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These perverted animals supporting pedophilia will still be the ones opening their rotten mouths to badmouth women online.

See how they are justifying their pedophilia first, just imagine:
"Oh some of them are spoilt, they are already having sex", "some are big bodied and have big breast",
Rubbish
Own your status as a pedophile, stop blaming small girls for your perversions.

Personally I believe that majority of men think like OP, they are just ashamed to admit it openly.

sex-obsessed superior gender indeed.

It will never change
Women naturally have lower libido than men, they don't have as much testosterone as men so lower sex drive, they give birth and breastfeeding further lowers their already lower sex drives,
Breadwinning and housework stresses them and lowers their sex drives, their two minutes unsatisfactory orgasm-less sex with their husbands causes resentment and lowers sex drive, realizing how unfair marriage can be to women with them carrying majority of house labour and hustling just like husband and then harbouring more resentment.


It's just a part of life that will never change in africa.
It's different in western countries with more liberal views and fairness and non judgemental attitude to sex.

Weneda:
madam u dey vice o. Lol

Sorry

Let a woman start a thread like this now, frustrated bitter nairaland men will fill the next ten pages with their frustration.

These are things partners do for each other on a healthy relationship. You try to do things to make each other happy and make life easier for each other.

Chiquitq:
I left him due to fear of losing my limbs, my life , my sanity or all three. He has since moved in with a much richer woman and is playing daddy to her teenage sons. If I tell you my story, you would think I made it up. He was a big scam and remorseless gold digger.

Sorry to hear that, please accept my heartfelt sympathy.

Many men ain't shit.

Forget him and be happy, good thing you were able to escape.

Lucyspa:
Sis, leave them. Dem go soon hear word.

Honestly, when they get married their mumu eyes go clear

Palema007:
If there's anyone not making sense and would love to remain that way, it is you. Learn to be open minded.

Have a nice night rest!

Fvck off.

Palema007:
And I wonder why you lot will prefer to believe what goes on in your heads alone and not what's real. Quick question? Does your husband pay All the bills in the house? If yes! Are you in a Master- slave relationship /marriage?
Do you do all the chores in the house?
Does he shut you up everytime?
Is your voice never heard in the house?
Do you not work?
Are you caged in the house?
Are you treated as a intimacy gadget?
Does your opinion not count?

I wonder why you all monetize everything though, so because you bear his surname, carry your own babies, breast your own child, you should be paid? The foolishness in your mentality is that most of you still work 9-5 jobs everyday but come here to claim nonsense!

"9 months to bear a child into his lineage" see nonsense talk, were you forced to marry him? Is the child not yours too? Damn! This is so sick!

Oga enjoy your thread Abeg, I knew you will definitely find a way to justify what you have been writing even if it doesn't make sense.

Magnoliaa:
And this is what people try to attribute feminism to: saying it caused women to be working double-shifts, to shoot themselves in the legs, and be cheated...

I don't believe that. I see conservative women trying to appropriate liberal ideals. They want to be financially-contributing submissive women or something like that...

They don't want to be judged as leeches and they don't want to be seen as (being) <too> progressive. *shrugs*

@bold,

That is such stupidly pathetic behaviour and its done to please males that are typically selfish and self centered.

Palema007:
Lol... I'm a Christian.

OK so I hope you will be willing to follow scripture and submit to your husbands authority completely after marriage? Do that while also paying his bills and contributing to his upkeep. All while you are bearing his surname and all your kids bore through 9 months of hardship and hours of labour belong to his family and his lineage.
You share provision which is his major responsibility

Does he share leadership with you?
Does he share pregnancies and Labour and breastfeeding?
Does he let some of your kids bear your own name?
Does he think he is equally responsible for housework, cooking and childcare etc?

Palema007:
Here's the reality of things... Only little percentage of Men in Nigeria can foot the whole family bills, either ways Wives contribute financially, so tell me what part of patriarchy favors women in the real sense?

Would you rather be treated like a trophy in a relationship only to start blowing air into firewood with your mouth in marriage? Let's be realistic please. It's best when two financially stable people come together.

Ok
Are you Christian or Muslim

Lucyspa:
So u mean to say that a woman really has no value except when she pays bills. Gosh.... I'm so pissed. So all those invaluable things such as cooking, cleaning, birthing children and even taking care of them is really nothing till i split bills. Who brainwashed we women like this? . The reality of today's world especially in Nigeria is that a woman has to set a home running at a fast pace of 80% while a man can chip in a miserly 20%. I keep going on the internet to see different miserable standards set by men and women holding on to the standards to show how independent they really are. I pity for u lots. Let men keep shifting the only responsibility they have been accorded to you, u hear? Keep proving how much of a robot u are. The funny thing is that in all this clamour for financial equality on both parties, i have never seen where men are asked to be actively involved in chores. So as a woman, u are expected to change ur surname, cook, clean, birth children, take care of them and still split bills. Wow. Weldone to all the super women out there. Y'all rewards are in heaven #notformethough.

When they get married their eyes go clear.
Is it not Nigerian men?
The men will still expect them to continue being independent in marriage.
They will remind you that you were taking care of yourself before marriage so why are you now turning into someone else?

Miss independent, miss independent, that's how they will marry a stingy man that has no interest in providing for them or a man that expects his wife to be obedient submissive slave and co-provider.

Look at the lamentations of these two women that were doing miss independence before marriage


https://www.nairaland.com/6173928/life-story#94833128


https://www.nairaland.com/6173928/life-story/1#95793133

I hope men are not expecting their girlfriends to cook for them or wash and I hope they have sense to not treat their girlfriends like inferior gender since everyone is now playing equal roles.

Let's erase patriarchy completely not just the parts that favour women.

felixjet:
you should try to understand what you read before commenting. there was a full stop before 'due to marriage'.
some of her friends got married or relocated, she wasn't referring to herself.

Abeg shift mister try to understand

She didn't use her punctuations correctly in that entire post, the full stops in the post were wrongly placed and that made the sentence confusing

AFONAMARO:
This mentality of yours made me realize my kids are before of as my beneficiary

That is also completely fine

Trayceey:
I'm not married

Oh, ok what does this mean

Trayceey:
Good day good people.

So I created this thread because I'm in search of one or two good female friends. Due to marriage, relocation etc. I lost contact with most of my good friends

AddictedToTech:
It's like husband house no hungry you stay again abi?

No worry gbo'oko gbo'oko go soon kon come chance you comot

She is married means she shouldn't have a social life?

Smile4mee01:
There was a thread here on Nairaland where a poster said. Most men don't appreciate the multiple roles the wives play and still you want them to work their heads off to provide to the finances of the family, something that is solely the mans responsibility.

She lamented that women

1. Go thorough a lot to have children for men, and indeed some loose their lives in that process. From puberty to menopause, they bleed every month for reporductivuty sake. These children bear the mans name not thiers.

2. Do house chores and domestic duties at home.

3. Ensure their husbands are sexually satisfied.

4. And still have to work on top of it to provide to family income.

Growing up, I always thought women took pride in these roles, but it does appear some women feel they are doing the men a favor. And would have wished nature had not put women under such circumstances. Thier love and desire for children was built in favor of the man to continue his lineage. Their body was designed for this purpose to please man. In a nutshell, she was created for the man to achieve his purpose, and not the other way around.

Some women even argue that Nature is not balanced and fair to them. While can no longer have children in her 50's the Men can still father a child at the same age.


Unfortunately Life is getting harder for Men making relationships tougher on women. Anywyaz

It makes me wonder if some women recent being women ? Is it becoming more difficult to carry out such responsibilities? Do women feel purposeless sometimes ? What can men do to ease the burden ?

NB: This is not a thread to bash women, but to understand them better.

Moderator, please front page.

Lol, women dont resent being women.

What they resent is sacrificing their entire lives and ambitions and comforts and then being treated poorly, not taken seriously or unappreciated and regarded as inferior.

Another thing they resent is the fact that marriage these days has been reshaped and bent out of place to favour men while women barely get anything out of it.

Look at the traditional rules regarding marriage, yes women according to Abrahamic religions are supposed to bear kids that follow husband's lineage and bear his name while being home keepers and submissive. While men are meant to be providers (if he can't provide he is an infidel) and protectors that love their wives like christ loved the church. In Islam a man is obligated to buy whatever he buys for himself for his wife as well, if he buys clothing, he must also buy cloth for his wife,if he buys snacks he must buy for her and so on.

But many men these days, either due to economy or selfishness, have weaseled out of their duty as provider and lovers. How many men these days love their wives with all the cheating and infidelity going on left and right? How many Muslim men buy whatever they buy for themselves for their wives?

Inspite of the fact that women are now so providers, many men still want to be dictators like idi amin and control their wives lives and some even demand their salaries, ogbeni it doesnt work that way, you can't relax on your biblically assigned duties then you want to enforce that women do everything in scriptures 100%

Many men dont even believe they should help out with cooking or cleaning or taking care of children and these are men whose wives work and provide.

So what women are resenting is the way the system has been panel beated out of place to make it unfair and burdensome for women.

Nairaland men are just crybabies that refuse to reason rationally if they read something that does not favour them.

Reasons why women don't use husband as next of kin have been outlined here but they want to behave like blockheads and refuse to accept reality.

Insult and generalize negatively about women as much as you like but facts remain, no woman wants to die and then have her husband spend her life savings on another wife. in Nigeria after a wife dies, there is 80% possibility that her husband will marry another woman and even stop showing concern for her children and abandon them with the new wife, that's why you see many cases of step mothers treating step kids like garbage while the father is still alive.

Secondly you men need to remove your eyes from your wives money, only una want submissive obedient wife that cleans up after you and is your life time home keeper, child-rearer, you still want to spend the money of that same woman that you want to control her life. Make una reduce your selfishness abeg.

Chiquitq:
It is right to marry one's true best friend and it settles all these matters. In reality, using a husband as next of kin is the right thing to do but women generally assume that if they die, he would own all their property and still marry another wife or spend it on another woman. on the other hand, a man knows that a normal woman would take care of her children first even if they end up remarrying after their husband dies. It is more common for men to cheats woman than for a woman to cheat a man. If a man does not use his wife as next of kin, his family can cheat his wife but it is rare for a wife's family to try to inherit her property after she died if she is survived by a husband.

When I was married, I used my husband as my next of kin only because he would kill me if I did not and he would surely go out of his way to find out. He used me as his next of kin only because he had no educated close family member and is enemies with the educated brother. He also trusted me so much that I am not the type to squander anything if he should die and high possibility that I would not remarry. Even though we both used each other as next of kin, it was for the wrong reasons.

Thank you for sharing,
Did you divorce him or did he pass? Am just curious what happened that you are no longer married

Na the evidence part naim funny me pass
Evidence for what?
You want to report your wife to police for not cleaning her yansh well so you need evidence abi wetin?

Anyway op please talk to your wife about washing her pant daily and she should wipe her butt with tissue first then water afterwards to avoid skid marks.

Iyamma

Lucyspa:
True. Men have so much audacity to demand for they want and women on the other hand, keep on adjusting to meet the standard men and society have placed for them. To be honest, men are naturally selfish and audacious.

In fact the thing tire me.

Sarita01:
True,they don't give anything back,they're like a black hole sucking up every thing but giving back nothing,a man in my area beats his wife everyday,forming alpha male on her even when everyone knows she out earns him and provides basically everything in the house,even gives him money to fund his business but he can't even give her love(that is free),he can't give back respect,he can't give back appreciation,he can't give back peace of mind,he can't give back attention,he practically couldn't give back things that are free,then how can he give back things that are worth money. Babe,only give all of you to a man who gives you all of himself,choose yourself above others. No concessions allowed only compromise

You sabi am

All these jobless poor men na them dey form alpha male pass, their insecurities will not let them admit that they owe their wives gratitude for supporting them, they see their wives as inferior even while she is the one feeding and housing them.

That's why I will always advice girls to avoid poor struggling broke men like a plague, if in future she becomes more successful than him he will only try to use her and vent his frustrations on her, if he is the one that becomes successful, he will start looking for younger finer girls that he could not get when he was poor.

Some women still think men have women's best interest at heart when they say girls should marry poor men.

dominique:
Lol they've started wailing in my mentions

Don't mind them, they've putting pressure on the women to carry their responsibilities so they can squander their own money on girlfriends and frivolities. Some many homes nowadays are being financed by the wife, but they will come online and be shouting we're breadwinners blablabla

Almost everywhere I look I see different women hustling different businesses till late in the night, then I come online and see the men shouting we are breadwinners,women bring nothing to the table yen, yen then I wonder if I'm living in an alternate universe. That's why in times of death, divorce or separation, the woman can stay in her own raising her kids while the man remarries as soon as possible. Who needs who more now?

Personally I don't know one single woman that has no job, no matter how small, I don't know why men are always crying and wailing about providing,
There is this very young girl I used to work with that was running two jobs to put herself through University, she was a front desk clerk and was also making pastries and cakes for an event planning company. Many women run side hustles like online trading or makeup artists etc

It's only on Nairaland that women are liabilities that bring nothing to the table.

Sarita01:
You're so very right I've seen where a man told his wife to quit her job cos she was earning more than to come and manage 60k every month,men are becoming very very confused on what they want,theres no way a woman can be submissive and independent at the same time,if you want a working class woman,go for her if you want a slave go for her(it's called choice). Most men don't want feminists as wife but they don't want to assume the role of a patriarch.
Truly the usefulness of men is depreciating very fast,I have a friend whose father is as useless as the p in psychology,her mother does everything for them down to their bathing soap,while the man is Hale and hearty,the mother works 24/7 to take care of her children,if asked about her father,she'll tell you that he's dead,that man is just a living example of uselessness. Marriage is all about compromise not concessions,if you want us to share the bills let's share the chores,it's as simple as that,many men think house chores is a woman's duty but refuse to admit that providing for the family is a man's duty,such warped views. I'm all for equality in whatever we do,I can't be considered an inferior being in the society then expected to do what my supposed superiors should be doing. The major place a woman's monetary help is needed is when it concerns the children(splitting fees and basic necessities the children needs). If he wants more then he can go kick rocks.

Smart comment, many men in Nigeria are depending 100percent on their wives but women don't announce it because of shame, if a man is the one supporting his wife 100percent, he go insult her tire.
Men are naturally selfish and self centered creatures

That's why they keep demanding heaven and earth from women but don't want to give anything back.

dominique:
There's hardly a family I know where the wife doesn't cover a considerable amount of family expenses, so I don't know where all this crying and groaning is coming from. So in addition to taking care of kids and unending house chores, there's now pressure on the Nigerian wives to provide for the family. What exactly is the usefulness of the Nigerian husband in the 21st century? If only (working class) women know the type of favour they're doing this men in getting married to them, they won't be so desperate for marriage.

They have no usefulness at all, none.

In many cases, once the woman starts earning considerable amount of money, the men abandon breadwinning for them and start spending their money on frivolities like carrying girls up and down.

Only them want to boss women around and expect submission from women but the same women must be earning money to feed them an pay their bills, these same women must throw away their fathers name after marriage and start bearing the name of a man she is feeding and paying his bills.

Nisland:
why is always common on nigerian.if they're looking for male child or female they will be pregnant till when it's reach amount of children they will not take care.

It's better you unfollow me because I write a lot of anti Male posts.

Skepticus:
What are the valuable benefits of marriage to men these days outside raising kids and the deception called companionship?

There is no benefit to marrying them oo, only men benefit from marriage, the children a woman bears answer their fathers name and add to fathers lineage,
Even companionship you spoke of na scam because the idiots will still cheat on their wives or attempt to cheat on her.

The only thing they used to do before which is provide, they cannot do it again and these days many women are the ones carrying the family.

Very useless people.

Men these days are the ones who are liabilities in marriage, very lazy and entitled golddiggers.

You want a woman that will be breadwinner and share the bills but you cannot share cooking and cleaning house and taking care of children equally. No, you still expect women to be in charge of the household even while she is stressing herself to provide money.

Marrying men of these days has no benefit whatsoever, it's just losses after losses, fvcking liabilities.

Thanks for this thread OP, majority of Nigerians are very traditional and will not understand the point you are trying to make, you see people who are struggling to feed having 3 or 4 kids, I knew a woman like that who gave birth to four girls and was trying to get pregnant again because her jobless husband wanted a Male child, they could not pay houserent anymore because of expenses and they had to relocate to outskirts of town into a smaller house.

tosinhtml:
This is a very good observation, a certain dude called DHTML18 who use to be a broken record on the programming section made me create an account back then in 2014, the Idiot used to say a lot of rubbish that gets me agitated. Airforce1 was another person who constantly makes me laugh with his Yahoo Boy posts that I had come online & fake praise the guy, so I can selfishly continue to be entertained by him

@bold, hahaha

You are not nice at all

Airforce has calmed down now sha

You must be a very cool and calm person in real life for you to read Nairaland for 6 years without feeling agitated enough to react to something and post reply.


Either that or you are a liar and this is not your only account.