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pocohantas:
Sis!!! I saw one that would always say it is a waste of resources paying bride price for non-virgin Nigerian females on a thread, he was seriously defending the exorbitant marriage list in South East. In his words “Igbo girls are gold and men from other regions should leave them alone”.

Hard life...

pocohantas:
He made sense here. The only people angry he didn’t chase his wife (Lola) and stick to Psq are;

1)Red pillers- these ones are angry a man LOVES his wife.

2)Tribal warlords- These ones are angry the said wife is Yoruba.

The confused people in this whole drama would be Yoruba redpillers. They really want to uphold the bro-code, but their sister’s happiness is at stake here. So, for the Oduduwa people, they will pick Lola over the brotherhood.

I have seen guys who call NIGERIAN girls olosho, turn Voltron when you say IGBO girls are oloshos. It is really easy to get rational responses from Nigerians. Just throw in a little of everything; religion, gender and tribe- sit back and relass.

Allow MrP be.

itoroakban:
I'm logging into Nairaland for the first time in 3 years to reply to this post, because this one hits close to home, my mother had an hemorragic stroke in early September, and it's by the Grace of Google that she survived.

Mum's stroke occurred on the morning of September 6, she suddenly started complaining of intense headache, and for the first 10 minutes my younger sister and I were confused not knowing what to do. It was only after quickly googling for the cause of sudden intense headache that I saw that 'Thunderclap Headaches' were one of the major symptoms of Hemorragic Stroke.

We rushed her to a nearby hospital, where they checked her bp and found it was 190 over something (can't really remember the specific figure). She was in a coma for 3 days, then in a minimally conscious state for 2+ weeks where she was conscious but couldn't move any part of her body.

She started recovering in early October, and Physically she's now fully recovered, but memory wise, my heart breaks every day. The stroke led to my wonderful, funny, witty, joke-telling mother losing a major portion of her memories prior to the Stroke, and completely losing the ability to form new memories. She can cook, do things around the house, and hold a basic conversation, but whatever she does in the morning, she forgets by evening, and during the evenings her condition worsens. She wakes up after an afternoon nap thinking it's early in thr morning, brushes more than 4 times a day because she's forgotten that she has already brushed, and lots of other minor heart-wrenching issues.

And to be honest, all this is my fault. After mum was diagnosed of high blood pressure in 2018, I should have bought a bp checking machine for her to use in checking her bp every morning, so as to know whether or not to take a blood pressure reducing drug, but foolishly the thought never crossed my mind.

So I'm begging everyone who reads this, please and please, PLEASE, don't be as stupid as I was, if a loved one has high blood pressure, please either get a bp machine for her to check her blood pressure every morning and ask a pharmacist/doctor for bp medications she can be taking regularly, or at the very least take her to a nearby pharmacy every week to check her bp. If you're too busy, beg someone close to you to be doing it. Because if the loved one gets a Hemorragic stroke in Nigeria today, whether she recovers or not, you've lost her.

It's been more than 3 months, and I consider myself a very strong hearted person, but every 2 or 3 days, I look at mum, and I break down in tears.

They're usually quick to label me a coward, pessimist or faithless person.

most of time women happen to be the instigator with their sharp mouths, brutal ingratitude, nagging and manipulative impulse to provoke by any means

Martinez39s:
Lol. Stylishly engaging in the fooliśh act of exaggerating and trying to compare this case with that of rape or domestic abuse between husband and wife. While a crime remains crime, it is right to uphold due process in rape allegations for the sake of false allegation, and the same applies in allegations of domestic violence between husband and wife. Beating your husband or wife is legally wrong and the culprit should be punished, but the public will always want to know the instigator and most of time women happen to be the instigator with their sharp mouths, brutal ingratitude, nagging and manipulative impulse to provoke by any means. I don't know what you mean by "y'all" because as far as I know, I don't support rape or domestic violence. I won't shalaye any further.

What could that girl had done that could not have been punished with cane? What type of stubbornness would warrant such cruelty?

By the way, I was not attacking or dissing you with my post even though you read all sorts of emotions and meaning into it. I was only pulling your legs.

Martinez39s:
Did the "patriarchy" make her do it?

put a kitchen knife on fire and when it became hot, she placed it on her face. The woman also got hold of her hand and placed it directly on the fire.

goodheart02:
Shut up! If u know u have nothing to say. Who told u she has a bad mouth??. And mind u, I know her way back when we were in medical school together. She's a rare gem

magicminister:
Mr Ortom, if that was your daughter beaten and abused like an animal, would you still be pushing for reconciliation? Look at her face for Christ sake!
As a governor, part of your role is to uphold the law of the federal republic Of Nigeria but your actions on this day led to the subversion of Justice to the victim of domestic assault. It’s not the first or second time she’s been brutalized but it’s the first time she’s coming out publicly. Rather than help her and protect her and her tender children, we pushed them back to the abuser.

It is heartbreaking that the earliest memories of those children would be seeing their mother beaten like an animal! Tell me how those children would become functional and stable adults?

Shame on everyone that’s a party to this travesty!!

Mr Ortom’s daughter will most likely end up in countries where such abuse will earn you sever punishment. She’ll likely end up in a society where she’ll flourish and be protected by the law. Rather than building same for our women, this man is publicly Reconciling a serial abuser and his victims (victims because of the abuse also impacts the children)

loveymom:
Post when you cook.

Prestonn:
Si very ok

Muchas Gracias.

Acidosis:
Chef Coco. Well done.

omojesu202:
I told my lady that it is my brother that would name our first child because of the role he played in my life. She didn't argue.

It is not by force to marry ooo or you can keep divorcing and changing husband's.
that one na your cup of tea.

Petyprincess:
Ate this earlier

loveymom:
Onugbu soup

Please somebody, anybody dash me fufu ooooo

InvertedHammer:
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That’s what you get for getting married.

Next life, stay in your lane.

Common cheating and you wan off yaself?

Take care of your kids and forget her. That’s all

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MeeztaFabulouz:
I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs . I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't understand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means.

Teespice:
You have said it all. What my eyes have seen when it comes to matrimonial matters/divorce proceedings, my mouth can't even say.

Her body language and the fact that she couldn't look her husband in the face speaks volumes.

Righteousness89:
Long Overdue!!!
Except we wanna DECIEVE ourselves

omojesu202:
yes, they can decide as husband and wife. But if both starts insisting then the husband should have the final say.
I don't need to tell you that.

CSTRR:
That the man is walking free even with that clear evidence is proof that Nigeria is a jungle.

Saccharine:
See the face of the person that has reconciled, does it look genuine or happy? See her body language pulling away from the man with her eyes downcast.

Both of them are not happy, why force them to continue all the unhappiness.

Is the governor a therapist?

This is how women become trapped within abusers under the name of settling they pile on pressure and guilt her into remaining in a situation where she will literally collect beatings day in and out.

This woman has been effectively silenced and no matter the amount of beatings, may never have the guts to come out in public again to defend herself.

Same with the wives of Duncan Mighty, Femi Fani Kayode, same tactic, they get beaten up,expose their men, get pressured to remain, get beaten up again and then the men come out to the media to claim infidelity.

kalu61:
Africa culture place such responsility on the man first

omojesu202:
don't blame your aunt, instead blame the man that marries such a woman who has the audacity to try to overshadow her husband in naming their child.
such a woman does not regard the man as the head.
would you marry such a woman??

clarocuzioo:
Hahahaha, she's just a bitch well known inda hood.

So we are not surprised this is happening.

If there's anybody that should be off the social.media it's her as she has a whole lot of baggages.

clarocuzioo:
Am not part of the problem. I wasn't even in the country when the marriage took place. Even though I was supposed to be in the wedding as the invitation came to our house.

I told my people it's not worth it because I know who's involved.

The guy was obviously confused by the girls beauty that he didn't do a thorough back ground check on the girl he wants to marry, marriage is beyond physical looks.

Besides what my own with the guy's decision to marry her.

khingTony:
I said "maybe" or can't you read?

johnnychuks:
face which topics? why can't you follow the topic where it start from? some one who know her very well is telling us her family issue that lead to what the man is facing, you are here talking what we don't understand, that is how men make great mistake when to want to marry, because they failed to run a feasibility check on the family they want to have as an inlaw, go an ask our father don't do such mistake before marriage, if I lie asks your father.