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You guys have strength o.

That so-called NDA you signed will be thrown out in a court in 3 seconds.

If you think the matter has ended, think again. Unless your mistress marries her bf or terminates the pregnancy, that baby will forever be yours.

Your mistress played you and had every right to. As for your fiancé, I truly believe that she would kill you in your sleep.


Now for all my team no sex before marriage, here is yet another proof that that nonsense will not work. You don't starve a lion and keep said lion in a pen of goats.

Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

The officials and agents like it this way.

Because everything goes through Lagos, they have a monopoly. Not just in clearing but also in transporting the goods to their final destinations.

Also, in Onne, things are expensive. Onne is used to oil and gas imports charging high fees. So, it is still cheaper to import to Lagos and then move to PH.

Jestin:
Lagos port needs to be decongested. Everything is embedded in Lagos .

Man breaks up with his fiancée because of high cost of bride price.

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Mallamsaka:
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There is no inherent difference because of ethnicity.

My first sec school was in Kwara and we were VERY mixed. There was no difference in dating, cheating, making out, etc between the ethnicities & religions.

Quality20:
this boils down to only two reasons
1. strong Islamic influence
2.a lack of a polluted environment that would have been conducive for such

Na you wey dey hurt and dey suppose pity.

tommyken:
Last month I discover she was cheating on me which she apologise and beg me to forgive her but I just pretend to forgive her while I search for another girlfriend. After then I demote her emotionally to my sex object.I began to have rough sex with her with anger whenever we make love which sometimes she will began to cry with tears that I should take it easy am hurting her pussy.

Yesterday afternoon as she was leaving my house after a very long and rough sex I just looked at her with pity and my conscience began to trouble me. I began to feel I should have simply left her when she cheated but then again the unforgiving demon in me will tell me I did the right thing.
Please before you condemn me remember I used to treat her well until she cheated on me.

So your husband just came and flogged them like that.

This shows that you and your husband don't have an intimate relationship with your daughters.

She is 14, she is growing sexually, and in this age of the internet, will see that in many Western countries, 14 year old are almost independent and already sexually active.

From at most 12, you HAVE to start treating your children like young adults. You have to start developing a parent-friend-confidante relationship!

Furthermore, so she had sex, so what! Move on.

Make sure she's not infected with anything. Teach her about safe sex. Help her pursue her music career or acting or modelling.

See if you can marry her musical desires with 'normal' school. Is she actually talented?? If you stifle her talent, she will forever resent you. If she doesn't resent you already.

Queenellahrose:
I’m writing with so much pain in my heart because my only child is giving me lots of trouble. She is 14. Ever since I had her, I cannot conceive again. My husband and I went trough lots of tests we are all okay and perfect so we had to accept that God wanted us to have one daughter for now and we are still believing God for more children. Where do I start we are Nigerian leaving outside of Nigeria (African country) for the past 8 years we also took along my husband niece who is now 17.

My daughter was a very nice and obedient child working hard at school and has always been making us proud but everything changed when she turned 11 years. She started getting in trouble at school, my husband and I are always called for meeting about her not working well and fighting with her classmates and she gets punished almost everyday. We as parents had heart to heart talk. She had made clear that she doesn’t like school and want us to enrolled her at music and dance school. She was only 12. Me and her dad were against it. we had convinced how important education and all we want is the best for her to finish school to have a better job and she can do her music and dance too later.

She was okay and we kept encouraging her and praying for her, things started to get a little bit better even school complained become less. Three week ago I usually leave the house at 6am for work, hubby leaves before me and the kids were still at home getting ready for school and around 11am I received a called from the police asking if I’m mrs o and chi mum I said yes I started panicking because I thought maybe she had an accident or something, the police officer asked me to come at the station.

I rushed there and what I heard broke my heart in pieces. He explained to me that my daughter and niece and other girls were caught at a hotel with boys smoking, drinking and having sex. Actually somebody called the police because they had noticed that under age children entered the hotel which is an offence so when the police came, they had arrested all of them and took them to the station requesting them to give parents details and that’s how they contacted me .

I was ashamed and couldn’t controlled my tears. I wept bitterly because when I thought my two girls are angel in fact they were doing the unthinkable. I bailed both of them and I just hated them I didn’t even talked to them to avoid beating them badly, but later when hubby came I didn’t hide anything from him. He was so angry that he flogged them mercilessly, I felt bad for them but they both deserved it. We took their phones away, tablets and TV in their room and they are banned from going outside apart from school and when they both get back from school they will eat and go and spend the rest of their day in their bedroom until nighttime.

My husband blamed me for everything saying it’s all my fault those girls are becoming bad. The truth is he is the one that has been spoiling them with expensive phones , tablets and designer clothings and pocket money. I was against him pampering them so much because I knew it will come to this but he has always told me he works hard for his children to have better things and now they had become bad, he has put all the blames on me forgetting that it’s all his faults.

We are not in talking terms for three weeks and he is not eating my foods anymore. The whole things just gives me headaches and sleepless night, it’s almost 3am I can’t sleep my head wants to explode with too much thinking.

Il y a des bons centres d'apprentissage de français dans plusieurs régions du pays.

Lagos, Port Harcourt, Enugu, Kaduna, etc.

Moi, je connais des très bons enseignants à Port Harcourt.

RisenPhoenix:
Ok. Merçi.

J'aimerais inscrire mes enfants, mais s'ils veulent prendre l'examé ils doivent aller à Abuja? Ou est-ce que vous avez des autres centres pour ecrire l'examé?

Technically, la traduction complète de la phrase "s'il vous plaît" est "if you please".

nwanneni:
almost.
Please,respond in French.

Lol. #marketers

RisenPhoenix:
Lol. Peut etre elle ne le parle pas. Elle n'a pas dit que c'est lui qui veut ensigneur les gens.

Salut les gars,

À mon avis, ça va être mieux d'apprendre la langue soi même.

Utilisez Duolingo et les autres applications.

Best way:
Tell him straight up that you're still hurt by his disappearance and he'll have to win you back.

If you're still angry at him after 6 months or more of him being committed, ghost him.

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We use AC, microwave, water heater, kettle, big screen TV, washing machine, etc.

We spend less than 10k a month on electricity and we get 15 - 18 hours of electricity a day. Sometimes, we get almost constant power supply.

When we were using our inverter (for 3 months because of fake batteries), we turned on the generator maybe five times in those 3 months.

It was exactly like abroad.

AC does consume a lot because when we get the warning signal, we stop using AC and reduce microwave to barest minimum and stretch it for another 2 weeks.


The tariffs have changed though so be wary.

fineboynl:
we are planing to switch the estimated billing from NEPA to prepared meters.

the focus now is on me using AC as the rest tenant are planning to have their own meters. I was wondering if I use AC for 8hours a day what is likely to be the billing?

let assume I use only 1hp AC for 8-10 hours a day. no any other things like bulb or fridge or TV just only 1hp AC what is the billing going to be??

with that I can be prepared for any eventualities on my new adventures.

thank you.

What's with the idea that "men don't want to change".

See, people have to decide to be married. After that, they have to individually not take their partner for granted.

It's very easy to do so. They have to consciously refuse to do so. No be beans.

Who told him that her breast is falling sef.

The age difference between them may not be too much sef. Remember that she is a second wife.

frozen70:
You got it all wrong go back and read the story you will see what attracted him

Besides, that a woman breast is falling doesn't mean she is not sweet to Bleep

One man's meet another man's poison

Very clear that the man is infertile and that his daughter is not his own.

This is why some women advise wives with infertile yet stubborn husbands to go outside and get impregnated. They can always come back and pretend.

I don't blame the woman at all. Neither do I blame the son in law. I blame Chori completely, and I'm not even a feminist.

dre11:
Ex-military officer cries foul as son-in-law impregnates mother-in-law who came to take care of newborn baby

◗ I wanted to test my fertility status with him – Woman

◗ I’m embarrassed, confused - Man




https://www.sunnewsonline.com/blue-murder/

1. Ask your son

2. Could be rashes.

3. Go to a free clinic or hospital if you have good insurance.

Code650:
Hey Guys, i just joined yes!! after so many readings. Name’s Arianna and i live in Usa.. I’m a native American and Josh is Nigerian. We have a boy and he’s 5. We both work and i always leave my kids at their grandma’s (My mom)..recently i had a closer look on my kid and i can see tiny cuts like dots on my child's back.. they look so tiny but a closer look they stand apart within that space. He’s got 12 of those tiny cuts on his back and he says papa did it.

So since this is a Nigerian forum (at least his addiction to this site made me read too) can that be voodoo? I’m gonna post a pic but no for privacy reasons.. totally i do not onow how to explain this.

Being a single mother isn't the problem per se


Showing red flags is the problem.

charvick:
Good morning all.
I have a challenge facing me for a while now. I've been dating this young girl (25 yrs) for like a year and half now. She is a single mother with 2kids and am a young guy (27yrs) working and as well schooling.

There is some funny characters she displays that is a huge red flag to me, she can flirt online and always pressure for a marriage. Please can she be the right choice?

I think it's largely a safety issue. Nobody wants to be a victim.

Now, if you guys have known each other for a while (co-workers, schoolmates, classmates, childhood friends, etc), it's different.

DonJayrome:
The way some people reason most especially Nigerians is becoming alarming. What is wrong for a guy and girl to have their first date in a guys house.
You guys have been chatting and flowing along very well, you guys are crazy into each other already and then you both want to go on your first date. He tells you he stays alone and would be fun if you come over so that you both can cook together and watch movies together. Just a normal indoor fun and the mentality thing is that he might want sex so going to his place on a first date is a NO NO.

From my experience with many ladies from other countries, they badly see anything wrong with the idea of a first date in a guys house and most times they even see it as more fun than going out to some outdoor places. Obviously I don't think any responsible guy will even concede the idea of sex on a first date with a girl he really wants a beautiful relationship with. But the mentality of saying it is wrong or not proper is what I really don't get.

What's the big deal?

People keep saying stuff like this but I don't believe.

In my experience, women are A LOT hornier.

victorian:
There is big deal.
Some guys tend to rape if shes not in the mood of sex. She might not be feeling all that familiar with you, even with the chats online. It takes some people like myself two dates or three to get familiar and feel cozy around a guy I seemingly like and he's wooing me. My brain on the first date, is trying to understand more who I'm about dating , when we meet one on one. It's like booting state of a computer. Then I go home and download all that happened between him and me and I think to myself, do I really want this guy as a lover or keep him as a friend?

Date 2:im rest assured I want to give it trial. But not full throttle trial o. Cause I hate being rushed Into sex. The body and mind is still warming up and trying to trust blindly.

So if he's patient with his hormones and dick, then viola! All goes well. If not it all goes south on the first date and I cut off.

Also we all know how ugly it gets, when rape is about to occur .

Lemme ask why the rush, in inviting her to your home on first date?

What kind of stupidity is this??

I think laws may be sufficient but this is Nigeria.

I am always cautious to suggest this because the few divorced families (rich and superich people) I know never properly resolved the issues.

The one with the superich father, the wife gets money but is now severely depressed and her children have to live with the father to be able to afford their education abroad.

The other one was between two rich people and the mom moved to another country almost 8 years ago and the man has not seen them since.

Reffone:
Please this no be joke. My parents have had a rough path for 17 years now and a marriage of 27 years.

Things seem not to work out no more and she is fed up and wants to leave cause my father is married to another woman who seems to manipulate him and has no single child. My father is well to do so she wants to know her choices, what she stands to gain or lose along the process.

Please my lawyers in the house help out.

Yes. Plus, with family and friends, you could stretch that 200k well.

The last wedding planning committee I agreed to be a part of:
I donated the rice
Somebody donated the chicken
Somebody donated cooking it.
That's how they didn't spend a dime on food.

The wedding was done in our church so no finger on venue.
In fact, the only major money problem was when her estranged and useless uncles were looking for almost 100k in bride price and village expenses (Abua Rivers). Mind you, these are people that never assisted the family after her father died. They came down eventually.

So yes, it is possible to do both the traditional and the white wedding with less than 200k.

deltateam:
The title is clear. Is it possible in Nigeria?

Do you have WAEC/NECO?

Ruben225571:
Happy new year and new month. Please how can I go about the admission into the Canada university? Undergraduate going to study pharmacy

Snakes don't eat often, especially the large snakes.

If it had let go, it wouldn't have come across a prey as large as the boy for another 2-3 wks minimum..

missjo:
This is weird. It's not normal for a python to try eating a human, to the extent this one avidly tried to get back at the kid even after his dad had gotten him away from it severally.
Such a weird snake, it would rather eat than make a clean escape.

If this happened in Africa, I would call it voodoo.

She said she broke it off with the guy not the other way around.

Amanee:
The person that wanted to marry you was never yours in the first place, if he was, he'd have found a way to make things work with you.

These newfound 'laws' quickly get discarded.

Look at the US, the fiery faux feminist sexual purity that ostensibly claimed that women had no agency and are always a step away from being raped has subsided greatly.

Fewer women under the age of 30 call themselves feminists in today's generation partly because of this.

bukatyne:
You know, all these 'laws' recently created to 'protect' women seems great until you discover that they all imply women cannot be trusted to think and take responsibility for their actions.

People now sound more whinny, more it's not my fault, more bla bla bla.

How can a normal thinking girl claim not know when a heterosexual guy is interested in sleeping with her?

Why would you go to his house, request for stuffs (you know he will be malleable to give because he wants you), go on a date with him when you do not want to sleep with him?

I fear for the next generation because they women who can't take responsibility train responsible and accountable children.

It is not like the guys are any better.

who is raping who?

What if a drunk lady is responding, on top, etc. Is she then the rapist?

CHoccolaTE:
It's still rape naaa

If the woman was too drunk to give consent and the man had enough self awareness to force a woman who can't consent then it's rape. The man is the one performing the sex acts in this situation so he is the rapist.

who is raping who?

CHoccolaTE:
It's still rape naaa

If the woman was too drunk to give consent and the man had enough self awareness to force a woman who can't consent then it's rape. The man is the one performing the sex acts in this situation so he is the rapist.

I thought he said if both are drunk.

So it's a drunk man and a drunk woman.

CHoccolaTE:
Na wa o

OK bukatyne I have agreed

A man forcing himself on a drunk on woman is not rape

A woman being forcefully penetrated after visiting an admirer is not rape too

You win, Buka 2 : Choco 0