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Some women are ready to pick knife anyhow. Many don't even believe they'd use it but you never know what could happen in the moment.

madridguy:
Laughing at people saying the OP has done well for walking away OP what stops you from giving her friendly slap too? You think she will stop? You think she will not carry turning stick next time and break your head?

I can't comment because this has not happened to me before.

The first thought in my mind was obviously a divorce.

However, I think you have minimised her concerns of you cheating. Even just before the slap, you basically said that your so-called wife did not have a say on the spare key to the house you and her live in. That, my friend, was an insult. You basically told her that she's nothing.

She was already openly suspecting you of talking to another woman and here you are trying to get the spare key to give to such a woman (in her mind).

Have you ever been physical with her? Did she come from a physically abusive home? Were there any indications of this sort of temper before the marriage??

Again, if it's me, the marriage would be more over than not. Let me not die at the hand of my wife in the name of "maturity".

Success02:
For the first time ever in my life, my wife slapped me twice. You want to know my reaction?

Honestly I was surprised to see my wife slapped me. I thought within myself what could have warranted it.

On Saturday, we went for a party which I was reluctant to attend but I did because I wanted to please my wife. I did all I could to make her happy and to make her feel good but as much as I did, she flared up when I left to ease myself.

She complained that I went with a girl which was not so. To cut the story short I left the party without my wife and we kept distance for some days. Every instructions I gave to my wife since then she would just do it reluctantly and when I needed to get to her office after work so that we could go home together, I would just see that she was not there. when I got back home I decided to get spare key so as to return home from work without waiting for her, I asked her for the spare and she started raising voice on me. I reacted as a man and all of a sudden I got the first slap followed by the second one. Though I didn't react because I don't know what to do.

My question is what will be your reaction if you happen to be in my shoes?

The guy should be happy sef.

Somebody that clearly does not love you finally lets it out and you're BEGGING her?

It's better that this happened now. Her family should pay him whatever monies he paid!!

You're right but many will consider such a love "mechanical".

I know of some ladies who accuse their bfs of not loving them "enough" just because the guys were realistic that things could change at any time.

CastingCrowns:
Emotional independence and intelligence does not mean u have to be robotic or anything like it.. It simply means u enter into the relationship with a very realistic mindset that it may or may not work and whatever the aftermath u arent caught unawares.

You didn't overreact. However, I don't think you can continue with this girl because of the accusation your wife made. I suggest asking her to move out but committing to paying her tuition in secondary school and uni.

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

That's not a househelp per se, that's a contract, you pay the person primarily with money and not with education, shelter, different growth environment as is done with househelps. I actually prefer this method although it's difficult to do this with young kids.

I also know 3 women now who grew up as househelps, in good homes, and say they would never have gotten the exposure (trips abroad, going to good schools) if not for this experience. 2 of those 3 women are abroad now.

Graxie:
For information Mr dirty, people pay adult house help to come to their house and leave after each day job. Stop using minor.

It is the man and his children that will suffer in the end.

A woman who has had a househelp cannot live without one. I know from experience.

daragrams:
Send her back to her parents and let your wife do what is expected her to do at home. Some women self

How many househelps in Nigeria are over 18??

Also, such an adult househelp is a fully grown woman and most wives will suspect them.

Graxie:
Why are you engaging a minor as househelp? Why. Both you and your wife, you are horrible.

Mutual respect and honesty.

Don't assume that things will just assume just because you're friends. Don't punish yourself either. If the feelings are becoming unbearable, retreat for a while.

Anonymous8083:
Good evening everyone. I just have a question.
Is it possible to remain friends with someone you wanted dating but things did not work out, probably because the person lost interest along the way, so they decide they just wanna be friends with you. How possible is it to be friends with such a person when you have strong feelings for them? Those that have gone through this, please how did you handle your emotions?

Many Nigerians are toxic, men and women.

Riele:
Hey , I didn't just wake up to jump into that conclusion .

You can only be a foreigner or an hypocrite to not agree with me .

Here's a prove. https://www.nairaland.com/5587015/husband-causing-me-pain


Why would a sane being advise a woman to put her dreams aside for a man ?


Believe it or not , most of you all are sick and toxic .

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Flee from this boyish appearance of evil.

It may be that Grace is pouring sand inside your garri but if he can so easily believe her (NA YOU ARE INNOCENT) without talking with you, his fiance, it's not worth it.

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

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The guy with belle is the chairman of BUA.

One of the richest in the country. Dangote's main competitor in cement and flour.

Kapilta:
Dangote wey get all the money no get belle, the one wey dey follow follow na em come carry all the belle. Smh

Frankly this is the best idea I have seen.

It's been 2 years since this post. What did you eventually choose to do and how did it turn out?

iamdotune:
i want something close to the school environment or literally inside the school someone gave me an idea of selling spaghetti and turkey with chips

What does the woman mean by she does not know what happened.

Konji hooked her and she and her son helped themselves.

The AGF is the apex government body on ALL legal matters.

The DSS takes its legal cues from the AGF.

Officialgarri:
So the AGF wants to assume the responsibility of the DSS... What a joke!!

Sowore is a person of interest to the DSS, what does AGF have to do with National security?

Are you a child?

She should slap you sef.

Who are you that she should apologize to you for having sex before she met you?

How old are you? Are you not older than her? Maybe even much older.

You need deliverance.

Rabson44:
There's this teenager i met a couple months ago, to cut it short, we started dating, before she visited me i asked her if she was a virgin and she said no, she told me she was raped once by a guy in her compound, well a day happened to come when she came to my house for the first, we started having foreplays before we actually had sex, when she got home, i asked her if this was her only second time experiencing sex since she claimed to be raped once, because her pu**y was already wide, and the way she was riding, i knew she already has experience, well i kept pressuring her and she finally told me she had had sex with the guy she claimed he raped her, she said they had sex 6times, not because she wanted but because she is a kind of girl that find it hard to control herself, she told me he was the one that disflowered her at 18, that was last year, now she is 19, well the guy is no more in the compound, he only came for youth service and he had left, she claim to regret her past actions and begged me to please stop bringing up the issue, it still bothers me whenever i think of it, though we haven't met when the incident happen, i need ur advice, should i continue or back off？because i am willing to marry her when she is 25, though am 25 now, she is 19, and she sincerely love me for now, i don't know if our relationship will last, though things are going on well now, and i hv met her parents on a low, and they know my motive, but her past keeps hurting me, what should i do？

Naa, a lot of people do.

This problem is biggest among people who practice chastity.

AwkaetitiBabe:
I don't think anyone gets married just because of sex in mind though. Naaa, it's all way bigger than that.

AFRICA, especially Nigeria is one of the few markets where champagne sales are going up and up and up.

izibili44:
WHAT A WAY TO SPEND MONEY.AFRICA FOOLISH.

STOP. DATING. PEOPLE. WHO. DON'T. LIKE. YOU.

HAve some self respect guys.

If you can't respect yourself, join MGTOW biko.

faith2kool:
Ghanaian socialite and Lawyer, Sandra Ankobiah has stated emphatically that a man spends less on a lady that actually likes him.

The chilling lover made that revelation via her Snapchat handle.

Her post actually is a prior warning to the guys who are having a huge demand from their girlfriends prior to the festive season.

She wrote:

“You spend less when you date a woman that actually likes you.”

Many Ghanaian ladies have devised ways and means of spending cash from guys that they don’t really like.

They tend to ask for outrageous favors from them and then later dwag them for their true love.

With this new tip, my guys must look sharp else Skopatumana.Ghanaian socialite and Lawyer, Sandra Ankobiah has stated emphatically that a man spends less on a lady that actually likes him.

The chilling lover made that revelation via her Snapchat handle.

Her post actually is a prior warning to the guys who are having a huge demand from their girlfriends prior to the festive season.

She wrote:

“You spend less when you date a woman that actually likes you.”

Many Ghanaian ladies have devised ways and means of spending cash from guys that they don’t really like.

They tend to ask for outrageous favors from them and then later dwag them for their true love.

With this new tip, my guys must look sharp else Skopatumana.

https://tigblog.com.ng/2019/12/05/you-spend-less-when-you-date-a-woman-that-likes-you-sandra-ankobiah/

After all the people you met and introduced her to, you can't back down now.

Just be careful is all. Treat her well but realize that just because you brought her to PH doesn't mean you own her.

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Sex is an important part of marriage, it's the 2nd biggest reason for failed marriages. However, I don't think people should marry because of sex.

What I mean is, couples MUST believe that they are sexually compatible before they get married but they should not marry because they want to have sex.

I think abstinence causes people to marry for this 'license' whether they want to marry the person or not.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Simply one part that's also important

Glad to hear that!

Nawtygrrlsecret:
Thank you , it was not a good time.
But thats history today, I'm happy and getting what I deserve from life now

Woah.

That's rough.

I hope you meet someone with whom you'll feel comfortable enough to enjoy yourself again.


Cheers.

Nawtygrrlsecret:
1year...
Had PTSD as a result of a previous abusive relationship. Plunged right into celibacy after the storm.

That was 9 years ago though

Is this what marriage is?? License to fvck??

AwkaetitiBabe:
Can't wait to get my own license to fvck... Tired of silly stupid hide and seek

Aren't you quite young??

Riele:
All my life !

Why ? - Nigerian men ain't worth it .