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When will this company be investigated? When all Nigerians are dead? Can't they learn from ABC and co who rarely get into such accidents because of their good management proper training.

I'm annoyed that the government is still turning a blind eye to this. Is someone being bribed to look the other way? Poor souls being sacrificed on the altar of mediocrity every single day.

Chrisrare:
U sound like a rap.e victim, i sincerely apologise, i didn't know. U'll get over it, just a matter of time.

So what if I am? Does victim-shaming me stop you from being the retardedd rapist apologist that you are?
Or is it supposed to make me shut up?

Chrisrare:
Goat i dont tolerate rapists. Dressing decently will go a long way in curbing rap.e.

you're a retardd. Accept that and move on.

Chrisrare:
Since u disagree wif me, maake sure u advise ur daughters to be waalking d streets half-unclad. Iranu...

fool. You can teach your sons to grab any lady they see skimpily dressed on the road. Ode.

Okay. Sorry for that.

Well probably there's something against the employees taking money from clients in the employee guidebook. And he might be a stickler for the rule book. That may be why they dislike him in the office.
Either way I haven't seen what he did wrong.
I wish him the best.

Kaira333:
Dear u are getting me wrong, I wasn't refering to d man. What I mean is people dat do business with them, like for instance we, Assuming we get a good contract with them, after d business we can wish to give d worker dat invited us something to show appreciation. If d man happens to know or see dat, dats a big problem. I didn't say he should show appreciation. For what kwanu?

Shameless hypocrite.

fiizznation:
You are the person that ought to be ashamed of yourself for saying that somebody who graduated from a war college doesn't have SSCE certificate. Ok let's even agree that Buhari doesn't have the certificate; what are you going to do about it since your entire life depends on the credibility of the 'so-called' certificate?

Chrisrare:
Women need to stop dressing provocatively to curb rape... Those rapists shuld be castrated.

Are you serious? There must be something wrong with you.

babeface3:
The question I am asking is: does resignation absolve one of criminal charges? when you make such statement, does it not say much about the aim of such charges, talking of the ill fated intent of the executive? I hold my peace for now!

exactly

Gold digger. Right?

Where's this appreciation money supposed to come out from? His personal salary (seeing as he's just another employee) or the company's money? Just asking.

Kaira333:
lolxxxx, Maybe dats d case but I don't think its right to become everyone's enemy in d office. Nobody is encouraging bribery and I didn't say he is against people bribing them. Are u telling us dat appreciating ur costumers after doing good business with you is bad? Its not bribe because d person didn't ask for it, its from ur hrt just to encourage him or her. Eat alone and die alone no de favour business sometimes ooooo

Same thing I thought when I was reading her story.

Nigerians like to feel as if people owe them. What does the man owe them? He gave them a contract and she's complaining that it's a small one not even up to one million naira. Haba. Seriously.
We need to get rid of this entitlement mentality.

eyinjuege:
Op, people hate the guy for not encouraging bribery. He's being hated for doing the right thing!

I don't think he's done anything bad to any worker from your write up.

I've not read anything about him not being humble.

He could have asked your husband for a bribe to get a contract with them but he didn't. His company has just lost a honest man I'd say.

We all will experience set backs at a point or the other, but that's usually for a period. The experience makes us stronger, wiser. The dude's gaining his own life experience now.

I try to stay fit both for my health and my Oga's eyes. There's nothing wrong in staying fit for your partner. I require same of him.

No pot belly tire-neck man has the right to expect a fit wife.

@bold is key. Very very important.

For the men who are reading. It is highly important. Don't come here and complain your wife is this and that after labor and delivery. You gotta do your part. And even then still be patient.

Onegai:
Anecdotally, I think for most women it's back to normal at 4 months after. Are we scaring her? I wish I had known these things, so I would have been more prepared as to what happened rather than "surprise!".

OP, it's not all bad and it's not all pushing daisies. It's actually the best time to bond with your husband, if he plays his cards right and you do your part, your marriage will be strengthened and so many girls do 3 hours of pushing, produce a baby and are back to business as usual 1 month after. Every woman is different.

Rilokiley, it's Mother Nature's way of protecting the species (after doing her best to kill it ). Nature wants to make sure the newborn gets the best chance at survival and nurture by Exclusive Breastfeeding, Baby's need for constant attention (the human being is the most helpless of all animals at birth, it could die easily compared to all other animals) and Hormonal changes which affect her libido. This makes the mother not want to get pregnant anytime soon so she pushes the father away because she's not in the mood for sex. And the newborn gets breastmilk and attention required during the crucial stages. So most women are fine by 4 months postpartum but depending on things like how traumatic labour was, it could take longer for some mums. So yeah, sex will be going through the motions for that time (your doctor will recommend KY jelly and encourage you to be patient with madam). The best way to overcome this is for the husband to help out with the baby and domestic chores. I'm serious . A nurse asked mothers in Healthcare section and almost all of them replied that the more the husband helped out, the more sex happened. Your wife will feel guilty and want to reward you for your loving care. Mentally what happens is that she acknowledges you're part of the parental bond when you do so and welcomes you back in (it will take a while before she becomes enthusiastic but at least you will be shining her Congo till then).

http://www.whattoexpect.com/family/6-common-sex-after-pregnancy-problems-and-solutions

http://www.babycenter.com/0_lets-talk-about-sex-after-the-baby_11802.bc

I kind of feel they should make fathers attend birthing classes or antenatal classes once in a while. Someone should organise these Mommy-Daddy-and-Me classes.

There is an argument for both sides. Just do you.

For me being single is better than an unhappy marriage but who says you're going to have problems in marriage. Having negative expectations is just a quick way of getting them.

Whatever

wizard007:
Aunty coco, STOP EET!........ stop being sentimental, and all these assuming things.

It is not his uncle that he saw, so it doesn't even add up bringing that into fore, of course he might have thought differently if he saw his uncle afterall family first and I bet anyone would have covered his/her own blood ass.

I am not saying the OP should spill, but puleeeaase! Let's call a spade a spade abeg

I don't think it's the same for everyone.
Mine is only 4months old and I feel like my old self. Have felt so for a while now. I had to rest and refrain from any form of sexual penetration for the recommended 6weeks post partum. But that was it.

Let's not scare her now.

Sometimes fear and expecting unpleasant experiences can actually make such happen.

Onegai:
Stylesco, even if you did CS, you realise most women lose their libidos immediately after birth right? As in, it's a hormonal thing. You will feel raped everytime you have sex for 2 or 3 months until you mentally begin to accept your body back (it will feel like he's invading you and your child). And then sex will be at a minimum because after your child wakes up 4 times a night (which will happen till the age of 1 or more years old), you and your hubby will be too exhausted to be going at it like Spring Chickens.

You knew all this, right...

OP sorry I've an opinion but I'll keep it to myself because it's possible that like most Nigerians you're a 'possible' shameless hypocrite.

If you saw your uncle in a guest house with a woman not his wife, would you come here to ask us what to do?
Wouldn't you be preaching to his wife (if she finds out) that no marriage is without problem. She should endure, pray for him, try to win his heart back, be more submissive and the host of the asinine things you folks remember when a man cheats on his wife.

Not holding brief for his wife but we are tired of the hypocrisy bro.

Mindfulness:
The receptionist should be fired for not respecting the guest's privacy.

No professionalism.

byvan03:
Do exactly what you would do if your uncle was the one you caught .

Na that time he will remember to preserve their marriage and not be a home wrecker.

isokey:
Thanks. Its often said that most First timers do have tears.... how true is this?

Maybe it's true because I had some. But nothing even an assistant can't stitch. Nothing to worry about. it does sting when you bath but it heals pretty quick.

I think it has more to do with the size of the baby than whether the mom is a first or subsequent timer. My baby was quite big.

True. No one is snatched. They made the decision to do what they did.

If I have an affair, I'm to blame for wrecking my home. Not the guy I allowed to come in. And vice versa. We should stop making excuses and absolving ourselves of blame for our own offense.

isokey:
*Deep sigh*... Please, i would appreciate anyone shedding more light on how to avoid tears and reduce pain in vaginal birth delivery for a first timer.

Reduce pain? Epidural or some other kind of pain meds.

Avoid tears? Not sure how that can be controlled. But a good doctor or nurse will stitch it up real good and when it heals, it will be good as new.
or they might just give you a little cut so that you don't have random all-over-the-place tears.

How do they know it's him?

Don't get me wrong, I've no pity for rapists and violent killers like those who committed that heinous crime. Just hope they didn't execute the wrong person/s.

No. I don't like him but he's better the SP than the one buhari will pick from him family or in-laws side to come foist his every whim in the Nigerian masses. As if the one he's doing is not enough. Tyrant

The judge held that the detention was not illegal since it was backed by an order of court.

Justice Adeniyi, however, faulted ‎the practice by the EFCC of arresting and detaining a suspect for the purposes of investigation .

How contradictory.

Zoo

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HaneefahRN:
Good man. How many orphans or relative's children have you taken in as a bachelor? You seem to know about how to take care of children, it isn't rocket science after all.

fem29:
Good thing cococandy doesn't live in Nigeria then. stop ranting up and down.

dude is a retardd. Stop giving him attention.

Pregnancy, childbirth and high calorie diets are the main culprits.

Lol. I thought I was the only one who's thought about this. A 45 yr old single man will have no relation clamoring to move in with him. Once he's married, all his family will remember that they have a brother.

Almost as if there's this unspoken desire to frustrate the wife aka 'the stranger that came into the family' out of the man's life. I can't think of any other explanation. Why the sudden desire?

teenagetalks:
sometimes, I really do wonder why relatives bring up issue of their children staying with their uncles or cousins after marriage. haba,what happen all the while this person was a bachelor. why didnt there sent all the battalions then.I seem not to understand the idea.A man was staying alone for donkey year,no relation stayed permanently. immediately the dotted line is signed,A whole community want to move in,the mother inlaw not excluded. Every body claiming my brother,son etc house.where were ye all,when he living alone.hmmmm, what women go through in marriage .

Man's house indeed. Because the wife is a tenant in it.

You're obviously a retard. I need a knock or two for engaging you in the first place.

SamMilla1:
Who would blame you evil thing.
You are probably having a very bad marriage, that's if you are married.
I pity the unlucky coward that lives with you.

One thing you blackheads should always understand is that it's pretty much easier to find a woman to marry than to find a man who will marry you.

So before you give those ultimatum in a man's house, especially against his relatives whom you don't know the relationship between them, know that it's easy to send you packing.

Wish I had your patience to calmly explain things like this to 'adults' who should know such without being told.

enygmababe:
@SamMilla1 and Valprof, you may have a point but you have also being very extreme.

1. You assume that marrymeee was wicked even from the beginning because she said initially she did not want the child. Well, when a couple are young and newly wedded, particularly when there are no kids yet, bringing in a child from a relative is something that should be seriously considered first because it will inhibit relations between the couple. A young couple in the home alone will make love any and everywhere. The can prance around their house naked and cook when and if they feel like so when thinking of bringing in a child it merits serious consideration.
2. We live in a society where we believe strongly in monitoring spirits so when a couple are newly wed, it is advisable not to bring in third party as then there will be no freedom to argue, quarrel or hash out issues without interference or someone listenning in.

3. You are right about the broken toilet sit though. It is difficult to believe that an 11 year old can do that however is she makes something heavy crash on it well... I speak from experience when I say some kids can be like messenger on a mission. My hubby's cousins visited us severally after marriage. One in particular was something else, he broke and cracked almost all my teacups. I just reserved the cracked ones for him. Till date I have had to use glue on all my ceramic ornaments. He broke them all and would not say. You will only get there and find that it was arranged there like it was not broken. One days after breaking a glass, he took the shards and placed them inside my hubby's shoes. I thank God his elder sister was around. She was the one that raised the alarm 'Sister sister!! Gift wants to kill brother!' I was too shocked to reply? Except of course to ask him later why he thought that was the best place to put the shards. He was destructive. But he loved to sing. I still remember him holding tight to the CD player and singing 'ma babe ma babe, ma babe you're the one I want for me...'

If he does something wrong and you asks him why he just looks at you, doesn't say a word.

For my sanity, I cut his visits but I visit them. Amternal feelings do no develop over night, they grow over the 9 months and as you watch a baby grow. Also if a woman grew up with kids she could be more inclined to mothering another person's child however take not that when you handle bed wetting, it needs do someone to wake up several times at night, breaking your sleep to wake up the child and force them to pee. And often times even after,they still do it. The man is hardly available to do that. When the bed is wet and the house smells, it is the woman's responsibility to correct the smell else, the man's friends will complain and make the woman out to be dirty again.

Finally, no one has asked if the girl wants to be there. Despite the better living conditions have you bothered to find out if she wanted to leave home? That might be the reason why she is acting out. In my teenage years, one of my most loved aunts got married and my mum sent my younger sister to live with her in Lagos not because my parents could not take care of her but because my aunt was loving and she was moving to Lagos which was like the London of Nigeria. While those of us back ho.e envied my sister for being the 'lucky' one we never knew that my sister felt abandoned. According to her she felt like our parents hated her the most and sent her into servitude. Thankfully she came back after three years but I am still baffled when she explains how she felt.

The best persons to take care of a child are the parents. And 'uncle' should stop birthing like....and take care of his children.

1) leave him.
2) bear it and 'pray' for him until he's tired one day and decides to come back to you. Hopefully before he's 70.
3) talk to him (like you haven't already). but let's just put that out there for the sake of posting.