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ubunja:
barely an hour ago I was watching a TV presenter (female) comment on the issue and you could see she has already concluded on the case. Smh. The way everyone jumps to the end on such cases is irritating. But it's our fault as men because we allow(ed) things to get this bad. I mean, if a woman has destroyed your career and you've lost everything, cause of her lies, why are you letting her get away with it? I mean, you're already fucced... I don't condon violence but....

@bolded, same line of thought crossed my mind some hours ago when coming back from my workplace, however, it was about paternity fraud.

My mind was like "why commit suicide, become totally depressed and emotionally wrecked why she walk freely? Just...and employ a nanny to start pushing her around and remind her everyday that not everytime one goes scot free after several misdemeanors". A wicked smile pervaded my cheeks after that thought.

Since nobody wants to be normal in this world again, we all can be mad at the same time.

Thanks.

broshowfar:
Being on this fence too. Checked out of the sexual market a very long time ago. A few days ago at the gym I saw this girl and my male nature kicked in. Naturally once I think about women, the whole process and drama that comes with them, I just shut down and tell myself it ain't worth it especially if she's not the one pining for you. I have always practiced and preached the chosen approach as far back even when the red pill hadn't been codified. So back to my experience I started to think should I cold approach this girl or just forget about the whole nonsense since she didn't come up to me. Then again something else came up to my mind bros it's being Years you approached a lady hope you are not doing it from a place of fear of rejection. I kept on thinking and the next day I actually walked up and had a conversation and did ask for a number and she did give me but it's been days I haven't sent a message. Why? I see the glorification women receive in today's world and I puke especially so called pretty women. I may and may not give drop her a message as my mind is playing tricks with me. All in all a man should always be ready to slam the brakes on a woman as soon as he detects nonsense.

I agree!

Truth be told, the stress of trying to bye pass women's sexual defence doesn't worth it. However, these same women have little to no defence when it comes to the men they've chosen by themselves. And that's why most cases, I don't approach as I see it as mere waste of time, and also, these women I'm unleashing my seductive techniques on have a guy at one corner getting the pvssy for almost nothing. Anyway, just as you have said, I do approach to test if my mind is playing some fear of rejection bullsh!ts.

On the otherhand, my approach these days is tilted towards "laying", if I don't sense that "ok you'll fvck me", I don't bother collecting their numbers. Because, immediately rapport goes online, other men/simps will orbit her easily, thereby making the game lags on my side. Offline, if the flirtations doesn't tilt towards sex, I abandon her and move ahead.

Overall, approaching here and there doesn't worth it! Except a man just wanna have some fun with his leisure.

Stay chosen!

Thanks.

sajmark:
Lol, field report from the boss himself.
I've made up my mind to stop wooing/asking girls out for two reasons:
1. I've lost interest in having serious relationships with women (which makes focusing on one's goals a lot easier)
2. IT GREATLY ELIMINATES APPROACH ANXIETY: It's easy for a guy to walk up to a super hot banker to lay a complaint but will find it extremely difficult to approach the same banker if he wants to WOO her. I believe that replacing WOO with FLIRT while approaching will help a lot of men to become better at approaching women.

I want to be all about approaching, building a good rapport and start flirting ASAP... No more boyfriend and girlfriend.
I have a guy that lives his life that way, he gets free s3x, food and even money from a lot of girls without giving away any of his resources in return.

Happy New Week Kings.

LoL!

It's because of that approach anxiety and fear of rejection that do make me approach sometimes because the human mind can quickly and easily rationalize. Some dudes will be like "after all she has been used and dumped by some other guy, "I want to focus", "she's this or that" blah blah blah. But underlying, it's simply the fear of rejection and anxiety that's trammeling them from approaching these ladies. Exceptions do exists though...(these guys will still run here. LoL).

I love challenges a lot and once I sense fear within, I proceed to go against it by countering that challenge. This is true for women and other circumstances I face in life. Except in cases where risk is highly detrimental or ego trying to get the better part of me.

Your guy has been chosen; it is more like sugaring it by flirting. Because, real life, ladies are really open towards guys they see around, whether rich or broke compare to strangers, and dance with hypergamy in both steads. Approaching to bed is not really easy, except there is a high display of flashiness because women are materialistic; especially in third world countries like Nigeria.

Cold approaching and seduction is a different game in reality from what's seen on YouTube and read in books. And that's why the chosen theory is still better.

Thanks.

sajmark:
Tips for Kings

LoL!

I guess you all know that I'm more of the chosen theory than approaching. However, I do cold approach depending on my mood that day.

About three weeks ago, I'd approached a lady, what motivated me was her big a$$. (There are some a$$ God built in seven days bro. No jokes! LoL!). She was flowing with my vibes(she asked me "what I wanted from her" ) until her boyfriend called and told her he is no longer in the place he told her to come collect some funds---20K.

To cut the long story short, that disappoinment destroyed the already established rapport we had because from observation she was acting in way so that I will provide her the money. Her mood turned ugly, until I decided to leave her. (I missed that a$$ bro).

Lessons learnt:

1. That girl cried as a result of that disappoinment she had from her boyfriend. All her insinuations indicated she had a genuine desire for him even though she was flowing with my rapport.

2. Even though genuine desire, at the right time and right guy, genuine desire will creep into oblivion. How? I asked her how much is the money and she said "20k", and had it been I pay for sex, we would have negotiated and she will accept because her receptiveness to my approach was good. Too bad, we both knew our game.

3. I was the one pinning for her. Why? Because I was the one that approached her...this is where most guys miss it and do go extra miles to notch the woman by all means. Also, this is where approaching women becomes a sort of dilemma: you don't want to miss her by not approaching and even though she responds, you end up being eager and pinning for her. Abundance mindset here works because it makes you channel your heart to other women, but the higher the number of women, the higher your eagerness.

Anyway, she fell off my radar, and we both moved on.

Thanks.

PS: Ketapu, I'm also in the field too.

DAY 29, REDPILL 2022

Young men need strong masculine anchor from zero to one.

Young women need strong masculine anchor as they move gradually from one to zero.

Without a strong masculine frame around him, it is (almost) impossible for the young man to move from zero to one. Because at zero, it is rough, tough and extremely harsh. And for women, they make a fool of themselves as their decline becomes too fast and easy when there's a lacking masculine frame around them.

Authority: Positive Masculinity.

Photo credit: 123f dot com.

LikeAking:
Sixty Mila abai?
Madt!
U go make am.
Life na all about cnection and good information + the right environment.
Nothing like demons or village.
Build ur life around these 3 pillars and thank me latter.
Life functions on principles not the spiritual.
U never jam d right ppl, but keep working e go better.

I believe there is a kind of celestial plane where like minds interact and resonate with similar words and thoughts. This same post/thought of yours has been brooding in my mind for some weeks.

You nailed it! Kudos.

Thanks.

Tonnyray:
I doubt any rational male should download this app or subscribe to this bank.
What bunkum?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zPvubh36FxQ

Women can only pretend to be men but can never be men. Mimicking, rather than bettering, only makes a caricature of oneself. Yes, bettering starts from using a yardstick, but denigrating that yardstick inorder to feel good and look more superior is a stupid act: Feminism.

It's not all about forming independence on adverts, but a matter of who's the root? The backbone? The foundation? The basic? And of course, men.

Thanks.

DAY 26, REDPILL 2022

Sadness sets in as she becomes your ultimate source of joy.

Authority: Don't be a simp.

ubunja:
yes, it was hinted at a few years ago. But they're doing it for cultural reasons (at least that's how they got it to happen), they're saying SA has a lot of immigrants and its becoming a problem raising kids whose ancestral roots are unknown who become problem kids because they're never introduced to their ancestors, hence the sorry state of the kids so it's vital every kid be known whose blood it is in him - Something along those lines. It's not compulsory though and it's definitely not being shouted from the roof tops.

"When the going gets tough, the tough gets going".

Some decades ago, abortion was one hell of a threat to women but now, it is as easy as fluid through plan B methods.

Pregnancy which is the cause of abortion as a result of unsafe sex is now being taken care of by contraceptive pills with pregnancy test kits that quickly alerts.

Paternity kits will one day become as accessible as pregnancy tests kits and a man will just need a good medical personnel to authenticate the results of the kits. And I perceive we are almost there. This is a similar case of once bitten twice shy.

Thanks.

Saintinoo:
nine nine

Alright. I will call you later.

Saintinoo:
Cave...

Alright Saintinoo, drop your mobile number and I will call.

Thanks.

heartofcity12:
Yeah that’s another angle but she actually made some points tho. I’m concerned about the message not the messenger. Most of them are the same anyway.

I agree. Message before messenger.

Thanks.

heartofcity12:
Humor
Chat with a foreign girl vs Chat with a Nigerian girl.

1. Sound intellectual conversations boils down to IQ or the individuals who through pains and great learning has built themselves---few!

A woman who has a pure descent in Asia or Europe has a higher above average IQ score than a woman of African descent. Ergo, interesting conversation and relationship, coupled alongside: good environment, good standard of living and true political and economic system. Intelligence plays a huge role in the lives of people and once you understand this concept, you will begin to view people differently.

2. Genuine desire also plays an important role here: a woman interested in you from the onset will flow naturally when conversing. Because this interest is lacking, or, plus a conglomeration of simps, conversation is boring. And at this juncture, men begin to ponder and think of going extra miles to spice up the relationship so that she will be coerced out of her cocoon to become gregarious.

You must force words into the mouths of boring women if you are interested in having a conversation with them. Unfortunately, it is still a lost cause and end up stale because the conversation wouldn't be intellectual as presumed except for the outliers. To enjoy any conversation with women, go sexual.

Thanks.

heartofcity12:
Literally mean they’re attracted to men who is in control, not controlled by his emotions.
Stay masculine. #trp

On an ideal note, this is true.

However, in reality, "very very dangerous" men lack wisdom in channeling their strength and ability, hence, become criminals. Or too weak, and end up being tyrannical.

I know that there are cases of hybristophilia and women do fvck bad boys---which all boils down to short term mating strategy, because a woman want a man that is dangerous enough to protect her and will not turn inward in harming her; the balance man. That is, the king who once served as a general.

Thanks.

heartofcity12:
I support her. To whom it may concern

There is this human tendency to always criticize others whose sins are deemed grievous in order to feel a sense of superiority. (Remember the story of the adulatory woman and Jesus Christ).

Mercy Aigbe + all other women criticizing her are different pieces cut out from same cloth.

Manipulations has a very large spectrum, at a time like this, wolves will put on sheep's clothing to deceive unsuspecting simps.

Herein character is of utmost necessity than words in business and relationship.

Thanks.

Saintinoo:
This is a line from TRP nugget drop here by the OP.

Women thrive on drama, it allows them to weaponise emotion and push an agenda. Starve them of emotion, and they have nothing to fight with.
A woman starved of emotion will become desperate to sustain her psychological onslaught. As such, she will attempt to pry it from the dead, exaggerating observations and manufacturing issues in order to sustain the indignance necessary to maintain her psychological assult.

These above, just happened to me yesterday, lady is a virgin, mid 20s and in her first relationship. she was bringing up issues just to get at me and make me feel bad of myself, she came prepared because she had to use my simp friend for the job.

she wants to frustrate and and make me beg her, and mind you, I did nothing wrong, she won't leave the relationship but want to see me tormented.

I have resolved to ignore me. boss what more should I do.

1. Shawty is getting calls from other guys, perhaps, guys higher than you. Hence, since you are her first/her in her first relationship, she's manufacturing drama out of your current state/position. She is looking for a justifiable way to dump you and end the relationship. Her insecurities is in vogue and she is projecting it unto you.

2. You said "mid 20s" is her age. Understand that her biological clock is ticking and the drama she is displaying is to fulfil her biological urge: resources, protection, good sex and offspring. Subconsciously, it is the spirits of her ancestral traits/mothers wrestling within her to quickly do the needful before she hits the wall.

3. From observation, it seems you cannot handle her, so it is better to dump her before she dumps you. If you have invested so much in the relationship, cut your loses and move on. But if she is still invested in the relationship and you got good game, though, she might still dump you but Okafor's law will do justice in future.

4. Instead of just cutting your loses and dumping her, if you are of high psychological and emotional strength, you can use her as a specimen on how to handle histrionic and manipulative women and people at large.

Thanks.

PS: I was not able to access the DM you sent because I have no access to the gmail account currently. But should in case you want a more intimate discourse, mention me on a dead thread and I will send you a contact address both of us can access.

tensazangetsu20:
You can continue to deceive yourself by comparing yourself to dangote. MC oluomo had all his kids in America. You think hes stupid.

Leave them to be claiming father's land that don't give a hoot about their existence.

Berankis:
A lot of times, we are not just ungrateful to God but also act ignorantly about it. Do you know that you could have travelled to the same America or even be an American but gone? Do you know how many lives are being lost in the same "America" due to wild fires, tornadoes, hurricanes etc. You speak of this America as if it is heaven.
Well... We that are in Nigeria we thank God for our lives. It is also true that God loves us equally, we are the ones with the prejudices, greed, self-conceit and total inconsideration to one another.

You speak of tornadoes, hurricanes, wildfires, earthquakes...these are natural disasters and not as a result of man made greed, incompetence, lack of accountability and integrity. Even the people that loss their lives through that process will still prefer America as a country of birth/residence compared to a failed nation like Nigeria if there's a reincarnation. At least, they enjoyed the benefits of what a good country is and took it to their early graves.

What about terrorism, kidnapping, arm robbery, ritualism, government embezzlements occuring in Nigeria? All these are daily occurrences and you compare them to natural disasters that are rare.

What has the Nigerian government done about flooding? America and other countries that suffers worst disasters are churning out great measures to curb it, yet, you can hardly see good drainage system across Nigeria.

Do you know that more than 200 million people are in bondage because of corrupt leaders and politicians?

Advanced countries are not all angelic saints, however, their downsides are exceptions while in Black communities, Africa and Nigeria, it is the norm.

I don't know what you people see in this country called Nigeria.

Thanks.

heartofcity12:
Tragic reality

Communal and family life some centuries back were more delightful because men, women and children knew their place. However, in our contemporary world, women are like fish encourage to climb a tree, and men like monkeys convinced with toys. Since there is a misnomer in what adult men and women need and not functioning in roles they are well suited for, children miss their places and grow into more confused adults as the previous generations.

heartofcity12:
Some of y’all are making it too easy for these girls. If she’s not adding any value to your life positively or she’s not responding to your chats as you wish, I urge you to delete her number right now, at most get a small phone you save their numbers so you don’t check their statuses, they don’t need to check yours either. I don’t suggest you mute them because I know your curiosity could get the best of you and you end up checking again, deleting is better. The old fashioned phone calls are better, limit the chats.

Those statuses are used to string you along and include you to one of her orbiters admiring her, don’t give out your attention so cheaply like that, it’s an ego boost to them and she’ll never find you attractive if you keep checking her status because that’s enough validation for her. A girl with high interest in you will often chat you up or respond to your chats positively and ready to meet, don’t save that number until you’re very sure she’s into you. These apps are basically tools to aid simping, now every basic girl feel like a celebrity, smh.

1. If you are chosen, you will have easy access to women than as through texts. That's why I prefer dealing with women around me because there is no faking it and the women can see me for what I represent and who I am truly. Chatting has a way of prolonging issues with women, however, it can be used to flirt effectively with women but most times, it is "anti-pvssy".

2. Women have a motley of simps around them, hence, their response during chats is lagging. Your messages will be inferred among many until you double texts, triple texts and so on. But the more you do this, the more of a pathetic simp you prove.

3. Phone calls too are good but except for genuine desire, the woman never return most calls. Why? Because simps are there, or they expect you to do the chasing, or in most cases they are broke.

Except for the ladies that are of great benefits to me, I don't normally chat. Ditto for guys too.

Life is short and it is not good to squander it on frivolities.

heartofcity12:
Lol.
The pastor married the bad bvtch actress and she often claimed that she’s changed to a good girl. They wrote a book about their love life and how sweet their marriage was, unfortunately they’re divorced now.

You can take a woman out of the "beach" but you can't take the b!tch outta the woman.

From where she cometh, she goeth: the street.

ubunja:
lmfao, it's because she loves him,, but the puccy hates him. Puccy has its own mind. It can't be forced because genuine desire can't be forced. If it hates you it hates you. And the sex will be the absolute bare minimum that the girl must give to keep you.

This is how Beta relationships are set up.

Guy chooses a girl he likes and uses money as bait. What he gets is a girl he likes who gives him an erection when he hugs her but her puccy runs away from him because the feeling is not mutual.

Gentlemen, even if you've money, endeavor to play the alpha game: Use your BODY as bait and wait to be CHOSEN. This way you get a girl who thinks with her vagina whenever she's around you.

If a woman's pussy hates you you're in danger of raising another man's kids because the puccy gets instructions from the womb: How the puccy feels about you is how her womb feels about you and if her womb hates you it's going to hate to carry your babies. Instead it will push the woman to the men whose copies it wants to make. Remember the womb is nothing but nature's photocopier. Only the genes it likes get copied and passed on to the next generation. Which brings us to telegony, how the woman's body stores the genes of men it considers prime specimen and those genes are called into action during a woman's pregnancy. Which is to say your woman can give you a child that looks like her ex even without sleeping with him after the breakup. This is very Frankenstein stuff.... People should stick to virgins.

Anyways, it is far far better for a woman to hate you with all her heart but her puccy love you. The Pic below is disgusting on so many levels.

"The pic is not disgusting", but an effigy representation of your essay. Lol!

See the way her head lean inward: Consciously the brain is launching into a place of pastures. She be like "this is a good investment".

Her boobs not too close to his chest: "I will give you some fvcks now and then".

Her ass and pvssy tilted very far from him: No genuine desire.