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I am very patient but I get very jealous and hate disrespect.

I can't condone cheating and an uncouthed woman, almost all my previous relationships died as a result of that.

If you are faithful and have good manners then I don't think anything will separate us.

The red flag I have is that I don't know how to forgive and well maybe I am stingy too according to them ladies, I haven't sent any girl money till date but I can you buy food and others but not giving you money.

Eyinju112:
Lol...
Are we suppose to clap hands for you because you think you did her dirty You’re the real Mumu here, do you think someone with such experience care about the dirty you think you did to her?? she’s gonna forget you in few days mhan. you’re the loser here, you lost both home and away. You sponsored her graduation, and did all the merry merry for her... Who send you? You’re a simp and the lady doesn’t want a simp. you see that guy she told she wan knack, that’s the real bf FYI

Of what use is such a woman.

Abeg both of them na mumu.

mariahAngel:
By the time loneliness comes calling, baba will run back to his wife.

Can't you tell he values his pride more than her, he will definitely cope, he's an old man and he knows at his old age he will live his life with or without her, only weak men believe men need a wife to keep them company at old age.

She will go to her father's house at her old age, what a shame.

morok22:
Let start by commending OP for his maturity at this tender age. Look, I have read many comments from nairalands. It shows that most of our youths are not matured but mentally and spiritually. How on Earth will a reasonable thinking person will advise you to beat any of your parents no matter the situation. It shows lack of moral upbring and "social media wisdom" that the end is destruction.

My advice for you is as follows:
(1) if you think that your father is weak, what of his relatives? They know what they see before neglecting your mother and allowing her to take control of the house.
Before a woman will misbehave this way, it is more spiritual that physical. She possess a power that all your father family members are afraid of. Nobody wants to die before his time.

(2) Beg your mother not to disrespect your father again because of the negative effect on you children. Try to be polite when you are talking to her because she will think you are supporting your father. Some parents do curse any child that doesn't support their evil acts.

(3) You need to go and meet your father wherever is staying now and beg him that your are not in support of your mother action. Let him realise this on time because he might have been cursing your mother and her children. By begging your father and his family will exempt you from family curse and God's wrath.
(4) You need to be very prayerful for God to open your ways because any woman that beats her husband is heaping curse on her children. Also, pray for your sister. She has already been captured by devil and her future is doomed.
Just to say little. God will restore love and spirit of unit in your family.
Remain blessed.

You are speaking pure rubbish.

She's not heaping any curse on that boy well maybe her sister and there's nothing spiritual here, the husband is weak and she took advantage of the situation, if someone manly enough put her in check she will bend.

She's feeling like a Lioness because there's no one to put her in check.

All these church people, una matter dae tire person, all I see here is beg and beg and beg, do you think it's what solves this kind of situation.

I am 100% sure you haven't handled a situation similar to this and I know he will like this your advice because he's weak.

frozen70:
So sorry for the whole embarrassing things that happened and still happening

I think you have to beg dad to come back home so that your mum will see that he loves his family

Now the most important advice I will give to you and your dad is to over look your mum and your sister especially when they starr their crazy behavior

You guys should just over look then if you can, at the end of it doesn't work out well for your sister, she will fight with your mum and they will become black enemies

You and your dad will just be observing

There's nothing inside this your Coconut Head.

meobizy:
Okay. Seen. OP is younger than twenty. He is likely seventeen or eighteen.

I think he's 14 because I can't imagine this nonsense happening in my parents house while I am 16-20 year old.

There will be an Extended Family Meeting and everyone at fault will have their share of their nonsense.

daboy18:
My 16 years old sister left the house since Christmas eve only to be returned yesterday evening at 11pm , my dad was very angry he promised to deal with her in a way she will never forget throughout her life , my mum said he shouldn't or else they will be war.

When the girl returned my dad asks where she was and she was busy chewing gums and turning her eyes like she was having epepilsy seizure my mum was shouting at him to leave her alone but my dad hit her omg the slapped sound it still haunting me.

It was my first time seeing my dad being a man of the house that he is supposed to be long time ago and I was so proud of him but that didn't last long when my mum slapped my dad back and they started fighting omg .

She beat him up my dad is not strong cus of diabetes she locked him outside saying if I dare to open the door for him she will locked me out too.

I quietly went inside my room crying and I left the house early morning to go and look for my dad he is actually at his elder brother place he says he will not return back.

I feel sorry for him and I have sworn to never marry a woman like my mum she doesn't deserve the titled wife or mother and as for my sister she is cursed for disrespecting dad and the time she will realize her mistakes it will be too late for her.

I wish my dad a long life so I will over pamper him when I become rich, I am only 20 and one day I will make him proud.

God knows the day anyone will beat up my Father, I will finish that person, I don't care if it's my future wife or my mother.
NB: there are punishments you guys to an Adult that they would prefer you beat them up.
I hate rubbish.

I started leading my house at 16 because my Dad had some issues and remained weak so at 20 you should be able to take serious actions, be bold and confident, if you are weak, hit the gym or do some manual labour to become strong, since you have the wisdom already, you can easily put things in check.

These rubbish can't happen in my parents house while I am around, I have noticed that these modern females are usually useless, that's how my sisters give me headache too, left for me alone, I don't a female child.

But with proper conditioning you will put them in check, don't give any of them freedom.

Blessedmercy8:
No body can do two outings on a day like Christmas. For all she knows, the man might be planning something bigger for both of them come new year which is more appropriate for adults. But because she too is childish, she's clamoring for Christmas outing.

Date a mature girl, una go say no, na evening newspaper. Una want smally. Smally with fish brain wey go give una hyper.

The thing pain the guy. See as he dey lament. E pain am!

Other guys go out with their children and girlfriends too.

From the Lady's POV: if he insists I am not going, then it means, he's going to hang out with his daughter's mother possibly a reunion.

Or

His daughter doesn't like me that's why she must have convinced him not to take me along.

Everyone has their own side to the story and instincts too, citing those instincts above, anyone will like to quit the relationship unless they have some inferiority complex.

As a wise man he's supposed to strike a balance between them.

Blessedmercy8:
That's how he feels like doing his thing besides she's just a girlfriend. Dem Neva marry her while the baby is his daughter a d Christmas is for children mostly not for adults. If she can't have fun at Christmas with her daddy like other children now, na wen she grow? Or who has strength to do two outings in a day? Na hurriedly affair? ( according to my dad of blessed memory)

He would have stroke a balance by taking Aunty out in the Evening and his Daughter in the morning.

Everybody would get jealous, some will overlook it but in this case it means a lot to this girl so he either takes them both on the outing or they take turns.

It's not easy to be a man.

The guy had no sense afterall, so it's for good she ended the relationship.

What happened to taking both of them there, or taking the baby out in the morning, then girlfriend in the evening for Adult's Celebration.

He had two babies (one Adult Baby and one Normal Baby) under his care but decided to choose one over the other when making decisions, that's not wise at all.

A leech trying not to get leeched.

Wow, Life is wonderful.

Your mum is catering for you and your daughter whom your husband left to hustle for a better life, now she asks you for 120k out of 300k and you refused to offer some help.

That's selfishness, 300k is not even enough money for a man to leave for his wife and travel, anyways, I am sure if your mum billed you for the resources she has spent on you for the time you have stayed in her house since you came back with your family, 120k nor go solve am.

Be grateful enough to offer some help atleast 60k or 90k so that you don't gather family enemies, I don't understand how some of get so selfish.

Nawa.

Just so you know, the moment you get married as a woman you become a visitor to your parents house, so don't expect full benefits anymore.

Wonderful.

A woman riding or twerking on your dick is really dangerous, as one small mistake you have gotten a penile fracture.

Don't do more than necessary because you are sexually intoxicated.

Supreme145:
My babe is an only child and a fashion freak so she has loads of cloths in her wardrobe. She offered to give some to my sisters without me even asking. She gave me over 30 different pieces of cloths, and bought an ayaya gown or whatever its called for my mom worth around 15k. This is a student that doesn't even have a reliable means of income and I don't give her much. She opened up that she has been saving to get my mom a gift.

The bolded is where the problem lies.

Where does she get money from then?
You don't just accept gifts from people or loved ones because you are in need of it, atleast get to know where they got money to afford these things first because some may have ulterior motives behind their charity.

If you want to win, do it honourably.

I have always disliked Messi because of the football fraud they do for him, right from his Barcelona days when they rigged so many matches for him including that PSG win which the referee was demoted after several complaints.

This Worldcup is not an exception, the fraud was so much, I don't know who is better amongst Ronaldo and Messi but I always use Ronaldo to motivate myself, he's an Underdog.

I am part of the Samsung Family and I will love to recommend Samsung for you.

But you can use versus.com to rate the two phones you intend buying at that amount, so you the one with more features.

Yugoslavia247:
So the ones that were all righteous and poor nko.

Many people need exposure in this forum.

Go to villages you will see many people who never did anything bad to deserve being poor but they have their hopes high.

Many children who were reckless in their youth never ended poor. Especially those with solid foundation.

Hypocrisy is when you take an innocent hardworking old man pics and then accuse Him of leading a reckless youth life.

You might work and save up in your youth but end up poor. How about natural disasters, terminal illness and unforseen circumstances. What about those who were spiritually manipulated. Or those who were duped or defrauded. What about those who faced business downturn and ran into debt.

Be stuopid but know when not to be a nuisance.

Many became Rich by luck as Tony Elumelu claimed it was luck. Some did not need to work hard. Crypto billionaire are a clear example. The same things you do some did little and became Rich. Some people will live a reckless life and still end up being Rich on their dying bed. The drug barons, gun runners, politicians and so on.

Don't mock people who were hardworking at their old age and blame them for being reckless.

Some sold their wealth to save a family or brother.

Haven't you heard. Please just be reasonable.

For instance.
My father was extremely rich in the days of landline.

The change in demand from landphone to handset crippled his business. He could not switch easily. However, things changed later on.
So if he was poor you will call him reckless?

I am sure that people liking OP don't have a family yet. They are still living in their little responsibility lifestyles. Many people had alot of issues due to burden of family and children. Will you also blame them?

I am glad we still have intelligent and experienced people on this platform.

The others just follow trends and say what soothes the populace pattern of reasoning.

iamyungkhalifa:
Op you be jonz nigger
So you think say na the money when you go save and the things whey you take suffer yourself go make you dey okay for life
You need to enter street and let people tell you what they pass through in life , you will be sorry for them
And if the rich tells you how they make their wealth, ��� you will even thank God that you are poor
Your savings has zero to do with you future status���

Only few people know this.
Don't be angry.

Jennyclay:
stingy broke men everywhere! You can't afford to buy common fish not to talk of chicken to celebrate Christmas. How is egg economical? Just say you don't have money. Shior!

You seem bitter and poor too.

Whether a woman is an evening newspaper or not.

Her pasts matters a lot, there are good women who were unlucky to get married early but if she had lived a useless life then it's her case as far as I am concerned, we can date if need be but I can't wife you even if I can see you have changed because past is past, it somewhat determines the future, it's either the good records favour you or the bad ones haunt you and your innocent spouse.

Some of my friends who live with evening newspapers as they are called, do so because of what to benefit from them, one of them is due to inferiority complex, she asked him out because he's very timid.

skj1377:
The problem with most young guys is they go after "fine girls" with endowments. They end up regretting dating such girls if the eventually date or regret marrying them if they eventually marry. The issue is most of these ladies already put a premium on their looks and go for the highest bidder married or single. My advice go for ordinary looking well behaved natural home girls. Intentionally avoid flashy pretty ladies.

Even the average beauty sef no be am.

Ckonnet:
In what way is she misbehaving apart from the fact that she lives her life on social media which is even her right. Most people criticising her might even be worst if they where opportuned like her.

Her sister may have dated multiple guys before meeting Mr. Eazi but because she lives a low-key life, you can't tell if your assumptions are true or not.

She's the daughter of a Billionaire and very few people wish these type of children well because people assume they have everything in abundance so they should behave well.

I can't say much because I don't even know her that much but I can see she likes clout, that's very bad.

Ckonnet:
I swear, I don't know what this girl did to them.
Make the girl try lay low kwanu, leave social media and enjoy her life. Nothing feels good like enjoying low key,since I stopped posting on fb,even my haters they find way to contact n monitor me.

People hate indisciplined women.

Same way we dislike Toke, Tonto and some others on Nairaland is the same way we feel about Cuppy.

A woman will should learn to discipline herself.
Temi and Tolani are there too we appreciate them because they are well behaved.

Promzy99:
Who can guess dis correctly Nairaland Academicians Over to you.

3 + (4 × 5) = 23

Effizybozz:
I’m confused right now and need a solution!!

I’m actually working (45k month) and I’m also doing business but my business is booming sometimes I sell close to (150-200k a month) and the work is really giving me small stress sha! It a government work. I’m thinking of quitting and focusing on my business but I’m scared that if I quit I will loose to opportunity of doing government work or what if my business crash tomorrow.. I do sell stuff online and it kinda generating me good money… but I don’t know what to do.

Your opinions are needed here! If you were in my shoe what will u do?? No insult please

1 - You sell close to 200k monthly not make close to 200k profit. Not a valid reason to quit.

2 - Business is very unpredictable, I lost a lot of money close to the end of the year that I wanted to faint, the saviour I had was my salary job.

Run the two together, at a point when you have taken more responsibilities this huge money will seem like change to you.

feb1923:
Everyone will be quick to respond
Have you asked what as he been doing that she's been enduring?
He came online showing he is depressed yet no one asked what happened

If she has been enduring something, she would have dropped the car to prove a point atleast she can't return the education.

PrettyBolu:
Yes. I had a cousin who made sacrifices for a girl some years back. She was sleeping around. When she served him breakfast, he moved on. He said he has no regret. He is in Canada now. He said the girl stalks him on social media. Checks his whatsapp status, checks his IG, checks facebook. He is dating a korean girl in Canada. This girl went to follow the korean girl despite the korean girl's account being on private.

The girl knows she lost a good man. But pride do not let us ladies agree when we lose a good man

I quite agree.

My recent ex was proving smart and all that, then I dumped her without mincing words.

I later discovered that she has been silently monitoring me on my status, I had to delete her number because each time I post something new she's the first person to always view them.

I saw her recently and I didn't look at her twice, her undoing was thinking I won't move real fast after all the love I showed her.

yungchap:
Hello NLanders,

Between S Series and A Series of Samsung mobile phone.

Which is better in terms of Camera and Durability??


Waiting for your earnest and factual answers.


Thank you.

S series are flagship phones whilst A series are mid-range phones.

coputa:
Your eye's See's what your mind accepts

Like I said, I won't argue.

MessiahMARLIANS:
I believe "NO TRIBE" is Perfect.

Judging People from The Tribal Point of View is not Socially Wrong.



We all know that The World of "BabyMama" is as a result of Misalignment between Fathers and Mothers or death of Fathers.

Have you been to Delta State Before?

coputa:
On the contrary,an urhobo woman is very patient and tolerant and they're among the few left that respects tradition,that's why 90% of their men go after them.You can hardly find an urhobo woman in a brothel or found involving in any act of sexual rascality.An Urhobo woman,no matter what happens, always stays in her husband's house to take care of her children.

I would have believed you if I am not here in Delta State.

Go and deceive others, I won't argue much.

coputa:
The south south geo political zone still remains the most hospitable and lenient zones in the entire country in terms of marriage and bride price.
The Urhobo s is one of the most hospitable ethnic groups in the entire country, everything about their culture is moderate, marriage and bride price inclusive. With the current rate of inflation in the country, with one hundred thousand naira, you are done,unless you want to hold an elaborate party.URHOBO WADOO! ! !.

Yen yen yen

Do they stay in marriages?
Are they good wives?

Don't come online to deceive people by marketing your tribe, I rather marry an ugep woman that's a known cannibalist than an Urhobo woman.

Even if it's a free wife and the family didn't request any items, you will still spend above 100k, Urhobo women don't stay in marriages, their men don't even marry them, they are just good for babymamaism because they are very unreliable.

jeromestarks:
Never pity a woman who is married to an abusive man: she had many good men chasing her when she was younger and beautiful but she pushed them all away, she took some for granted, she thought some are mumu, she even ignored some JUST to be with the man she married.

She chose her fate. She made a choice. Let her face the consequences alone.


We all pay for the choices we make. Everyone pays eventually.

How can I buy you a cold Budweiser?

You are really speaking from experience.