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elantraceey:
It's simple. People should stop paying attention to what people say because no matter what you do, people both men and women will still talk. If you drop your 3 months old baby you laboured 9 months for at a crèche because of what people say, then that's even the lamest excuse available.

Elantraceey
It seems you are very savvy in the world of online work.
Do you care to start a thread or whatsapp group to help women become more enlightened on some online jobs they can do while taking care of their small babies.
You could be saving a child's life by providing this information. Thank you.

Nigerian men are just confused and foolish he-goats.

Everything is the woman's fault in you people's dumb brains.
If she stays at home to care for her child while you provide then she is a liability. If she goes to work to provide then she is a wicked feminist that wants to rub shoulders with men.

Brainless oafs. These are the fools married women have to deal with everyday.

Baseless statistics from worthless unreliable company.

The useless idiot that took this topic to front page has a female child but keeps promoting hatred for the female gender on nairaland.

That's what my friend told me just now oo, no be me talk am

Op ignore the advice of the males on this thread. Many men are typically selfish and self centered and like blaming everything on women. Notice how they started blaming you in the first page by asking if you didn't notice it while dating?
Meanwhile if a wife was the one wasting family finances like this they would rip her apart with insults without asking if her husband noticed anything.

If the only reason you want to divorce him is the gambling, and you know he is okay in other aspects, like he is caring, helpful, nice to you, respects you etc, please give him an ultimatum to stop gambling before embarking on divorce. Or try to convince him to let you be the one controlling family funds/account so he does not have access to gambling with it.
If he still doesn't change after your ultimatum expires then leave him.

But if he is not even a good person to start with and has now started gambling on top then don't waste time to leave that house. Marriage itself is overhyped, don't kill yourself just to remain married. Many married women are living lives of single mothers even while living with their husband's in the same house, they have no love for their spouses and don't even talk to them in some cases but they stay there just to be able to claim Mrs somebody.

Marriage is seriously overhyped for women.
Especially in this Era of worthless males that can no longer provide for their families but are waiting for their wives to feed them.

cococandy:
No he offered her a name.
like she was nameless before he met her.
Don’t forget the ‘protection’ too

What do they even mean when they say they offer "protection"?
Protection from what exactly?
Deluded lot.

ume1000:
men: I offer fd**k
women :I offer p***y

Men:i offer protection
women:have given all

Men :money for upkeep of the home
Women : got nothing left

Men: I offer you a name(my name)
Women:got no name to give

But you didn't add the part where the man carried his kids in his womb and raised his kids by himself while the woman stood by saying she has nothing left to give.
Oya complete the conversation.

ZUBY77:
You can't change the fact that we are the Lords. You can cry for eternity, nothing changes.

Violent, criminally inclined gender are lords. That's why the world is so messed up. Especially Africa. Because selfish, heartless gender are the ones running things.

ZUBY77:
You can't change the fact that we are the Lords. You can cry for eternity, nothing changes.

Violent, criminally inclined gender are lords. That's why the world is so messed up. Because selfish, heartless gender are the ones running things.

Can you imagine gender of rapists, killers and criminals thinking they can open their mouths to criticize females.

Madness.

ZUBY77:
I heard she is the one taking are of the entire family. Why not send the kid to school when he is one week old?
Ndi table.

Why not one day old?
Since men have decided that women should carry child care and breadwinning on their heads.
Nonsense gender.

ZUBY77:
But seriously, how could a mother leave a child less than one year to the Care of others in the name of school? What exactly is this one going to Learn that she can not teach him at home? And what exactly will she be doing at home to the extent of leaving him out there?
The baby looks unhappy

No be una slay women must work and bring something to the table?
Abi will she now back baby to her office or wherever she works?

Just look at the hypocrisy on this thread......

Anybody who does this type of scam or intends to do it, may their life spoil.
Many Nigerians are too heartless.

All these fantasies from lazy yoot guys that have nothing to offer.

SUPERPACK:
I will go back and create another.

You don't understand
What if it's hacked before you get a chance to withdraw your earnings?

You will have gone back in time for nothing

SUPERPACK:
Red pill = I will go back in time then use my university school fees and buy BTC at 100/$ when 2009 comes again, I will get about 80,000 btc then sell them when we reach 2021 again at ATH and get $7 Billion.

What if your Bitcoin account gets hacked?

IbrahimSkiba:
Imagine the kind of piece of SHIT that hits frontpage


Nairaland has lost its glory

This site just posts threads that draw traffic to Frontpage. Mods don't care about the quality of frontpage threads. Coupled with the fact that 80% of nairaland members are jobless, wretched small boys so your guess is as good as mine what topics will make front page.

Nairaland men complain too much. How can you claim to be more rational and logical gender but you are always whining like crybabies.
Everyday, all day.

Nigerian doctors are just an arrogant and snobbish group of people.

They really think because they are doctors so they can do the work of every other medical practitioner.

Their arrogance is very irritating.

So many bitter, bitter leaves in this thread.
Including the mod that took it to front page.

Ladies will always prefer richer men. If una like vex, it won't change anything.

somehow:
Working doesn't mean you should not have time for your children, it's all about planning.

There are various ways to make money and still have time for your children.

Using work as an excuse to send a 1yr 7 months to school is sick.

I have a 2yr+ old daughter at home and won't be starting school until she can talk or September.

Enough of this excuses.

Plan your life, if you don't have a job that gives room for child raising, defer child bearing till you can save enough to be around him/her.

In this jet age, working is not limited to 6am to 8pm. You can work from home and still earn more than those queueing at the bustop everyday of the week just to prove they are working.

Why can men not be the providers they are supposed to be instead of forcing women to be full time mothers and breadwinner at the same time?

If a man knows he wants his wife to dedicate her time to raising kids then he should save enough to support his wife and children until the children are old enough to talk or express themselves.

You are talking about working from home as if 90% of online jobs don't require full time dedication before workers can make any meaningful amount of money.


If you know you have business ideas that can let you work from home and make more money that those working 6 to 8 then take those jobs up as a part time job instead of expecting your wife to care for kids and pay bills at the same time.

shinealight:
The place of modern-day womanhood is really pitiful. Why should they be seeking to compete with men in earthly dominance and contro? Is that what the Creator has ordained.
Why did the Creator make it such that only womanhood can bring forth offsprings?
Look at the physical build of manhood and compare it to the delicate one of genuine womanhood…is the Creator not already telling you something thereby?
Look at the nature and tendencies as well as the ‘manner of working’ of man (aggressive, domineering, forceful, etc,) and compare that with that of genuine womanhood (gentle, accommodating, peace-loving, etc,).
If we think deeply about it, we realise that our vocations are meant to be different as willed by our Creator!
So, a genuine woman should not be striving to compete with a man in terms of bringing food to the table…particularly when she has started bringing children into the world. If she has to engage herself to supplement/support her partner, she should be wise enough to choose vocations that will allow her pay due attention and care to her growing offsprings…..it’s a matter of prioritising things!
There are professions like teaching (which allows maximum holiday periods that they can go into, as well as self-employment which provides the flexibility required to enable them play their role in the lives of those children they agreed to bring into the world.
It they are unwillingly to make the necessary sacrifices, they should desist from bringing children into the world that they cannot look after as Willie by the Creator. The spiritual price they have to pay can be quite heavy….possibly irredeemable!

First of all, women who work are not competing with their husbands in anything, the economy is hard coupled with the fact that husbands tend to resent wives who contribute nothing financially to the running of the home so the women end up taking up jobs to avoid insults and disrespect from their husbands that see them as leeches.
Even here on nairaland you see guys insulting women who don't have a job and advicimg each other to only marry working women so how can you blame the women for taking up jobs and say it because they want to compete with men?
The average Nigerian male doesn't even want to marry a jobless woman.

As for taking up jobs that are flexible; you are just speaking idealistically. How many of these flexible jobs actually pay well enough to make any impact or any difference in the woman and her children's lives? Is it teaching that the salary is 15k and the teacher spends like 5k on transport alone or petty trading that fetches about 10k monthly?


Many men don't even appreciate their wives that do these petty jobs because the women are barely contributing anything financially so the men think they are the only ones providing.


It's better for males that don't want their wives to neglect his infant kids, to work to double his hustle and possibly get multiple jobs instead of bullying their wives into getting 9-5 jobs that require dumping new born infants in daycare from dawn to dusk.

I thought tithe payment is among old testament laws that have passed away?

You pay tithebut you don't stone adulterers and cut off the hand of thieves?

Or you people just pick and choose what laws to follow from the Bible?

olabrinks:
I know the amount of men that tried to have sex with me from age 13-17. Men who were well into their 40s. Now at 26 looking back, I realise how a lot of men have no sexual control, and it ruins their life. A man with self discipline has extreme favour.

Oh your own was 13 years?
My own was since 11 years old when I started fending off horny_ bastards and learning that many males are nothing but creatures controlled by their sex urges. They don't even care the age of the person they are sleeping with.

moralistic:
she is not working...hahahahhahh...you just felt like reacting as most nairalanders

Who told you she's not working?

moralistic:
you are right..but what is a one Year seven months doing in school ?

So that the mother can go to work and not be a liability to her husband.

shinealight:
What is a one year, seven months old baby doing in a nursery school in the first place? He’s a baby for Heaven’s sake and should be in the care of his parents at home. This desire to rob our children of their childhood years by foisting early intellectual learning on them is getting on the ridiculous. Let children be children and let them enjoy their childhood years. One day, we will ALL answer to our Creator how we treated these children!

But you people said stay at home moms are liabilities that bring nothing to the table so mothers now drop even 3 months old babies in creche to go to work.

That baby was having trouble breathing, they should have gotten a nurse or doctor to help him instead of filming.

And the men advising her to fight for the man, you people should get out.
Women tolerate and forgive SOOO much in their marriages that's why husbands have the liver to keep misbehaving and cheating without remorse.

Imagine a married man abandoning his kids because of one small rat outside, instead of you people to point out his irresponsible behavior you are telling his wife to fight for him as if the man is a zombie that did not make the decision on his own.
If she fights this girl today and tomorrow he starts chasing another girl should she also fight that one?
And whatever number of loose girls her stupid husband chases in future?

If a woman leaves her husband and kids for her boyfriend you idiots will never advice the husband to fight for her but you expect wives to fight for idiotic, irresponsible husbands.