It is to my understanding that "fat" is not a medical term. Medically you are overweight or obese.

A school of thought tells us we humans don't like hearing the truth about ourselves. And for some unknown reason, we have believed that the realization of truth will usher us into a state of unhappiness (which is a choice the mind makes after weighing physical circumstances as against inner resolve and an emotional state). Consequently, we choose to live in a fake world, one that we foolishly and endlessly try and fail woefully to sustain with a fake lifestyle of over-indulgence on material wealth and the show of it.

An obese lady, instead of working on her body mass (remember weight according to Mr Physics varies from place to place on the earth) would rather adorn herself with cheap cosmetry and other artificialities in order to distract and give herself and onlookers the impression of a physical beauty she knows in the depths of her soul she does not possess, and over time, what do we have - a lady adding muscle fat in all the wrong places, and where there was once beauty and form intermingled with grace we have a graceless, bulgy physique adorned with cellulite, folds and flabs (covered with the distraction of tight, body-hugging clothing) with a belly competing with that of a pregnant woman, and a body overworking its heart with a grandeur similar to that of the engine of an okada trying to power a submarine...such a woman's self esteem becomes inversely proportional to her body mass, which is why the average woman would always tell you they don't know their body mass (after eyeing you with a malice that can kill a leviathan); truth is they know it but they refuse to keep it in their conscious and would rather make a mental note to remember to forget the fact that they are not healthy and fit health-wise.

Another school of thought states that the noun or adjective "fat" is somewhat impolite and void of decorum. We are meant to say a lady is "plump" instead of "fat", and though Courtesy demands this, she cannot force everyone to do her bidding.

This is a question thrown at the ladies so I answered using them as the subject-topic, I am not a chauvinist so I shall not carelessly say men are not guilty of being obese as well, such a statement goes without saying...

Would to God that we can watch our weights and our words the same way we watch our phones; the world would be a much better place in two-thirds of a heart beat.

If you want to discipline your mind, then discipline your body (through fasting), if you want to have control over your body, discipline your mind (through meditation).

Its that simple.

Eat like a king in the morning, a servant in the afternoon and an anorexic in the evening.

Avoid alcohol, don't flirt with her all the time, and avoid eating heavily at night. If you must do so, then be up well enough for the food to digest before you think of lying down and sleeping.

All these and more tips are more than enough to keep your pot so inside your belly you would have to buy another one to cook to feed ur famished soul.

But no, we break these rules, our bodies feeding on our lust for a desire to quench a starvation sparked off by our own laziness to control our own impulses, thereby compulsively enabling us to destroy our bodies with unnecessary glucose, fat and proteins which stores itself in our bodies for the event of a starvation that would never be born because the need for such will never arise from the grave of our appetite.

anyone with a pot belly, man or woman, is indisciplined, and therefore not in control of his or her life.

A lot of excuses may be tabled on the cuisine of discussion and reason, but at the end of the day, one who desires to keep fit and remain fit will find a way. After all, in the pursuit of purpose the mind always finds a way.

There are 24 hours in a day, more than enough time for us to achieve whatever we want to, for crying out loud God made the sun, all the stars and the moon in the space of that time, why can't we just find enough to exercise and watch our weight?

But no, we'd rather watch telemundo, our phones, our girlfriend's social escapades on twitter/instagram/fakebook facebook until we are too tired to watch our health.

a pot belly is a big turn off for me, be you a billionaire, a sex goddess, a man of God or a poor and sorry excuse for a derailed, fantasizing speck of stupidity, I cannot accord you the respect I should.

the sad thing about a pot belly is it takes a long time to get rid off, and since overfeeding and careless eating and sleeping patterns has become the norm, this is beginning to quietly become a standard for our society today.

the day my belly gets so big i can't look down and see my toes is the day my september ends, as it would mean i am so unable to control my mind that I have lost the ability to discipline and control my body and consequently my life as well.

calddon:
Clergymen should face d gospel of the kingdom of God as directed by our lord Jesus and leave politics to the politicians....... Anybody who disputes this knows not his Bible.

Was Daniel not a prophet in his time? Was he not one of the top guns in the Babylonian / Medo-Persian empire?
What are you saying?

aalangel:


My business will never be with the Pastor, but Nairaland that is full of negativity, as if churches do nothing right.

Well my dear no news sells like Bad News. This gets people talking, gossiping (it would amaze you how much people love to hear bad news to remind themselves that their lives and situations aren't so bad). The media is aware of this, so are bloggers and all others who would sacrifice credibility to feed their starving lusts.

This is reality, and as we desire to change it, we must endure for now.

aalangel:
OP and the mod that wrote and shifted this crap to front page, are you not afraid of God? Leave such matters for God to handle, cos He alone can handle his anointed.

Why don't you ever push positive Christian gist to front page??

My dear pls let us leave the "afraid of God" talk out of this. His actions are careless and completely shameful.

We all have our inner struggles, but parading them on the social media is forbidden by heaven on all counts.

Imagine all those who will be offended and stop or pause their christianity because of his foolishness.

The Pastor should be disciplined by his church for at least 2 years and if he is single, must marry and remain faithful to his wife until the elders are convinced he would not cause such an embarrassment to his denomination and the church at large ever again.

The Pastor should work on himself and curb his besetting sins, and if he chooses to willfully indulge in calculated acts of unrighteousness then by all means let him do so discreetly and in secret.

My dear God does not need to handle this matter, and trust me if He does, then you won't like how this Pastor will turn out! The bible speaks expressly on the judgment of those who cause others to stumble and fall in the faith.

In other schools of thought it is this kind of news that sells and will be easily and carelessly be found on the front page of nairaland. The MODs are probably only following instructions from our dear seun who, being a business man will see nothing wrong in showcasing truth about our spiritual leaders that some of us would naturally find spiritually offensive.

This is reality.

Its like what I always say,
The sins you secretly indulge in will one day disgrace you openly.

Score one more for the calculated foolishness of our spiritual leaders.

God have mercy on us all!

Amen.

you don't take alcohol; that is your preference.

she cannot date a guy that doesn't take alcohol; that is hers.

Our preferences, like our faces and color of farts are different and vary with respect to our persona, bodies and mental orientation. Sorega genjutsu (this is reality).

Her stance should not alarm you in the slightest; find a lady who loves yours and stick to her like your shadow does to you on a sunny day.

For me I don't take alcohol, I don't smoke, I don't watch football and I don't womanize. How do I catch my trips some guys might ask? Its easy; I lust after the deeper things of life; purpose, truth and the firstborn of wisdom and understanding that is enlightenment. My passion for deep introspection, meditation and research over the years has placed me on a pedestal that I can never get bored or lonely (as a mind constantly tasked and stretched to its limits cannot be tricked with the delusion that there is nothing around for it to feed on {boredom} or it is not wanted by others {loneliness}).

Consider me old, outdated, boring or just plain old-school; your mentality with regards to my personality, like your DNA, is your own, and sadly, cannot influence my reality (sorega genjutsu).

Any lady that can't date me because of my preferences, well, I do not spend a great deal of my time interacting with overgrown children.

and for the record your guy's reason for taking alcohol is the dumbest thing I have heard in the last 3 and a half eternities.

Akathriel:


Chukwu Okike Abiama, which way naa?

And how does your post affect the price of tomatoes in the market?

Shouldn't your utterances edify the minds and lives of others?

Must you always come to plant anti-tribal seed on the internet?

You hate a particular tribe, that is your own, but must you manifest your prejudice in such a shameful way?

You are a man, pls try to act maturely, your utterances are wrong and uncalled for.

And I am not for or against any tribe so don't go there...

Let me get this straight:

You met a human you described as the "most hungry and perhaps poverty-stricken beautiful creature you have ever seen in your life", in a bid to make her yours, you make a failing attempt at wooing her materialistic mindset and heart (which obviously isn't into you [but as she has been pressing your mumu button, your brain has failed to notice]), now that she has succeeded in milking you dry of the little money you impregnated your bank account with, you want to make the most foolish decision yet - to sell a tool that made Mark Zuckerberg the billionaire he is today in order to meet her trivial, superficial needs...on top of the fact that you foolishly believed that if you can spend your little pocket money on her she will open her legs for you?

First of all, what you have going on in your head is Infatuation; you don't lover her, if u did you won't make sex a priority; you would attempt to cherish her and bring out the best in her, after taking the pains to understand her. She probably just sees you as another ATM which she uses to take care of her body so she can look chick for her man of whom you are not and probably not aware of.

Secondly, You cannot take care of her, you are sooooo into her you cannot acquaint yourself with this reality, the hunger that births the fear that is taunting you at the lack of money you have currently isn't enough to hinder you from selling a possession of yours. You need to man up (or mature up [pick either of the two]) and take control of the situation by cutting her off from yourself before she prompts you indirectly to sell your shadow (a somewhat impossible feat at the moment [but with your desperation to take care of her wants {which you think are her needs} I trust your wrongly channeled zeal and creativity will cause your resolve to evolve into an idea that will make such a feat possible])....

You should have started off by being friends with her, understanding her, taking your time to have her acknowledge your maturity embedded in your existence, but as you did not, your being too forward with her makes her think you just want to have her and as such she too has decided to have your bank account as well...

This isn't a relationship, and if you must call it one, add the word "parasitic" as a prefix to the term. Imagine if she is now good at the mechanisms of fornication I wonder how much of your destiny you would sell to sustain the soul tie that would so cloud your reasoning you won't be able to caress a thought in your head without the interruption of a sexual encounter with her as the subject object topic.

My advise: Flee fornication, flee foolishness, flee her!

There is no glory selling that laptop to provide a lady what she knows her own dad cannot afford to give her for Saturnalia Shopping.

You have made enough wrong choices, so, please end this parasitic scam of a relationship immediately!
And change your moniker, only a child (that doesn't want to be taken seriously) would use such as a means to enforce his existence.

But if you must by all means take care of her, be prepared to go into slavery and armed robbery, because before your time is done you would have sold everything you have (money, possessions, emotions, reasoning, family, spirituality, destiny, purpose) in a bid to satisfy a lady who was never into you in the first place.

If only people would come for advice before they make important decisions that would affect their lives, but no - they would foolishly indulge in calculated actions of stupidity and when it all goes sideways they would come for advice; it appears some people would rather prefer medicine after death.

Perhaps drugs are more potent in the afterlife...

Anyone who pays you 900 million dollars to leave your boyfriend probably has intel that he will be a billionaire (or trillionaire) in a few years time, and as such is paying you ripping you off. That is the school of thought that came to me.

Speaking of school of thoughts here's another: "Anyone who leaves you because of money (no matter how much or insignificant) is merely telling you and themselves that their souls are worth far less in terms of monetary value; nah; dirt is much more expensive than they are."

It is true that people chase money or the comfort and or pleasures it can provide, but money can never provide the fulfillment that comes with doing the right thing; a heart, peaceful, unmovable like a mountain that rests legs crossed on the tiles of history...

Money answereth all things (according to Logos), asides that, money ain't that great. If it were, we would be buying Death off and be living as immortals on earth. As this isn't the case, this should tell you that the physical manifestation of an idea that money is cannot sustain permanently the physical manifestation of an idea (created in the mind of a most Supreme Deity) that we are.

But then again why would someone ask such an impossible question?

Do you have any idea how much 900 million dollars is?

In reality I believe it is very impossible for anyone to pay a woman to leave a man for that amount.

It appears only a mind idle of work and an attempt to truly and deeply task itself would consider pondering on such forbidden realities and eventually decide to throw away the prospects of a potential, successful relationship over an amount of paper generally accepted as a means of legal tender (the bulk of which would forever remain virtual, stored in a computer hooked onto cyberspace) that is only able to satisfy the body (albeit only for a short time) and unable to even taint the soul or spirit with even a drop of wholeness.

...so I should click on a link to find out how to know what's behind another shortened link?
interesting...

If you can afford a bone marrow transplant, by all means carry on and marry him. Current breakthrough in science tells us this is now very possible.

If you can afford the emotional strain and unbearable pain that comes with seeing your children enduring a crisis, looking them in the eyes and seeing their question "Why are u and daddy making me go through this?" mingled with a pain that cataflam cannot mask, and having to always live in fear of their death, by all means marry him. You have 1 in 4 chances of having a sickle cell child, with another 2 unable to marry whoever they would love to because they are hybrid carriers, naturally resistant to malaria (if you happen to give birth to 4 offspring)

If you have a faith as small as a mustard seed, potent enough to provoke the Hand of the Ghost of All that is Holy to alter the natural order of the genotype of your children, by all means marry him. In this lifetime I have two friends who's genotypes were altered because they believed the Power of and that is God cannot squat with the genetical evolutionary mishap that is sickle cell, and niw their blood type is AA. I say this not to lie, but to shamelessly promote the ideology that what you believe works for you...

So my dear, make your choice, its really about what you can afford and accept as your solution to your challenge.

But if you lack the resources to afford any of the afore mentioned, may I humbly suggest you call it quits and wait for someone you are compatible with.

But whatever u do marry a man and not a child, you deserve better as a lady.

The age when the stench of his enlightenment is so strong is steals the attention of everyone interacting with his aura and personality, forcing them to come to terms with his existence and labeling him as a King amongst men.

because boys children will be boys children.

Hatred is born out of anger (however mildly expressed or suppressed), and anger is born out of fear.

We fear what we do not understand, and we lack understanding on what we know little or nothing about.

So there you have it - the children in this forum hate the ladies because they not only lack a deep, forbidden understanding of woman-hood, they have failed to understand and (consequently accept) themselves as well.

The problem I have with hatred is that it is a cheap mask for fear, and the fearful cannot dominate the earth.

May i humbly but carelessly assume an assumption that the scenario the OP is painting would involve the couple having courted for a while, past the preliminary stages of acquaintance, dating and friendship.

When a man is in a relationship with a woman and he feels it is time to take things to the next level and he asks for her hand and she says no ("I can't marry you" it may just be that the woman is not convinced yet that he is mature enough to take care of her.

For some ladies a "no" may just simply mean "ask me again" or "you are not ready" or "you are not mature" and she might just be waiting for the guy to "man up".

Now I am talking about maturity in the sense of enlightenment, temperance and spirituality; this is not about how fat his bank account is or how long his copulatory organ is.

A lady might love a man to pieces but might just be waiting for him to be able to take care of her and lead her onto maturity as well.

Such a mature lady if a "child" asks her out, she won't want to say yes. Being a mother to a sucking, tantruming, pamper-wetting husband is not just an all-time job; it is a painstaking one as well.

Sometimes the thing about being a guy is you have to wake up to reality and become mature well enough that everyone around you will be able to notice quietly.

Most times the degree of understanding of this most important pre-requisite to marriage varies from guy to guy, and a sensible lady will never rush a man that is not mature enough into marriage; she would rather support him, care for him and wait for him to grow in his understanding by himself (because for some strange reason, if you try to rush a guy to mature quickly mentally as a woman, your intentions and actions, (though noble and well meant) if left unchecked might just escalate into a cataclysmic exhibition of disaster in the relationship...)

So, if a lady says no to a guy's proposal AFTER DATING HIM FOR A PASSING OF TIME (and not after just 2 and a half dates in an eatery), it most probably means he has more work to do on himself to convince her that he is more than capable to cherish her, protect her and provide for her and their future family.

My school of thought albeit rendered so scrupulously, is based on the assumption that they have dated / courted for a space of time.


Thanks.

Tallesty1:
This post is very long so I will skip introduction and go straight to the three misconceptions that women believe about men.


1. Men Are Intimidated/Feel Insecure Around Women With Wealth: I don't know where this mentality is from but I have this to say about it.

Nigeria men are not scared of successful women rather they are scared of control freaks. The type of woman that only feels good about herself if she makes you feel less than her.

These are the women that my brothers are scared of. It is called being careful and not insecurity.

Men are scared of women that have personality disorder.

Secondly, if a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women(career women) is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research).

Have you seen that it just isn't a Nigeria thing?

The same studies have found that professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it.

Men are not scared of women with wealth, they're simply not ready for their endless troubles.

Nobody will willingly pierce his body with many sorrows.

Now lemme bring it down to Nigeria women.

This is what happens when a guy asks for the hand of a rich girl in marriage.

Each member of the family will buy one Laser-Sharp Binoculars that can pierce through his flesh and bones and zoom the guy's soul to search his spirit to know if he's after the woman's wealth.

Even when the Binoculars reads negative, they still won't believe it, they will become very envious and are likely to disrespect the guy.

The guy have alota work to do to prove his not after their sister's money before they can respect him.....

The mama will be like, "My daughter, that guy is after your money. He's not good for you, wait my dear, when a good guy comes I will tell you".

Who wants that?

Finally, these women, especially those working in an office or something of that nature do not know that there are things one needs to succeed in business and work.

These things are direct opposite of what we need to have successful marriage and most of these successful women do not know where to cut the line.

To succeed in business, you have to be stubborn, in control etc. Bring these things into your marriage and you are in trouble.

Some successful women would rather blow the house up and everything in it than compromise or take personal responsibility.

Who Wants This?

Women Naturally want to exert control over everything. They enjoy to make those around them feel inadequate, insecure, nervous, angry, anxious and physically sick.

Go to married men that have richer wives and ask them, they will tell you that the message their women pass in everything they do is I don’t trust you to be able to do it right; I don’t respect your judgment; I don’t think you are competent; I don’t value your insight. I can do it all alone.

Stay Alone Then.

Your intelligence, as is your understanding, is legendary!

Wisdom flows through you like a waterfall; it appears the vessels of your mind are gorged with information corrupted by an experience with woman-hood that cannot boast of pride of prejudice.

I couldn't read your entire post; it was too deep and ladened with a mind that seeks to out-do itself in its quest for maturity and self-evolution. I shall come back at the crock of dawn and have me a feast on your regurgitated thoughts.

My Oh My!!!

Its been at least 3 and a half eternities since I beheld one with a level of enlightenment that would dwarf mine quietly in any conceivable time-line.

I shall seek out the verbose gesticulations of your thought processes, and I shall meditate deeply on your ideas and ideals in a bid to fashion out a most forbidden school of thought on woman-hood that would have you seated as its Principal.

Once more, I am humbled by your enlightenment!

For its practically very rare to meet matured minds on this forum. Believe me I have searched...

Mr Man,

Know Thyself,
Love Thyself,
And most important of all,
Understand Thyself.

When u have completely understood and come to terms with your overall self (body and soul) and essence, its easy loving, knowing and understanding others, women inclusive.

Asides that here are the 4 A's of Acceptance my big brother taught me 4 world cups back, worked like a charm back in my university days.

Appreciation,
Admiration,
Attention, and
Affection.

Give any lady all of these and she's bound to warm up to you.

As for the problems he is having in his relationships if you can be more specific advice can be easily rendered.

Leave Nairaland, go and focus on ur studies, pass ur WAEC, UME, NECO and whatever u need to enter a tertiary institution. That should provide an environment and platform for you to grow up mentally.

It obvious your bones as well ur brain are still developing and as such, you cannot process more than one thought at a time, the stench of your innocence copulating with your ignorance, albeit a sweet smelling savour to the hungry and destitute of dignity, will chase away the positive judgment of anyone who would seek to render you as a well rounded, mature, young lad.

I wish there was a pill you could swallow that would increase your level of enlightenment exponentially, but as there isn't, a slow course to mental stimulation, excitation, expansion and overall development is highly recommended for you my dear friend.

The grass is only greener at the other side when you stop watering and tending to yours.

A man sees his wife as beautiful; that is his reality, you see her as ugly; that is yours.

The beautiful thing about reality is that its all about perception.

The age at which you allow society tell you how to live give life.
For some it could be 30, for others 40, some others eleventy.

A difficult question to say the least.

A hundred million dollars (roughly 20 billion naira) is really tempting, in reality, a part of me would go with it, and if I don't save it, a part of me will sink with it forever; every challenge afterwards will look me in the eye and mock me and my business sense will call me stupid and all other sorts of things.

But if I save the money and choose to lose my mum and wife, there is no amount of cash or assets that will save me from the guilt of choosing money over them. I might live to be a hundred years old and my money would be able to buy anything for me, save the feeling that I did the right thing at the right time, and on my dying bed, I'd regret deeply and probably curse the day I made that mistake that changed my life and robbed me of my soul and humanity forever.

So, the money is out of the question.

I am left with my wife and my mother.

My wife is a part of me, we are not the two sides of a coin, we are the coin; our sides expressing and revealing our personalities and ideals which can best be understood differently by whoever looks at us. My wife completes me, defines me and re-defines me as I go about my purpose. To live without her is to live without the core essence of my being; a man flayed, trying to come to terms with his newly found existence that hides within the shadows of his depression, heavily pregnant without meaning but a despair that can only be comforted his grief and the passage of time...

But my mother is my source, without her, I cannot exist; my spirit will have no body to tether to, since my body came from the workshop that is her womb. I was created in the realm before earth, but my spirit married my body in my mother's womb; it was our home, our school and our church where we met, got acquainted, bonded and manifested into this world. There won't be anything left for me to share with my wife, and my orientation of life and eternity would be baseless and shapeless without the accompanying lessons I received form her...

So here I stand, watching the two most important women sinking before my eyes, the third (money) I shall carelessly divorce for the sake that I might in a bid to save three (myself included) lose one (money)...

Whether I can even swim well or not the painter of the scenario does not say, but if the circumstance determines that I can only save one then I shall be forced to make a choice.

I will first choose my mother because I will never have another in this life or the next (no mammary glands or vaginas in heaven mind you), and I shall let my wife die (it may appear she died rich as she sinks with the money, but at this serious point of call, such witty, ironic humor shall recede into the deepest parts of my mind that a logical thinking pattern blessed with adrenaline might take over).

The problem with this choice (since I know my mother very well) is that she too will be unhappy with me (and herself) for the rest of her life. She will tell me once she wakes up that I should have saved my wife and left her to die, since she had lived her life well enough to know that I haven't begun to live mine. And if I know my mother very well she would jump right back into the water (even though she knows she can't swim) to save my wife, and I'd have to jump into the water all over again...

So, who would I save in truth? I'd save my wife.

I'd leave the money (even if i wanted to, a hundred million dollars {in gold or cash} would be too heavy for me to pull up to the surface fast enough to go back and save the women in my life [estimating its weight]), and I'd save my wife, knowing my mother would approve of such a thing (and like most high-rated Hollywood movies she'd say a touching cool line whilst sinking like "save your wife you stupid boy, and tell that your bald head father I knew about him and Cynthia), and after saving my wife I'd go down and save her as well, hoping that God would humour us all and mouth to mouth resuscitation would save the day...

So, in a nutshell,

I'd save my wife,

Then i'd try save my mum (at least I'd bring her body to the surface and try to call her spirit back into her body),

If I can save both, then I'd be so happy I'd go back down and look for that money!


But to save wealth at the expense of life, even Death herself might just mutter aloud "eleyi gidigan" (this one is strong!"


lol!

who created this post? he should have his ear cleaned off of wax with a pestle...

Look carefully at the first pic, you will see the man's elbow and hand close to and beside utis, how can someone be looking at someone else's behind whilst rubbing elbows with him and his (the looker's) head is tilting forward, eyes bent in humility, searching to strike at an object with its captivated-or-yet-to-be gaze?

Then look at the mans eyes, especially his left one, you will see (if you are honest, observant and very in tune with your anatomy) that he is looking in front of uti, way in front of his shoes, most likely at a table in front or the heels or feet of someone standing beside the person who successfully and without malice, captured the digitally rendered imagery that is intriguing us all.

The second picture carelessly gossips the fact that he still has his eyes on what kidnapped its attention it in the first place; obviously mentally stimuluated, he attempts to further feed his fantasy even though his brain has re-inititated at path to another course of activity.

There is no way the man was looking at uti's behind.

Blogger's nowadays and their cheap senseless lies...

How this got to be news is one thing, how many people will believe the cheap lie for what it truly is is another...

Amazing what the mind can concoct when it is driven by a lust to satisfy a desire for wealth by any means necessary unnecessary.

lol!

Om0-shiroye so dana!!!

Since a wife is an extension of her husband and they are now two souls and one body, I shall carelessly state that no sane man or husband beats himself or inflicts harm to his body, except he is beside himself.

There may be a method to his madness but that doesn't and can never justify his actions to self inflict damage on his marital body.

Outside the bonds of marriage this attitude must be held by all mature men. There are ways of making a woman see her wrongdoing rather than forcing her to block his punches with her face. Such an act within itself isn't just thought provoking but also gender insulting.

Money (or the love of it {which is simply evil}) is not everything; if it were people like Solomon would have bribed death to keep him alive for at least 2 eternities.

OP perhaps you are trying to prove that given the chance anyone would succumb to things that they naturally detest or things that violate their own most personal moral code.

Or perhaps you are conducting a research and you need multiple, unbiased opinionated retorts.

A most amusing thread, let's hope it offers us some insight as to the minds of the self-demoted, fallen god that is adamic man.

Well here's mine; I'd humbly refuse his offer and his money.
Why? Several reasons

Money, like the Internet is virtual; the bulk of it cannot be seen or handled; it is intangible (Google tells me 70% of money all over the world is kept in computers). Money is anything that can be used as means of legal tender, hence, we use printed notes to represent what money truly is - its virtuality. At one time in 1918 if I can remember we are told the Germans used cigarettes as currency when their money had completely lost it's value.

Money is an idea, hence it can never truly be measured as per its worth in any man's life or the worth of a man's life as well.

Be it 10 million dollars or 1 million dollars I cannot bend my principles; It is a Ironclad rule I must enforce with myself at all times (Logos tels me "a man's life does not consist in the abundance of things he possesses" Luke 12:15).

I would rather a person would have intimate relations with the man for free to tickle his fantasy or feed his inordinate sensuality than for a financial reward, else it would seem the person is selling his soul for money (or the love of it).


The thing is I would never find myself in this particular scenario because I have evolved past the ability to compare myself with other men. My destiny as is my purpose is my own, and since it is as unique to me as is my thumb-print, I cannot compare my destiny and purpose-driven path with that of any other man, animal, angel, fallen angel (demon) or god. That within itself is foolishness and is bred of the pitiful rape of a low self esteem by a mind yet to be fully aware of himself, purpose and potential.

As long as she is courting a man and not a child then by all means let them carry on.

Educational qualification or prowess is not a yardstick for guaging the success of a marriage or the enlightenment of an individual.

Why must a woman ask a man for money?

Can't she condition her mind to be financially independent?

Why must a man also reward some women with money for the possible possibility of having intimate relations with them?

Can't he condition his mind to see women as wonderful gifts from heaven and not just tools to indulge in his sexual fantasies?


*meditating deeply on the issue*

The truth must be told as it unfolds; guy you went too far.

You are a man, and a man you must remain. Irregardless of the circumstance you must remain an example of strength and control at all times.

Not this would not always be easy, but an excellent spirit, a sound mind and a healthy body is a good trinity worthy to be envied and emulated.

You should also learn to empathize with others.

There is a high probability the guy didn't know what he did, hence your counter-actions were not only unnecessary but would be regarded by nature as the beginning of a string of events of which if Karma were provoked to act, it is you who would receive the consequences of your actions.

But let us deny Karma her existence and influence in the laws of the multiverses temporarily as we assume he was not aware of his actions. You should also remember that several factors formed voltron to present to you the most probable future that is your unpleasant experience; if the clouds were not condensing water particles from the first heaven, there would be no puddles of water to be splashed on you and thus, the offense rendered you would have been still-born. Also if his vehicle wasn't speeding or if he wasn't distracted by his thoughts or the game of conversation he was probably playing with his female friend he would have seen you and perhaps not have done what he did.

If it were me I'd allow the inner critic within me come to his defense and raise all these charges on his behalf so even if I felt offended and or cheated, I'd immediately forgive him for his actions and after returning to reality, atone for the consequences of my decisions and overall purpose.

And what if he did splash the water on me deliberately on a whim? What if it was all premeditated by his persona?

I shall suffer for an offense I did not give; this is reality, I must accept this. The feeling of being cheated or wronged is nothing but a feeling; an emotional expression by my soul radiating from the excesses of my already stable and constantly adapting mental behavior, so being the feeling that it is I shall not define the rest of my day by it. It may persist, linger, reaching into the deeper parts of my soul, in a bid to provoke a lust for vengeance to be wrought either by assaulting the wrong-doer in a mental scenario (created within the vastness of my own personal mental universe within which all must acknowledge me as the divine ruler and deity) or physically (as our OP did). But I shall not succumb to its seductions or the unclothedness of its thirst for gratification, why? Because I am a man and I may not be able to control actions rendered to me but I can control my own actions and inactions with respect to the actions rendered.

OP - A contrite heart which can be yours as you come to realize you error, is commendable and acceptable in the Eyes of Him who seeth all things, knoweth all things and becometh all things. But may I humbly recommend you count to ten the next time you are angry before acting. If you are very angry then you can count to a hundred.

As for your fiancée, I have come to understand that a woman's first reaction to anything when provoked is her most sincere one. If she thinks you are mad you need to calm her down and lovingly reassure her that as you ascend the stairs to the pursuit of your purpose you will always be truthful to your self and others around you and that you will always cherish, defend and fend for her no matter what.

That should calm her down.


Cheers!

Some males think with their heads, others on their feet, others somehow have a brain nested within the complex nerve endings in their copulatory organ which they task to make decisions.

The latter, being able to attain such a rare, unnatural feat, transmit synaptic commands to their appendages blessed with ball and socket joints, which, like the hench men of an well structured but esoteric mafia, carry out their Don's will with an obedience that is worthy to be envied, twice blind and filled to 'divide-overflow' with a sense that knows neither itself nor the fear that comes to its birthday feast already betrothed to sanity.

If we must assume with no caution the presumption that the "like clickers" on the lady's post are these males, then we can also carelessly deduce that their third and middle leg which only rises when gorged with blood and a lust to empathize with the sensual machinations of a brain long infested with erotic scenes compliant with the laws of physics (friction & lubrication) and reproductive biology, has staged a temporary coup d'etat, assuming control of the ARMed forces of their organic, interactive, physical construct.

The result: an organ specifically designed for excretion and reproduction (which amongst all animals with the exception of humans and dolphins is active only once a year) has become the citadel of cephalisation, thereby controlling all the other appendages down to their digit-fingering to express the verocity of his self-lust having ingested poorly but passionately, the rendered digital imagery of a female captured kidnapped on an electronic device and spread over the virtual wonder that is the internet.

His motive is as enigmatic to me as the feeling one would ingest standing between the precipice of two eternities, his business his own, but one would be tempted to tempt himself with the thought of how long a man's destiny would continue to stand before him (all naked and void of shame and pretence), in a bid to get his attention, before he will come to his senses, and acquire the rare grace to abandon certain childish things having fully attained an Enlightenment as forbidden and lethal as a harmonic note sharpened to perfection (which can only exist between two semitones), able to cut off and away all realms and schools of frivolity from seducing his soul to continuously tarnish the embodiment of glory and divinity that he is...

A man's gift maketh way for him, but I believe a man's foolishness not only paves way for his destruction, it opens the door of chaos to him as well.

While death sits nearby, getting a sun-tan, bored, basking in a aura pregnant with foreboding, wondering how long she must be entertained by his actions and inactions before she writes his name in her DeathNote...

The mind boggles...

A sad story it is, but its just a year, endure until it is over.

Nice post,

all points are good and worthy of commendation and emulation.

But might I also add that to attain happiness we have to choose to be happy. Its a choice we have to deliberately make. That way irregardless of how our situation taunts us we can always smile. It is when we try to measure our selves or reward ourselves with happiness based on our circumstances that we will always fall short.
This choice must be mingled with thanksgiving to God, faith and hope for a good overall aroma that will be pleasing to the soul.

Also we must at all times face the reality of our situations and not give in to illusions and delusions.

A good example is when we lose a loved one; it is painful, but we must choose to accept the reality that they are no longer accessible to us in this physical plane or realm, and therefore we must move on with our lives remembering them for what they believed and walking with the reality that they would have wanted us to be happy at their demise.

We need more threads like this on the front page so we can further make the world a better place by imbibing into ourselves the positivity of life.

There are scenarios in this life that are mind boggling; they cook your ability to reason, bringing forth a good aroma of confusion mingled with bespectacled wonder, well seasoned, sizzling with more questions than your curiosity can contain in a pot of good, well brewed nonsense.

Your case is one of them.

How old are you? Cos your actions cannot be easily rendered by a man who's maturity has been established and recognized.

I have read your other post, and I am deeply wondering how prepared you are for marriage.

Why will you, engaged as you are (I assume) allow a lady (whom you so easily call a prostitute) spend the night in your place?
Whatever reason you have I would like to have it so I can best understand your pattern of reasoning.

Your sexual relations with her (as mentioned and shamelessly endorsed by you in your previous post) is your business so I shall not dwell much on that, but care to tell, why you feel you are falling in love with her?

You who are engaged or contemplating marriage to another lady, why would you so easily sleep with a woman, tag her as cheap, whorish and desperate then you allow yourself to develop feelings for her?

Why?


If you claim you are a man or you are mature why did you hide her when your mother came knocking? If you are so much in love with her as you claim why didn't you face your mum and tell her?

And if you must pull such escapades why are you still living in your family house? Bringing disgrace to your family name by soiling it with your calculated, foolish escapades with a LovePeddler?

Guy why?

Hiding your finance's pictures (to better your conscience or hers) slaps me in the face with the reality that you are simply not man enough to handle the reality that comes with commitment that marriage so selfishly desires from you. Not only will you cheat when you are married, but you will break your wife's heart then come back here creating a confused thread about your exploits in a bid to seek advice when everything would have gone sideways...

The disgrace your elder sister served you was very much called for, truth be told you need to be set straight.

You are confused because you have allowed yourself to sink so low into the pool of your immaturity and childish thinking that you feel there is no easy way out.

Reality is there isn't; whatever decision you take you have hurt two hearts already (asides yours), you just don't notice it yet.


My advice:

Postpone your marriage until you have acquired enough common sense to handle your woman (and your own life) properly.

Choose one of the ladies and free the other. If you choose your bae, then free this babe and stop this your LovePeddler-mongering.

Your bae needs to know of your escapades, report yourself and seek forgiveness and atone for your wrongdoing. If she loves you she will forgive you and stay with you. If she does not then you will live your life knowing you still have some integrity left with regards to this whole issue.

If you choose not to tell her then good luck to you when she finds out about your other babe.

And don't drown yourself in the illusion that anyone is meant for you at this period, man up and work on your wisdom and enlightenment. Because relationships and marriage is not for children.

You wanted advice, I have it rendered,
Your choice will determine your future reality.