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I love to hear of men like this. NL guys you hear am so? Love transcends all.

You need to tell her. Marriage isn't chips and balls and its much worse when its to the wrong person.

taryour: agioooooooooo. U kill me with laff.

Yes oo i agree with everyone. D best thing dat can happen to a woman is being a mother. Ryt now my son is 8monts + and i cnt wait to hear him say mummy. I dont even know wot i wuld do wen i hear d words. Lol

You will feel warm all over and you will be smiling stupidly.

solidbroda: wow, so ladies like that still exist, especially in Nigeria? honetly, tell your friend im a fan of her. she has given me hope dat we still av few good ladies in Nigeria

And while she is being a good lady her hubby is busy gbenshing girls like a single man in America. That's y he hasn't been to see his wife in 4 yrs. 4 Years!

He wanted a55, you gave him and he is gone. Its dat simple. You were what they call December runs! Get over it and move on cos you won't see him again. Yes his mother is in on it too!

I am firm believer in water finding its level. If she feels he isn't good enough for him then she shd leave his a55!

cotton101: do you even know what is so pathetic about the poster's story - the woman is taking care of the home financially and this useless man is beating her on top of it.


madam CC - the first few months I left I had my inlaws telling me its my fault - my mouth is too sharp (as he told them). I guess when you loose respect for a man that can beat u while pregnant ur mouth might become a bit sharp, when ur husband is following small small girls out side at his old age (40+) yes ur mouth can become a bit sharp, when ur husband refuses to bring money for ante natal care and expects his unemployed wife to foot all the bills "sebi you have money" while he spends it on woman outside y won't my mouth be sharp..........frekking nonsense.

but if there is any woman reading this and wondering - there is life after leaving an abusive relationship. It is hard - if you cannot hack it please stay where you are and pray the man changes cos IT IS NEVER THE VICTIM'S FAULT.

anyway I have since moved on - I thank God for a good job my daughter does not lack - I am trying to plan my summer holiday - madam CC any suggestions cos a weekend to Brighton is not going to be my portion - lol.

Abeg enjoy ur life jor! Contact me let me arrange your summer holiday! I package vacations and holidays!

Johndoe100: Another onesided story from "my imaginary pal" who I am going to advise on sunday. Most of these so obvious lies are planted by people who just want to follow follow. They just serve as platforms for the cabal to hate on men. I am sure that the OP is single. So much crap.
If a woman gets beat sometimes it's cos she deserved it. Please even Islam recognizes this and makes allowance for it. But hey this is NL, so if something with a kunt says something, it's true and we all have to cry about what the big bad "MAN" did.

Islam has always been a religon of barbarians, beat your wife, kill non muslims, marry 4 wives, blow up innocent children and you will Bleep 7 virgins. Pls back off with the islam bullshit.

@ OP, tell ur friend to leave him because if she doesn't, she will continue to live as a bruised battered shadow when there is so much more in life.

[quote author=fresh_dude]Thanks for being honest, @DonTonero there you have it. #Daresh has told you all you need to know, the ball is in your court. #Daresh, I wouldn't mind those recommendations o. Seriously.[/quote]If you want me to recommend my beautiful saintlike cousins to you *lol*, first declare your intentions!

My own advice? That girl doesn't love or respect you. Haba! A fellow corper and to ur face? See this period of courtship is when ur thru character shd show. You 2 have dated long and I think she is still growing, trying to figure out who she is. So my advice, let her go. You move on with ur own life and find a decent girl, I have recommendations sef. if she comes back and you feel u can live with the fact she has gbenshed other men then go ahead. I have learnt not to let my happiness be dependent on someone else.

Makky keep thanking God for saving you from such a heartless creature and showing u his true colors! The guy na animal and you shd give thanks that he is out of your life!

I tire for girls. What do you want with a married man? If he is lying and cheating on his wife who he swore to love and protect b4 God, then who r u that he would be a good man to? Really ppl like this give girls a bad name. Silly fish brain

kpolli: Bitter truth, ur husband wants to cheat on u

I agree. Same thing happened, he said it was harmless banter, I waited to get real evidence while d harmless banter blossomed into a full blown affair.

Idowuogbo: Na me train dat gal o! Her na Blowcinta, so her flex rate go tite die! U beta beg me to collabo ur marra.

Ol boy forget marra na correct waffi gel e be. Na warri dem born am plus im mama and papa all join!

I speak fluent pidgin english. E get dis babe wey we 2 go UNILAG togeda wey dey blow d waffi like die! Her spoken english is perfect. Na im mouth I take learn d pidgin and I neva reach im level but it dey try sha.

which one is chiild support in Nigeria? have you been drinking?

I'm his next of kin, he is my next of kin. He even started using me as his next of kin before we even got married. I know that he will always take the best decisions for me as he knows me best and he knows I would always have his back , as long as he is good.

Haba take it easy with the insults ejoor o! I haven't done anything, I don't plan to do anything, if I wanted to retaliate I would have done it since.

Is she mad and are u mad? Why would hour cook seperately for her? Why would she mess up the kitchen and you wont set her straight? Listen to me very carefully, as you make your bed, so u will lay on it. If you let her get away with bullshit, that is what you will always get. I did not say fight her o! Handle it with maturity. Tell her to do stuff. Tell her to wash the plates and pots. Tell her to cook what she wants and clean up after herself. All in a polite manner since u are not fighting with her. Relatives who feel entitled just irks me

Its this dude that I had something with a few yrs ago when I was serving. We didn't get to third base but there was a lot of 1st and 2nd base. Now d only reason I didn't let him get there was because he was married. So after servive I left town and we haven't seen each other since. We've been in contact on fb and bb though. So he moves to my town and we saw a few days ago after 7 years. Hes not bad looking @ all and those old feelings r back. I've been having a hard time in my own marriage and I know its just the devil but *sigh* a girl can dream right?!

Funny my husband I had a conversation very similar to this yesterday. He told me that if I ever make more money than him, he doesn't want to know about it. His exact words were " I will make sure I always earn more than you, but if you ever make more, keep your money, don't tell me. I will always provide for my family." I told him it was silly and childish but e no gree o! So, I will SAVE not hide my money. The day it is needed, I will bring it out.
Many marriages have intense issues. We have heard things about widows being kicked out when the man dies and all what not. I think she is just trying to protect herself!

I love footbal, though I'm not a crazy fan. My husband is like you and doesn't even bother about the game.

I have dated a white boy and I can tell you he was the best boyfriend I ever had. Unfortunately I had to go bk to naija so it ended

We have 2 kids and my husband and I have decided to adopt the 3rd and last child. There is no need to over populate d world!

Then, when I was younger I would have ignored it all and gone ahead. Now that I am older and seen more things, I won't marry. Our parents know what they r talking about when they investigate background. My father did it for me and my inlaws checked me out too.

That your wife is an evil evil woman. You for arrange visit to naija and dump the biatch there. Stewpid woman #Godiswatchingyou#

mattaz: Hey NLs
Okay I'v been tinkin abt dis topic 4 days nw&thus decided 2 air it @least 2 get oda views on d issue. Is takin tym 2 delve into d family files of d persn u plan 2 marry really important?Jst yst a frend wz talkin 2 me abt checkin out my gurl's family&M lyk wat if I find out dat dey r all robbers 4 instance shuld dat make me throw away d healthy r/shp I&my gurl av managed 2 groom al dis yl?Somtymz I tink we nigerians take dis findin out abt d odas family tin 2 seriously...Wat'd u tink

Little do you know. The family background is extremely important. A family of theives shows they have poor morals and will steal from you @ every opportunity cos like it or not her family becomes your family. Or a family of jazz that one day when you 2 have issues she will carry ur matter to baba. Or a promiscous family wey both papa and mama dey nack apacko for outside. All d sibling have kids outside wedlock. Or the worst a poor family where they will all line up the day you collect salary, no one get or want job, monkey go dey work, baboon go dey chop!

Your brazillian hair, blackberry, and clothes all bought by different men and your bb status says "Miss Independent " #Godiswatchingyou#

Oh wow this is so beautiful! CONGRATULATIONS to them! For all you bad belle people, its called destination wedding. All of you bitching over someone elses choice, mind ur damn business. Did she invite you or ask for ur help? *hisses and exits thread*