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Why are you keeping in touch with them after marrying your perfect wife?

7upnigeria:
Lol, I know how to cook the little I can. But as a married man, my wife does the cooking and even frowns at me getting food outside whenever I dont eat at home. I threw many of your FEMINIST type into the bin when I was searching and thank God I married my wife. They ones that still get in touch among them still wished they learnt those skills early in life as many men are just using and dumping them because they cant keep up with cooking and taking care of the home. NA NIGERIA WE DEY, get married to your feminism if you cant take care of a man.

descarado:
Welcome to the club
Used a certain Lady's picture on his profile.

Catchy women's topic to attract unguided and gullible men.
Wish them luck.

It’s so obvious. Like what lady creates these types of threads?

Lovilla:
all i can say is Men are polygamous in nature, so i dont blame him.

Bcause this maid in question doesnt even come close to my sister in terms of beauty.

I’m sure you’re a man

She’s afraid of losing the man?

legitnow1:
if you notice the Islamic world were against GEJ in his time. .

that was quite glaring

Klass99:
She didn't sit around enduring, fasting and praying either. She took necessary action.

this part

I wouldn’t blame her because she was young and naive. Her parents and everyone around should have looked out for her. Like what type of relationship do they expect between her and a man who’s divided between multiple businesses and women?


I do blame her for rushing into a second marriage after that though. Like she learned nothing the first time around.

fastseo:
but did u see the way they intercepted him in Kenya 'drag him here? do u see how they tapped into opposition phones, track them n harrass them?
make anyhow statements on twitter about those in authority n watch how dss will track u down within a week.


but call them for issues like this... our leaders in this current part in power will do as if u didn't say anything or they are helpless

This is something that grinds my gears as well. How do they ( DSS) have the manpower, budget and technology to go after anyone who speaks negatively about ppl in power but are so powerless to bring justice to these killers. Time and time again. It’s frustrating.

Gosh the unimaginable pain this man must be feeling in the moment. Yikes. OP I hope he was adequately medicated afterwards

Correct. Anyone who can’t see the disparity is lying to themselves.

Of course I call out Christians’ hypocrisy when I see it but there’s no denying that systemically, Nigeria is in a chokehold of tolerating excesses of extremism when it’s coming from the north

MasterJayJay:
Even if he said it is religious war, he is still right.

Saying it is religious war is putting it mildly. It is even misleading. An outsider may think is two religion fighting each other. But I see it as as religious invasion, religious persecution, etc. Because one religion is treated with preferential treatment.

Facts over emotions.

Sharia court: There are no Christian courts in Nigeria. But we have Islamic courts known as Sharia courts.

A case study of Deborah: A Christian lady named Deborah was gruesomely murdered by Muslims over an alleged blasphemy against Islam.. None of the culprits are in jail despite evidence.

We all saw how the Muslims on social media supported the actions with confidence. They even threatened Atiku Abubakar and he retracted a statement of condemnation because he needed votes from the Muslims in the north.




Yes Daddy is better than Drug Daddy

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Namaster:
I don't get why any man would want to get married in Nigeria of TODAY. But every Saturday, a new man loses his senses.

If you're one those men or planning to join them soon, keep this in mind;

NEVER GET MARRIED IF YOU'RE POOR.

Why?

1. You will not enjoy the marriage.
2. It'll cut your chances of escaping poverty by 99%>
3. Your children's future will be compromised.
4. Your daughter will become a hookup girl.
5. Your son will become a yahoo boy.
6. Your family will hate you.
7. Your wife will Bleep her EX.
8. Your wife will Bleep her BOSS.
9. Your wife will Bleep your LANDLORD.
10. Your wife will Bleep your RICH FRIEND.
11. Your wife will Bleep your NEIGHBOUR.
12. Your wife will Bleep your PASTOR.
13. The only person your wife will NOT Bleep is YOU.

Consider yourself warned.

ednut1:
nothing wrong in that o. The issue is a lot of men are not wired that way. One holiday a year at best for most guys. The men will either expect her to reduce the vacations/ spending in marriage or decline to follow her. Thats where the wahala is 😀

I see

Saw the thread taking a turn immediately they started talking about women

YoungLionken:
A simple and interesting thread, but brownjay and the other guy turned it into rubbish talks about women..

Must everything be about women !?

Y'all be having unnecessary headaches over women (our forefathers rather spent their time, energy and resources on battle, kingdoms, inventories, etc. Women were least of their problems), deviating from the main subject matter. Y'all should desist from this nonsense please!!!

pocohantas:
This is not true and I am surprised you and Kaycee think this way. We all know how diasporans are hounded on this Nairaland whenever they share insights on careers and maximum achievable pay. It is better they keep quiet and mind their businesses. Maybe keep washing the plates and toilets they are accused of.

And called liars as well

Okay but she’s paying for those things or at least she’s expecting he pays his fair share since they will most likely enjoy those experiences together as a couple. Is there anything wrong with that?

ednut1:
there are men abroad who want to marry a fellow Nigerian, but cant doesn’t meet their standards. Should he keep begging for their acceptance Or help himself by going to Nigeria 🤣.
Not all women you bring from Nigeria will change.
The average established 9ja babe abroad is going on 3-4 vacations a year. Spain today, Cancun tommorow, indonesia next week, some don’t cook, some don’t want kids, some are looking for 6 figures men, some looking for their tribes person etc. how are men supposed to cope with all that. His only choice might be Amaka who earns 100k a month in Nigeria or is even jobless 😜

Best news I’ve heard all day

IamSalt:
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Gotcha

ShaqFu:
This is the whole argument. My position have always been, why let it get to the level of harassment.

You then brought up church, school or whatever... I countered with why can't the individual report the person to the appropriate authority...

So you see, you're the one arguing for the sake of arguing. 👍

okay. We are blaming the person who’s being harassed for letting it get to that level. Got it. Bye

IamSalt:
Lemme explain it better for you.
1. A woman cheats and the husband is aware of her infidelity, if he does not invite the presence of the his kinsmen(to be witness) and that of the wife's so the wife can swear an oath before them and he keep hitting the kpekus and eating her food, the man faces the consequences which may be death if the wife doesn't confess.

2. After the death of the man, if the wife still continue her infidelity, any food cooked for her children with the money realized from sleeping with other men will make the children a target for the gods. The target hierarchy will be from the first son to the second to the third continually until there's no son, then, unto the daughters until the woman is left with no child. She'll not be touched.

3. If the man's brother is aware of his brother's wife cheating but keep quiet about it, the man's brother faces the consequences.

4. If a man dies and any of his brother by any means(rape, man seduced the woman or the woman seduced the man) have canal knowledge of the desist wife without any rites being done, the brother faces the consequences.

5. In the case where the woman swears the oath, she faces the consequences of her antecedence by herself.

N.B: in some part of Idoma Land(not all Idoma as the one stated above act differently from the one I'll be stating below) if you're married to the man, once you cheat, you die.

If a woman practice family planning without her husband's consent she dies. If with her husband consent, the husband dies but this case can be averted if a rite is being performed before doing the family planning.

If you bring a woman to your father's house and have canal knowledge of her, you die.

If you give a woman head, you die.

FYI: death may not necessarily occur if you confess early as you start seeing symptoms of your deeds and rites are being performed.

Seems like your made up gods only exist to make sure that a woman’s vagina is the sole propriety property of the man even after he dies.

A little common sense would reveal to you that these are the concoctions of vagina obsessed minds. But we can’t talk about that. As long as we are talking about women’s bodies, many of them lack the ability to think critically. Family planning ko 🙄. If only they knew how many of their wives are in birth control

He’s clinging onto the marriage with both hands. I thought women don’t bring anything to the table ?

ShaqFu:
I only said when the begging for sex becomes irritating (too much) that's when it's harassment. If a guy begs you for sex and you say no, and he leaves you alone, that isn't harassment.

I wonder where me, contracting myself comes into this?

Obviously my first post indicated this.

I don’t understand why many people on this forum quote others just to argue a point the other person wasn’t making in the first place. Did I ever say that if the lady says no and the man leaves her alone that’s it’s harassment? Did I say that?

Sigh. I’m tired.

What’s the reason why y’all do this? I don’t get it.

GloriousGbola:
i'm not sure how many boundaries would be crossed for you to get to a point where a friend or stranger is begging you for sex.

you’re right it does require crossed boundaries but there’s no shortage of people who are willing crossing those boundaries.

however as a nigerian, i am aware that naija chicks like bizarre games where they are either cajoled or brute forced . something about being able to say later i never wanted to do it, you forced me. [to preserve good girl image i guess]

Is this maybe because if they say yes up front they will called cheap and loose women? I’m thinking that’s probably why.

it sounds ridiculous, but if you are with a naija chick in a setting for sex and you make a move and she says no and you back off - the next day you will be hearing she said are a mumu/slacker/not sharp.

big yikes. That’s a dumb unreasonable thing to mock someone for respecting your boundaries.

there is a very weird set of dynamics to getting laid with the average or poor naija chick if you are coming from a western perspective. i have said before that the dating is literally a zero sum game in which both parties are trying to outwit or out use each other.

Me thinks It’s probably as a result of the slut shaming culture we have. Women who obviously want to have sex play games to prove to the men that they are not cheap because otherwise the beer parlor gist about her will be that she’s cheap and says yes easily.

imo, this begging situation being referred to means there is already a compromising position of sorts. [the lady is in the guys place or even his bedroom] or maybe even already in a state of un-dress.

well I guess we are looking at from different angles. If it’s just a visit that was meant to be between platonic friends and then the guy keeps pushing for sex, to me that’s harassment. But if there’s an understanding of intimacy and she’s in a state of UnCloth like you said, also wants the sex but wants him to beg and beg first, then it’s hella weird to me.

Now you’re contradicting yourself. If you don’t agree that it’s harassment why do you think reporting is appropriate? Hmm?

On the contrary I don’t like being begged repeatedly. It should be obvious from my post.

I do think sex is best with an enthusiastic consenting partner. But y’all think those kind of women are hoes. Lol

ShaqFu:
the same church or the same school eh? Whatever happened to reporting such person? Don't the school have management and don't the church have elders where such matters can be taken to?

And if that fails, there's the authorities, so what are you yapping about.

People like you sound like the type who likes being begged because it makes you feel important. Imagine the flimsy excuses you're giving. ☹️

NwaIgboBoy:
but most women love to be sexed as if it's a rape


Like rough sex manhandled

Especially yoruba girls

This is a kink. Totally different situation.
You’re confusing a kink for something else.

pocohantas:
This consent topic and its multiple perspectives. I see them on Twitter and move. I no wan type wetin go bring problem. But before they post, I would advise they flip it. What if it is me begging him for the sex?” We are not going to act like both parties are always up to it without some begging here and there.

Depends on who’s doing the “begging” sha. If they are already in a relationship I don’t see why anyone should be begging for it. It should flow naturally in most cases except the occasional situation where either person isn’t in the mood.

So I’m assuming begging in this case is from someone who considers themselves a potential bedmate. Probably someone she doesn’t even like sexually. Because if she likes him like that and is willing to get down with him, why let them humiliate themselves begging?

It’s definitely someone who doesn’t know when to take no for an answer and will keep badgering them until they say yes. Then that’s harassment. IMO

ShaqFu:
you've started again.

If a guy is begging you for sex and you know damn well you ain't gonna give in to him, why not block him or avoid him totally.

I wonder how harassment comes into this.

An example of how it’s harassment? What if they go to the same church? Or the same school? She has to change her route or even attendances in total to avoid him. You don’t see how such inconvenience is harassment? Begging repeatedly after one has been told no is harassment.

pocohantas:
She done join UK people.
Normally US people no dey nag. Even UK people used to stay jeje. Na from Batch 22, Stream 2 of UK immigrants, this wahala start.

batch 22 😩😩😂

emetisuccess:
That's what I'll never do. Make woman no manipulate me. If I tried talking u out and u forming hard to Bleep. Before u say jack I don get up leave ooo. Or I finish one round u start to behave anyhow I don wear my boxers. No time for all that drama oo

wonderful

Not rape but harassment yes. Depending on the level of begging. Some beg you to exhaustion. That’s harassment obviously. But not rape

Careful you’ll soon be accused of defending her.

When it’s most likely he had a traumatic brain injury hence the seizure and subsequent death. But I guess it’s easier to talk about it being juju and his step mom being a witch.

1Sharon:
"Nature and every other thing is fighting her to leave that marraige"


In what way is eliminating the son of her competition, the best way to fight her ?

You guys are truly dense and can't be helped.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Same way you jumped on my mention few days back to spew trash. You've got yours and you can go insane for all I care. Nonsense

I see. You’re chatting insensible rubbish today because I jumped on your mention few days back? Smh

I can see it’s too hard to admit when you’re wrong and move on. Gotta turn it into a whole thing

Can’t even imagine the heartbreak