DSS1335: I am writing this with a sorrowful heart! This is quite a lengthy piece!!
In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.
We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.
At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.
When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!
Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??
Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.
That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.
The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.
We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!
Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.
Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated
Early sex education would have prevented this. I hope you have the phone conversation with the young man where he agreed to sleeping with her ony once recorded? You can inform the boys family with that evidence so he won't later deny having any knowledge of the girl. Once the boys family agrees to take responsibility for the pregnancy, she should be taken to her mum. Sincerely,this young girl needs your family support at this time,so she would not end up a liability to her family. Any financial and emotional support you would give her is welcome. Do not just abandon her with her mother! Please do follow up!
This person is depressed. Only God knows what He/she is going through. Such people end up suicidal if they don't get the required help they need. Imagine being born a male with internal female sexual organs.It can mess up someones emotional health. Tis good they are in a sane society where they can get all the help they need. Who are my to judge?
Onetenth: I have never believed in reincarnation but my eyes did saw one yesterday
Here's the story:
Year 2020, I think around may according to his parents because I can't recollect, this neighbor of ours and close friend to my sibling was into cultism. There's was a cult clash at ikorodu that year and he lost his life, I wasn't told I was there life when police released his corpse to his parents and I was even part of those who digged the grave he was buried. Two years ago oo..
Now, this is year 2022, I saw this boy at orile, he wanted to board the bus I was in with my girlfriend. Immediately we both saw each other I wanted to scream but I couldn't I don't know how. But everyone in the bus saw my reaction, this boy disappeared on that spot.
This isn't a made up story, if there's any nairalander at orile bustop around that time will testify to this.
Omo! I still can't believe what I saw, I cried till I got home, my girlfriend was shocked and speechless as well. How did he do that? How did he disappear in midst of people? Why is he not dead? There's obviously something spiritual about this that I'm not told.
His mom has been hospitalized since we got home and I explained everything that happened. He was her only child. This is so disheartening and scary as well
What you experienced is not reincarnation.Reincarnation is a different thing entirely.Do some check on it!
I decided to give her a special birthday treat because she has been the best wife I could ever wish for.
She is kind and honest. A great mother to our four kids.
I bought her this beautiful outfit. She loved it so much she took more than 100 photos on my phone and begged me to post it on my Facebook. Funny woman
Your wife is beautiful! Birthday blessings to her!!
Meektunz: Been married for over 5years now and eversimce my wife have birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child die to no sense of resemblance and I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a d sacrificed alot for me. My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides. Since the result came out i never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once i confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once i see the boy and remember i get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family i will forget. I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything. What do you advise me to do guys?
Meektunz: Been married for over 5years now and eversimce my wife have birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child die to no sense of resemblance and I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a d sacrificed alot for me. My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides. Since the result came out i never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once i confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once i see the boy and remember i get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family i will forget. I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything. What do you advise me to do guys?
You posted on the 22nd of Oct that you needed to do a DNA test, 3days later the results is out already. I just they look you!
gloryhomemaker: Ewa Agoyin is a delicious beans and stew recipe, where the beans is cooked tender enough that it melts in your mouth. The stew is so delicious and can be eaten with bread, boiled yam, boiled potatoes, fried plantain, etc.
This video gives an easy to follow steps on how to make the tastiest Ewa Agoyin stew recipe.
Ingredients:
Dried bell peppers (Tatashe) Dried peppers (Ata Dindin) Palm oil Onions Ginger Crayfish Seasoning Cubes Salt to taste
STEPS: Select the beans of stone, dirt and chaff. Soak in cold water for up to 2 hours. Soaking the beans helps it decrease flatulence, bloating, drains out any insecticide used in preservation, cook faster. Cook the beans till soft and add salt to taste before mashing it. Soak dried peppers and tatashe in hot water for up to 20 minutes. Wash and blend the peppers with crayfish, ginger and onions. In a dry pot add in palm oil, bleach it and add chopped onions, fry till the onions turn golden in colour. Add in the blended ingredients and fry till very dry without burning it. Add in seasoning and salt and fry a little more. Serve and enjoy your Ewa Agoyin. I eat mine with bread, what do you eat yours with?
Don't even remember the last time I bought anything in cups. It's agreeably not easy churning out large sums of money to buy foodstuffs in bulk but at the end of the day, it's totally the best way to shop.
Garri wey I buy since February still sidon for store. E go last till January next year and we eat eba every two to four days.
You have to understand that there are people whose feeding is dependent on their daily earnings. They can't afford to save and buy foodstuffs in bulk People are going through a lot.
Leave the comfort of your home and see what is happening outside.its obvous you do not even know what your neighbors are passing through. If at this present time you do not know people still buy rice in cups,then you have a lot of charity work to do .
Afodot0022: Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum. It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat. Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, i decided to let go cos of my two daughters and dont want them to share from a broken home. Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But i wasnt confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She was got angry when i told her this and she said she cant block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me. She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasnt giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie. So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally. Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland
Pls mod, help me by doing the needful
She should choose between her marriage and that man. I hate what I don't like! From your history,all I have seen is emotional trauma from that he'll you call a marriage. Your mental health is important abeg! Maybe you just walk away and never look back. Just keep sending upkeeps for your children. She looks to me like a stubborn woman.
general111: The question is, is she willing to change or not? No matter how dark the past was, if a person is willing to change, then there is a glorious future ahead...
Meanwhile, The rate at which hook up is rising, 8 out of every 10 men will surely get married to a runs girl
They cannot eat their cake and have it. Those runs girls gets their patronage from men and not animals. As a man,the only way you should be asking for a virtuous wife,is if you are virtuous yourself.
ReneeNuttall: OP hope you know that potato leaves can be used to make sauce for eating yam or plantain just like pumpkin leaves? Hope u know that u can also add it to Melon soup and okra as vegetables? So pls don't let your fresh potato leaves go to waste its nutritious and delicious.
So I learnt. But won't it affect the growth of the plant before harvest?
Tookool: Nice farm. Why did you space your maize so much but planted you plantain so close? Plantain usually have some babies sprouted around the main one that was planted. I feel the spacing for the plantain is too small and that of the maize is too much.
I Think the angle of the camera didn't do justice to it. The plantains are well spaced. Suckers are beginning to sprout already from them. Thanks for your contribution!
foxybingo: Pls can you send me some scent leaf seeds? I have been looking for it
Buy from the market. Select the ones with flowers . Sun-dry the flower part.once it is dry,shake off the seeds from the flower into the preffered part of the soil you want it t germinate.
Uptownerd: Lucky you. Not a lot of people still have farmlands to cultivate on.
Individuals with limited space plant with cement bags. Some at their balconies,once it has access to sunlight,it thrives very well! Check the internet and you will get valuable resource on how to go about it.
sincerlyyo: Agriculture is life... I have an orange tree (harvested severally) Moringa tree ( harvested severally) Guava (harvested severally) Pawpaw (harvested severally) Local apple (harvested severally) Mango, Yam
I plan to do, ewedu, ugu and okro soon. It's always fun,
Good one! Just make a step. The reward is always pleasant.
Family › Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by ceeceeuwa: 5:41am On Oct 29, 2022
