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When husband or wife comes to nairaland to tell stories of marital woes they always make themselves look blameless and push the fault to their spouse.

Op you are being economical with the truth. Tell us what you did to your wife instead of dilly dallying because you want to come off as innocent and paint your wife bad.

Toks2008:
I am not sure you are a lady cos if you are, you should know better that ladies have very strange sexuality.

Doesn't change the fact that you lied in that post.

Toks2008:
You get sense.

This is why i laugh at ignorant guys boasting about extra big dick and so on. How naïve they are. I have a lady friend who told me she enjoys getting fingered than having normal penetrative sex.

Only foolish men boast of the ability to please a woman sexually cos a woman is the most complex sexual creation of GOD. No matter how good you may be, just ask a lady how she loves to be sexually satisfied else you may just be fooling yourself thinking you are satisfying her.

@bold, una too dey lie for this nairaland. Why you come add fisi for the explanation? You could have made your point about how female orgasm is complex without telling that lie.

Saintmary:
The school has moved to online classes

Rubbish

The school should be closed permanently.

I heard that the bully students were flown abroadby their parents to prevent any punishments from reaching them.
Even if the demonic children are overseas their parents or relatives should be arrested for trying to prevent justice.

This story breaks my heart everytime.
Why is bullying in Nigerian schools ignored by school authorities?

Klass99:
Now, speaking generally and not specifically to you - I have randomly read people's comments and reactions to the OP, she has been dissed and cruelly insulted, making me wonder if it's her desire for one child or the suggestion of a vasectomy that has people so worked up.

If it's about the child, no one has the right to diss her for it. It's her personal choice and a choice that won't adversely affect any of us, so why the hate towards her? I have seen 2 male users on this forum (at different times on different threads) say they don't like children and they don't want to have them. One said they disturb and make too much noise, the other said he finds them annoying.

No single person on those threads (male or female) dragged nor insulted those guys or even quoted them to ask why or start a sermon about it. One of those users even had 5 likes and 1 share, when I saw his post. But, the moment a woman says something remotely similar or different, like - I want only one child or I like children but I don't want any of my own, that's when the name calling and insults begin, especially from female users towards their own gender.

Is it fear of the opposite gender that makes them stay mute and overlook the comments of male users? Or do they think when a man says that, he knows what he wants BUT when a woman says so, she is selfish, sick, evil and doesn't know what she wants? It's funny how everyone jumps and passes, when the moniker is M, but when it's F, they are all over a thread brutally attacking with full force. The hypocrisy is loud!

t.

Some nairaland women have been so brainwashed by patriarchal society and constant rhetoric that women are lesser that they cannot reason properly again or even put the needs of women first in anything.

Iyaebe:
If it's a man now,he's already bringing different women home to sleep with. Only a woman loves truly,most men don't have a heart, you'll only know this if their penis is put under some lifetime test of fate, they will so betray you without having a second thought.

This one is even too much. Ordinary pregnancy and childbirth, you will see men rushing to start keeping girlfriends because their wife became fat.

This kind disease is too much for men. As soon as the first boil show for the woman skin dem go japa.

Enyimbamercedes:
Please who saw tons of food on the table cos all I saw was a bowl of doritos.

Fake. M

What of the loafs of bread?
You no see am?

Datboredberry:
These grown ass men expect women to not only fight for our rights, but for their rights as well...

They created a system that's not always favourable, they can't deal with the consequences... Tell a man to accept equality, and his ego would stop him from doing so... Yet, they complain that the world conspires against them...

Majority of those in political offices... Those with influence in the society... Are mostly men so I wonder how they are unfortunate victims when they can clearly sway things to their favour...and they even do!

These men here would stand under the sun or under the rain to protest against young boys being trafficked and used as manual labourer... because the perpetrators of human trafficking are most men! So they refuse to fight themselves... And also, they are extremely lazy malicious beings who would rather hate in women actively fighting for girls than for them to get up and be useful...

Unless it's to be internet fraudsters... Or scam white women with false promises of love... These are the only thing the consider worth doing...

I'm not going to devote my all, fighting for boys

...or feel guilty that I prioritise the rights of young girls... I expect men to do the former...it's their obligation as fathers and uncles to educate these children and be decent role models... If they don't care, I won't carry the burden of changing the world alone...

These men have serious mental problems
They want to be superior leaders but want women to fight for them

@bold, you sef your own is even good. You don't want to devote ALL your fighting for boys. Me I will not devote one single fight for them. If OP and his fellow gay misogynists like they can continue hating women.

E no concern me.

bluefilm:
Eyaaaa.... just take a look at her vain statement.

Awwnnnn, take a look at his kidnapper/cultist statement

Datboredberry:
Exactly! The worse is that none of these men complaining here would dedicate a fraction of a second to advocate for the rights of boys... But they would create a hundred threads attacking women who are eorking hard to fight for young girls... It's simply their malice for women rather than love for their fellow men...

Just look at the rubbish blackmail the OP of this thread is using to pass his message across. Telling women that they should advocate the right of males if not they will continue being bitter towards women.
Did we create the anti woman laws that made life difficult for men in the first place? Are females the ones ruling Nigeria and putting policies in place that make life for them ?
These clowns will always find ways to blame women for everything.

bluefilm:
I pity women, seriously.

Such a bunch of vain things always hopping onto the next vain things.

Why not pity your fellow men that are kidnappers and rapists and armed robbers and cultists?
Na men deserve pity pass.

okosunehis:
We all need each other and we all need to help each other.

Simple.

Every gender has roles they play in keeping society running smoothly. No gender is inferior or less inportant and no gender is superior demigod that can carry burden of the world on his head.

We should help and be kind to each other.

Datboredberry:
I dare you to tell your friends that a younger woman raped you... The men in the group would laugh... Even ask if it was fun...

I see alot of young men joke how they want to be raped and i feel so disappointed... Because when it happens, who would take them seriously? It's all fun and games, right?

Dont mind him.
Nigerian men like playing victim. If a man says he was molested by a woman, his fellow men will mock him and disregard his complain.
The same molested man will still blame women for the fact that Male sexual assault is not taken seriously.

LutanFyah:
We own Africa and everything inside (including you and your gender) and you can never do anything about it.


We will continue to do what we like with it till the end of time and there's nothing you and your gender can do about it ( you can rant though).

I hope the Op of this thread reads this comment to understand why men are neglected.

You males keep perpetuating the notion that females are inferior and weak and incapable of doing what men can do.
Now that partriarchial bullshit is making men bear unfair burden because they turned themselves to superior demigods they will still come out to blame women for their suffering.

Silly nitwits.

Farfalla:
Yes, they have a problem with females in general, but it's usually more amplified with the well-to-do females. The ones living better than them. Just have a solid source of income and live a relatively comfortable life, and they'll start having heart palpitations.

There is one neanderthal who claimed in some discussion that women who own cars are likely to be disrespectful to elders.
Owning a car, a gadget that helps one to move from point A to B will make a woman disrespectful.

They're more forgiving of struggling females though. The ones they can threaten with "I'll send you back to your father's house!"

Honestly, very toxic enemies of progress wit backward thinking.
I feel so sorry for the girls or women that relate with them on a daily basis.

3minssex:
House work and cooking isn't beneath anybody. Anybody that can eat should cook.

Okay. I have heard.

3minssex:
People don't do this already?
Y'all should drop the mentality of being "receivers" and start giving too. Having or spending money shouldn't be gender based.
Drop the one-sided/non-mutual mentality y'all carry into relationships.

Its usually men that say housework like cooking and child care is beneath them. Women all over the world hustle and work in offices to provide for their families.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Is the man better than you? you can also help a less privileged just as he has done. Gifting is not gender-based. The moment you see life outside being a receiver the better the lives of people around you.

Can you also help your fellow woman go to market and cook for her when she is hungry?
Helping is not gender based.

Why are males in this forum so bitter ro females?
Is it our fault that Buhari is twisting your neck with hunger so you dont know who to transfer frustration to again?

Mayflowa:
I do not think we are on the same page. In my view, bossing around is different from submission. Do you intend to take the headship of the home because you are more fortunate to provide bread? Won't you still accord your husband the respect he deserves as a human being. Do you mean that men do not respect their wives they provide for? I respect my wife while in Nigeria and oversea. My brothers all do in Nigeria. Women have their subtle and feminine way of controlling a man whether rich or poor. I am taking about letting men take to demeaning and roles because you provide for him. I hope you noticed I was careful not to insult you in both of my position unlike you!

Oga I didnt insult you anywhere stop being sensitive.

The same bible or quran that taught you men should be the leader of their homes also said men should provide.

If he cannot provide he has NO BUSINESS demanding submission from the person feeding him. That is absolute rubbish. He should humble himself and let his wife take final decisions.

baby124:
The man has to be very humble. Some men will be dirt poor and walking around with ego, doing everything to destroy what the wife has accumulated so that he will be better than her. They can’t see past their ego. That building on what she has will be to the benefit of their family. A woman has to be wise and know who the husband is before parting with huge sums of money.

Some will even dump the woman that helped them once they make it. Because they want someone who does not know their poverty story. So, Don’t blame women who don’t part with their money.

Women generally know how to manage money far better than men. A wise man should seek his wife’s advice if she is successful. She must be doing something right.

Men always trying to prove to their peers that things are still great even when they are struggling. If you perfect humility, contentment and a lack of need to show off or compete in this life. You will go very far.

Go to clubs and see men who don’t have jobs spending their wives money on bottles to impress people who don’t care. Dem plenty. Kings of fake life.

Thank you for saying it so intelligently.

Some stupid women on this thread are supporting the man as if they don't live in Nigeria and know how things work here.

Idaytesj29:
Yes, and some women are also guilty of this exact point. Fed, bankrolled and have her set up in business and still cheats.

Men cheat very boldly and with impunity. They see it as their god given right. A woman who is fed and bankrolled and wants to cheat will NEVER be so bold to let their husbands know unless they want to end the marriage.

Mayflowa:
You should not apply this reasoning here. The main fact you have money changes everything. I have never seen an husband boss a rich wife around. The man is usually humble and homely except she wants him to put his head in her butt.

I will apply whatever reasoning makes sense in the situation. I don't know what country you live in that makes you think husbands don't expect submission from the same wives that provide for them.
When a woman provides she is still expected to be subordinate to the man and treat him like a leader and never let anyone know she is helping him. What kind of rubbish is that?

If men are the sole breadwinners they expect complete submission from their wives and they love announcing to the whole world how providing is very hard for them and how they are under pressure because their wife is not working.
But when women are providers they are expected to be understanding and sensitive and submissive to the man's needs.

Arrant nonsense.

cococandy:
If their financial needs are met in that arrangement and the responsibilities are fairly allocated, Why should there be friction?
All this telling someone to be honest with themselves Just to avoid admitting that y’all want women who contribute financially while being 100% the home keepers.

Women can see through y’all’s bullshiet. That’s the reason for the friction. You want to eat your cakes and have it.
Consider telling yourself that truth

Honestly, very selfish and entitled people.

Then the idiot will become a millionaire with the money his wife supported him with and still start sleeping around and cheating on her in the name of natural polygamousness.

Imagine what Cubana chief priest said the other day, that it is normal for men to cheat on their wives as long as he keeps the side chick away from his wife. This is how almost all men in Nigeria reason. Imagine financially supporting an entitled turd that thinks cheating in you is normal.
Rubbish

Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

The problem with giving Nigerian men money is that you will give him money for his upkeep and business and at the same time be expected to submit to him. Nigeria isn't like western societies where husband and wife see each other like friends and partners. In Nigeria the man has the final say in marriage as he is expected to be the Head and leader.

A woman in USA or UK can provide for her husband with no qualms because the husband sees her as an equal partner and would never disrespect her bacause he was raised to see females as inferior. Not in Nigeria where religious and traditional laws have made men see women as inferior and less than men. Imagine providing for a man that still has no problems treating you as inferior to himself.
Haba

It would be very unfair to the woman to provide and still be expected to be the subordinate in the marriage, let's not kid ourselves here. Nobody wants to be taken advantage of like that.

Rich men in Nigeria can give their wives money because they get the wife's submissivenes and obedience in return, what the hell do Nigerian women have to gain if they start providing for husbands? She will end up being provider and home maker and submitter all at once while her husband just lives off her and bosses her around.

cocolacec:
The baby was in a breech position so it was pulled out of the mother with body and head seperated.

So sorry to hear this. I have been feeling down since you mentioned what the doctor did.
Ask a nurse for more information. They should know what to do.
Sorry dear, please take heart.

cocolacec:
I need to write the medical board so he doesnt do it to another baby.

Live or dead baby?
Was it during an operation?
Tell medical board but also tell police

OP if your mom being violent means all Nigerian women are bad then the fact that men are majority armed robbers and cultists and scammers and kidnappers and terrorists, herdsman etc means that men are nothing but hopeless animals.

Asadujames202:
Who's a child

13 year old girl is no longer a child


Who fixed the age of consent?

Will you allow your 13 year old daughter get married and start having children?
Talk true and shame the devil

cocolacec:
He severed a baby’s head.

My goodness

Call police please, this one is not medical association matter again.

cocolacec:
Please who do i address the letter to
Official address,email or postal address where the complaint will be looked into.
Sissy3,dominique
Front page please i need answers.

What did the doctor do?