₦airaland Forum

Ardar:
Can you name the soups here that are not igbo soups but "Nigerian delicacies"?

Goalnaldo:
Pocohantas doing what she knows how to do best by the way, so no other lady Sabi cook delicacies again? I thought cococandy was a good cook

ogbonti:
you are very correct, he is naturally bald - BUT you are seeing hair transplant at work

Columbine:
Take him for an ultrasound scan to rule out; intussception and hypertrophic pyloric stenosis.

Bendeco2020:
God bless Onitsha kingdom.


God bless Umuikem, my village.


I greet the great Onitsha men/women here.

BlueRayDick:
It's a good already over here

Native rice + croaker

Aconomist:
Baboon. Is China not breaking up Alibaba for monopoly? Is the United States not trying to break up Google and Facebook for monopoly? Other countries are not full of suffering and smiling monkeys like Nigerians who make excuses for every disfunction.

Xmen149:
A real igbo mother will feel like she is pimping her daughter out by collecting anything from him.

My mum then collected all the gift my sister received from the guy that wanted to marry her and kept in her room. instructed the guy not to bring her self anything.

told my sister to take time study the guy and if she change her mind so they can easily return his gifts that the man may not hold anything against her.

boyfriend is boyfriend,if you like baptize it fiance.
If he hasn't paid bride price he is not in-law he is boyfriend.

Sixfeetbelle:
Once parents start measuring the "love and care" their daughter gets from her man with material things, they are quickly able to decipher the stingy ones from the caring ones and save her from a marriage of sorrows.

"...For by their fruits you shall know them."

Sixfeetbelle:
Apparently, neither does the guy

Sixfeetbelle:
Is it everytime he visits that she'll give him gift? Won't he bring his own gift as well? Won't it get to a time that it would start looking somehow?

At10tion:
it's not entitlement mentality! It's courtesy, if you know what that means and courtesy demands he doesn't go empty-handed, hence the red-flag he triggers. This is not even about tradition, this is universal and resonates with the law of give and take, sow and reap! The Bible says "the gift of a man makes way for him". The woman may not even be thinking of the gift as anything now but the thought of will the supposed fiance be able to take care of her daughter may just continually fills her mind.

At10tion:
Your Fiance is not an honorable person, he's not a man of Honour and doesn't honor you or your family. A person with honor will always leave good impression in the heart of people he met. Even with #500 he will have made himself worthy in the eyes of your mom.. It's not about the gift, it's just courtesy. A singer once sang a song, he said "we were looking for money but then we found honor, and so we went back home! Why..? Because if we find the money it is honor we'll use it to buy"

cococandy:
how won’t I notice when I’m guilty of it too

crackhaus:
LOL...

When it comes to the issue of infidelity, which is really what the entire write-up boils down to, I have always held the opinion that every person (male or female), especially of this internet generation, is capable of cheating while married.

What women mostly lack and what stops most of them from cheating, is NOT love for their husbands – if you as a man think this is it, then you have fallen for their tricks.The only thing that stops them is first of all a fear of being caught, and next is the shame they assume they will feel after the sex act, nothing else...
Once you are able to guarantee a married woman that you have as much to lose just like she does if both of you have sex, and she already likes you and is really attracted to you, she will lose guard... It's a MUST.

The wise and sensible married women who are aware of this, will usually ensure that they don't create any opportunity or allow any form of closeness that will make them become too attracted to a man who is not their husband – meaning, they won't want to spend time with you, they won't want to have regular chats with you, or exchange frequent calls with you...
They know what these things can do their basal feelings, especially when you consider the fact that their husbands won't be as romantic as he was when they were dating or during the first years of their marriage.

I can say that I understand the OP to a certain extent. The only issue with the write-up is that in a quest to drive home his point, he may have gone over and above...

The summary however still remains that, as a man, if you associate with women (whether she's your wife or girlfriend) with the belief that she will/can NEVER cheat on you because she LOVES you so much, then my brother you're on a very loooong thing...

Don't be stupid!!!

cococandy:
When people say light breakfast, this is what it should looks like.

No be that one wey we dey do

Halcyon123:
My wedding cake. Made by my namesake and friend