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some people are not suppose to venture into marriage at all. it gets annoying sometimes reading stupid reasons that some put up just to take whatever useless decisions they want to take

only few get lucky and it's easy to get addicted to it. Its better you don't start.

QuinModah:

oya no vex, na question I asked ooooo, I no mean any bad thing.

#meanwhile the question shock me, this are things to discuss before marriage. I told my partner that marriage for me is first about companionship, that having children will be an added blessing from God. marriage shouldn't be all about children.

ImaIma1:
I just recently heard of a woman that collects money from her husband to do any other thing apart from penetration. She is someone i know well and i laughed when i heard it.

If he wants oral, he pays first. ..any extra extra, he pays first. And she keeps the money for those times when he is really broke and she gives it to him .

doing the right thing in the wrong way. The day my woman wanted making request during our special time, I stood up, wore my clothes and was done, though she apologise and asked that I come but I was done. They are ways to get money from your man (which most good ladies still end up standing on the same man) aside this method.

Kologirl:
So have been dating this guy for the past year now. At first I didn't really take the relationship seriously but with time I found him to be a sweet and caring guy
The problem is his financial situation, I don't really mind it but he does.
All his friends are into Yahoo and other fraudulent activities.
They flaunt their wealth in his face all the time. They have gone as far as nicknaming him their house boy, I honestly Wonder why he still keep them as friends.
I try to be supportive, sometime I give him money and advise but it's never enough.
He works hard and he earns about 40k a month.
But because of inflation it's as good as 5k
I try my best to advice him that things will be better. He's even saving money to start a farming business.
But he's not happy
Mind you he's 22
I don't know what else to do, If I tell him to cut off his friends, it will look like I'm trying to control him.
He really wants to go to school, he said he is going to write jamb next year but anytime he's around his friends, he feel sad.

I just feel hard work pays, and I try my best to work hard and support myself but he doesn't feel that way
Please men in the house .... please advise me

it's not about controlling him, he don't need such friends around himself for his mental health. Patience is a virtue, things will definitely change.

thanks for supporting him, guys don't forget women that stood by them when they had nothing.

So unfortunate.

let me go try this. thanks @OP

Mama mama. if only our youth can be passionate about voting like the elderly ones....

Next election will be very interesting

faithfull18:
No, I am talking about men who call ladies years after they are married to start wishing they married her instead, fantasizing and bringing up emotional throwbacks.

That's wrong.

happy birthday, may God answer all your secret prayers and heart desires.
#Send my cake ooooo, thank you

Oluchi3:
Good evening. My name is Oluchi, I'm a fashion designer. I sincerely need your advice as I'm so depressed and I'm having suicidal thoughts. I'm really crying as I'm typing now.

Since I was born, I have never been approached by any man. I'm 36 years old and No man has approached me not to talk of proposing love/marriage to me.

It all started when I was in senior secondary school. I noticed no guy ever told me he likes me or write me a letter back then but my friends do receive love letters from our male class mates. Even the ones I'm more beautiful than. Well, I didn't pay attention to it becus I was thinking maybe I was too young for that.

Then I became more concerned about the matter during my HND 1. Through out my ND no single guy ever said Hello, I was so worried. I told my mother she said I should pray about it.

I have gone to different churches for prayers, I have done different deliverance, some pastors even wanted to take advantage of me by sleeping with me but I refused because that's not of God, some have collected lots of money from me in the name of deliverance. I have seen hell

I have met with just 3 men in my life and I was the one who actually approached them by the advice given to me. I noticed after like 8 months the relationship will collapse if I ask him when is he coming to pay my bride price. They will just start acting up and the next minute they ghost me.

Even my last relationship that ended (the 3rd guy). We dated for almost a year, he even cheated on me I still forgive him and asked when is he coming to pay my bride price, he started acting up and ended the relationship. It's been 2 years now and no man has approached me.

All my life no man has approached me and I'm really depressed. I try to stay happy and busy but I find it difficult to be happy. I'm depressed. My younger brother is married with 2 kids.

I'm beautiful, hardworking, I dress decent, I'm brown skinned, I'm average height and slim. But I don't know I'm so depressed.

you're worrying yourself because you're a Lady, your time will come and please stop worrying too much, don't settle for anything of guy because of desperation and don't ever consider suicide please. I believe you will get the best soonest.

finally try to be friendly and sociable.

#Funny how I never seriously "toasted" any lady until marriage. hmmmm

is anything wrong in calling an old friend? I contact my old friends( both males and females) from time to time.

Womanwoman:
My conscience wouldn't let me

thank you. please don't ever consider the option to cheat unless you have finally decided to end the marriage.

Nice! Peter Obi support base remind me PMB.

Believe it or not, an average Nigerian is ready to give everything to whatever he/she believed in.

not just the woman, I think the holy Bible is explicit enough about it. You can

Solofresh2:
Let's get it started

April 4th

Messi1:
NL men hold a different view of women and their perception about women is negative?


It's not like that on facebook, twitter and other social media platform. So why is it so on NL?

you shouldn't generalise because they are lots of married men here, lots of guys with girlfriends and responsible guys.

Chioma4eva:
Thank you. I noticed all you said and I understand better now..... I'm very active on IG anyway, mostly the comment section on popular blogs. I hardly post pictures sef. But social media in general appears to be fake. Celebs in Nigeria are making it worse.

you're welcome. you're right, I thought it's only me that seeing it as fake.
Most of Our celebs are the real definition of 'faking it' . I pity people that look up to them though, I follow them but don't expect much from them.

Chioma4eva:
I've barely registered on this forum for a week and the Misogyny I noticed on this forum, most especially the Romance section is terrible. Little wonder there are very few active female members on this forum. I think the guys should do better or else many females will simply stop being active here. From the type of comments I got from some guys on my last thread its just terrible. So females can't express themselves anymore without being slut shamed? Well I guess I'll have to go back to IG and Twitter.

its expected, this is a faceless forum. Most active people here are either in secondary school or just finished writing WAEC. Its left to you to sieve whatever info or reply you get.

To be honest, I still prefer here to IG. I personally think allot of people there are fake.

jokers! what a country. God please help me country Nigeria.

phyna is cruising on....#PhyNation.

gameova:
Thanks for your kind words sir. God bless

You're welcome and God bless you too my brother.

Did you marry just to produce children? Hmmmm, marriage matters!

easy on yourself bro, its a good thing you're not relenting. please stop comparing yourself with others, you might be the one to sustain them tomorrow, God will soon come through for you. just be diligent with whatever you're doing and anytime you have opportunity to learn any skill, please don't hesitate.

Awesome! may her soul rest in peace

Ilekokonit:
Today's women wey dey disagree with how the bible says they should treat their husbands even though the call themselves Christians. If they can disagree with the bible why would they not disagree with the motherly advice given by the woman who has been married for 47 years.

you've summarised it all.

Congratulations. May God guide, protect and bless you all

Littlemom2021:
wish you all the good things happy new month too

. Amen, thank you dear.

wish you same. Have a good day

Littlemom2021:
don't stress out they have their different issues if not one it will be the other which is why I am telling you that they are all the same

every human being have the other side( bad side) none is perfect but they are people that don't keep looking at the other person's bad side, its almost normal to them. That person for you and for everyone is still out there.
Trust me, people are different so are guys. I know some very cool, honest and nice guys.

happy new month.