculcated gibberish from there.

Kudos for maintaining your rank.

Brb.

Martinez39s:
Apparently, I see a lot of simps on this thread.

It's heartbreaking.

Many men are trying to make their relationship work by all means possible, despite the fact they know that the marriage has reached the point of no return. They rather succumb to the wills and demands of their lovely wives and play her game - which are the supposedly tiny threads that hold the remaining fragments of the marriage.

A truckload of them still begs for sex. They still act like teenagers so that they can remain on her whitelist. So-called the head of the family - the protector and the provider. Gosh!

Many of them are seeing "shege" in their marriage but are too ashamed to speak out, too effeminate to restore order, and have been gaslighted to accept such derogation in the name of "marriage isn't for small boys but strong men like them".

Ironically, the kids they do this for will grow up not respecting him and lose the burning touch of masculinity embedded in fatherhood. These men keep making caricatures of themselves in the name of love and romance.

Men do enable nonsense, and women never fail to copy and return in a harder way.

Sigh.

1. Where was the location of this intelligence for the past ~8 years?

Where was the intelligence when Nigeria fell into hyperinflations and recessions?

Where was the intelligence when insecurity took a hike in the nation?

What has the so-called intelligence done to the lives of the average man or middle class in Nigeria? The middle class has been obliterated though.

2. Tinubu is just goofing here and there, jumping from one campaign train to another without telling us what his intelligence as a kingmaker has done for Nigerians.

In a sane climate, successors leverage the establishment of their predecessors and tell the people how they are to enhance it.

However, in APC, it is zero! Competence is zero! Integrity is zero! Character is zero!

3. Tit for tit, tat for tat, if the electorates aren't going to be hindered either in registering as a potential voter or in the collection of their voter's cards, PDAPC can't win.

Y'all are banking on a failed system, that's an insult to the word "intelligence". Nigerian politicians are ostentatious in their crimes, evil, and overly greedy because the masses have been psychologically tormented by fear - fear of useless and arrogant security personnel who ought to save lives and properties.

4. Imagine Tinubu r*ping the future of your lineage and you sit there and call it "intelligence", of course, what do we expect from fake principals and their subordinates? Bunch of hypocritic poisonous greedy individuals.

Nonsense!

Only those that have the capacity for truth can say the truth.

Men or women?

Full thread here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1613105695024447488?t=EYSgjrYSDZeV_38y940OPA&s=19

1. PDAPC is banking on a failed system.

They don't stand any chance of winning any election except on an individual level, which begs the question: is there any reasonable individual who desires to trade with a complacent merchant in the first place?

Anyone trading with them is resonating with the failed system and structures, to embezzle government funds and ruthlessly pillage every sector of the economy they lay their hands on.

2. Tinubu ought to be campaigning with the achievements of Buhari through his effort as a kingmaker, and a strong stalwart in APC. However, his campaigns are to change, sorry, further deteriorate the mess Buhari and his party has done in Nigeria and to Nigerians.

Tinubu sat down patiently for ~8 years watching Buhari turn the country into a cesspool and didn't blink his eyes. He was waiting to occupy the presidential villa, "Emi lo kan". And the same person wants to come to rescue us. I weep.

3. Tinubu and APC don't have anything to offer Nigerians. If there is, let them campaign with what they've achieved so far, and not with skillfully curated deceitful promises called a "Manifesto".

4. Free and fair election, PDAPC know they will lose. It's obvious.

People singing their praises online are political pawns that have been r*ped mercilessly and continuously by poverty, which has mentally skewed their minds and brains. Simply put, anyone supporting PDAPC is dúmb. Or, rapacious men waiting like vultures to feed from the decayed system.

Vote wisely.

Are you in a relationship or relationsh!t?

Not easy to make the right choice but you must try.

Here:https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1612703657547468800?t=_UfXHcg3DaMKQyc5NoV5fw&s=19

1. Nigeria has a long way to go in laying down proper infrastructures in the organization and execution of many activities.

2. Anything the government knows will benefit them is treated with proper organization, especially those things they know they can't easily manipulate and need the attention of the user or citizen. E.g Remita. The structure the government has laid in making payments online when it comes to their pockets has quickly metamorphosed better over the years.

3. From observations, during this election season, I have come to know that Nigerians don't have a problem coming out for voter registration. They feel the brunt of bad leadership. However, everything about INEC is poor.
The organization is poor.
Infrastructure is poor.
Staff management is poor.
Customer relationship is Poor.
Time management is poor.
Competence is poor.
Accountability is poor.

Yet the masses still depend on them on ensuring a good electoral process. I laugh.

4. The government knows what to do. But if they do it that way, they know they will lose. They only care if their bellies and pockets are threatened.

5. Before you blame people for not coming out to register, how did organize the registration program?
Before you blame people for not coming out to collect their PVCs, how did you organize the collection of PVCs?
Success in one ward/state isn't a success. What about the majority?

6. As far as I understand, the NIN holds greater power and advantage than the PVC. If the former is easy to collect what stops the latter from following the same route? Technology has made it easy to perform many registrations even in the dead remote areas yet that for PVC hasn't seen the light of day.

7. Thousands and thousands of people will not collect their PVCs, not because they are complacent but because the process involved is too herculean a task they are not willing to sacrifice, not even for an electoral process they don't trust by the way.

8. Anyway, for the sake of 2023, people should be encouraged to go collect their PVCs not minding the stressful and senseless process involved. And I hope the election turns out for the good of the people.

Sigh.

charlesdprof:
Good day Redpill brothers.
I need some form of advice or word of encouragement from you.
I was in a relationship with a girl for 5 years with the intention of marrying her.
I decided to allow her keep her virginity all these years till the wedding night.
Last year December 2022, I had a dream that someone is seeking for her hand in marriage.
I decided to propose to her and she was very happy.
She opened up to me that someone is coming to marry her and that her aunt recommended the guy. He is based in Turkey.
She asked me to rush and see her parents before the guy comes.
I did as she said and the parents accepted because they know am already in a relationship with her.
They told me she has rejected many suitors including that guy claiming that she has someone she wants to marry.
Her Dad requested for a Genotype result which came out that we are both AS genotype after going to 3 different hospitals.
The marriage was canceled even though me and the girl insisted we want to go on with it.
The father threatened to disown her if she didn't marry the guy from Turkey.
It was a devastating experience for both of us.
She met the guy for the first time on 27th December and the traditional marriage took place yesterday.
When I saw the pre wedding pictures and the traditional marriage videos I cringed and developed cold shivers.
I felt depressed that I built a woman for another man.
I felt I just wasted 5 years on my life in an unproductive relationship.
I felt cheated that I allowed her keep her virginity only for another guy to enjoy it.
Am just stuck right now considering the effort, resources and time I wasted with her.
I need advice and encouragement.

If you have time read this and move on.

It's not easy. I know. But take your L and move on.

Peace.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1611685097505267712?t=sF3w1Cp8XJcraRkgzL6SaA&s=19

Dear men, relationship is a big deal. You invest much and your investment matters.

Make sure you know the condition of your woman before committing.

Don't be cajoled by sweet tongues hidden inside a beautiful face but laced with ulterior motives.

You need more than beauty. You need more than sexual prowess. You need a stable woman. You need a woman who will be stable for your children. Don't sell their future on the altar of beauty and character flaws. Do your best for them in selecting a good mother for them.

As you learn these lessons, make use of them to build your sisters and daughters. Let them use you as a benchmark in selecting a good man.

Don't fall victim.

Be wise.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1611685097505267712?t=sF3w1Cp8XJcraRkgzL6SaA&s=19

1. Your life: ensure to stay in a safe environment. Especially in areas with people roughly at the same level as you. Avoid residents with panic crime rates.

2. Energy: only engage in productive activities.
Don't stress yourself with humans this year. Jesus Christ did it and he died on the cross. Except you know you are fit to accomplish the same.

Don't argue. Learn to quickly spot dúmb people and ignore them. Reserve your energy for people better than you. For rational folks.

3. Your money: don't spend lavishly. If you always feel guilty after spending, you should know that you don't need that good/service next time.

Don't spend to impress.

Don't spend to prove a point.

4. Your health: have a good time for resting. Your goals are dependent on your health status. Don't jeopardize it.

5. Protect the people you love. It doesn't mean you should put your life on the war front or defend them stupidly. Be able to guard and coach them. They have their own volition to decide which path to take.

6. Protect your properties. You may have the money to buy more, however, being careless comes at a cost of losing a thing you can't easily buy. You once treasure them, continue.

7. Protect your time. Have a daily, weekly, or monthly schedule. Lay down goals. Have strategic plans on how you can achieve those goals. If you shoot aimlessly, you'll waste your bullets without hitting your target.

8. Protect your soul from corruption. Don't get involved in activities that'll vitiate your conscience, sullen your character, and make you look like a parody in the future.

Identify what's right and do it. Know the truth, and practice it. Seek wisdom and you shall find.

9. Protect yourself from manipulators cum predators. Wisdom helps you identify them. They act friendly to siphon you. They are wolves in sheep's clothing waiting patiently when you are asleep and weak. Avoid these people.

Thanks.

If you don't want to be under the tenterhooks of wicked people you must know their game and act fast.

If you are too slow you'll lose.

If you are ignorant you'll lose.

Become the player, not the toy.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1611283314698252288?t=VznUplK4LhcymcD7djc5Lw&s=19

Everything matter, your background can't be talked down by motivations. It counts. Coming from a place of lack is difficult.

The man must walk his way out. As much as suffering is important for his growth, the same with abundance.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1610562041114140672?t=X2qwAEgRnQdjkE4H7umFGg&s=19

Martinez39s:
I am disappointed. Men must always unapologetically go for the best they get, and they must rightfully jettison the notion and concept of ideal love and connection.

Is a deformed cripple the best he can get?

I'm just wondering if the woman will see him as a father or husband.

Men will do anything to prove their love. They can cross the valleys and mountains just to showcase the love they have for a woman. They don't mind bending their kneels or rolling in the mud. When it comes to romance, is as if there is a fast imaginary brain swap, that stops them from thinking in the right order.

Though man's love is sacrificial, however, has been exploited by his naivety and unrelenting predators who don't mind eating their kind not to talk of a free meal. Men are doomed when it comes to romance.

Women know this and with nature on their side, they've perfected the art of hoodwinking men who can't see beyond the corridors of their pants. Too bad.

PS: The photo may be fake. Let's keep our little fingers cross.

Nobody listens to a weak man.

Nobody respects a weak man.

Nobody trust a weak man.

Nobody negotiates with a weak man.

Nobody defends a weak man.

Nobody admires a weak man.

Nobody wants a weak man for a friend.

Become a strong man.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1610248935896924162?t=xWFaeSQVA26sKxCW-OvUCA&s=19

1. There's nothing much to be perplexed about. We are in a world that celebrates mediocrity, hedonism, incompetence nonchalance, and other forms of depraved behavior.

2. If the foundation is weak, how can the roof stand? The kids can't stand because they don't have a foundation and a strong root system that can guard them in true light and beauty. Supposed foundations are absent or negligent parents, weak relatives, and a feeble community.

3. These kids see on social media and their environment the way belligerent people are being lauded and protected. So, one can't expect a different scenario with them.

4. Since accountability doesn't count, why should they be accountable?

Since obligations don't matter, why should they take responsibility?

Since integrity doesn't matter, why should they pursue truth?

Violence in its shades and subtlety are poorly addressed, criminals stroll into jail and are out before the dawn of a new day. So, why expect them not to mimic them?

5. We're always defending our sides when we are benefiting from the depraved system. We only choose to blink our eyes when we start losing or can't take a tincture of our medicine. Humans are hypocrites!

6. The decay shall continue until there's a concatenation of good men and women, young boys and girls who will act as a bulwark to the further decline of society and force to work those who are not ready to free their hands of their devices and make society work.
And if they fail to comply, they get thrown out through the window. Yes. There must always be a group of people that will pay the price for the positive and negative ends for the greater communal good.

Sigh.

For those men forming emotional bonding with their spouses.

Be careful though.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1610157545687060480?t=Ot5AKAZbyJAA56bwMOIVSQ&s=19

The ironic dating arena.

Here:https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1610189891794604032?t=zswJKHP7Hu_W5GoSl_WKQg&s=19

Know your mate.

Your life is precious.

Don't jeopardize it for a (wrong) woman.

Remember to always put yourself first.

The matrix is unbreakable and unbeatable.

Be wise.

WittyLad:
Good morning, Afternoon or Evening to every great redpiller on this thread wherever you are seeing this,
I have a trivial question; We have been preached to on serveral occasions on this thread not to settle for less, go for brand new (Virgin), We also learnt from Ubunja's teachings on how to relate with any girl you are interested in: *by BEING SEXUAL FROM THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP...
Now, let's imagine you meet a girl, she has every qualities you want in a lady, she is also a Virgin, you are both in a relationship now, she's loyal and all, little romance here and there but no penetration(which is not sexual enough) but the guy have the intention to get married to her.. what should this guy do ?

A. Have sex with the girl, since nothing is promised?? (However, if you say yes to this, also remember that once he penetrates, the seal is open and you can't tell if she's loyal anymore)

B. Leave her as a virgin and check from time to time to be sure she is still intact?? (For those who would choose this option as their answer, Remember she could end up losing the virginity to another guy while you are still both in the relationship, [hypergamy])

Let me know what you think Kings, please do well to give the reason for picking any of the two options... Obrigado

On a lighter note... On behalf of Members from inception of this group who ghost read like me, I want to say a big thanks to those who are still keeping the family alive @CaveAdullam, @Ubunja, @Jeshal,@heartofcity,and every one who had contributed positively one way or the other.
... I just hope @Martinezs39 @Aomine, @Jessepaid, @herbsworks, @MJBolt are doing fine..

#TRPisLIFE
#Witty

Happy new year chief chief. Double chief.

Blessings and grace for you in 2023.

Thanks.

satandeterrible:
GOAT of 2022!!

Happy new year man. More grace and life.

Abba114:
mucha gracias patron. u did a great job may god reward you with the highest reward ever.

You and your strong head. Lol.

Happy new year man. More blessings.

ubunja:
another year completed. Good work man.

The King himself. "Twale baba" (look for a Nigerian in SA to translate it for you). Lol

Happy new year.

More wisdom and good progress in 2023.

Alhabaze:
Thank you for your service Cave!

You have helped shaped my horizon on several levels through your write-ups.

Cheers!
Alhabaze

Thanks big man.

Happy new year. More favours for you in 2023.

Oyin2212:
You try gan

Happy new year uncle.

More wins.

Seandisputed:
Blessings on you bruv.
Your consistency is one thing that needs to be studied. I have great respect for you.
I want to thank everyone specially. Y'all turning me into a better man.

Thanks boss.

Happy new year. Plenty plenty wins to your side this 2023.