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PraisePiano:
Hello guys....

I’m gonna be brief as possible...so I met this girl 6 months ago online and we fell inlove after getting closer to each other then we started dating. I noticed she’s a kind of lady that enjoys slaying and keeping female friends which are not really presentable to me. I talked to her about it she said they are just friend and their mode of dressing doesn’t define who they are.
I overlooked it and stopped mentioning stuffs like that to her even tho I didn’t like it but just to make peace reign because she’s a type that gets upset when I try to correct her so sometimes I apologize even tho she’s wrong Because I love her and have waited a long time to get into a relationship after my heart was messed up by my ex last year. So I just kept pampering her and tolerating her attitudes.

We stay far from each other she stays at ikorodu while I stay at Abulegba so we don’t get to see often she was suppose to come visit me on sat 8th of this month considering that we’ve not seen in a month due to her busy schedule according to her, but she gave me an excuse of her going to her friend’s birthday party she can’t afford to miss as a understanding guy I said “no problem even tho I’ll miss you but I got no choice” so throughout that Saturday I heard from her only at night asking her how she was she told me she was weak so I told her to get some rest. The next day which was Sunday we spoke after church service on phone briefly and then to my surprise, she started uploading video of her in a concert with Nigerian top artists performing I was shocked I asked her if she went to a concert the previous night she said yes then I asked why she didn’t tell me even though we have spoken after then. She said she’s sorry then I told her “ok”

She started nagging and asking me why I was giving her the attitudes by simply saying “ok” she said her friend took her to the concert around 12am(my people is that possible her girlfriend took her to concert on the island by 12am no be say car Dey oo) I said ok even if that was the case why didn’t you tell me, she said she forgot!!! Like wtf? You forgot? I mean we’re supposed to even see each other I don’t have problem with her going out but she didn’t accord me any respect now I’m thinking of quitting the relationship and the worst part is she’s claiming rights and not apologizing and this is someone that always claim to love me.

Please what should I do?

here is the bitter truth.... You don fuc.k up from the beginning.... You don't pamper girls, there is a difference in showing a girl love and pampering her... You misbehave sometimes you will still be the one to apologise.... Girls don't like guys like that..... True talk you can take it the bank.... Girls don't like soft guys..... When a girl misbehave she knows..... she expects you to correct her but if you fail you don dey mess up be that..... There is a difference between being nice and being a foot mat..... I will elaborate on this later...
Secondly she doesn't like you that much .... I am 90% sure she is seeing someone else.... If a girl likes you, no thing like busy schedule ooo.... She will create the chance... One month ? No ....unacceptable..
A big mistake guys make is thinking If i am loving , caring and soft she will like me more.... No, she won't....
There is a big difference between being nice and being a foot mat.. I will give an example..
You invite your babe for a date at 7pm.... 7pm you are already there, she comes in by 8pm, without apologising for the delay.. she just went to sit down... and you as the guy you smile order for her.... You don Bleep up..... Tell her straight up. we were suppose to meet by 7pm and you are coming by 8pm and you did not even apologise, thats rude.... She will not hate you, she will even respect you more...
In summary guy free the babe..... if you dont nah she go free you and it will break you down more mentally....

jasper83:
sorry sister for your predicament, though I'm not a lawyer but I know in matters of divorce, if a partner is proving to be stubborn by not releasing the marriage certificate with the help of your lawyer you can approach that same registry you did your court marriage for a copy of the certificate like a duplicate in their log book. I have forgotten what they call it, but is not a too difficult thing to get just approach a lawyer and you will be fine.

Please next time learn to look before you leap, love is not everything okay, it's obvious the guy is not into you, cut your losses now.

Better luck next time and try and marry within your status and not low people, they are energy drainers .Gracias

true talk.... There are energy draining people in relationships...I swear... Their wahala just too much....

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

the worse thing that could ever happen to a man is to marry a date someone he is not intune with. If it worries you now, it will definitely worry you when you marry her. i wont advice you to break up with her, but i know you what to do. Do the needful and you will be glad you did....

anjilgreat:
Funny enough, my resident pastor who happened to be among the people that arranged the chairs inside the glory dome told us in church today that a total of 130,000 chairs was what was arranged inside the hall.

What this ignorant person you are arguing with doesn't know is that the sitting arrangement in the stadium is different. In a stadium of 40,000 seating capacity, seats are not put on the football pitch....Now compare this to the Dunamis glory dome that has a double(2) story structured gallery of over 10,000 seating capacity alone, in addition to space meant for the football pitch, all occupied by seats.

It baffles me that he is arguing blindly. Anyway, it's all sign of the last days because of the unnecessary hate for the Church and one thing is certain, the more they hate the church, the more the church will march on and the gates of hell cannot prevail against it.

very true... The last days.

mrvitalis:
Honestly I don't reply people like u,.. I dare u to show me the engineering company responsible for the construction claiming it's 100,000 capacity, it's just media speculation oga

now I know you are out of your mind... Media Speculation... Really I give up.. Arguing or talking to you will reduce me to your level of thinking... If you are doubting go to the church and start counting...

mrvitalis:
For the record there no record this church is 100,000 capacity, infact if you look at that building it can't take more than 40,000 people

Are you trying to say this is 3 times akwa ibom stadium ...plus calabar stadium as jara?

Don't tell me people sit on the floor and they don't sit on the floor of the stadium, let's say the the ground is 2.5 times the size of a football pitch... That's around 25,000 square meters at best, the maximum this can sit with chairs is not up to 30,000 people, the gallery can't sit 10,000 people that I can say for sure... OK let's that it 15,000 around size of calabar stadium into one and half


Come on, church goers are dumb we know!!!! Don't bring your brain washing to the public

you sit behind your computer or phone and start analysing matter , go there and investigate.... So everybody is dumb nah only you get eyes abi ?? The surveyors are dumb , the architect is dumb too or liar too .... Get something to do

chriskosherbal:
How this woman still keep maintaining her beauty despite her age always amazes me.

what is her age ?? Is she up to 50 Wetin dey amaze you ??! If you get money you will take care of your self the right way..

FoderKingthanos:
If you call yourself a Christian and you still rely on your pastor to pray, you're deceiving yourself


Once you are born again, you don't need any dirty pastor to pray for you

Chai something so simple

I wonder what they teach yo people in church

I wonder how many if you have actually read the Bible

no body says you cant pray by yourself, that is one of the reason Jesus came to die. If so much believe in Jesus as you claim then you should obey His commandments.

naijjaman:
Me too. I stopped tithing and now give money to the needy through my foundation named after my loving mother.
Over 50 families have benefited from my foundation, including a couple of people here on Nairaland and I am happy.

The truth is that most Churches and pastors are corrupt and out of touch with the people they are meant to protect and care for.

I am still a Christian and I am actually ready to go hell for giving to the needy and not promoting the negative and adulterous lifestyles of the pastors is the main reason.

Ask yourselves this hard question: why is it that 5 out 10 richest pastors in the world are Nigerians?

Let me ask you some simple question
1. When you need to hear to word of God where do you go ?? The needy or your church ??
2. When you need prayers where do you go to
3. What if you come to church one day and you were told there is no sit and you need to sit on the floor or you find the church flooded what will you do ??
4. What if you come to church one day and you could hardly hear the pastor because the microphone is bad.
Here is the truth , if you want to help the needy help them , dont use Peter to pay Paul...

NwaAmaikpe:




For the sake of family unity and the loving memory of Late Mrs. Josephine Okoye whose dying wish was that Peter shouldn't marry Lola and for the sake of the fans who have been deprived of hearing another hit from PSQUARE.

I pray Peter does what is right for his family so that he can get the happiness he truly deserves which has eluded him in this horrible 5 years.

I understand how difficult it is for him to do, but it is his life here.
He shouldn't care about the 'Gram and drive away this evil aged woman who has brought PSquare to ruins.

Any son who neglects the counsel of his mom because of a mere woman who will eventually dump them one day is worse than an infidel.
May God never give us a child as useless as Peter.

mumu , where you there when Mrs Okoye said her dieing wish is for her son not to marry Lola, where you there, you carry person family matter put for head... Nigerians

iAudio:
may your children learn like that.

And may your children's mind be corrupt from a tender age. Amen

HungerMustGo:
Pedophile author should be arrested and hanged by the "balls".

why If I may ask you ??Is the right name for SCROTUM ball ?? A scrotum is a scrotum and a ball is a ball.... I see no wrong in what the writer did. Just like saying a teacher should not teach his pupils that a cat is also called pussy ...

iAudio:
God punish the writer

why If I may ask you Is the right name for SCROTUM ball A scrotum is a scrotum and a ball is a ball.... I see no wrong in what the writer did. Just like saying a teacher should not teach his pupils that a cat is also called pussy ....

HungerBAD:
These things don't work.

I have repeatedly stated it here, that those that believe in juju are not only ignorant, but that they are getting scammed by the so called juju men or herbalists. If there was JUJU, how did the British come into this Country with just Guns, and were able to take over Nigeria? why did the Juju not catch them?

In fact the so called juju places in Nigeria were among the first to be captured. Oba Ovonramwen, with all the Benin Juju he had, was not only captured, but he was also Frog-Jumped in Chains from Benin to Calabar, where he eventually died. The other day i heard one boasting "Try me you go know say i be Bini Man" and so i am thinking, which Benin?the one the British ran through?

The Ijebu's too that claim to posses juju, had all their villages and towns burnt to the ground by the British, and their juju did not work. The British-Ijebu war of 1892 (The battle of Imagbon) is something those interested in history should go and read about.

Let us stop glorifying these black magics. They do not work.

I thought of it myself..... How come the British invaded Benin kingdom and sent the Oba on exile when they said the Oba is full of juju , how come juju no catch oyibo .... Guy forget nothing like having Christ.

edoman2016:
Hello nairalander,
I need advice on how to tell a friend to stop coming with his girlfriend to my apartment to have sex. This friend of mine, we went to the same university and know each other from there. He is based in Akwa Ibom and into palm oil business. When he comes to Lagos for supply to stores, he resides at his parents' house which is very close to where my apartment is.

However, when he wants to have sex with a girl in Lagos, he brings her to my apartment because he knows I am not yet married. Rather than sleeping with the girl in his parents house. I am tired of it and I don't like it but I don't know how to tell him so that it won't end our friendship. He is quite an intelligent and ambitious man.

What do you think I should do about it?

This kind of questions baffles me ... For an adult to ask such it is amazing. Simply tell him in a joke and subtle manner o boy seriously I dey uncomfortable with the way you dey bring babes come my house. He dey make my house smell and most especially my bed smell.... Carry them go cheap hotel nah.... 500 or 1000 you go do wetin you wan do..... If he gets angry then he is a selfish person and he will never tolerate such with another person..... Forget am as a friend

oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

she might be saying the truth

Rhinoksales:
Thought it will be Musa

did you vote ??

Mumu people Nigerians and misplaced priority.. Them no protest for poor salaries and lack of good social amenities nah to protest against something like this. Nigerians we always think of the now what can I get now not thinking about long term. It is pathetic

DrayZee:
You don't know why? Isn't that what the OP just explained?

he didn't read the article he just commented. I pity for the generation no drive to learn.

adesina746:
God bless you. They will never see the difference. An illustration as simple as this with the right phrases is still giving some people problem. Now imagine people like that holding public or political offices the. We are finished as a nation

I stumbled into the video on Instagram and I was like why did bloggers now twist this man's comment to cause trouble.... From there on i made a decision to always do my findings before concluding on anything I see online

inoki247:
please what reasons? i cant reason like u.. Gun kills alot in USA did dey stop the issuance of GuN license bkuz of dat or dey shuld revoke pipuls dat az gun license . so because of dis reasons dey should stop people from using technology please don't quote me again..

don't because you want to argue by all means see black and call it white. SOCIAL MEDIA IS A TOOL THAT IS AVAILABLE TO CRIMINALS AND BAD PEOPLE JUST THE SAME IT AVAILABLE TO GOOD PEOPLE WTH GOOD INTENT. Wetin you no understand for there. He trying to say dont believe all what you see on social media some are untrue and propaganda..... If you still no understand I rest my case

inoki247:
Now after analyzing this video with my team, we see no where he said social media is FOR THE CRIMINALLY MINDED, rather he said it is a TECHNOLOGY AVAILABLE TO THE CRIMINALLY MINDED was d difference.. spare me dat..

Do they need technology to Rob a house or kidnap sum1 or hired an assassin, sell Drugss, du blood money.. all diz don dey exist before Technology... az Gun get advantage na so e Get Disadvantage same as Technology. With Technology you can trace your stolen phones, cars CcTV cameras are diz not part of Technology or which technology are u talking about. olodo dey worry him..

if you see no difference then people like you are the reason Nigeria is where it is today.

hatchy:
Far' Yemi wants to waste precious time witch hunting instead of giving the people dividend of democracy.

most of guys don't even read you follow the headline.... Headlines can be misleading..... Read before you comment

Ayoswit:
I understand their reasons for demanding payment or deposit before treating a patient but if I was the one, I would treat the patient regardless of the fact that money wasn't paid because I can't watch a patient die when I can be able to treat him, it's hard though but saving a life is worth it.

it is easier said than done

KingOfAmebo:
The most-anticipated Ekiti governorship election have come and gone and finally a winner have emerge governor-elect in the person of Dr. Fayemi Kayode of the APC but looking at the various intriguing dramas that preceded the election, some APC apologists are already using the victory in Ekiti as a yardstick that would determine the outcome of the 2019 election: one of the apologists with the handle salvationproject even created a thread that graced the front page of nairaland in a chest beating euphoria, how laughable?

https://www.nairaland.com/4618578/5-lessons-nigerians-should-learn

Below are five things APC MUST be concerned about in preparation for 2019.

1. We know this Is Oshiohmole's First Victory

We all know this is Oshiohmole’s first victory as APC chairman, just as much he knows he has a huge task ahead of him come 2019.

2. APC/Buhari Is Definitely NOT Going To Win 2019

We all know how outgoing Governer, Fayose has been a torn in the flesh of Buhari/APC, So, its normal that the present administration will be desperate to win, they will employ every merchinary within their reach to prove a point, this doesn't represent the views of the masses who complain bitterly of the poor state of governance, poverty, disregard for the rule of law, romance with glaring fraud, unending certificate scandals...just to name a few. The government have failed her integrity test.

3. 2019 election will be a walk over.

Nigerians are tired of this administration, it is evident in the whirlwind of social media vent of anger and frustration which was similar to what happened prior 2015. In fact, I remember the heat on nairaland back then. APC supporters claiming those complaining on social media won't influence the outcome of 2019 should ask PDP how they lost in 2015.

4. Many APC faithfuls would wish they made an early decision to join the emerging political force.

Just as prior 2015, APC became a force by the merging of political parties, same is happening now with political parties merging with PDP. A wise APC supporter should follow suite and join the force or be embarrassed come 2019

5. The Formidable Power to kick APC out of the seat of power is still at a teething stage before and during the Ekiti election, The merger will mature into a formidable power come 2019.

Two heads is and will always be better than one, a political party merger is and will always be an advantage. The new merger with the PDP is still very young and have not even began their ground work, they are still in the situation room and were not even part of the just concluded Ekiti election.


Conclusion: It would be unwise for APC to use their victory in the just concluded Ekiti election as a yardstick of winning the coming election in 2019.

Opinion by: kingofamebo

well nah your opinion sha..... So you social media population is the whole Nigeria How many people dey social media ?? The real people that vote are not on social media.... APC will win 2019 ...i don't like them at all.... But there is no formidable force....

abiodunalasa:

See the way Putin is looking at him like.. What's doing this one sef ? Abi I should even bomb his country tomorrow

you got me laughing real hard..... Lol

LZAA:
Nah mate dat problem is only in the north and west and dat is why igbos wanna leave
Lemme give u an example
Arthur or anthony(couldnt care less really) came to enugu recently and the number of ppl carrying placards to greet him were just FOUR
Imagine tinubu or buhari in their places
QED
cc immhotep pointzerom justiceleague1

you are right... We have this slavery mentality...... That's why our leaders are treating us this way. They can do and undo nothing will happen.

Lol. We have a problem in Nigeria. Why people come pack follow am like say something else dey involve..... We worship our leaders instead of our leaders respecting and worshipping us.. But come to think of it if if it just to serve the people why is it a do or die affair.

wunmi590:
Ok

Mean while, the people of nairaland, I was just relieved of my position last week Tuesday, the company I worked for downsized alot of people even people that was given both double promotion, were not left out in the tsunami.

My people I have experience as an admin, front desk, assistant HR, and call centre agent.

Please if you have any job for me those areas, both Lagos and Abeokuta, nothing is too small, to keep body and soul together.

My contact detail is 08060988682.

Thank you

if you were good at what you do at your company they wouldn't have sacked you.... At least there are still people working for the company. Next time simply write your qualification , experience and what you can do forget those story that your company downsized and so on.... Its a bad intro.

delugajackson:
You are dating a woman with so much ego and such woman will never make a good wife. Truth is, you can never control a woman with so much ego. If she can't apologize for little things, then she has no business being in a relationship. Take my word, she has little or no respect for you. The only reason she is with you up till this moment is because she is gaining from you, once she fulfills her aim of running you down, she will leave your áss for good.

I suggest you look for someone else with better attitude, character and finesse that will make life worth living for you, cause once you marry this particular girl, you will experience x2 of what you're suffering now. She will offer you a lifetime of misery! Who wants a stubborn, nagging, disrespectful woman with an over-bloated ego as a wife?

You need to re-consider this cause it seems you're gradually becoming a victim of emotional deficit. And the hard truth is that you both are not meant for each other.

God bless you. I once dated a girl like that..... It was hell on earth..... Never apologises.... I helped her to school and all that.... Luckily for me I just pretend say I dey broke.... Then her real character started to show... She just stop calling stop sending SMS and so on...me I just dey one corner dey laugh.... It was painful though..... But I was glad I tested her it paid off.

Madlov3:
Hi! For the sake of anonymity, i decided to use this new account.

I met this girl last December, but we officially started dating in January, I love her and I think she loves me too.Everything is going so well and all things been equal, i may pop the question next year December.
The problem started when I told her to come spend last weekend with me and honestly I regretted that.

After going to pick her on friday evening, i told her there’s isn’t food at home and that i was thinking of cooking spaghetti.
Getting home, it occurred to me that i have never tasted her food so I decided to let her do the cooking.(NB:I cook! like am a very good cook) so after some minutes in the kitchen, she signaled me to come eat but damn!the food was a colossal disaster! It was so overcooked and tasteless. I was not happy that evening and I complained about it.
The next day was a Saturday! She prepared yam and veggies but that was another disaster, the yam was salty and the veggies were also so overcooked. They were no longer greenies but brown.

Another thing i also noticed about her is is throughout our 3 days together, she was always moody! I really don’t think it’s because of the food disaster because my complain lasted for just some minutes.Am still trying to figure out why someone will choose to be moody and sad for no tangible reason.
Last weekend with her was a depressing one for me and right now, am seriously rethinking popping the Question next year because i don’t want to be an unhappy married man.
I really don’t know what to do

she will definitely be moody, you just told her she is not a good cook do you expect her to start laughing and smiling, she was expecting to impress you but it did not work, and secondly maybe the way you said was too harsh.... Like my friend will always say..... Oma Wa Alright...... just calm she go cool down, don't be toooooooooooo blunt next time.... You can teach her how to cook no big deal in that, I don't see you breaking up with a girl you love because she can't cook ..... show her how to cook.... if she is willingly to learn she will catch up fast.

Chubhie:
Until we take the evil of poverty out of the people and create an ideal environment for civilized humans, I see no lasting solution.

We must at least provide our people with the basic things of life. food clothing and shelter.

I have said this thing on nairaland times without number... Our problem in Nigeria are the basic things of life. All this celebrities or governors riding on social madness and inviting a boy called Taju just to get attention or is it kokun foundation that keeps giving out money ... Thinking he is solving a problem .. No ..... After giving out the money what next But is it that the government does not know about this There will be riot , anger , hatred , breaking of the rule of law , stealing on a high level if the basic needs of life are absent.... If we can solve that problem. Nigeria will be great because we are happy and hardworking people