₦airaland Forum

iInjureHerYansh:
If you ever quote me again ogun go strike your slacked, overused kpekus

cassyrooy:
Consider my input an excellent exception to your derived assumptions "based on my gender posts on Nairaland".

I no dey post based on some wannabe ideology, I cook for my female friends, sisters, Aunts and anywhere I come to be so chanced to do so, even though, I'm "equipped with limited skills".

The position should be a sweet-smiling no for the wife. I no want make OP reason much cos, that woman no deserve am at all.

cassyrooy:
Okwu ihuru extra responsibility and care, she still won't take up any.

Her primary duty is to care for my family, since I couldn't negotiate for same with my mother, she too by her own precedents can't as well.

It's the equaliser effects. Cos if she had taken in her mother in-law, op would have assumed some more domestic responsibilities to ensure there's enough cushion on her, now she wants to stress baba. Make kitipa blind op if him simp on this matter.

She has other siblings, let them care for their mom, money no be problem, op will provide.

What a narcissistic and inconsiderate level of self entitlement? Bia op, thunder is pressing up already to devour you if you don't strike back. Imagine someone who threw your mom out until her death, let her mom die too the world will not end.

shantti:
Yet the same men go about marrying girls with no job and catering for their every needs.

Remember the slogan his money is our money but my money is my money , sounds familiar? Can u pls tell me the gender that cooked up this slogan and the reason for doing that?

How many Nigerian ladies are stable, how many if them do not use relationships as a means of livelihood. A typical Nigerian boyfriend not even husband will subscribe for his girlfriend, fill her gas, buy her soap and cream, buy her clothes, buy her foodstuffs, and even buy pad for her. Now imagine the load husbands carry. If they had jobs would they be leeching on men. Let a typical Nigeria man go broke, he will realize the true color of his wife, or girlfriend. You know what am saying is true, u can't deny this.

Many female nairalanders like EriNma has created threads on how they can't marry broke guys. They only desire rich guys to leech on. What they failed to mention what how much they would be bringing to the table. They believe in the African notion of males being the sole providers with females being the sole spender of males money. A broke girl desires a rich man, what does that tell you? It means she wants a man who will cater for her every needs.

Are you sure I am still the one lying?

Mrbllymer:
cos if you are know a thing about data analysis you wouldn’t have made your last statement.

There are so many homes where maids practically do everything ranging from cooking , cleaning etc.
you are just all over the place in trying to say something meaningful. Stick to Op’s context.

shantti:
Am not handicapped
Moreover there are caregivers

iInjureHerYansh:
Stupid post. Let her go die in her husband's house. I no dey even pity men that take you people's advice. The gospel is everywhere now. Any man wey no Wan wise make him suffer

shantti:
The way she cooks up invalid assumptions and throws out valid assumptions is baffling.

It is more founded that men are financial providers than women nurse their husbands sick relatives.

shantti:
What kind of sentimentalism is this.
Where is your so called founded facts. The same so called founded facts didn't project men as financial providers right? We are talking about a clime where men automatically becomes responsible for catering for his in-laws cos he married their daughter. I guess your so called founded facts was forged by a woman.

Ma, pls u r the biased one here. Stop what u are doing. What the hell is this. Is it cos it is your fellow woman. My own reasonings are mere assumptions while yours are well founded facts. Right?

I hate arguing with sentimental people

Mrbllymer:
an assumption doesn’t mean she does! We both working with assumptions doesn’t make your points more valid.

Lmao, I repeat men are majorly the financial provider in many homes in Nigeria. Ain’t saying women don’t contribute though. Some are even fond of saying “your money is our money and my money is my money” keep deceiving yourself , ITS THE TRUTH.

Lmao do you know anything about data analytics ? If you do you wouldn’t have made that last statements.

Rinoxy:
Married, an orphan.

Justbehave:
All my kids are with me.

Justbehave:
Lol. What is there in taking care of them? My agreement with them is I pay you,get you pregnant,deliver and leave. I have 3 from 3 different ladies that don't even know where their kids are presently.

XTHRONE:
U can always get another woman to wife, but u will always have only but one woman as a mother.

shantti:
What is the correlation between this reply and my response to you. Nothing. Stop typing words to sound woke nne

How could you accuse me of what you are solely guilty of; comprehension. This is very ironic. You know that it also the USUAL expectation that the man will fund the medical bill should he let his mother in law stay in this house. Why didn't you factor in this. Can u show this this you so called stat. You now understand why I labeled u as being emotional.

From the story, we can only infer that he changed location after his wife said no. It says nothing about The caregiver, The caregiver could already had been nursing the woman at the op's house.Moreover, why can't his wife replicate the same thing. She should pay someone to look after her mother in another house.


But you proved us right nah. It's not our fault. You could have changed the narrative by trying to the logical after reading this story, u could have called a spade a spade, but no, u started cooking up assumptions to favor your fellow wicked female gender that caused someone to die, typical of u females with the f monicker 🙄🙄

Mrbllymer:
I think you didn’t read the whole story where he said he’s financially buoyant, that alone should give you a perspective or narrative that he’s taking good care of the home and not dependent on the lady’s earning.

In this 21st century men mostly take care of the home in regards to provision(financially) , not saying women don’t contribute especially in this country.

What stops her from allowing her mum stay with her siblings and with your assumption, then she can be sending money to her siblings to take care of her ?

I can categorically tell you in Nigeria today, 50:50 is a dream and doesn’t happen in 90% of Nigerian home.

You can put through a survey on nairaland to ascertain this claim.

pocohantas:
18 pages and counting.

Pheeew!

Justbehave:
They are staying with me in my house right now and are being well taken care of. Even my 3kids are with me and not with their evil and manipulative mother's that I paid to have kids for me. I don't need you women in my life.

Amumaigwe:
Why can't she stay with those 3 older siblings since the OP's wife marriage is strictly between a man and his wife?

XTHRONE:
Lol, is all logic girl, what is good for the goose , is also good for the gander. The man is weak and a simp for allowing a woman dictate in the affairs of his Mom, such nonsense can't happen around me, na she go dey beg me to invite my Mom.

Justbehave:
You keep disgracing yourself everytime you comment here thinking you re being woke.You can never call a spade a spade. Always trying to blame men even when it's clear that the ops wife is at fault. I don't need all you manipulative bitches to come take care of my parents. Care givers are doing it already.

shantti:
On the contrary, you are being emotional and sentimental cos a woman is involved, and those guys u quoted are being logical.

Why and how did you arrive at the conclusion that the op's wife will be the one to cater and nurse his mum.

Did the op said anything like that. Remember he paid someone to look after his mum in a different house. Does that not tell you that he is buoyant enough to employ a caregiver for his mom in his house

Why did you cook up an assumption that will favour the op's wife. Why. Yet you accuse logically reasoning people of being emotional when you are actually the one guilty of it. Why do u women do this. Can u tell me?

Justbehave:
Forget that one. She no dey everly get sense once the matter involve woman.

Rinoxy:
Make dem use logic drive ur mama comot for ur house now!

Mrbllymer:
Are you being serious ? Can her mother die for him ?
A house he pays the rent or built ? A house he provided for , a woman he paid her dowry ?
So it’s just to send her out ?

She can as well pay rent or built a house for her, provide for her needs and take care of her as she wants and not bring her to my “HOUSE” since it’s not also my duty to take care of another woman who’s not my mum.

kellyaa:
Na them

Rinoxy:
Na talk be dis??

XTHRONE:
Just shut up, u women are hypocrite always supporting evil as long it means defending another selfish woman, listen speak ur truth , this is not gender war, if she couldn't allow his mom to come live with them for her selfish reason, she have no right to allow her mom to come over

Ultimatesammie:
If that was the issue then the wife should have communicated that to the husband so they can make a better adjustment and frankly what the wife did was Terrible, there are folks that take care of others who aren't even remotely related yet she can't even do an ounce of it yet expect a better treatment to her own mum, just selfish and hypocritical.

soles21:
so who will be taking care of the mother of the lady. If the husband eventually allows the woman to come over.

Or will it automatically become less work for the lady?

STINEKPROJECTS1:
w women sha

soles21:
Because I'm busy going out there to make sure I'm providing for my family.

Sounds like a you problem. If you love someone. Taking care of the thing they value most the world shouldn't be an issue. If you see this as manipulation then I don't what to say to you.

Samantha124:
If he was expecting his wife to be the one to nurse his mother, then that would be very selfish of him.

ThatCEO:
If she said she can't take of of his mom but d mom can stay, I am pretty sure the OP would have gotten a help for her.

She just didn't want that woman at all. You really think loneliness didn't contribute to his mom's death?

You might think u have figured out your life today, but u might very well fall in the shoes of that guy's mom tomorrow.

There is nothing she can use to justify her Mom staying.

But don't let's waste our breathe here, d OP was a mumu once, he will still mumu d second time n allow her mom stay in d name of "peace." D manipulation of d vast majority of our naija girls...I can't cope n I refuse to participate.