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Your bf should be open about close friends and not being open is a BIG red flag. I like your attitude, at least per your post, that marriage is not your only goal in life. I think you should confront him openly about the obvious cock and bull story. If he can't sufficiently explain himself then know that he indeed may have been cheating.

emmysolo2001:
Good evening everyone,I really have to bring this up cause I am really confused.I have a man in my life whom I love and adore so much.my bf always complains that I don't respect him because he doesn't have money,but the case is different money is not my problem for now cause it will come.he speaks ill about women about how women can't love a man that we only love money,he says it in my presence it is as if I don't mean anything to him when I confront him he says he's just joking that he only speak out of experience.He's a hot tempered person which I understand,he keeps saying he will marry me,I know it not a guarantee i don't even care about marriage.He's being acting anyhow we leave together and he has never cheated on me,but only his calls makes me think he's cheating.I once called a number always disturbing him and it turned out to be a friend gf she said she only calls him to talk to her bf cause the are close and her bf has no phone.am confused.

Everybody should learn what agrees with their souls from all these miseducations.

Remember that these OPs are also learning too. Don't base your decisions solely on their write ups.

Don't put sand in your own garri.


Cheers.

This thread is based on a clearly false assertion.

Who told you that yoruba women are not marrying igbo men?? We need more than beer parlour statistics for this one.

It must have happened somewhere but NO WHERE near the scale of the male predatory professors.

Amarabae:
Can a mother ever think of sleeping with the son?
Female lecturers can't stoop that low to tarnish their image with a male student.
Yuck, itz irritating to even think of

The idea that life with an inexperienced small girl is bliss is too stupid.

She will eventually grow up and that's when you'll see pepper.

Even if you marry a woman that's 4+ years younger than you, prepare to treat her as a PARTNER.

You say you've done "treatmemts" but have you actually seen a doctor? A dermatologist?

Yes you should be concerned but it may not be because she's cheating, maybe it just doesn't matter to her.

It's a BIG red flag though.

IceColdVeins:
WOW!! Number 9 just happened to me just this past Saturday I actually thought I was over-reacting.....My gf was asked by her sis' hubby what bank branch I work with.....It must have gone this way just like she narrated.....

Uncle: Eh ehn what bank does that your bf work for?
GF: Ermm ERRMM!! ***** bank.
Uncle: eh ehn which branch.
GF: Its not branch oo, Its head office
Uncle: O ohhh I see, what does he do there gaan gaan?
Gf: speaks gibberish.............


Damn! After she narrated, I didnt know when I coughed 'I swear you are very dumb' out....We dicuss about my work like almost everytime, she even already knows my colleagues without meeting them.

We kept mallice for the next 24 hours.

Age is a number but being viscerally against marrying your age mate is stupid.

I still don't understand the supposed benefits of marrying pikins.

However, I can't talk too much because I, for the first time, am attracted to someone significantly younger.

ikorodureporta:
so someone who is close to 40 shl marry his age mate??

The colours of the actors don't matter tbh. Amateur, homemade is the best.

Anyways, I think, if you can have sex in real life, do that instead of porn. Porn damages some people sexually, both men and women.

Sometimes, try to watch it like any other movie, i.e don't watch it with the intention of jerking off.

People have been planting tomatoes in greenhouses in Nigeria for a while. In an estate in Port Harcourt, a Chinese company have been growing tomatoes in a greenhouse for at least 5 years.

All but no 1 is absolutely true.

Don't tell her your family doesn't like her but don't hide it.

She'll find out sooner or later. She may think that you thought the relationship was going nowhere so you didn't bother to tell her such an important fact.

Dowry is practiced in parts of Nigeria (some Northern communities for sure) . We learned this in primary school.

Ladylite:
Wow but Nigeria has always had its own dictionary

How can a nigerian be duped? Was it someone you knew?

Rekhina:
If you are truely from China avoid men here ,dey duped me once around 2012 .
Just like a Chinese duped my aunty

You said "other bene". Please what are thoseother benefits.

Tolexander:
your mind should be cleansed of dirt.

So filthy a mind. A mind so streamlined, thinking every conversation between a guy and a lady is nothing but flirt!

Throughout my stay in Canada, I've met a lot of Chinese people. They're like everybody else. I've had some good Chinese friends, Male and female.

My dad did business with a few chinese people when he was younger, 30+ years ago. The main difference between those people and the chinese in nigeria today is scale. The chinese in nigeria today are backed by government for large scale projects.

The Chinese in nigeria 30+ years ago came by themselves and assimilated fully into the community. I've also met a number of chinese people who spoke 1 or more Nigerian languages. These are the remaining people who came 3p+ years ago.

I think nigeria can learn a lot technologically on what to do and a lot democratically on what not to do from China.

woyaofacaiss:
I'd like to say hello to Nigeria, I'm glad to find this good place and hope I can find interesting things and make good friends here.
Anyone what to know me or ask anything about my homeland China?

Share some views in China.

Why must every thread between a guy and girl lead to this kind of post.

Advice: it's in person that you can flirt more easily and more successfully.

Tolexander:
So Na to come transfer the bill by the Chinese on me?

Wait, you wan teach me more than mandarin, perhaps there are other benefits you wanna add?

It's an old story unless it happened again.

Yes. I met an intelligent, beautiful, fun and funny girl on tinder.

Do this and some guys will consider it mixed signals and step.

chenzen:
until he becomes ur fiancee... do not address him as ur boyfriend, it's just another glorified title of a fvckboy. He is a fvckkid cos he wouldnt stay with u if u dont let him oil that honey pot of urs.


please!!!

She seems quite assertive which is usually a good thing.

Can't she just you? She also sounds like she's from a relatively middle class home, can she find you an accommodation or at least a job?

If it's teaching job, depending on the subject there is ALWAYS a job available.

The sad thing is that your Lagos job isn't paying you well si I completely see her point. If your lagos job was much better, then I would have said she's being unreasonable.

Could you do other side gigs in Abj?

People will bash her in the comments and then go to their browsers and waste data on people like her.

Kwontinue

Have some empathy.

MedicH:
I'm sure you understand you are not in the position to make that call.

Did you read what she said??

She said her boyfriend used to do whatever she wanted just so that she won't be annoyed at him. That's abusive. Very abusive. Also means there was no love but fear.

Blackivy29:
Fake story but if not
Ubunja did nothing. If you guys had a perfect relationship and your bf implemented ubunja's principles for those that dont then he cannot comprehend and aint worth it.
Let him go red. Alphafemales aint intimidated. Once you join us and go black, you'll never go back.

So sorry for your loss. (Hugs)

funmisticqueen:
he passed on in a motor accident august last year,haven't had the energy for dating since

You guys should shaming her for her boobs. This is why some Nigerian girls/women have body issues.

Not everybody has big boobs. This lady is beautiful in her own way.

3, 4, 8 & 10 don't make much sense tbh.

3. A "real" guy won't want to waste time and although he may not like to leave you, he will if that's the best way forward.

4. A "real" guy will sometimes do this but because he's thinking of spending the rest of his life with you, will have to set some boundaries. Or else, he will apologize for things he didn't do for the rest of his life.

8. This depends. A "real" guy won't spend money on you to win you. A "real" guy wants to be with someone that wants him for him and not for money. He doesn't want to be heartbroken down the line because you leave him for someone richer or if he has a money problem.

9. A "real" guy won't do this. If you don't love him, he can't manufacture your love. To beg you to stay with him is to become a doormat for the rest of his life.


Let me invite my friend calgaryfriend and the wise young woman blackivy29 to say their pieces too.

LillyVal:
SINGLE LADIES!!!

Many ladies always ask, "how can I know that a guy loves me?"
Many ladies have lost good guys because they cannot identify good guys. Although guys can pretend, but you can identify a fake guy and you can know whether a guy loves you or not in the following ways:
1. A fake guy will demand for sex. A real guy will also demand for sex. But a fake guy will quit the relationship if you refuse to have sex with him, while a real guy will not quit even if you don't give him sex.
2. A fake guy shows love and care. A real guy also shows love and care. But watch out! A fake guy will stop to be caring if you commit any offence, but a real guy never stops being caring no matter your offence.
3. A real guy will not like to leave you no matter the situation.
4. A real guy that truly loves you will always apologise even if it is not his fault.
5. Fake guys pamper ladies. Real guys also pamper ladies too. But if a guy pampers you to the extreme, hmm don't trust him. In most cases, fake guys pampers ladies more than the real guys.
6. When a guy uses too many sweet words all the time, be careful. He may be fake. Real guys that truly love u will use few sweet words.
7. A real guy that truly loves you will be very concerned about your problems. He will always show much concern about the causes and solutions to your problems. But a fake guy only shows more concern about his own problems.
8. A real guy will spend money on you. Fake guy will also spend money on you. But a fake guy will not give you much money unless you have sex with him. No sex, no money. Fake love.
9. A fake guy will promise to marry you. A real guy will also promise to marry you. But a real guy will always discuss with you about how to build a successful marriage.
10. A real guy can kneel down and even shed tears to beg you never to lose him. A fake guy who does not love you will not do that.

Please note that this is only from one man's point of view.. Ur discretion is advised...

Get these "mundane" things right bruv.



Typical wannabe intellectual, without the basics.

calgaryFriend:
Typical lazy Nigerian youth, always focusing on the mundane things.

Then what happened?

funmisticqueen:
i have actually, may God rest his soul, i would have married him in a heartbeat.

Yes. Oui.

Ilamina:
Are you from opobo