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In the secular (and christian) world, partnership is what works.

Submission has not and does not work.

This lie is part of why some men believe they should be the sole provider (wives will not submit to a 'broke' guy)...and then die young.

djon78:
There is this saying;
Can one fight with his or her maker?
Which is capital no

Even in the secular world submission is there, talkless of in Christianity where the Bible supports it.

The one quoting that submission is a curse. Paul made one statement in his epistle; the woman was made for the man

Also in the beginning
The woman was made from the man
The man came before the woman

So originally God has always intended for the woman to be submitted to the man curse or not

My opinion.

You start threads with the sole aim of causing trouble.

I did not mention you, how did you see this comment?

Zzor:
have I offended you before, how am I dangerous?

This is evil. She should be prosecuted h for kidnapping and torture.

Your dad regrets his life's choices.

He is getting older, the onus is on you to make the relationship good. Give him something to smile about. Brush off the insults and backhanded comments.

Life expectancy is low in Nigeria, either parent could die any minute.

You say they have been sleeping in separate rooms for 15 years, are they having any sex?

The level of frustration is probably unfathomably high.

Awesome.

Are you and the mother in contact?

hunterezi:
I just came here to update the thread. Lol.

My little girl is 1 year 4 months today. And everything has been good.

Got a job immediately I graduated and that was my saving grace.. ahh

1. Don't beat your housekeeper. Don't even think of that.

2. I hope you have never made advances in her. If she thinks you have, she will lose respect for you.

3. Change your home personnel.

It's always funny when modern Christians try to justify this doctrine.

They can't come up with anything sensible and eventually run away from it.

The guy is terrified, perhaps from his experience or what he had seen/read.

Only couple's therapy will help.

You two should go out together more often if possible.

missjo:
Hello all, as shown in the topic, what I need most in my marriage is trust.
My husband does not not trust me, he's extremely suspicious of me. At first, it was flattering seeing him show his insecurities by being protective and wanting to know where I am and who I'm with all the time. But I can take it no more cos of the way he keeps mentioning specific names of men he thinks I'm having something with.

To give you a bit of context, this is a summary of our marriage.

By the time I and my husband met, I was in a relationship with someone else. He didn't mind and we clicked mostly because we were classmates from way back. I instantly fell for him and it was easy for me to fall in love probably because the relationship I was in at the time was on shaky ground, we were always fighting.
I found peace with my current husband when he showed genuine interest and we developed our friendship, and that led us to where we are now as a married couple.

Now I'm not stupid, my mind tells me that perhaps at the back of his mind, he feels that if I was able to leave my previous relationship to be with him, then I can do the same to him. This is what I'm thinking, but I also believe there's more to what may be going on in his own mind.
Missing his calls always becomes an issue, he has this attitude of calling me on video immediately after I tell him where I am and then he would insist I pan out the camera angle to show him around.
He has gone as far as mentioning the name of two coworkers of mine, and makes jokes that insinuate I'm having a secret affair.

I love this man, and I would not cheat on him. He makes me swear and make promises to him all the time and frankly, I'm tired of swearing for someone who just won't get that he's got me and won't lose me. It's gotten to the point that his continuous suspicions of my coworkers have made me start noticing them in ways I shouldn't have. I honestly started watching them more just to understand why my husband would ever assume I can be interested in them.

I want him to trust me, I need his trust, but I have run out of things to do on my own. I was going to suggest couple's therapy to him, but I'm so not ready for one of his long speeches.
I just want to do all I can to build the trust and if it don't work, then I can be bold enough to suggest therapy as a last resort.

"I thee we'd"

codedgalaxy:
Pls fellow nlanders help me complete this sentece lol.

" at the name of menopause_______"



#redpill4life
#mgtow
#codedgalaxy

Sorry for your loss.

Savlamara:
LOL. Who say I never settle... I've been married twice, and widowed. I don't need beg men for anything in life.

And ashawo... Trust me I've had less action then women half my age and I have children.

Take your insecurities elsewhere my love. It's not attractive... �

In the name of equality, get rid of the idea of a proposal.

toren:
I don't know why this repulses me. If my man cannot propose to me let him just forget it. Over my dead body will I do this sort of thing. Ewww.

The Zz lady is dangerous.

toren:
I don't know why people can't see through his fakeness. He's the most annoying user on this forum besides one Zzor thing like that.

Amen.

Please heal before going into another relationship.

toren:
My ex cheated on me in the most brutal way and I'm still in pain of that. Because I can't pay back personally and because I was ever faithful to him, this is the kind of karma I wish for him.

May he raise bastard children for a long time before the truth unfolds and may he suffer everlasting pain as a result.

Ooph. Too bad.

generationz:
I see. A little to late cause we had no choice but to pay the bills until we got our meters five months ago.

There is a law that states if you paid for a meter and it has not been supplied to you, you cannot be charged any fees.

I have used this in Port Harcourt.

generationz:
People talking about Prepaid meters don't know how difficult it is to get it even after paying all the fees required.

This sounds like the mutterings of a potential acid-pourer.

November1857:
You won't understand , cause you ain't in their shoes.
I am an Akwa Ibomit, if such children bit you , you eyes go open.
Na only GOD dey delivered them..

I saw in a post that banks now collect money, invest same or/and build houses for Nigerians in the diaspora.

Is this something done by banks or by bank staff?

Serious answers please.

Nice one.

Amen to that.

Hndrrxxx:
Finally


Hopefully Nigeria will come thru soon and start acting like a sane nation cuz nobody should be discriminated fr whatever hole he/she wishes to penetrate so far its with mutual consent



Happy birthday sir

You made many valid points.

However, fuel demand is not going down in Nigeria or Africa anytime soon. Most of the continent does not drive already. Vehicle demand will go up as prices fall (due to more production on the continent and local brands) and the average Africans get richer.

The continent's electricity infrastructure is still super poor. We have expensive electricity, regular blackouts and many areas still lack access to grid electricity.

We need the cheaper fuel products. The Dangote and BUA refineries are needed and with their clout, they should be preferred to foreign (including Arab) fuel exporters. Remember that they already produce cement across the continent.

Now, these developments are good for their private businesses, not the Nigerian government (yayy).

BastardWike:
All these quota system billionaires lacks creativity and foresight. You didn't build refineries in the 1970's, 80's, 90's or even early 2000's but now that fuel cars are being phased out and renewable energy is gaining massive boost globally, that is when the craze for refinery got into their head!

You're talking about AFcta but you forgot that heavily subsidized refineries built all over the middle East, Asia and developed world will equally channel their excess capacity to Africa. How can they compete?

Why can't they spend these monies in building power plants considering that Nigeria has a massive deficit in it?

Quarter system billionaires indeed!

Marriage list is not necessary. Simple court marriage and you're married.

It is usually the extended family chief that comes up with this list.

helinues:
Correct nigga.

I think some parents are just selfish with this ridiculous engagement list..

How are they going to survive after marriage? Does it mean they are selling their daughters?

Do you know how hard it is to get list requirements??

The girl sef won't know. Her family, if it is their first time, won't know how the list has changed from the last family marriage.

thorpido:
Abasi mbok!
You're dating a girl and you plan to marry her and yet you have no idea what the marriage requirements are in the place you want to marry?You had to wait till you see list mbok?How naive!
Wasted your time and the girl's time.

The list is outrageous though.

MKPO NDO ETE
I dozen of underwear,half dozen of Bender pant So the papa no dey wear pants before?

Nice.

Exchange age range to 22 - 30.

Dogged09:
I would be glad if the moderators could help me push this to any possible length; I need a lady for a serious relationship intended for marriage.

Few things about myself

1. Age: will be 29 in few months' time
2. Height: 5.7
3. Look/stature: fairly slim (like Dbanj)
4. Tribe: Yoruba
5. Religion/faith: Islam
6. Genotype and blood group: AA/O+
7. Highest level of education so far: degree (B.Sc)
8. Profession: works in a Federal agency
9. Future possibility: may go in to academics
10. Current zone of residence: Southwest

Few things I want in my prospective partner

1. Age: 20-25
2. Height: average
3: Look/stature: thick (not slim or fat)
4: Tribe: Yoruba (from any state in Southwest)
5: Religion/faith: Islam
6: Genotype and blood group: AA or AS/any blood group.
7: Minimum level of education: degree
8: Profession: could be private, public, or entrepreneural
9: Current zone of residence: Southwest

Turn-ons
Honesty, sincerity, good command of English, flexibility, and willingness to be a better person.

Turn-offs
Dishonesty, nagging, malice, violent behavior, rigidity, and laziness.

Note: I am not looking for a perfect partner - as there wasn't, isn't, and won't be any perfect human being. Honesty and willingness to be a better person are what I look out for.

Thank you.