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Godfathern:
I have finally made up my mind to settle for some one, after the traumatic experience I had 2yrs ago (see the topic BROKEN HEARTED). firstly my job takes most of my time and I have sank too deep inside my self over the past 2yrs that I don't even know how to go about the whole thing. what do u think?

Thats good to hear dear, its not breaking from a relationship that is the problrm but the fact that some heal faster than others, and for some break-ups carry a whole load of damages to be repaired . .a broken heart can take ages to heal, some don't even heal at all

Just for being able to say you're ready to give love a new chance is fantastic,.

Now dear you have to be careful, do not fall for anybody, take your time and don't let your hooks down till you see the fish you think is dear to your heart. After a heart break, its easy to fall on a rebound and it ends up hurting both parties involved a great deal. Not ideal at all.

I wish you all the best, have an open mind, let your heart take a risk, and when love comes i'm sure you'll know. Be prayerful too so you don't make mistakes in your choices.

Best of luck!!!

GIFT4LUV:
You have to tread carefully and take your time. I read your posting on BROKEN HEARTED and I was really touched. only Love can heal a broken heart. I wish I can be there for you, its up to u anyway. I will like to see your pix. send it to giftforlov@hushmail.com. I will be expecting

GIFT4LUV:
I have a friend who needs some one to marry. he works in one of the new generation banks. he is God fearing and very honest, he is kind and very caring. I would personally have loved to be his but I am engaged to his friend. he needs a God fearing romantic and faithful lady. I promise u that u will be glad to be with him. if u are interested call this number at once 08050435344.

Just confused!!!!

Welcome hn, hope you have a blast here

Wish you loads of fun, infact the whole package Cos thats what makes it memorable

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This guy really sounds like a catch, i mean the real thing. I wish him all the best and luck.
Hope God in his infinite mercies provide him his own specially-made-for-him lady, he must be prayerful, things that walk around in skirts in the name of "ladies" this days is beyond thoughts

Best luck bro!!!

[quote author=too-much link=topic=51014.msg1076340#msg1076340 date=1177751625]CUTE ASS
Good u , u have way with words , u do have good heart. I want us to be friends . so not to expose your details could u please send me a mail to toxan77@yahoo.com .xpecting your mail . thanks[/quote]Sorry for the late reply hun, Of course we can be friends

acidrop:
don't u think voting blindly is an issue, because i aint voting if i c no pic

Ok then i'll try to paste up the pics once more, together this time

@ jesusfreak

thanks for correcting some of my wrong assumptions and yes it'll take nothing from me to say i'm sorry but it just went far to prove a point i've been emphasizing on here forever.

I think people, when they want to put up a personal topic for discussion, should be very narrative. When you come and put up a semi-story (a story that is more or less incomplete), what do you expect people who get on when you're offline to do This is a cyber world where you talk from the written expressions, now when the written details are left wanting . . hmmm

I've always been for relationships and their improvements, that makes me straightforward and honest about whatever i think about it, even when it hurts, the truth should prevail
But i do apologise for my few wrong assumptions on "page 3 of this thread", i thought you were students, apparently i was wrong

Now here's my view:

jesusfreak:
thanks dear

but i av a feeling my relationship is not working anymore anyhow

jesusfreak:
it doomed, so doomed

Darling even when some are now giving you some relationship advice to see if you guys have some pieces that could be picked up and made new, you're insisting on "a no way out" formula.

What do you expect us to think?? that you love this guy with all you got, and don't want to live without him?? that its him or noone?? that you guys are a perfect match, the bad days of "buka" notwithstanding?? Kind of impossible to !!

Dear, you've quoted the handwriting on the wall, now put it to action. Its obvious you guys bring yourselves more insatisfaction, pain and dissappointment than necessary.
Its OK with a different-views relationship, but then not when communication,compromie, meeting each other half way and understanding is lacking If you ask me you guys don't have "it", and to me it seems you guys are just tormenting yourselves in vain, crying over "spilled milk".

I really think its time to get going, i believe you'll be both happier with someone else. Remain friends for old time's sake but put an end to the misery-of-a- relationship!!!!

chiogo:
@topic: why so much hate on genevieve?
hmm, i think i got an answer to that.
The reason there's so much hatin' on her is 'cause she's too much!Didn't y'all notice that people, especially naija people (no offense) always hate on great people. Is it a coincidence that people say both Genevieve and Beyonce are stuck up?These two people are just too fly for some people to handle. Their reason is that they are "too forward". only naija people use that phrase "too forward" and i still don't get it's meanin'. what y'all want them to be? backward? nah, ain't gon' happen. Lol, anywayz, Genevieve is too much, infact she's nice!

@cute-ass, hello, sis.

Darling sis. i'm fine. How you doing?

and that your analysis up there, is just to die for. You hit the nail on the head, And you know what?? you didn't miss by an inch, thanks girl!!!

busygirl:
i'M GOOD! although, I've been very busy lately.

right back at you darl

everybody is busy except me guess working takes less from you than going to school, my time is coming right after the summer sha

davidylan:
. . . and has less fat

How can i go to her house and complain of hunger when i know the next thing is for me to shell out scarce naira notes to buy HER food at mrbiggs!
Anytime i'm there i'll be more than full even when i'm really starving.

LOL i thought so too Now you understand the guy!!

I once dated a chic who new the way to a man's stomach. We NEVER ate out in the 13 months we were together. She cooked ALL the time including foods she didnt eat and had to go learn from friends simply because i barely mentioned it when we talked. Now THAT was a real woman.

It really does take two to tango . . the left hand washes the right hand, and the right hand washes the left hand.
My secondary school will call it "division of labour"
While Babyosisi's signature would say "to whom much is given, much is expected/required"

naijacutee:
Maybe she thinks you put "something" in it

That might not be too far from it . . lol (how come i didn't think of that? lol?)

But he said he "made her a lady", (if what he's saying is what i think) then i'll think that the aims and goals behind putting "something" is long overdue

babyosisi:
Infact cute,you are one smart girl.
There was a time nairaland was filled with so many unintelligent,trash talking uncultured girls(I will name no names) and I told my brothers on here that if these were the stock,they'll have to choose wives from,they were in deep trouble,the offsprings would be worse than the almajiri's of Kano.

I take back that statement.
Intelligent girls of Nigerian descent still dey.

Dear, that's the height of compliments, hope i live up to it lol but honestly though i'm flattered . .thanks!!!

davidylan:
i support being financially responsible for your girlfriend but not to the extent that the girl now begins to demand her "rights" as if you were the one who concieved her. She conveniently forgot to tell us what she does anytime the boy visits and complains he is hungry.

I don't think she forgot. As it seems, i don't actually think her guy will have the nerves to complain of hunger when he'll end up being the one doing the buying, and while he's at it( buying "buka buka", he' still showered with insults of how his mates take their girlfriends to high classy diners.

David, if na you, you go talk??
BTW girls should start doing things in the kitchen too, or you've not heard?? Nothing trips a guy like having a lady that can make him some home-made-finger-licking food. But it seems this brother lost on that side too

@ poster
you said something about you guys not having time?? but you still have time to complain of hunger, have one of you go get "buka" and then eat it . . na wa ooh, the defintion of time seems different in everybody's dictionary

My dear for future relationships, make time. Give as much as you want to recieve. Its a "two peopel's"thing, don't make it fall just to the one side
Today, this is a story we're all laughing at, but take my words it might be a big determining part of your life tomorrow!!!

busygirl:
cute-ass. .how are you? Where's omo-eko. It's been quite a while!

Darling i'm fine ooh, you're right its been a while alright?? Where have you been at?? guess one school work or the other lol .

Omo-eko is not here for some reasons beyond her control , but i hope she'll be back soonest. .

Now that the poll is edited and modified, everybody's left, thinking of re-starting the whole thing all over again, or what do you think??

waiting for Omo though!!!!!!!!!

so what's been up with you??

babyosisi:
cute,na wa o.
That was a great write up.
I wish this boy would save his money and stop spending it on a girl that'll eat his buka food and do waka with both hands behind his back.

I had that thought at the back of my mind sis. just didn't want to be seen as a wicked person. But now that you mentioned it, i second the motion with both legs

donjohano:
Here endeth the lesson,

davidylan:
Nna mummy, another long treatise again but bang on point!

The guy should have shown this ingrate the door since. The guy is her boyfriend and NOT her parent, if she's hungry she should ask her mother for food and stop putting her problems on others. Is she not ashamed that she follows the guy and his friends to "nice" places to eat? Is this not a sign of the wrong kind of woman to be associated with?

Exactly my point . . this is one of the many reasons some guys run from long-term relationships, Cos some of the girls not minding the guys are strugglers themselves, will want the guy to provide things that their parents couldn't afford in years.

The girls will now from carrying one hairstyle for three months, want to change hair styles every week, she wants to eat out on daily basis, yes ooh, the latest jeans is out and the boyfriend has to provide

And when the guy unfortunately is lacking . . "that's when one happy Nkechi and her boyfriend" enters the discussion of the day!!! At the end of the day, the guy decides to use and dump the girl Cos he cannot cope with the all-of-a-sudden "daddy" title he's been assigned. The same girls complain of how wicked the guys are

We really have to choose, either to walk pass, or make a way for someone else to walk . . you can't just eat your cake and expect it to be in your palms, or can you?? NNNNNOOOO

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my boyfriend and i have been going off and on for sometime, i admit that the fault is mine but here's what he's fond of doing:

Off and on?? seems you guys have a lot to work on and deal with. And when you admit its your fault, i'm beginning to feel for this guy ooh, honestly

each time i go to his place and i tell him im hungry, he buys me food from the local bukateria!

Should i assume you're like hungry almost all the time you visit?? And dear, since you like it the civilized way, what stops you from telling him to escort you to somewhere where you can get the "i makwa ndi anyi bu (do you know who we are)" food. The guy is cutting his coat according to his size.
A reletionship takes two, if you eat at home before visiting, save the money he would have used to buy you "buka foo (whatever that means)" for three times, believe me you'll be able to afford a nice place once in a while.

at first i tot this was spposed to be an infrequent thing but i noticed that he never buys me food from nice places. Undecided Grin u can call him an "iya basira Boy"
i really don't like such food and he makes it seem like im fronting

You sound a bit ungrateful, if you know you don't like the food and he only has the money to afford that, then darling why not stop complaining of hunger. What would you have said if you met someone that says "go into the kitchen (an empty one for that matter) and findyourself something to eat"
The guy is your boyfriend for crying out loud, he should try as much as possible (which he's obviously doing), but until he's placed a ring on your finger, don't expect him to turn to your dad overnight

though he doesnt mind when his friends take us out for a treat in nice places.

Infact i'm liking your guy more for each minute. Of course he doesn't mind!! no be condition make crayfish bend?? he too likes nice restaurants but the fact remains that he can't afford it. I'm sure he's a student as yourself, struggling to make ends meet, but you want him to serve you heaven in a dish. Girlfriend comm'on wait till he's in the position, if he doesn't then we'll be talking. Believe me, a million girls will wish they were in your shoes, some don't get at all but they're still grateful, praying for a better tomorrow and being understanding!!!!

in general
Some of us ladies, do not know what we ave until we loose it. We have our legs in a house but wish we were in the house next door. Believe me its not always as it seems. Why won't you prefer a "a buka plate of food" given to you in love, than the whole "happy bite" in misery??

Tell me something . . if this guy was arrested for armed robbery tomorrow, because you pushed him to the edge of making some and crowning you the queen, where will you be?? will you honestly stand by him??

Many girls end up in unhappy homes today, Cos they were biting more than they could chew, they wanted it all, thereby giving blind eyesb to true love knocking at their door-steps, while the patient one will finally be eating the fruit of her labour Please do not be a victim!!!!!!!!!!!

davidylan:
Dont worry, she will soon learn to kneel down, hands up ad close her eyes.

That just took me some good old years back . . the most popular one in my school was "sit on the air lol" the name of the purnishment alone was sooo funny!!

@ choongtin
dear i can assure you that all these sound scary, but belieeve me there're all stories you'll talk about in future and have a good down-to-tommy laugh. Believe me its an experience of a lifetime. And yes think of it as adventure, its one hell of a ride, a lovely one i mean

Like i told you earlier, only you can make it worth-while . .

nnenneigbo:
if you don't think she's absolutely Gorgeous then go to your optician first thing tomorrow morning abeg

You said it right, she's da best.

I just love that girl hands down _{no i'm not one}

donjohano:
Its been a hard days night. But let me not hijack tolu's thread,

Never mind, thats life for you. Sometimes topps, sometimes not so topp. But always know that a brighter day is right behind the corner
It'll soon be here. Try the "forum jokes" section, it might be of some help!!

donjohano:
Cute-ass, you sound in a great mood - cheer me up!

LOL . . Dearie are you in a bad mood??

What's wrong?

Ooh dearest, you're so so welcome . .

Your flight landed you well, Cos you're in the right destination. Yes, its all happeneing right here

eeeeeeennnnnnjjjjjjjjjooooooooyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!

You just said it yourself,

She's either shy, uncomfortable around you or like IBDat said, she's neither thirsty nor hungry. In as much as it isn't absurd, it is most weired

But if what you said about being her first is true, then i'm not so surprised. Some of our girls are yet to understand all the bits that make up a relationship, and that "a relationsship = oneness + being free around your partner + (all the rest of it).

Some girls do have this behaviour of thinking that being a lady is determined by how many "no,s" you say to material stuff, so you don't be termed too wanting or demanding or long-throated lol

Just help her relax, feel comfortable around you, open up and be herself. You can even talk to her about it, tell her you guys are lovers not "teacher and student" affair, its good for a lady topossess some shyness in her (its one of our characteristics) but it should only be to a point.

I'm sure with time she'll loosen up, and before you know it, you'll be asking if she's the same girl of yesterday. She's just surveying her surroundings, and the fact is that she's the only one that could quit the act when she feels less tense and more at ease with you!!!

But you my dear, have to play your role well

[quote author=D-vah link=topic=51068.msg1090967#msg1090967 date=1178275407]Buhahahahahahahahahhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Cutie---im sure your a good mathematician [/quote]Dearie try me now

Give me any word and i'll present you with my one and only equation and formula

@IBDat
hope you've stopped laughing sha Wouldn't want you to choke with it lol !!!

acidrop:
helping to connect the issue with cuteass

Darling which issue??

I just noticed that one name was left out, Femi's

Have to do something about that . .

@ funloving

I totally see where you're coming from, but at the end of the day its just an order of the day. Don't actually think you can be able to put a stop to it.

If you have to give a few less priviledged, do so. But the truth remains that you can't feed every mouth that comes your way, you can only afford to a point, so you just have to say "NO" in the most polite way ever.

It is left for them to show their "friendship quality" and not let the money issue come between you or be the deciding factor, now if that happens, then take my words, he wasn't even worth it in the first place

Its said that money is the root of all evil, but the good still manages to stand the test of time.
Be prayerful too, Cos after the refusal its difficult to knowwho turns out to be an enemy and will on the other hand want to see you harmed or even dead, be careful too with what you eat, where you go and who you make friends with

The fact that you want to be generally social, doesn't mean you should call just anybody your friend!!!!

youngies:
Nwa okorie ekwuna ekwuna nwa okorie ama na ekwu
Okorie don't talk, _{cutie help me out again}

Okorie don't talk so Okorie's son doesn't fall into the trap . . don't know if i got the igbo version right.

asi ônye usa okwu ekuna, ô si ka ya kwue na okwu ya a na atôka
when you tell "mr. i too" not to talk, he'll insist on doing so Cos he believes he always knows it all

youngies:
Cutie you are playing a catch-up game

Catch-up game ke?? lol

if i'm doing the catch-up, wonder were you are. Definitely behind

Don't worry i'm on my way to finish you, WATH OUT!!!!!

spoilt:
whatever a man can do with money a woman can do with money too.

Dear, you're right.

In my opinion the guy should also put it on the table to be discussed as a family decision.

But in a case where both parties that are the head of the family do things without the other person's knowlegde or consent, then the lady should be my guest

Doing it in form of a[b] sneak[/b] (which some women do) is what i'm against!!!

chiegemba:
@cute-ass; hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

Hi darling, good to see you. I was actually thinking of you yesterday, and my prayers were just answered. Hope you're fine

@ Uyai

See your "love story" has changed since we last talked.

If you ask me, either both of you are playing the "hide and seek" game, or you've actually slipped through each other's fingers or one of you is still blindly in love . . but i can't really place my finger on which of the above your case is

If its the hide and seek game, then it might land you guys on a dangerous spot, Cos for some the more you play the game, the more seperated you become. And at the end of the day, the broken pieces would be so shattered to mould back. That's what i call a couple growing apart from each other

In your case??
I think you're scared to let go? but if you ask me, it think its time to, i know i told you to give it all you had and give some benefit of the doubt but the situation now seems to have an extra unwanted side to it

He no longer sounds like someone who just needs some space, he now sounds non-challant and ignorant of whatever might be, and to me you guys are still "a couple" Cos neither of you has the courage to speak up. Girl break out of the cycle Cos it seems to be costing you a lot.

A relationship is supposed to bring joy, hapiness and a feeling of security and even during the bad times, there's this assurance and hope of better days to come,

your relationship?? i see no prospect, no rock to hold you through, the parties are more of frenemies than a couple, secrets are smuggling in, irritation towards the other party is sneaking in, the love is slowly varnishing leaving you my girl empty, depressed and confused.

The sooner you guys jointly called it a day, the better for both parties. You can remain friends, you might even benefit from each other, but your days as a couple has been realised, its time to heal and move on.

Meet better things that life has in stock, but know this: as long as a door doesn't shut, a window will not be opened. And NO, let the other guy go. Recover from the pains and hurt, mourn your newly-dead relationship and give yourself some time to realise what you just went through. When you're ready for another relationship, and have met a suitable match for yourself, it will tell, but for now, yourself should be your best friend, family and female friends(good ones ooh) should be your crying shoulder!!!

Nairalanders are at your service too Don't worry, it shall be well, take my word on it.

I don't like where you're heading to,

It seems that in