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Kobojunkie:
What is wrong with you @OP? If her being close to other men is a red flag for you then leave her and go find yourself a woman who will not be close to other men. It is really that simple!

So you already broke up with her and are here to beat your chest about it or something? oi!

Look, there are men out there who are confident enough in themselves to not mind their significant other having close male friends. That you are small-minded about that does not mean you are a better man. It simply means it is a red-flag for you — something you are not able to handle. Does not make the woman a bad woman nor does it make you a better man either. End of story!

So, for a lady who is engaged to post another man she just met as the man behind her happiness on her status, because he gave her money for her birthday is uniqueness in her, that the op suppose to handle?

No reasonable man will be comfortable with that in the name of self confidence.

Never! I will not marry a lady with such past, unless I didn't know. The annoying thing is when the consequences of such horrid past start coming, it will always affect you who know nothing about it.

The friend who took food to the husband's office has crossed her boundaries. Even though she wants to appreciate the man for the 100k, she should have inform the wife if she is okay with it before going ahead with such stunt. The emotionally over mature people up there are saying she mean no harm until the deed is done.

She did well by blocking her friend. Any perceived enemy should be destroy at all cost.

EreluRoz:
You are calling a snake your friend, wait till she bites you hard. All she's doing is well calculated and she'll strike at the right time.

How is your husband so comfortable eating her food just meeting her once, you will truly know a man's behavior on way he reacts to food. I once rejected a man I liked because of his annoying behavior around anything food, those type of men easily slip away and not very careful or conscious of their surroundings.

Men that loves food too much and don't behave and respect themselves around food and can eat publicly no matter how crowded the place is plus those ones that dance publicly are mostly careless and irresponsible. They easily loose their homes to traps.

I understand your point perfectly, especially the men that lose self control around food. However, the dancing is not bad. Allow people to enjoy their talent. I also dance, be it wedding, birthday, even wake keep of elderly ones, but I don't misbehave. It is a talent I can't hide.

One of my girlfriend broke up with me because of stand up comedy, she wanted me to stop.

The man enjoyed the soup and even gifted the said friend money, and he informed his wife when the friend brought the food to his office. Blaming the husband instead of the friend is just a dry joke.

Ordinarily, she should have given you freely, and even ask how you have been coping without salary. I have dated girls that will subscribe my phone, DSTV, and all that sometimes even when I am earning. I have female friend that offers financial assistance too.

People enjoy giving excuse for failures, that is why they are saying you didn't ask. Your man wasn't paid for three months and as a loving partner, you don't care how he survived because he didn't ask?

She is just inconsiderate, perhaps, little stingy, like most of them.

Yes, after serious heartbreak, one guy called Scorpion changed from rough-violent life to choir-Church btother Emeka.

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

Honestly, I kept on smiling while reading your commented. You just reminded me of those days in Theatre Arts department, with your dramatically inclined diction, of course. The nolstagia is real.

I told my mom I may not marry and she thought I was joking.

Secondary school was more fun because we had level of mature consciousness of oneself. My primary school is missionary school, Catholic to be precise, a little fun because of sport, reading club, but secondary school was my favourite.

Sharing number for customers to have easy access to her.

All these evening newspaper lack decorum when it comes to hustling for gbola.

Women are cheap but men are cheaper. Supposing women decide to kill for ritual, I wonder how many men will survive.

You are dating someone and your ex that ghosted you seven years ago, showed up and she wants your sorry ass, and you want advice? If it is your girlfriend that wants to return to one of her ex for touring now, the gender bashing will start.

What is wrong with all these women?

Well, as a woke man, I will lay the girl and I will sound my wife serious warning for attempting such prank.

For peace, it is good you overcame, but I no go gree for anybody.

BarrNosaEsq:
You lie like a child.

Peter Obi left office since 2014 and has NEVER been invited, accused or even alleged by any anti-graft agency to have stolen a pin from his time as governor. I'm a lawyer, quote me anywhere!

Hate Obi all you want, doesn't change the fact that he's an upright man. A real man. The kind of man Tinubu can only dream of being.

You can google it, Peter Obi have been indicted and invited but Corruption will always overcome.

A man who has learned the art of sipping wine and enjoying the feminine company of beautiful ladies, has mastered the Art of enjoying life.


If you need explanation or benefits before doing everything in life, then you are living a boring life. Life should be spontaneous and fun. Don't always live by rules.

OP, you did the right thing. When I read the part one last night, I was mad. I don't know how some people think, you are suppose to love your partner, but these modern ladies are seeing it as competition and war.


She can go and marry her single mother or return to her marriage and have sense.

An African adage says; when a new dance is learnt, the fool always take his own step to the left.

We have thirty six States in Nigeria and since we are so conscious of representation, thirty six Ministers is okay for any serious government to function effectively.

I understand the diversity of our country, but the advance democracies we so much model our lives after, how many Ministers do they have, the USA?

We are just giving all these clueless kleptomaniacs opportunity to loot.

Lol, OP should be given a special recognition foolishness award.

We have different tribes in Benue. How did you carry out your research? Tiv or Idoma?

Enjoyment of sex is individualistic, it has nothing to do with a state or tribe.

You better misleading the public about Benue girls not liking your money.

First of all, I once argued in support of marrying someone from a broken home, my sincere apologies to those who convinced me that it is a trap.

Back to OP, because you believe in settling down early, you dated a Nigerian girl from a broken home for only three months before marriage, where are you rushing to? And you saw the signs and ignored, what type of rough play is that?

You can never know people completely, but at least, one year of dating before marriage is reasonable. I don't know your obsession for a girl from a broken home, raised by a bittered single mother, who is obviously dating for her son the type of girl he should date, that you still jumped into that marriage within three months.


How often do you go out to hangout? It's okay to go out with your wife once in awhile, and it's okay to be returning home early. A woman is not suppose to be controlling you, you can seek her opinion or advice on certain things, but dictating for you is capital NO. She can leave the marriage, you have a life before the marriage. Don't allow the insecure, toxic woman manipulate you with threats of quitting the marriage, let her go whenever she wants.

It's better to be divorce before one psychopath of a wife poison you one day.


PS: this is a lesson for all the singles, please avoid partner that grew up in a broken home and raised by single mom, they will make life a living hell for you.

This is callous. Why can't he walk away? Some people are just poorly behaved. NGO should look into the matter and use that coward as scapegoat and others will learn.

When you are tired of the marriage, just walk away instead of turning someone's child to a punching bag.

I totally condemn any form of abuse or violence against anyone irrespective of the gender.

She is open minded about her opinion which I admire. Our great grandmothers shared husband like Christmas rice and there was peace and growth in the family, and these Genz baddies who are not adding any value to you apart from exposed overused body think they are special.

Polygamy is golden.

I can't actually explain the surge for adultery among the married couples these days, but the ugliest thing is how some people boast about sleeping with married woman or man. How can I sleep with someone whom I Know is married?


An ex once offered herself to me after her tradition marriage, she said we should go wild before her wedding which was a week time, and she even said if I impressed her, she wouldn't mind us seeing each other onwards. I just told her that I pity the unfortunate husband.

Most ladies have the mindset of enjoying life first, however, the guys that usually meet those kind of ladies, most of them didn't come for marriage. I have seen scenario where the guys want to chop and clean mouth, catch them young and all that.

The guys that such ladies dated from secondary School are not financially ready for marriage either, and those who will argue about hustling together, these girls are still young to develop such foresight.

And no thanks to the mature men that are looking for young girls to prey on.

It's okay to be simping for the right reasons. When a man falls in love, a new fool is born. You can't be in love and be wise, just that be careful not to go simp for someone who isn't worth it.

It's okay to be jealous, but from your explanation, she is becoming toxic and unreasonable with her jealousy. You guys are not even couple yet, what if you guys are dating?

You have to make it clear to her how important her friendship is to you, but outside the friendship, you have life of your own. Someday, you will definitely have a girlfriend and she need to understand that fact.

zoghys:
Guy sorry about your experience, but then this your matter nearing make me crack my ribs with laughter, especially this ur carryover beating.

LoL, I am grateful I am alive to tell the story. It is quite funny looking back at the experience, but that time, it was really horrible and left me a distraught student.

Chygoz01:
if somebody try this with me I go kill am or join cult because of him

Lol, I understand the anger boiling in you, but let's see it this way. I am still here to tell the story because I played the coward. Supposing I joined the rival group, I might have been dead from cult fight, or if I had killed him, I may end up like the University of Jos student that killed her neighbor.

Sometimes, walking away from violence is the best.

ellizy:
Your fabricated script no reach anywhere

I am so jobless to come on faceless forum to fabricate stories? If I love fiction that much, I Know Literature section on this forum.

dangermouse:
I cant stop laughing at the point he asks you to help monitor the Gil for him..lol.

Cultists are just bunch of cowards who leverage on ones fear to intimidate him. Good you fought back.

Had similar experience. Long story short.
During my uni days, visited my girl in her hostel room and end up taking her out along with her roommate to our SUB in school.
As usual there was crowd all catching fun. We got a secluded table, and I went to the bar to get some drinks a second time and waited as there was a queue. When it got ro my turn, a small boy just double crossed and started making orders and I was cool with it , until when he finished, looked at Mein the eye and said he thought I was man enough to challenge him. Lol. I bought my drinks turned and observed the table he was seated at. He was with known cultists. One of them was heading the Most dangerous cult on campus then and I knew him very well cos I use to buy him drinks whenever our parts crossed in a bar.

I was discussing with the girls when same small boy came to our table and took my drink away with him. My girl was speechless and i have to lie to her that the guy is a my friend and that that is how we use to do in the bar. I went and bought another for myself and four more for the cultists at their table. Took the drinks to them and acted as if nothing is wrong while greeting them but was seething inside.
We finished our drinks and i escorted the ladies out and when the bike took them off, I went back to the pub, bought another beer and went back to my previous seat. I didn't open the beer but was shaking the bottle with the contents boiling inside. Walked up to the cultists table and released the bottle of beer on the leaders head . The bottle exploded with so much force that the all ducked and were thrown off balance and I made my escape out in the dark. I ran into a nearby uncompleted building besides the SUB and hid there till midnight.

Took weeks to settle the matter through proxies as I was no whereto be found in school. I was declared wanted by the cult. Lol.

Hahaha, since the leader is someone you already know and buy drinks for, you should have reported his boy to him. Well, thank God you weren't caught, and the case was settled.

For me, I was playing the coward until the second in command stepped in to rescue me, and the girl really sacrificed herself to get me free from their eyes. It's all history now though, I thank God I am alive to tell the story.

ericmor:
Which one be 002 again?

Second in command.

Lol, we too the play for this country.

Is this not albino?

LalastiklaIa:
And you no stab am for neck?

Travel comot from the place. Nobody go do you anything. It will register as self defense in the law court. I hate nonsense

That bandit of a guy always come with four guys, all of them have pistol in the pocket, and small axe called 7. Any day they visit, I will collect slaps, some beating. The trauma affected me that I became paranoid with girls on campus.

The only help I got was when I told a close friend about what I was going through, he spoke to his cousin who happened to be 002 of their group, and I was rescued.