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Guys,this is actually a response I gave in another thread but I think it is worth creating a new thread for.

Many guys have bitterly complained of girls snubbing their chats on phone/social media or replying with mono-lexicons such as 'k', no, nothing, aiit, duh, hmm, thumbs up emojis, or no response at all. Chatting on phone or social media with a girl you have not met before is a simple art that can be learnt. When you do not master this art well, all you get are parrot mode responses.

She is a new girl on your friendlist and you find her attractive, so you decided to dm. This is normal. But the problem starts when you start chatting and you discover she is only corresponding with mono-lexicons. this pisses you off and you conclude that all girls are proud and prove too tough to get. However, there are other guys out there who meet pretty girls (Not Oloshos) on social media, start a chat with them and end up being their boyfriends. Some even get marry to them in the long run and have a blissful marriage. This is no magic. Such guys only do a simple thing like having the right skills to engage a girl in a conversation.

The major skill you need to start and sustain a conversion with a lady is not by knowing WHAT TO SAY but knowing HOW TO SAY IT. How you say something to her shows your mood and your motive. When a lady discovers your mood and motives, she decides if to roll with you or not. How you converse with her should not show you are desperate, creepy and clingy. When you chat in a desperate, unrelaxed manner, you send the girl into a panic and tensile mode. This limits her response to a parrot reply like: k, no, nothing, aiit etc. Some guys could be so creepy and clingy. For example, you don't just start chatting with a girl for the first time and the next thing is to start asking for her number, pictures and social media details. The only crop of girls who drop their number at such first clingy request are oloshos or 'inmessage' girls.

NOTE: When you engage a new girl in a chat, her number should be the last thing on your mind to get. Before you request for her number, get to know her well, her location and what her interests are.

Your conversation with a girl should not be premised only on direct clingy questions like: What is your name? Can I know you more? Can I have your number? Can we go out together. Where are you going tomorrow? Will you be less busy this evening? Can we hang out today? etc All these and similar questions are desperate and would not make her feel relaxed. Hundreds of guys are in her dm asking her the same thing and she is tired and bored of them. The moment you come up with similar mode of questions, she banishes you into the same zone with those desperate guys. That is a zone she has created for guys stalking and disturbing her. She will never give a rewarding response to such guys except something else happens.

While chatting, responses girls give can be categorized into three: Rewarding Response, Non-rewarding Response and Neutral Response. The number of rewarding responses you are able to get sometimes determine if you will ever get to meet her and date her eventually.

To get more rewarding responses from her, your conversation should reflect you are relaxed, fun to be with and unique. Make your conversation precise and interesting enough for her to sustain. If you are to ask questions, make it open ended rather than close ended. Open ended questions fans her egos and propel her to answer you. But close ended questions tie her down to a corner and generate tension. Example of Open ended question: You look great. Where are you chatting from?, Note you have cooled her ego first by saying she[b] looks great[/b] before asking for her location, therefore she is naturally propelled to answer you with a rewarding response.
Example of close ended question: [b]Do you live in Lagos? [/b]This makes her become tensile and generate suspicions like: Who is he and why does he want to know where I live? Does he want to come hurt me? etc Her response may either be rewarding or non-rewarding, depending on how her mood dictates.

To keep the conversation lively, never ask close ended questions. Equally, structure your conversation in such a way to get her talking about herself without even knowing she is doing that already. The more a girl talks with you about herself, the more she gets interested in the conversation and the more she becomes attracted to you.

Look at the templates below and decide which one is most suitable:

FROM A DESPERATE GUY'S INBOX
Me: Hello sweet bae
Her: Hi
Me: Can I meet you?
Her: (typing....stops typing)
Me: (After several seconds...) Hii, are you there?
Her: Yes.
Me: Ok.
Her: kk
Me: Can you tell me about you?
Her: No
Me: Ok. Can I have your number, please?
Her: No
Me: Why?
Her: Nothing
Me: (Angry) Why are you here then if you are not ready to meet people online?
Her: (typing....stops typing... goes offline)

(From this conversation, the lady is pissed off by the guy's desperation and may never respond to his chat for a long time)

FROM A RELAXED GUY'S INBOX
Me: Good evening
Her: Good evening
Me: Thanks
Her: k
Me: Good to meet you.
Her: Same
Me: You look great. Are you chatting from Ikoyi here?
Her: Yes.
Me: Oh cool.
Her: What about you?
Me: I live and work at Victorial Island
Her: Okay
Me: You can call me Akin by name. What about you?
Her: My name is Linda.
Me: Oh wow. I hope you mean Linda Ikeji? Smiles...
Her: Smiles...
Me: I saw you smile at that. I hope you are a big fan of her blog?
Her: Yes. I have been following her blog since 2014.
Me: Wow. You must be full of gossips like she is...
Her: Not really. I just like reading and browsing the internet generally...

(The lady is already talking about herself and her interests. If this conversation continues in that mood, she will be willing to give the guy her number at request and if the guy decides to meet her in person she will certainly drop a rewarding response)

I hope this helps some guys out.

Thanks bruh. You said you were not really financially comfortable. I will like to ask, were you more financially comfortable than her or she was more financially ok than you?
Does she have your physical specs and were you two attracted to each other sexually?

Why I ask these is because my recent findings reveal that couple who are not financially and sexually compatible more than often have challenges in their marriage. Financial incompatibility exists when one of the party in the marriage earns more than the other and use that as emotion blackmailing of the other party. When it comes to finances, couple should see each other as equal party no matter who earns what.
Sexual incompatibility is absolutely when couple do not find each other sexually attractive after the marriage.

oodua1stson:
long story, bro. The most important thing is that I'm better now than when I was married.



But if you need advice I'd say this; enjoy your youth like I did and be very comfortable b4 marriage( I wasn't really comfortable financially when I got married).

Believe me bruh, chatting up girls and getting desired responses is an art. When you chat in a desperate, unrelaxed manner, you send the girl into a panic and tensile mode. This limits her response to a parrot reply like: k, no, nothing, aiit etc. Some guys could be so creepy and clingy. For example, you don't just start chatting with a girl for the first time and the next thing is to start asking for her number, pictures and social media details. The only crop of girls who drop their number at such first clingy request are oloshos or 'in' girls.

Your conversation with a girl should not be premised only on direct clingy questions like: What is your name? Can I know you more? Can I have your number? Can we go out together. Where are you going tomorrow? Will you be less busy this evening? Can we hang out today? etc All these and similar questions are desperate and would not make her feel relaxed. Hundreds of guys are in her dm asking her the same thing and she is tired and bored of them. The moment you come up with similar mode of questions, she banishes you into the same zone with those desperate guys.

While chatting, responses girls give can be categorized into three: Rewarding Response, Non-rewarding Response and Neutral Response. The number of rewarding responses you are able to get sometimes determine if you will ever get to meet her and date her eventually.

To get more rewarding responses from her, your conversation should reflect you are relaxed, fun to be with and unique. Make your conversation precise and interesting enough for her to sustain. If you are to ask questions, make it open ended rather than close ended. Open ended questions fans her egos and propel her to answer you. But close ended questions tie her down to a corner and generate tension. Example of Open ended question: You look great. Where are you chatting from?, Note you have cooled her ego first by saying she looks great before asking for her location, therefore she is naturally propel to answer you with a rewarding response.
Example of close ended question: Do you live in Lagos? This makes her become tensile and generate suspicions like: Who is he and why does he want to know where I live? Does he want to come hurt me? etc Her response may either be rewarding or non-rewarding, depending on how her mood dictates.

To keep the conversation lively, never ask close ended questions. Equally, structure your conversation in such a way to get her talking about herself without even knowing she is doing that already. The more a girl talks with you about herself, the more she gets interested in the conversation and the more she becomes attracted to you.

Look at the templates below and decide which one is most suitable:

FROM A DESPERATE GUY'S INBOX
Me: Hello sweet bae
Her: Hi
Me: Can I meet you?
Her: (typing....stops typing)
Me: (After several seconds...) Hii, are you there?
Her: Yes.
Me: Ok.
Her: kk
Me: Can you tell me about you?
Her: No
Me: Ok. Can I have your number, please?
Her: No
Me: Why?
Her: Nothing
Me: (Angry) Why are you here then if you are not ready to meet people online?
Her: (typing....stops typing... goes offline)

(From this conversation, the lady is pissed off by the guy's desperation and may never respond to his chat for a long time)

FROM A RELAXED GUY'S INBOX
Me: Good evening
Her: Good evening
Me: Thanks
Her: k
Me: Good to meet you.
Her: Same
Me: You look great. Are you chatting from Ikoyi here?
Her: Yes.
Me: Oh cool.
Her: What about you?
Me: I live and work at Victorial Island
Her: Okay
Me: You can call me Akin by name. What about you?
Her: My name is Linda.
Me: Oh wow. I hope you mean Linda Ikeji? Smiles...
Her: Smiles...
Me: I saw you smile at that. I hope you are a big fan of her blog?
Her: Yes. I have been following her blog since 2014.
Me: Wow. You must be full of gossips like she is...
Her: Not really. I just like reading and browsing the internet generally...

(The lady is already talking about herself and her interests. If this conversation continues in that mood, she will be willing to give the guy her number at request and if the guy decides to meet her in person she will certainly drop a rewarding response)

Funkyswagzz:
There's nothing to master bro some girls play way too tough it become a stalemate. When u take to some places u will see how insecure they can be

By their FAKE STORY we shall know them

ogabentley:
I have been good friends for 5 years with a couple who live in one of the 4 self contain apartment where i reside.
We do hang out during weekends and sometimes in the evenings. recently Frank travelled and his wife asked me to come over and fix their Dstv that it wasnt working. it was an easy fix just needed to place a wire which was out of the decoder and it was done.
as i started to leave, she asked me why i had never made advances at her.
"i told her because you are married"
"married yes, but i do see the way you stare at me, i know you want me" she replied.
then she let the wrapper she tied fall off her body, i was shocked seeing a married woman stark naked before my very eyes.
i told her it wasnt right and hurridly left before someone sees me
since then i havent spoken to her.
what should i do, should i tell her husband?

Yea, the look from behind, while pounding, is always a great sight to behold

uthlaw:
No 3 with doggy style will be great!

Damn! That is horrific.

Reelmii:
she wants to punish him first before kicking him out,, she want make the guy suffer small.... she knows wat she is doing

Chatting on phone or social media with a girl you have not met before is an art that must learnt. When you do not master this art, all you get are responses such as: k, hmm, duh, nothing, aiit, uwc etc.

Funkyswagzz:
Every time you girls say we like to bash you ppl but you make a mess of yourself and end up looking for who to blame.

I have seen this alot it's really annoying and immature.. how can you chat up a matured lady and all u get is yea, ok, hmmm, tombs up, nothing.. I mean for Christ sake if u don't want to chat with him just ignore the msg.. that thing is annoying. If she's underage then it's not a problem buh when u are matured how can u differentiate urself from underaged.

Please if you don't like a guy don't give him ur contact simple! Not when he calls and identify himself next is to busy his call later. So what's the essence of giving Ur contact at the first place. If he is disturbing u just tell him u are not interested and move on . He won't kill you.

Also pls if you like a guy and u meet him at first date don't go through his phone searching for something u don't wanna see. For Christ sake u just met and you already going through his phone. Next step is to act funny and treat him bad.

I'm very simple and jovial. I can adapt to any style of conversation. If u want to eat my money do that with respect don't behave as if u are more intelligent or smarter.. I like to give when u really need it.. I no be fada Christmas so take note

But wait ohhhh, instead of enslaving him, why can't she divorce him and kick his ass off?

Reelmii:
any man wey no fear white woman, i no know wetin him fit fear again.... whis whites are crazy, the way they love is same way they hate,, once u betray the trust we dem get for where u dey, my dear u are finished,, i just dey pray make she no stab am one day

If this na true story, then I pity the guy. I can imagine the pain he's passing through being treated like a house boy. And Its certain the white woman has no love for him anymore which could make her to be having sex with random guys and even invite them home.

Reelmii:
there ia guy i know very well, he married and older woman here in America so that he can have his papers, they did the court wedding in Nigeria, he has been here for 3yrs, and they have a child but the woman is really takin care of the guy oo, but the guy wanted to sho that he is smart, he visited Nigeria and his family were pushing him to marry a younger lady. the plan was that he will the girl pregnant and she will be living with his family in nigeria while he will be abroad sending money....so he got a particular girl pregnant and they paid bride price because the girls parents were not awear the guy was married.. wen he came back to America he was living well with his wife, after one year, the white woman found about the whole thing.. she overheard the guys conversations on watssap call with the girl in Nigeria, to cut the story short,, the white woman the white woman reported him to the cops, now he is under 24hrs watch by tge police, all his account has been frozen he dear not step out of American, if not they will jail him and also deport him, he has not communicated with his family for 3yrs now, and they cant reach him,, he now lives like house boy, he does all tge house work, goes to market, cook, wash,etc....the woman just want to make his life miserable,, my dear there are so many of them like that, only God knows wen the guy's family will see him again,, so just think twice.... i dont even know how the girl will cope with the child

Sorry to hear this bruh. What is your experience? Can you share it here to enable us learn and avoid falling into the same trap in the future?

oodua1stson:
Who will make a post about getting a cheap divorce. I got married at ikoyi registry but the marriage is dead.

@ the bolded statement shows you have given up on women.
Truly women could be very difficult to keep and manage but don't give up on your effort of finding the one that would be loyal to you till death do you part. She is out there. Go and look for her.

bluefilm:
Oga, the question is how many friends are we even talking about here?

My kind of person, one or two tested and trusted friends is more than enough for me.

Make women carry dia wahala dey go abeg.

@ the bolded statement, if he is UNLOVING, make him LOVING; if he is UNCULTURED, make him CULTURED. That is the hallmark of a virtuous woman. But if you cannot do all these, then get out of his life.

lavylilly:
"Women submit to men". They say

NOT all men deserve SUBMISSION I say.

You cannot ask me to submit to an UNLOVING and UNCULTURED man, that's like sending me on a suicide mission, inevitably, one of us will EXPLODE!

If you want a woman to submit to you then you MUST have some insights on how to LEAD. Having a penis isn't a good a enough TEMPLATE to be the HEAD.

You must be a natural born KING and a LEADER, and as such, you will not need to ASK to be followed, your QUEEN will gladly bow at your feet.

This is the gospel according to LavyLilly #TheHusbandHunter

Disclaimer
This isn't an attack on men o.
But If somehow my view threatens your ego, hide your face

Your problem is that you don't know the difference between companionship in marriage and ordinary friendship. As you are growing, many of the friends you keep today will be dropping because of change of interests,locations etc, Many will desert you because they find new interests e. g they no longer belief in things you share together, while many will leave you because of change of location. If you look back to 20years ago, can you say all of the friends back then still remain with you today? The same thing will happen when in your 60s, 70s 80s, not all the friends you frolick with today will be there by your old age. You may claim you will make new friends but it can never be the same like someone who has known you all your life. And that someone is the WIFE OF YOUR YOUTH. Better stop being lazy and go out there and find her now that you are still young.

bluefilm:
Companionship will not be a problem for me at all, if that is what you are worried about.

I will still have lots and lots of my good ol' friends who are equally old like me to keep each other company in our old age.

What if you are no yet dead by then? Or are telling us that you have a concrete plan to die by 65-70?

It is true that life does not have a map when it comes to the issue of death. Nobody knows when his/her death will come. However, one deserves to live a better life at old age and the companionship offered by marriage is one of those major things that spice up your old age life. If you look around you today, you will see many old people who are lonely in their old age because they refused to plan for old age companionship.

bluefilm:
By the time I am 65 - 70 years, I might as well as be dead.

So why bother?!!!

You know, some guys are only turned on sexually by intellects displayed by the lady. So if you like, twerk, catwalk, and perform all seductive gymnastics, he will never be aroused

partnerbizn3:
story

sapio sexual

papio asexual

forget that tin.

wetin consign brain with this now.

See this Oga. By the time you are 65 -70 years of age, you will come back here and change this your story. By that time it would be too late and you would regret not knowing the value of building companionship with a woman who has known you for years. By that time , the freedom you so cherish today will turn to a prison which you are running from now.

Better get your ass up and go out there to look for a good woman with true love and build your future.

bluefilm:
I like my freedom and Marriage sounds like prison to me.

There's nothing you can do within marriage that you cannot do outside marriage.

Marriage gives outsiders the "right" to have some say in how you run your own personal life.

I don't want any woman to feel like she and her damn family is rightfully entitled to my earnings.

I don't want to be accused of cheating on any bitch.

I don't have time to be listening to women and their nonsense stories about nonsense things.

Neither do I have the time or wish to be in a position to be dealing with women and their ever unending insecurities and jealousies.

I like making and taking decisions by myself without necessarily consulting anyone else so I don't really need to put myself in a position where I will always have to be considering and/or consulting someone else before making those decisions.

So as you can see, marriage is definitely not for me at all!!!

Please can you explain further on the bolded statement? Are you saying all marriages conducted in Catholic and Anglican are recognised by Law, even if the couple did not go to court?

NaijadrivaCars:


If you like, do a 20 million Naira traditional marriage and *white* wedding (except maybe you wedded in Catholic or Anglican), without a government recognised marriage, you aren't married before the law.


They will tell you not to contract any marriage after that, without ending the first legal one.

Some men do not like it because the woman benefits from such arrangement. You can't send the women away just like that without settling her, save maybe in case of adultery.


But we don't get married only to have irreconcilable differences or part.

That is Hourglass, I guess?

psalmsmiles:
i love em ``sweet in the middle``!

So are you saying any shape goes for you as long as she has your required brain capacity?

donbachi:
100%

You must be a sapiosexual to have requested for that.

donbachi:
u for add brain capacity na.

Check out the bolded statements. That was why he left you.

My advice to people is that they should only date someone in their social circle. Next time you want to give dating a try, ensure you don't fall into such traps once more.

geraldinai:
Nairalanders, this is a long post but please read till the end.

My bf just broke up with me over what he termed incompatibility. This guy and I have been together for two years and we both loved each other. It was a long-distance relationship, he stays in Lagos while I schooled in another town in the west. I had no problem with the distance because I'm not the attention-craving type and I like my space.

He's a complete extrovert, while I'm an introvert(not to the extreme though) and this has been an issue most of the time. He complains that I'm too quiet and not on the same social level as him. I don't do social media like that while he's uploading new pictures every minute. I also didn't like the fact that he relates too well with girls; he had a lot of female friends and easily socializes with new ones. Well, I blended with that so well as I didn't see any trace of unfaithfulness in him.

Fast forward to late last year, there was a breakdown in our communication, he stopped calling and chatting as he used to, I asked him what the matter was but he said there's nothing. I was a bit scared if something went wrong with him and I asked again after some days, that was when he said he would tell me when the time comes, so I stopped asking. With all the signs he showed me, my mind was telling me he wanted a breakup but I didn't ask him further as I was preparing for my final exam and him breaking up with me that period would leave me devastated so I focused on my exam with the hope that after then, we would talk about it.

After my exam, I sent him a text apologizing and asked us to continue as we were but he didn't reply. He invited me over to his place and that was when he told me he's no longer interested in the relationship, that he has no feelings for me again. He gave one thousand and one reasons for us not to be together anymore. He said I'm less expressive, I agree with anything he says and does and that during the break in our communication, I didn't make efforts to find out why he did so and challenge him. Funnily enough, I didn't react when he told me, I just said it's all right as I envisaged it earlier. With the reasons he gave me, my heart was broken and felt there was no need to push further. He was surprised with how calm I was when he told me, personally, I don't believe in forcing someone to love me.

I moved on well but after a week when I was alone and reflecting, the feeling of guilt overwhelmed me that I probably pushed him away with my seemingly “not too caring” attitude. I see myself with him and I never thought we could separate. I showed love and care in my how way and in the best way, I know-how. I did love him wholeheartedly and he knew it but he seemed unable to cope with my private/ less emotional lifestyle.
Nairalanders, did I actually push him away?

Women actually come in different body shapes. Which of the shapes in the picture is mostly your sexual turn on specs?

Mine is CURVY ON THE BOTTOM

Single women over the age of 30 have wasted all their pretty years having a lot of random sex and now they want to find a beta male who will take care of them without having to give him any of her good years. Don't be that sucker.

The above statement is a generalization which does not apply to all SINGLE WOMEN. Some single ladies remain virgin till their 30's . I AM A LIVING WITNESS.

2) SHE HAS TO COME FROM AN INTACT FAMILY WITH ORIGINAL FATHER AND MOTHER
No step-mommies and step-daddies. Children from single mommy homes are 70%/100 not healthy. A mother simply cannot raise healthy children alone or with step-daddies. You want an emotionally healthy wife. Women who grew up with no original father or mother have too much emotional baggage and will not know how to act in a proper family setting.

That is another poor generalization. Many a children are raised by single parents and live healthy moral and social lives. Even some of those you score 70%/100 as not healthy still have have happy marriage.

3) SHE MUST NOT BELIEVE IN DIVORCE
If she mentions the word ‘divorce', praises a friend who got a divorce, or says divorce is an option then she is not a good mate. Throw her back in the water and go fishing some more. To make a marriage work, both the man and wife must think of divorce as no option at all.

Divorce is never the fear of a good Alpha Husband. Even when the woman threatens divorce here and there, the Alpha Husband doesnt give a damn because he knows what to do to make her moan in bed the next moment and forget she ever thinks of divorce.

5)SHE MUST BE FAMILY ORIENTED NOT CAREER ORIENTED
This is going to be the mother of your children and the keeper of your house. An Enlighten man doesn't need two
incomes, he can provide, what he needs is a keeper of home and heart.
Two income households leave the raising of their children to expensive day cares and schools, and then mommy goes to work so they can afford to pay for day care and babysitters. (But hazard I don't want children -then don't get married. The only reason to get married is to have a family).
(But hazard I want a career woman) it doesn't matter, even if she is a career woman when you met she will not be when she is older. No woman wants to work but it takes some of them a long time to figure that out. They waste all their youth playing/working their career and then realize what a huge mistake they made and leave their jobs to take care of their (quite possibly retarded – that's what happens when old ladies have babies) child. How many 45 year old married female lawyers or other professionals do you know?
The women who work in this "affluenza" age do so because they have no choice and they whine about it every day of their life. They would give anything to leave their jobs and take care of their family instead.
No woman truly wants to work. Work is a man's world and always will be. A woman's work should be in the home taking care of the home and children.

This is another wrong notion. Though not all women can balance family and career, some have succeeded very well both at family and career fronts.

6)SHE MUST BE A "GOOD"GIRL
She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a olosho past, and she
cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking.
You cannot turn a LovePeddler into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce.
(But hazard are you saying all party girls, smokers and drinkers are Whores?Yes).
The fewer sexual partners your wife has had, the better. The ideal wife should be a virgin. Remember: The more sexual partners she has had the more likely you are to be divorced. If you think she needs help or that you are helping her and she is changing then you are being foolish and you are being played. It's going to end badly for you when you get married to a woman like this. Remember party girls are for fun,good girls for marriage.
Always pick a good girl. That means a virgin (or close), family oriented, pleasant, eager to help, a smiler, and patient.

You cannot condemn all girls who had had a dirty past. Many a girls survive their wayward live and end up having blissful married life. The best thing is for such ladies to marry within their social circles and their husbands are sexually satisfied more than husbands who marry a virgin. The ideal wife is not neccessarily a virgin. Some ladies married as virgin cannot satisfy their husband in bed. This is worst when such a lady remains virgin till her 30s before getting married. At this stage, she has developed vagina hypoplasia as result of not putting her vagina into use for a many years. This can constitute sex problem in the marriage. And a marriage with no sexual satisfaction would soon head for the rocks. I prefer to marry a repentant Olosho girl to a virgin in her late 20s and mid 30s.

SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN FROM ANOTHER MAN AKA SINGLE MOMS
In the animal kingdom when a Lion takes over a pride he kills the cubs of other Lions. Raising someone else's child is cuckoldry with your full knowledge and consent.
If you raise someone else's child you will be taking care of another man's seedling and there will always be another man in the picture. Be selfish and keep your wife and children to yourself. They should be yours and only yours. Don't settle for another man's leavings and sloppy seconds.
Here is what women with children do: They have unprotected sex with a alpha,get pregnant, and look for a Beta male to raise the bastard.
or..
She has already been married, had children, and then divorced the father and left. In each case the woman is unfit for marriage.

Not all SINGLE MOMS are unfit for marriage. Calling single moms unfit for marriage is tantamount to attacking the image and reputation of single mums. Rather, it is the issue that makes them become single mums that should be properly addressed. Some single mums have learnt a great deal from their past errors and would make a good wife. Regarding the children of single mums, raising another man's children is not a war crime. Those children are humans too and deserve to survive. You will be making the world a better place by taking those chilfren in and raise them in case their father is not waking up to his fatherly responsibilities. If she is a SINGLE MOM and she has my physical and behavioural specs, I will marry her.

9)SHE SHOULD CHANGE HERSELF FOR YOU
When a woman is in love she will change herself to please and conform to you. Your favourite food will become her new favourite food and she will do things to please you she has never done or liked before.
A woman who doesn't change for you is a woman who does not respect you. Women are not men and should not be held to the standards of men. A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love. She should not be degraded for that because that's what women do.

It is not imperative that a woman change herself for you. This statement is too selfish. What Alpha husbands do is that they convert her interests to fun and roll together with it.

10)SHE SHOULD NOT BE MATERIALISTIC
Nigerian women this days have been indoctrinated since birth to believe in and embrace leeching. They have been
indoctrinated and instructed to believe that they are entitled to a man's money. This causes a great deal of confusion in their minds and, to put it plainly, many of them
are unfit for marriage and raising a family. Especially avoid women who all the thing they know about is money,money and money. If a woman cannot spend money wisely,then she don't deserve it. You should avoid women who have a lazy, entitled, “me-first” attitude.

Not all women are materialistic. For your information, some men are more materialistic

11)SHE SHOULD BE A SMILER
She should smile when she sees you. Her eyes should light up. She should be excited each time she sees you and reward you with her beautiful smile.
A big, bright shining smile from a pretty girl is worth more than any university degree she has, worth more than any
job she has etc. You want a happy woman. You don't want a frowning, nagging, pessimistic bride. Always pick a smiling, warm, happy-go-lucky woman to share your life with.

Alpha Husbands do not wait for her to smile, rather, the make her smile. Alpha husbands are the smiles of their wives.

hazard7:
Marriage is a wonderful institution. You will agree with me that there is nothing as sweet as having the right partner that gives you peace of mind. But sadly, our society has become "A Bonobo Masturbation Society" where marriages priority has been misplaced and turned into something else entirely. Not to worry at the end of this piece you will learn how to pick the right mate.
PREVIEW
You have two options: You will get married or you won't get married. If you will get married then this enlightenment is for you. I will not review whether or not you should get married but I will review how to pick the right wife.
Picking the right wife is of utmost importance. Marriage is a life-long commitment and requires a great deal of forethought. Getting married without a plan and without any forethought is a terrible decision.
Getting married is a business decision. Marriage is a contract between two entities. You've got to enter into it with the ruthless mind of an enlighten businessman for it to work. You've got to pick the right wife like a businessman picks a company to invest in. It shouldn't be left to chance (“love”) –you've got to be pro-active, know what you want and then go after it.
Marriage isn't about love or connecting with your soul-mate. Those are inventions of TV and movies. Marriage is an exchange of resources. Your wife shall provide A and you
will provide B. If your wife doesn't, or won't, provide her share then she should not have the privilege of marriage with you.
Marriage is a contract and you've got to try your hardest to make sure that contract is reinforced. You cannot make the
best decision when you're emotionally love-sick like a 16 year old school boy. No businessman who wants to stay in business will sign a contract in an emotional state of mind and no man who wants to stay married will marry just because he loves a girl. It takes rational,clear-headed planning and thinking to pick the right wife material.

Many of these redpillers here are plagiarists, seeking cheap popularity. This particular case is one too many to disclaim by the Op.

I will be back later to drop my critical view on the issues raised in the post.

Greystone:
hazard7

Give credit to the original source or else this is simply plagiarism.
I knew I had read this article somewhere before.

"How to Pick the Right Wife" by Victor Pride

Some screenshots of the original article.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://boldanddetermined.com/pick-the-right-wife/&ved=2ahUKEwjJ8N_RzuzmAhXCi1wKHQTqDdcQFjAKegQIARAB&usg=AOvVaw1o95cktOvaW_B2rTW-ZvwP&cshid=1578232680033

In fact one girl treated me like that. I ordered for drinks and she started castigating me for not asking her what her favorite drink was.

Ifakiland:
I hate a girl suggesting what she wants on a first date....im the host, you're the guest, you eat whatever I order, not the other way round.

I dislike asking close ended questions like :What is your name, what is your favorite food, how many are you in your family, what's your age etc

SteveOfu:
Please which character do you dislike one not to possess on a first date?

Mine are: Handling your phone 24/7 and always reaching to hold my palm

Isn't this the rubbish IPPIS that they are shouting about? No wonder ASUU is reluctant to join

AAA593:
Ippis joke

Hmmm UNIUYO. I was there for a conference last November. I sent a DM. please, bruh , can you respond?

Sacramento85:
I represent university of uyo, nothing nothing for now.

This is part of what you get when husband and wife live away from one another

ExAngel007:
It seems like things have fallen apart
between footballer, Jude Ighalo and wife
Sonia following their recent social media
antics.

https://www.tori.ng/userfiles/image/2020/jan/05/ighalo.jpg

Jude Ighalo and wife, Sonia


Super Eagles footballer, Jude Ighalo and his
wife Sonia, have deleted each others pictures
from their Instagram pages amidst reports that
their 10-year-old marriage is in crisis.

According to LIB, the couple have been having
a frosty relationship since he built his massive
house in Lagos and has been more in Nigeria
while Sonia and their three children are based
in London.

A look at their Instagram pages yesterday
January 4th, showed that the football star and
Sonia who used to celebrate each other on
Instagram, have deleted every post they made
of themselves.

They also failed to celebrate each other during
their 10th wedding anniversary last year.
See a photo of them at their 9th wedding
anniversary dinner in 2018 below.

https://www.tori.ng/userfiles/image/2020/jan/05/ighalo1.jpg

Also in 2018, the Ighalos wowed Nigerians with
their beautiful Christmas photos but in 2019,
they did not share any Christmas photo:

https://www.tori.ng/userfiles/image/2020/jan/05/ighalo2.jpg

A quick check also showed they are no longer
following each other on Instagram.

https://www.tori.ng/userfiles/image/2020/jan/05/ighalo3.jpeg


Footballer, Jude Ighalo and wife, Sonia, delete
each otherFootballer, Jude Ighalo and wife,
Sonia, delete each other Ighalo shared photos of himself alone as he wished his followers a happy end of 2019 and a Happy New Year 2020

See previous screenshoots of posts they both
made in the past celebrating each other on IG.

https://www.tori.ng/userfiles/image/2020/jan/05/ighalo4.jpg

https://www.tori.ng/userfiles/image/2020/jan/05/ighalo5.JPG

https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2020/1/footballer-jude-ighalo-and-wife-sonia-delete-each-others-pictures-from-their-ig-pages-amidst-reports-of-crisis-in-their-marriage.html

How did you get the revelation of this? By religion, science or something?

sotall:
Where do you wanna go from here?

Everyone that's alive will die. That's the end of Life.


Go and read about the life cycle of Stars . The sun is a star and a time will come it's core will become unstable and it will heat up all nearby planets including earth. No human will survive that

If you were a professional Relationship Councillor, this should not be a remarkable feat because that is your job . But if you were just a random girl he admired, then both of you are losers

Omotayor123:
Met this guy late September, he was in for loving doving and all. Told me I was the perfect definition of what he was looking for in a bride.

This is a well to do single man with chains of businesses, cars, a good house & also working for mining company. He is Responsible disciplined and religious.
Bottom line is He's what any lady would be glad to have.

The thing is, He had problems with his bae & wanted to find solace and comfort with me, forget his Fiancee and moved on.

I could have taken Advantage of their situation, played the Angelic Good wife, hold him tight, pretend to tolerate all his mess & made him forget totally about his bae.
But I see it as a challenge I have to overcome.
Why

I had issues with my fiance, he left to find comfort in the hands of another girl. The girl jumped on the opportunity without hesitation, played the perfect babe and the rest is history...

I couldn't do the same to another girl, i know how heartbreak & betrayal feels.
so I decided to help them for I know their issue isn't beyond repair.

I took my time to let the guy know I am not perfect and equally have my flaws.
I made him see reason why he shouldn't give up and run to a comfort zone each time his relationship has issues.
Their issue was just communication breakdown & lack of understanding. They could fix it if they really want to and ready to shift grounds...

And now, I'm grateful my efforts played off, with my coaching, he realized he was making a mistake taking the risk of throwing a 3 years relationship away for another one which the outcome is yet unknown.

Now they are back Together, settled all differences and their wedding date is set.
I just received an IV to attend their wedding holding on 18th of January 2020.

If i had entered their Picture, it may be impossible or almost imposssible for this great feat to happen.

I couldn't be more proud of myself.

Ladies This Year Let's help ourselves out!
Don't take Advantage of other people's situations
Don't be the reason why a relationship or marriage breaks totally.
Don't let Despiration push you into hurting others.
May God help us, Give us the best of partners and not make us a stumbling block to the happiness of others.

I did well right


Sorry for the Long Epistle
Cc. Lalasticlala help push to Front Page, Let others Learn.
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farano

The Sun becomes dwarf.? What do you imply by that? And how do you arrive at we don't go nowhere from here?

sotall:
You go nowhere from here

You , me , other animals and plants are just a bunch of atoms with energy.

Once you die, you are recycled.

The sun will become old one day and become a white dwarf. Before then, the earth will be gone