₦airaland Forum

madamoringo:
Tears or tales by moonlight??

More like tears by moonlight.

Am actually proud of the Ibos in this election, cos , whether right or wrong, they actually stood behind a party to the end not like the usual 'eating your cake but trying to have it' calculations that was evident in the other republics.

The o.p seems also to have conveniently forgotten the last time they were Senate president...how much contribution that made t d 'political evolution' and how it transformed the general Ibo man's fortune.

rokiatu:
The pe.nis is to be blamed.

bwahahahahahaha...

Naa..
The penis doesn't have a say,
it just obeys and rises to the task ahead..lol

freecocoa:
The reason why I think the wife takes greater blame.

MIL might have gotten offended, thinking "how can this small girl be insulting me like this" and gave DIL a resounding slap, DIL being the " be you who, I no send" type showed mama say she doesn't give a hoot., this type of people are hardly innocent.

The truth is that, no matter how much one's parents respects them, there can and always is a time when they expect you to recognize authority, it is a very good quality everyone should have, DIL doesn't seem like someone to make excuses for in cases like this.

For MIL to go straight to take pictures doesn't mean she's bossy, my mum is one of the gentlest and most humble people I know, her kind of humility even pisses us off sometimes(no exaggeration) yet she will do something like take the pictures because she's genuinely happy, DIL could easily get those pictures back, she is not in any way supposed to fight because of it, an oppressed person doesn't behave this way.

I particularly like what you said about authority.
It's astonishing that peeps be giving reasons why a young wife will raise her hands against an elder one.
Frankly.

Lesson though;
it's not everyone that opens a thread about counseling has something good to pass on.
The messenger is as /even more important than the message.

'nuff said.

This thread should end.

Misogynist2014:
This is how it starts

Exactly .
with all these issues, especially down south, I really pray God takes control.
Jega should have been honest with himself and Nigerians.
This is so disappointing.

MadCow1:
I may never slap my mother but if my mother puts herself in a position to get slapped then she has it coming. Remember that it was his mother that acted above her authority to slap his wife.

If your mother in law comes into your house making demands that you refuse her and she proceeds to slap you, I doubt you would be saying all this.

The case here remains that the mother slapped his wife because she refused her taking pictures of her baby without her consent and as far as I am concerned everything else that transpired after the slap are all secondary.

I don't see wat the argument is about??
Didn't want to point fingers before, but like I always say, 'wisdom is profitable to direct'.

In marriage, we adopt our better halves parents to be ours, as it is d case in most cultures, or from a moralistic standpoint, we don't treat them any worse than u would treat yours.

The question then is, @wat point would u cross the line to raise ur hands against ur own parents
Will u do that because of a disagreement, disrespect/disregard, a slaps (s)
If nothing of such can make u cross that line, Then, the o.ps wife WAS WRONG.

Look @ wat 2 pictures is costing her??

We all will argue the fine points from a safe, disconnected viewpoint BUT d o.p and his wife will have to live with the consequences/stigma of this for the next couple of years...and for what??

I can't honestly for the life of me think of a scenario that'll justify that except it's a case of life/death.


I blame totally the o.p sha....burying your head in the sand in a battle front will only result in your butt being blown off. He Should 've bin Proactive.

Speaking from experience...
It's either u stay or u leave but one thing's for sure, it's something you will have to deal with (mentally and psychologically) for a long time.

One advice I'll give you, forget what she's going through (d begging n all) and Take A Break from the relationship for @least 6weeks.

It'll help you think clearly and make a proper decision for the future...and also to make a decision to truly forgive and forget, hard as it may seem.

p.s.. Never judge tears by d buckets..




peace bro.

What a lot of people won't tell you about this situation is that there's no True solution.
Put yourself in ur mother's position, your daughters husband physically exchanges blows with you for a 'simple' request, how will u feel?? Do you think the relationship will ever be restored
Your wife had probably had it up to her head before reacting like that, but any attempt to blame her completely or paint her completely black will be resented and only breed animosity towards you, and she you'll have to live with for years to come..
and you, can u honestly say ur not harboring any resentment towards any of them for the issue.

How also is your family going to look @ your wife from now on because it IS an abomination in most cultures.

Not an easy situation to handle.

My advice, your wife apologizes sincerely to your Mom according to tradition,if needs be, and then you both apologize and appease the family. Then if you can ,relocate to somewhere your both not so accessible, even if it's still in the same state/city and hope time heals all scars.
.
p.s...asking f advice from an 'Elder' knowledgeable in such tins might help.


and next time be proactive and preempt situations


All the best..

boynigeria:
A sacred set of rules meant to be a guideline to live by among Bros.
The rules began as unwritten rules to follow but because of the
PUSSIfication of men haven't been followed properly and for
some men they needed to be spelled out in bold print.
So I will take yall through these rules 10 at a time.

1: Bros before hoes – A ‘hoe’ is defined as any woman that is not
your wife or any other direct family.

2: A bro is always allowed to do something stupid as long as his
bro’s are doing it.

3: If a bro gets a dog, it must be at least as tall as his knee when
fully grown.

4: Whether a Bro is into sports or not, a Bro picks a team and
supports them until his dying breath.

5: A bro shall not gaze at a naked bro, if for ANY reason a bro gets
naked, all other bros will act as if nothing is out of the ordinary,
averting their eyes away. If the towel drops, so do your eyes.

6: A bro never buys a bro cake, chocolate or any other sugary shiits for birthday

7: A bro is honor bound to aid his bros in moving house, DIY, and any
other physical labour. A cold, fresh shayo(soft drink in some cases) is always reward enough for helping.

8: If a bro leads a beer/food run, he is entitled to any and all left
over change.

9: A bro will not sleep with another bro’s sister. However, a bro is
allowed to be vocal about her level of attractiveness.

10: A Bro shall not wear on his phone any pink coloured cover/casing or use a casing with teady

This is a necessary thread for all the young'uns out there.
These rules didn't need to be spelt out before, but these days...there's no code, no honor, nothing.
All u see are guys in skinny jeans, ultra groomed, in pink, yellow,purple colors running around selling out to the femmes.

terrible..
.
the old guard has changed, but d way d New guard is going......s.m.h

Any wonder why the romance section is filled with ridiculous threads of 'wat should I do??'.

Boys are just falling hands,legs and every other tin.

kudos@o.p

BERNANKE:
A promiscous man don't suddenly become faithful on his wedding night.. Ladies just fail to read in-between the lines sometimes due to external pressure of getting married at so and so age or even self made,self imposed pressure. The truth is most unfaithful men have never been faithful...

This is just the truth.

I know a no of peeps who are married and unfaithful and the Truth is, they had been like that from time immemorial AND the wives knew that.

Not supporting infidelity, But , you don't take a leopard into your life, proceed to wash it with Hypo and Jik, and afterwards complain when d spots don't go off.


...and for the silly femmes arguing blindly, 2 things;
*Infidelity isn't as rampant as ppl make it to be. That it makes headlines only buttresses the fact that bad news is always 'good'news.
couples cheat, couples stay faithful, it all depends on which of the two you want to focus on.


*paying back male infidelity with infidelity Can Never work.
One, society Will Always judge you unfairly. Fact..whether u like t accept it or not,
secondly, how many females can cheat without emotional involvement. I've read , heard, come across females who cheated whether f payback etc and in almost All cases, she got emotionally invested
thirdly, in the cheating race, females against the males is like pitting a 100-200m runner against a 400-800m one in a long distance race. Y'all cannot sustain/keep up, So WHY Bother!

It's really simple the solution...
*MARRY RIGHT.. a dog will always be a dog so why expect any better
*stay faithful...if you have any idea how much infidelity hurts, you wouldn't want to put your darling wife/g.f through that...continuously.
* If u can't stay faithful, and ur religion/culture supports it, then by all means, Get Another Wife.
it's the honourable tin to do

itops:
ONLY PEOPLE THAT REASON LEFT WARDS THAT WILL LAUGH TO THAT CRAB..... im not surprised.

....and only people with a poor grasp of English, will make so many blunders in a 2line sentence..but oh well, by NLand standards, it's a pass.


meanwhile dude, come have another orijin on me.
looooooollll

duni04:
Down low homosexuals!
A real ambitious and hardworking man will always have the urge to compensate his hard work with a good lay, anyday anytime.

Hahaha...
Nonsensical assertion.
I may not be a 'real' man,
BUT... I am young, hardworking, very comfortable, with a beautiful and sexy wife and more importantly, Comfortable in my masculinity and Don't see the need to assert or satisfy my insecurities by sticking my penis in any skirt that comes my way......


and, they do come..a lot.



Deal with your insecurities son, it'll do you good.

chiefdoctor:
1. Please tell me where it is on your body you feel your husband shouldn't put his dick. Every orifice of yours should be fair play. Just use oil
2. Whats wrong with thanking him for being a great fawk? You think say e easy? You may think it uneccessary but women would be surprised how much so they can make their men kolo and do anything for them (esp. outside the bedroom) simply by just being appreciative (and reducing complaints). Men were made like God in a way. Praise works wonders.

LMFAO...
shitty post, but...damn!

*here, have one orijin on me***

HizMissy:
mister, dont make hasty generalizations. Not all faithful guys are poor, ugly and boring.
how can one guy be ugly, boring, and poor? jeez! BTW, you sound like its your right to cheat.

Don't mind d teat.
Guys who can't control their penis always end up making ridiculous generalization to justify their position.
Fyi, it's Your choice to cheat or not, at the end , it'll still be ur cross alone to bear
There are thousands,albeit millions of rich TDH guys out there who have achieved the most admirable quality in a man, the control of their emotions/hormones/self.
If u choose to be one of the dick controlled peeps out there, No p..But StOp generalizing.

collinsoft:
It is obvious Wike do not have the locus-standi to rule rivers state. He does not understand one bit what governance is all about. When asked how he was going to tackle oil bunkering he said he would use the judiciary to fight oil theft.
All he keep saying is when I get elected. Do u elect someone without idea of governance? Tonye princewill and dakuku peterside wins it for me any time.

Not being partisan, but I don't think you/the commentary is being fair to Wike.
I think he had the best comment on the security situation of the state (Tonye was being too idealistic), but missed it on the illegal bunkering..

Tonye obviously killed the debate (pity he's campaigning so poorly), but between Dakuku and Wike, I think Wike did a bit better.. A bit more realistic in his answers, Dakuku ended up shooting himself in the foot a coupla times, like wen Tonye reminded him on wat private-public partnership is, and d jab at Seminatari was just brilliant.
all in all, a good debate.

KpStone:
Liar. Ikuru is a featherweight in rivers politics. In 8yrs this is the first headline he's making. And this is simply because he's being choked by the party chairman. He has defected but not with any serving member.

Your systemic lie is unintelligent op.
Did they defect to become flagbeares on the platform of PDP after winning primaries under APC.
Besides ikuru is a direct relative of Uche secondus. So this isn't a surprise at all

Your mumu don old

The numbers by the o.p are obviously inflated, But...
the next couple of days is going to see mass defections from the APC in the state.

That's just the truth.

Amaechi has lost the state, it's obvious, he doesn't even live in the state anymore and the politicians know it and will do wat politicians are known for....port to the next perceived meal ticket.

falconey:
GUYs how can you resist such figure? If there is any technique you use let us now.

Easy....
Am allergic to fat girls.








besides, not everyone is'skirt'. crazy like d o.p

dmcdad:
Of course I can! But, there must be willingness to learn. What I can't take, or rather the reason I wouldn't wanna marry a lady who doesn't know how to cook is if she isn't willing to learn.

Now for the records... There are alot of people that would come up here and spew blah blah blah about how they can get a cook blah blah blah. Well, I am not against that. Whatever rocks your boat. But for once. let's think like Africans. Certain factors (such as this) distinguish we Africans to a greater extent from people of other continents.

Besides, the so-called westerners we look up to, their women know how to cook, and they do cook at home. It's a pity some of us console ourselves with people who live celebrity kinda lives, and thereby don't have the time and what-not to cook. And we use such people as the benchmarks to determine how we run our families in certain spheres of life.

It is a good thing to eat good foods. But, it is far better and sweeter when that food is prepared by


your wife. It gives one special kinda feeling, and creates a kinda bond between the hubby and the wife.

Well, as much as the willingness to learn is there, I would marry the least cook and help her to be better in the best way I can. But if the willingness or zeal is not there, then... Error 404, pageMcdad not found.

Nice one..
once again

Cpumping:
just incase

op. I neva still understand wetin u dey ask.
dt I stay in a self contain n drive an suv doesn't necessarily mean I live a fake life.

...and the silly thread made front page.

@o.p, before my marriage, I had 2 cars and one was/is an suv, and I stayed in a rented flat, but that in no way meant I was being flamboyant,and more importantly,I have a plan for my future.


ur sisters rejection of her suitor probably had little to do with wat he had but a perception of wat was his possible NFA lifestyle.

Eventually, it's the inner workings of the man/woman that matters.

dmcdad:
No offence please, but I sometimes wonder how some of you think. Not like the op said he didn't know of what he ought to do or that he wasn't willing on an average day. He said he decided to hold back just to see or know what her reaction would be. Unfortunately, she failed woefully! And to change completely because of that (that is if what the OP said were true) means she ain't worth it!

Courtesy demands that a guy give a girl t-fare right? Good. But does that make it her right? Nope! Of course for a guy to do such means he appreciates your coming and all. That's great! But if he fails to do such, then a girl shouldn't take it otherwise. Sometimes you don't know how one's pockets are...

Besides, if it were the guy who visits, would the girl do same? Leave matter for Mathias jare.

Don't get me wrong, I am not against a guy doing such (it makes sense). Neither am I saying a girl should also give a guy who visits t-fare. Just saying you girls read excessive meanings to things and judge it out of context. It's a kind gesture from guys, and not a girl's right per se.

Very very well said..

ROSYL:
I'm an ardent reader of Stella ' s blog. I go on Linda ' s blog once in a year, her style of writing doesn't just cut it for me. She writes like a 6 year old. For example, "the music star posted this sexy picture this afternoon, she looks hot, lol, see more pix after the cut"
Many years of blogging, she still writes like a child. Besides this, most comments on her blog are just too childish, that lack educative info.

This is so true..
Am as bored with Linda as I am with NL

and the comments You read them and you just want to cause bodily harm to someone.

May start following Stellas blog

Definition of a dysfunctional family.








poor North West.... there's almost no hope f her.

Ishilove:
http://www.today.ng/lifestyle/16-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-short-girl/

seems like a coded message to someone

is it just me , or does it seem like the O.p's trying to tell her b.f/guy something

**shrugs n strolls off**

rokiatu:
jeez where is your brain lol. His reaction, your tightness, how often you've used your self, your punny cleanliness, your wetness and so on should give you a clue. Unless you are clueless. You don't even need the man to tell you.
But for me they've told and not not when they was on top me. My pu..ssy was too sweet for them to think straight at that moment. it was much much later. An ex of my told me after we broke off even. I know my pussy good, I don't need them to tell me thou , but they still do.

loool....
Not really a fan but jeez,
I luv ur openness and confidence.

rokiatu:
Yes Splash pregnancy.

.................
don't know wat to comment..

'splash' pregnancy
uhhmmm...ok.

rokiatu:
I know there's certain breakups that's so hard to get over, and starting over can seems so impossible. Trust me been there, done it, got my revenge. and he's still pinning over me till this day. He goes out of his way to attend every function I attend just to see me. He keeps flooding his Facebook about how he will never get over me and stuff. Well mission accomplished. That was the plan, for his lame azzz to regret for the rest of his life. My method? Quite simple, be happy without them, do better without them. In short the best revenge is a better life without them.

below are things you can do to revenge an ex.




1 look good at all time. You never know when you make run into him/her. When you do, you want to leave a lasting pinning.

2 be friends with them on social media, but don't talk to them, don't reply any of their messages or anything, just have them there so they can see you doing well without them. After a while then delete them.

3 move on to someone better. You don't want to downgrade but upgrade. Nothing hurt an ex then seeing you with someone better then them.


4 Focus on yourself, better yourself. You want to take a step forward not backward. Be it school, career, your look, dress sense, And he/she will hear about it.


5 never ever mention them on your social media or post anything relating to an ex. They will think you miss them. Even if you do don't show it.


6 stick to the no contact rule. Don't ever attempt to contact them.


7 finally moved on.

Seems like so much work
Might it not be easier to just ,thank God, close the chapter and live your life
Y'all broke up, it's not like the fellow murdered your family.
All this revenge ish is for the Asians.

It's ur life, he/she visited, left a mark and left.....the life still remains yours to choose what, where & how.

Am very good friends with a number of my ex's. ain't a thing to me.

bendeniceguy:
Yes na but a win today will qualify the flying eagles for the FIFA u20 world cup

See me wasting time here..
lemme tune in jare, watch beta match.

wat if they lose

Oildichotomy:
The OP just made it look as if everybody in Nigeria is dead or dying

Hello, sorry to burst your bubble, Nigeria is ever growing population-wise

These are some of the few posts that just make me unapologetically NIGERIAN.
YOU ridicule and prejudice your country just because you feeding off food stamps in Texas
What have you done to savage the situation?

I am just tempted not to call you a coward

Silly thread from an ignorant fellow.
Running down Drs, quoting cases she knows nothing about just because there are the usual gullible people ready to jump on the. 'Drs are bad' bandwagon.
just to disprove one of ur 'examples', women on an average register in 2 hospitals for antenatal. one private and one gov't, just so they have options, so they can have a choice in their delivery(which private hospitals tend to give) and also , considering the wonderful transport situation, for convenient transportation. Every hospital has their policies and anyone who registers there has To abide by those policies, same as all over the world.
Imagine you making noise about gunshot cases.. if Nigerians with all the limitations you talked about still pullout medical miracles, without resorting to a plethora of investigations because they're lazy to reason, then maybe it's time u stfu .

sometimes I watch foreign medical shows and laugh.
Heard someone using Dr House as an example, I laughed...if a Dr were to operate like that here, he'll lose >60% of his patient...Truth.

The problem with Nigerian health care is 60% the patient who in his/her ignorance chooses to do things his/her way.



Finally, fyi,
DOCTORS ASK FOR POLICE REPORT SO THEY DON'T END UP TREATING AND DISCHARGING CRIMINALS BY MISTAKE.
I HAVE SEEN IT HAPPEN TIME &TIME AGAIN.
also,
IT IS REQUIRED BY LAW.

Get your facts right..

enjoy ur obodo oyinbo.

#am out
#ignoranceisannoying.
#don't even know y I bother

Oildichotomy:
The OP just made it look as if everybody in Nigeria is dead or dying

Hello, sorry to burst your bubble, Nigeria is ever growing population-wise

These are some of the few posts that just make me unapologetically NIGERIAN.
YOU ridicule and prejudice your country just because you feeding off food stamps in Texas
What have you done to savage the situation?

I am just tempted not to call you a coward

Silly thread from an ignorant fellow.
Running down Drs, quoting cases she knows nothing about just because there are the usual gullible people ready to jump on the. 'Drs are bad' bandwagon.
just to disprove one of ur 'examples', women on an average register in 2 hospitals for antenatal. one private and one gov't, just so they have options, so they can have a choice in their delivery(which private hospitals tend to give) and also , considering the wonderful transport situation, for convenient transportation. Every hospital has their policies and anyone who registers there has To abide by those policies, same as all over the world.
Imagine you making noise about gunshot cases.. if Nigerians with all the limitations you talked about still pullout medical miracles, without resorting to a plethora of investigations because they're lazy to reason, then maybe it's time u stfu .

sometimes I watch foreign medical shows and laugh.
Heard someone using Dr House as an example, I laughed...if a Dr were to operate like that here, he'll lose >60% of his patient...Truth.

The problem with Nigerian health care is 60% the patient who in his/her ignorance chooses to do things his/her way.



Finally, fyi,
DOCTORS ASK FOR POLICE REPORT SO THEY DON'T END UP TREATING AND DISCHARGING CRIMINALS BY MISTAKE.
I HAVE SEEN IT HAPPEN TIME &TIME AGAIN.
also,
IT IS REQUIRED BY LAW.

Get your facts right..

enjoy ur obodo oyinbo.

#am out
#ignoranceisannoying.

Jorussia:
we dey quarrel?abi you b FFK when dey speak with bitterness? Take it or leave it,my post you quoted above is nothing short of the absolute truth. You are happy that GEJ is wasting our common wealth on election. You are the only one That know about 9ja politics abi?Let's wait and see the outcome of the forthcoming polls.All theses money inducement steps that PGEJ,is only going to lead him to massive disgrace and shame by the grace of God.I am not Yoruba,but i can tell you that no sane Yoruba man/woman will reject no2 position for nothing. Which position is GeJ going to offer Yoruba that is more than VP?We all know that osibanjo can't be jumping from the palace of one Yoruba king to another for prayers and endorsement, because he is a MAN OF GOD.

True that you said.. the Yoruba masses will be hard pressed to vote against one of their own in a position such as the v.p, but..
almost everyone knows the vice-presidency is a more or less 'siddon look' position, very lil play in the game of chess that modern politics has become.
If GEJ were to offer key ministerial or national assembly positions, I think he might be able to sway majority of the ppl.


#myopinion

Talking from experience,
this is so true..

especially the subtle signs..eating n touching..plus it's almost a fact that open ppl are more expressive (better) in.bed.