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Trustedpro:
Oga hire him back....only if he can apologize and wish to come back. Then you give him 3months probation and pay him half of his salary to serve as disciplinary measures. Make sure he doesn't go to market with cash, restrict him to kitchen only. If a serving Col. can be defrauding people in Nigeria...never trust no one.

Hmmm! High risk!

Seriously, hiring househelps in whatever guise now is a risky venture.

There's usually some external influence even when the person is good. We see many cases of people being killed or robbed by their domestic workers these days

BusinessCity:
I was almost accused of kidnapping when the police turned it upside down. That how did I end with the kids for years if not kidnap. My image and that of my family in the area was seriously dented. Thankfully we treated the kids well and they wore the same clothes mine wore and eat the same meal so many people in the community knew it was a ploy. But the experience is one that seriously damaged my soul.


I will hardly help people again. Hardly.

Very sad reading this. God will surely vindicate you. I've experienced something fairly similar but was saved by the girl's family members who vouched for me. I learnt a bitter lesson and now give remotely mostly.

Please don't stop being kind to people. Get involved in charities where you don't need to have direct personal relationships. It will bring joy to your soul and help you heal. Orphanages, Widow Foundations, Special Kids etc require a lot of support. God bless you much more.

Looks like the younger generation in the North are finding polygamy a bitter pill to swallow. It really shouldn't be so because as Muslims, they should expect to share with three other women depending on the husband's capacity and interest.

LuQuLuQu:
THE LION INSIDE A MAN DOES NOT EAT A WOMAN.

At one time, a newly married young man was shouting at his 20 years old wife and his father called him inside and said to him, 'We only shout at people our threats could give fear but not the same to a woman especially the one you called your wife. The way you are shouting, you are giving away your power and she is the one you are giving it to. Your threats make her stronger'. Most men believe that when a woman is being threatened, she is subdued. Thats a lie.

Let us not be blind and still feel we have our eyes wide open. Why is it that the moment a man starts having sex even with a 15 year old girl, she stops fearing him. If she was used to running to hide before when she sees him, that stops? I will tell you something about women we have never believed.

Eve first talked with serpent, the enemy of God. She never feared to meet with him. She was the one who brought Adam closer to the serpent. Adam must have heard things about serpent from God and he kept his distance. But the woman never did the same.

Women are not changed with fear. A woman may likely stay quiet when a man is threatening and shouting but she is not sitting down inside her. She is evaluating the man's weakness and how to subdue him rather. Throw your mind back to those days you knew the men that were beating their wives and now, the men are getting older, who is suffering it today? All those women their husband were beating years back are the ones enjoying the marriage with their children and their men are at the receiving end.

Let it become clear to men that the way into a woman's heart is not to try to subdue her. God spoke to men and said, 'Husbands, love your wife'. Do you need explaination about that? Love makes women weak. When you truly love a woman and prove it, she submits to you without you saying a word. But when a woman has sensed that she is just like your toy, the spirit of rebellion takes over her. She might not physically stand on your way but she is plotting coup against you and one day, you sit and watch her and her children force you to follow their rules or die quicker.

Almost all the great and fierce kings you know died before their wives. They lived all through their life threatening their fellow men and wives. They were able to kill most of their strong fellow men but all the women they threatened stayed alive. Women know how to survive against men.

The lion in men does not live up to doing to women the things it does to their fellow men. Women naturally know how to survive pains. They can walk to the fearful serpent and make their demands.

2nd kings 8:1-6, the Shunemite woman left her country because of famine with her family and returned seven years later. She found out that her family valuables have been taken over by others. Her husband never stood up. The woman went straight to the king to ask for her things back. Where was her husband? There are things women fear but not the lion inside men. They can submit and respect their men so foolishly that you imagine that there is no gut inside them. They have guts men don't have.

We don't have compatible relationship with women by showing the lion inside us. God knew women before us and begged that we show love than threats. He knew it won't be a formular. The formular is, conquer your woman with love. When a woman is loved, you break all her guts and she stays in your hands. A woman can do anything to stay with a man who is honestly in love with Her.

Talk gently towards your Woman, Don't shout. Do not arrogantly display your weakness as a Man.

Good lesson for the wise ones.

I pray that the woman won't regret her action. This lazybone man won't mind doing anything to bring in his new found lover.

Laughing so hard!

Eko akete ile ogbon, eko o gba gbere.

Those still in doubt are free to live in fool's paradise. I've seen COVID patients and know it is real.

We've lost too many of our intelligentia lately. Very, very sad for our developing economy.

Many Professors, Doctors and other medical gone within such a short time. Lord help us.

So what will they do after burning their certificates? Sit in Church every day?

What happened to obedience to one's parents as stated in the Bible? The Bible says we should seek knowledge and wisdom.

These ones are not serious at all. Yeye people calling themselves Pastors. Mschew

SalamRushdie:
Don't be suprised he doesn't even know her , people around him are just getting him to sign their cronies into power

That's possible.

@OP
May God bless you for this deep insight into the war with BH. May God guide, protect and bless you all as you strive to keep us safe. May your family never weep over you. You'll come back victorious to God's glory.

I'm forever proud of our military men. Ever gallant and devoted. We may have some bad eggs but that never takes the shine off the majority.

I do remember Lt Col. Abu Ali in particular. A selfless, diligent officer who was highly respected by the soldiers in his team especially. May Allah grant him aljanah firdaus.

May the souls of other departed soldiers rest in peace. May God heal the wounded both body and soul. Depression will not come your way.

God bless you all much more.

Aluta continua, victoria acerta.

Mikehot:
just one statement op

If you a southern fighting northerners Islamic civil war you are the biggest fool

Rather insensitive!

He was helpful to the NADECO warriors back then. A detribalised and honourable man. May his soul rest in perfect peace.

smoke9910:
Who still watches NTA. The picture quality is too bad for my eyesight, I'll pass.

It's being done in conjunction with Wale Adenuga Productions so it may be shown on WAP TV too for a clearer view.

boxer022:
My brother I have gone through what you wrote and I must confess it is really touching. My advice for you is that since she has abandoned all her wifely duties and motherly duties due to the reason stated, try as much as you can to take care of your younger ones and especially your father. My ernest wish and prayer is that your father does not die from this situation due to hypertension. Talk to him, take very good care of him, console him also, I know he is going through much stress from thinking, please also appeal to him not to give up and wish for his early death because of what he is passing through from your mom. He should console himself knowing he has children who are capable of taking good care of him. As for your mom since she wants to be isolated from the rest of the family, please grant her wish, discuss with your younger ones to dissociate themselves from her, treating her as she is not part of the family. When she sees that you all are taking adequate care of yourselves and your dad I know she will have a rethink. If she doesn't then it is left to her to live her life as she has decided for herself. Less I forget, don't distance yourselves from your uncles and aunties from both sides of the family, go to them for support and advice.

@OP
This summarizes my thoughts. Work with this and please take things easy to avoid mental stress. It's important to maintain a good relationship with your uncles and aunties except if you have good reasons not to.

Take care of your dad very well and ignore your mum as much as possible except basic courtesy and respect as ordained by God. She seems to be one of those who derive pleasure from others misery. There's nothing much you can do about that. God will touch her heart someday or she'll get tired of her self imposed isolation.

Meanwhile train your siblings to take care of the house and your dad so that the burden isn't on you alone.

Have you asked your dad about how they met and got married? Sometimes the foundation is part of the problem.

Also, how does she react when shown some love? You could try that route though your description of her doesn't show that it could work.

Best wishes. You will overcome by God's grace.

Happy for them. Many more glorious years to them. Amen

Szkpytqgdcvx925:
u don't know what type of species are southerners or let me not generalise.

Some days ago u chased fulani away, don't u know that it's against the law,

but when kuka who is terrorist like u was ask to leave sokoto u started to curse.

No one will ever chase law abiding Fulanis from the SW.

Father Kukah said nothing new. Many Muslims from the North have said virtually the same thing.

Why not concentrate the energy on sending bandits, kidnappers and terrorists out of the forests in the North?
Besides the Niger, Kano and Zamfara governors have done so well by creating huge ranches with good infrastructure to make life easier for herders. They should be encouraged to key into this and start a new life to align themselves to modern day living.

TheRareGem1:
VP needs to be given more credits especially in our improved tech space...do we have fintech in the country before.... His visit to Silicon Valley brought some positive results as related to investment, Facebook creation of an office in Nigeria, the training of 5 million Nigerian youths out of 10 million in Africa and etc.

Wow! That's great. I always appreciate any step taken to improve the life of our youth and position them for greater heights. With persistence and seriousness on the part of the youth, the future of our nation remains bright.
Kudos to our diligent and focused VP.

It's a continuation of the project which was initiated by PDP. That's the right thing to do if the government cares for the people.

Cute chicks. You've done well for Mira. It's obviously interesting watching her grow.

So funny! They will learn by force.
Children can frustrate even the calmest person.

Perhaps using a different moniker will encourage more people. This makes your genuine intention appear like a joke.

melotech:
I love this kogi state governor for one thing he didn't embrace the stupid Corona of a thing from day one and you can see from the figure you become what you believe

Maybe...but we have seen a number of people who didn't believe thereby attending crowded parties and falling ill.

internationalman:
Please has any one that is actually really living with any of you contracted this virus other than distance relations or the elites of the country.

Yes. It's not something to joke about please. A terrible experience for those who have been through it. It's usually not as bad for most young people who are very healthy and active.

Stay safe always and ignore the naysayers.

One tip...if you know anyone who gas become infected, he/she should try to lie tummy down NOT face up when sleeping. This is to protect the lungs and save oneself from getting into a dire situation. This is one of the list of dos and don'ts given to a close relative by a doctor.

Other family members need to get tested ...not just for Covid.

So the traditional rulers permit them to destroy farms, rape and kill the owners? What right does the traditional ruler have under the constitution to permit the trespass on people's properties?

nickyvil:
I'm short of words, I just got my grant from Lagos relief trust fund. My farm got vandalized and I lost so much but today my story changed, thanks to Lagos state government. I'm so so happy and I can rebuild my farm.
Thank you so so much and Eko o ni ba je o.
Thank you @governor sanwo, I'm really grateful. You fulfill your promise. Thank you so so much.

Congratulations! Spend the money judiciously to rebuild and grow your farm to greater heights. May God grant you full recovery.

I love and respect our armed forces for all that they do to keep us safe. However, this particular occurence is condemnable.

If the story is entirely true, she should thank God for her life and move on. From the look of things, he can't be a good husband to her.

Says the woman who "married" her brother to become a US citizen. Democrats need to shine their eyes and practice liberalism with their heads and minds working in full steam. Otherwise, terrorists will subtly make their way deeply into the system in order to ruin it.

I want Trump out by the way. He's such a big disgrace. He's a great pretender and is only protecting himself. No Christian values in him whatsoever.