₦airaland Forum

babyosisi:
Cococandy,ordinarily we would have gone to Olive garden or cheese cake factory for a romantic dinner but I just tell am now make we go eat isiewu somewhere.
Why must it be Oyibo dinner?
Let us go and wash hand and slaughter one bowl of isiewu each and drink maltina for a change this valentine
Suya for appetizers
We are Nigerians jor

50calibre:
Hahahaha you'll never agree! Always trying to drive the notion that women desire the same thing as men and you know deep down that's not true.

Yeah different women desire different things but I know that the majority aren't in pursuit of some sexual fantasy and I know that many women are just happy to swallow without necessarily having their man reciprocate & I also know that women don't need a man to ingest their vaginal fluid to be satisfied. Any woman who does, is deviant & perverted and might one day demand he ingests her urine or vaginal discharge.

Black women are always combative, even in bedroom, why must everything be a trade, why can't they just give and not expect anything in return?

My candid advice to any woman out there who wishes to keep her nah in a leash, if you suck it, swallow!! For if you don't, that man can easily go into a night club & have some random chic sucking him off in a back alley.

Truckpusher:
He allowed his emotions to take over common sense.I have always said it that no woman is worth dying for especially when she has decided to open her legs for another man.
Tell me , is it possible to sue one's spouse under this circumstances in the states ?

Truckpusher:
If you think 25 yrs is a joke ,just try and be under lock and keys for 2hrs against your wish and see how bad his case has become.

ileobatojo:
I sincerely hope not. Bludgeoning her to death with a baseball bat? I hope he gets the max sentence.

But hey, he won't mind it according to some NL sickos, right? As long as she won't get 'his' house in the divorce and he'll never have to pay her any child support, it's all worth it, not so? So congratulations to him for a successful show, I guess. Enjoy prison!

babyosisi:
Ademoye's trial centers around what took place in his north Tampa home the night of June 16, 2010. Prosecutors said that was the night he stumbled upon emails suggesting his wife was planning to leave him. On the receiving end of those emails was another man, who lived in Nigeria, and in whom Juliet confided about her unhappy marriage. She sent the man a picture of her teenage son. "This is a photo of your son Seun," she wrote.

Enraged by his wife's infidelity, Ademoye called a relative, who told him to spend the night in a hotel and cool off. He promised he would, said Assistant State Attorney Kristen Over, but first he wanted to make a brief stop at home to get his passport and some money.

That errand turned into hours of arguing that ended in Juliet's murder, Over said. The next morning, Ademoye ran out of his house, wearing only his underwear, and asked his neighbors to call 911. When paramedics arrived, they found him trying to resuscitate his wife as she lay on their bed, cool to the touch.

"She fell in the bathroom," he told them.

Prosecutors said the wounds on Juliet's body suggested she had been stabbed repeatedly and beaten with her son's T-ball bat. The trauma was so severe, prosecutors said, that fat embolisms traveled to her lungs, causing her to suffocate.

Briefly left alone in an interview room, Ademoye was recorded talking to himself, Over said. "Father, forgive me for my sins," he said. "I am done for."

If found guilty, Ademoye faces a maximum sentence of life in prison.

In his opening statements on Tuesday, Cohen argued that prosecutors had judged the situation too hastily, placing blame on Ademoye without understanding what had killed Juliet.

If she had been bludgeoned to death with a baseball bat, she would have brain injuries, he said, but she had none. If she died by suffocation, then why did the medical examiner find her lung tissue was "pink and aerated," he said, meaning "the lungs are fine"?

Ademoye did not want to kill his wife, Cohen said, but he did want to shame her.

Pointing to phone records, Cohen said Ademoye spent hours that night calling family members to tattle on his wife. Worse than being cuckolded was the fact that the wife's lover practiced voodoo, an often-stigmatized religion that was a "no-no" in Ademoye's culture, Cohen said.

After making those calls, Ademoye went to sleep, his attorney said. How his wife injured herself, and how her blood ended up on the baseball bat were interesting questions. But the prosecution's version could not be proved, Cohen maintained.

"It was an accident," he said.

http://www.tampabay.com/news/courts/criminal/murder-trial-of-nigerian-pharmacist-begins-in-tampa/2213482

babyosisi:
But nne if you hear the full gist,the woman did him wrong
The man found out their only child and son was fathered by her lover in Nigeria that she had kept in touch with for all 20 years and she was planning to leave him for the man.
A respectable pharmacist,the man snapped

EfemenaXY:
Yes.

I was a silent follower of that thread but couldn't keep up. I only just saw tonight that he's passed away...after fighting so hard!

I remember him pleading desperately for people to take notice of his plight...and how he kept on saying he didn't want to die.

I know I'm rambling on here but I feel close to tears about this.

scribble:
we r married in d spiritual

Naavah:
What my eyes have seen for some weeks now eh. We give drugs to nothing less than 60 pple per week. I gave this beautiful woman n her 7yr old kid ARs today and I almost cried. Very beautiful woman

Onegai:
My sister said that during Housemanship was her very first time having to tell an older woman who was a wife, with children in secondary school, that she was HIV positive. The way that woman nearly died, screaming and crying when the news was brought to her, cursing her husband in their language, brought her to tears.

The 2nd HIV positive wife she treated threw up blood in her office. They had to fumigate/disinfect it.

After that, she and her female colleagues swore that they would never tolerate cheating husbands.

Women, go to LUTH, go to their HIV support group. Go and see housewives and working women, respectable, bad o, temper o, quiet o, all in anguish, living with HIV. How they are scared of dying and leaving their children unprotected. Go and find out how high the number of them got it from cheating husbands.

I can tell you from experience that children of cheating husbands rarely make good marriages and have healthy relationships, they are so emotionally scarred. Sons and Daughters.

Then come and tell me to ignore my husband's cheating and focus on my kids.

candygosh:
We can't all feign to be perfect! I might be doing something wrong he doesn't like.

It also still doesn't mean he's the right one like I said in that same paragraph. If I'm not d wrong one n if he's just unrepentant then I can choose to walk away before I get Stds or worse still hiv


I hope u get where I'm coming from

candygosh:
Lol. If you were my husband to be really honest I would just retreat jejely. One thing I have learnt in life is that violence is not a solution. After violence the problem still lingers. You know how they say the gentle strides of a lion is not a sign of cowardice. In fact, if I don't talk about it he will bring it up eventually except he's 'evil'
There has to be something I'm not doing right to make u cheat on me and let's be realistic marriage is overrated. It's my belief that at some point people want to try out new thing. If I'm not at fault n he's just an unrepentant cheat then I'd leave. It's not like I'm super glued there.
Beside, women need to keep praying 4 their husbands to resist temptations cos the single ladies out there aren't smiling.
About anger management what if she smashed the fone now and bits of it gets into her throat accidentally and makes her choke to death. Anger solves nothing it only makes it worse.
Even if her actions 4 leaving were found to be right due to the issues at that moment she would still be castigated of they eventually meet a councellor.

Ok what about a man who cheats so well that the wife doesn't know. If he delete his conversations and call logs nko?
Lots of men have Wierd fantasies I have always said that on this forum. When things go wrong people should ask themselves question? Some men are just not going to talk about it while some would. Just like the thread of the lamenting housewife that her husband want her to swallow his c.um

Marriage is a complex thing and before we delve into it lots of thinking should be done and boundaries should be discussed.


And I'm not saying women should tolerate cheating husbands. I'm just advocating that before we criticise we should do it without sentiments.

alutacontinua:
is this my andy?
He used to be my patient at the NL psychiatric hospital
Guess he's started missing his medications again
Andy Andy, how are you?

carefreewannabe:
I saw this thread but I can't follow it or I will throw up, this one is stomach-turning enough.

carefreewannabe:
EXACTLY!

carefreewannabe:
All I know is that you are a hypocrite. You tell people to do everything to make their spouses happy but you wouldn't do the same.

Spare me the horror future scenarios, it doesn't work on me.

carefreewannabe:
Funny or not, this is just a hypothetical scenario.

The wife here also didn't know that her husband wanted something like this right from the beginning but discovered it after marriage.

In your opinion, she should meet her husband's desires even if she doesn't like it or even if it is disgusting.

Consequently, you should answer the question with yes or else you are the hypocrite, aren't you?

Kachisbarbie:
That's all @emboldened.
Even if there are hitches - of course there are bad days...we learn from them and move on.

I wonder why they don't believe in the marital institution. Gets me wondering if their parents are unhappy too.

scribble:
As much as I can cook and once in a while make dinner or a meal for my wife


She has been conditioned from young to be a cook for her man

she makes such excellent food for me that I go out of my way to really spoil her and I'm not interested in any other woman's cooking


Leave that feminist rule book nonsense and find a good African man to enjoy


Or are you seeing white people in enduring relationship these days

A word my dear

armadeo:
He had to open a new moniker CIA nobody takes him serious anymore. He always has views no comment.

Boomba gave him away.

50calibre:
Lolz you're sounding as if men and women desire the same thing, which is not the case. Women are naturally the pleasers, it's in their nature to want to please, pleasing their men is their own way of achieving satisfaction so I think women are more unlikely to stray from the home in pursuit of some sexual fantasy when all other aspects of her life is doing fine. The wife of a rich man who choses to sleep with effiong the houseboy is a slu*t and not a wife.

Unlike men, Women are just not created with a mind for deviance, they are built to have more self respect, except we are talking about some dominatrix whose sexual fantasy is humiliating men, I don't think most women want a man to drink their vaginal fluid.

It's all about compromise, adjusting to accommodate the other so both parties are happy. People shouldn't be pressured or forced into doing what they aren't comfortable doing however I feel women need to compromise more. The greater the length she's willing to go to satisfy her man, the more likely she is to keep him from going outside, it's just nature.