Mummiesgirls4: Am a moda of 4 girls by 2 different men , 2 lives with deir fada one with my parents and i onli stay with my last baby 1 years and 5 months . I I relocated to asaba to start afresh and i met my new guy in june , he loves me so much and has accepted my baby like his own , we are staying together but i i haven't told him abt my 3 other children , i lied to him that i only have 1 child i I didn't tell him about them because they don't live with me and its not necessary to mention them now . I love him so much and i don't want to loose him because he is my everything on earth. Did i do the right thing please advice me.
It's better you tell him before the fifth child lands. Pls remember to use protection this time around, its necessary!
CuntMiner: yeah, not just girlfriend but also a lady u wanna marry, but she's being disrespectful today, apologize tomorrow, get back to being disrespectful the third day..... I think it due to the fact that you show her love in a way that might be getting in her head like you can't do without her.... you might be speaking with her on the phone any slight provocation, she hangs d call and may not pick again for several hours, again, she says she wants to sleep and charge her phone so I should call her very later on, well to me if u love someone dearly,you wouldn't say that to a call that will last less than 3 minutes I would have just focused on my career alone and leave female matters aside, but it sweeter when u have a lady beside as ur pumping into success...... so how do u handle a disrespectful girlfriend??
Not just how to deal with a disrespectful girlfriend. Is the love reciprocated or one sided
Kingzy4real: I am deeply in love with my wife's sister. She love me too. The feeling is too much to be controlled. Sometimes i consider taking her as second wife but i dont know if culture will permit that.........
My love for my sister's wife began 11years ago when i never married my wife. Things happened so fast that the girl got married to another man because am not financially ready, I asked her to go ahead with the marriage .
1year later i made money and fall in love with her sister who is now my wife. Throughout the years i dated my ex (my wife's sister) i never had sexual intercourse with her.
Fastfoward recently, my wife's sister was sent packing after she caught her husband with a woman, the altercation got heated that she was asked to live.
Now i am being faced with the worst nightmare, a nightmare of finding myself in a trance of loving my ex, who is my sister's wife by blood.
I am now suffering depression, i pushed this girl to marry a wrong guy because i thought i will not make it too early enough.
Allowing this girl to go the second time is what i can not think of, betraying my wife is the least thing on my mind too.
I can convince my wife to marry her sister but how will people feel? what does tradition says about it?
Please someone talk to me before i commit suicide and end this once and for all !!
You are lusting after her cux u never had the chance to eat her punna when both of you were dating.pls stop confusing lust nd love
Made4naijalove: The excited mother of one took to Instagram to share a video on herself all smiles, as she unboxed the gift her hubby presented to her.
The box contained an expensive Rolex wrist watch, and Regina recounted how her former Rolex was stolen by an unknown person.
She also expressed her gratitude to Ned Nwoko for surprising her with the beautiful gift, in celebration of her ’20th’ birthday.
“My Rolex was stolen so hubby decided to replace with a better one. Thank you baby”, she said.
propaganda from the high and might using the local illiterates to achieve their selfish aim. I bet they can't read nor understand what is written on the placard they r carrying. Nigerian government should do the needful, shift all damn SARZ up North
oldtimersince06: I had to create a new account to post this.
So, my husband has beaten me 3 times prior to yesternight. I had said if it happens again, I'm going to leave. Last night, he punched me in my face severally and pushed me hard that I sprained my knee. My concern are my kids. My older child loves his father so much, while the younger one loves me so much. The kids love each other. Do I take my younger child and leave this marriage and separate my kids, or do I leave them with their dad or do I take both of them and trust my older child will be fine without his father?
He has apologized severally this morning but I'm done. He is emotionally abusive on a good day. I can't count the no of times in a day he insults me. He threatens to Kill me and kill himself. My dad doesn't talk to him any more. Let me tell you why.
He didn't have a car at the time, and would go with mine. He was meant to pick the kids up, while I was also waiting for him to pick me up from work. At about 7:30 pm, I called him again asking for when he would get to the kids school and he told me he was busy(Busy here means busy drinking). The school kept calling me, the teachers need to go home. 8 pm, I picked an uber and went to pick them. My phone died and I couldn't charge it till I got home. As I turned my phone on, his call came in and I apologized, that I had picked them up but my phone went off. He said he was in the school and was looking for the kids. I kept on apologizing. He promised to deal with me on getting home. He then called my mum and was shouting at her on phone(he does this regularly). My dad stepped in. He tried to understand the issue. He told my dad, that I disrespected him and that if it was his subordinate in the office( He's in the para military) that disrespected him, they would kill the person and nobody would find the dead body. My dad then said, but she's your wife and not your subordinate. He shouted at my dad and dropped the call.
I go through a lot of emotional stress on a daily basis. I need to leave for my sanity. He's a great father.What do I do about my kids? Matured responses please.
speechless,,,,, Baffles me how a once loving couple or family will turn to a war zone or boxing ground. Were is the love that they both profess to each other Please go with our kids, life has no duplicate
dukeprince50: Good day fams, I stumbled on a post where someone said he hates himself cos he's an introvert, some people feel cos they are always shy, they are introverts, If u feel that way then u are not an introvert.
I'll only explain who is an introvert and I'll use myself as an example. See ehn, no introvert hate himself, infact they see themselves as the best thing after jollof rice, Sometimes u may think they are depressed but no, they just want to be alone and discuss with their inner self, My neighbour then always made that mistake, she comes around to cheer me up thinking I had no friends and always shy to meet someone, but I told her I'm fine and love to be by myself, it took her sometime to finally understand that I'm not depressed.
There is a difference between shyness and introverts, some people are just shy to meet new people and do not have many friends, Introverts are not shy to meet people, they just don't like making so many friends, getting to meet people always seems boring, going to party is so frustrating and tiring, they get tired before the show starts
Yes, they don't like long discussion, not because they get tired though but most introverts are just one-sided in reasoning and if u discuss something different or u have an opposing opinion, they just don't find it interesting and could either tell u they are tired or use another means to leave u instead of arguing with u. For instance, I'm of the opinion that everyone should have a goal in life and works towards achieving it but my dad feels life is not as I feel it is and I must go for my masters and get a good paying Job, I don't have the strength to argue with him so I'll just look for a way to end the discussion even before I start.
Most introverts find themselves in an environ where most people don't share their values so the only person available to discuss with them is their inner self, no one actually understand them, they are very complicated and most times they can't even talk about it cos they know no one gives them a listening ear.
Having low self esteem is not same thing as introverts, Most introverts(if not all) thinks they are very cute cos most times people always come to them than they go to people, I have a friend who told sent me a text and told me "oboy, e be like say this friendship na me deh need am pass, u no deh even call self, no worry, I no go call u again" lol, actually I never saw him as a friend but a church member. they don't have low self esteem.
[/b] Yes introverts are sometimes shy, and most times the shyness comes from when u praise them. One more thing, most introverts are emotionless, its difficult to know if they are angry, happy or in love, they most times keep same face whenever u talk to them, its difficult to read them, I don't know if all introverts does this, but I am always emotionless and I'm the only person who knows what I'm feeling at that time. [b]
Some are born introverts, yes u could be born as an introvert, cos mom told me I have a quiet demeanor even as a baby that's just few months old while some are forced into it like having an authoritative father/parents/guardian who does not want to hear ur own side of the story, u find urself not being able to complain to people around, u grow up with it and tends to just live that way
Though just like we all wear different genetic makeup, an introvert will have a distinct personality different from another but the aforementioned are traits an introvert exhibits
You can't be truer than this @ d bolded. I see me there
Kosixo20: I have an issue that's really bothering me. It's bothering me so much that it's what's keeping me awake at this time of the night. I had to create a new account to post this because I want to keep my identity hidden since some Nairalanders already know my other account.
I'm currently in a relationship with a guy I've been friends with for a while. We are both university undergraduates. We've been dating for almost 7 months. I'm still a virgin. The reason I agreed to date my boyfriend is because I enjoy his company and I wanted to preserve our friendship. It's kinda complicated. I'm not ready for sex and he understands.
Few months ago, I met another guy who is also an undergraduate. He's very interesting and very good looking. I'm very sexually attracted to him. He told me he likes me, but hasn't asked me out. Whenever we are together, he is fond of flirting with me, telling me how sexy I look, touching me, and grabbing my ass. The last time we were together he even squeezed my breasts. I told him that he should stop because I'm sensitive to his touch, which is actually the case. I already told him that I can't date him because he doesn't look like the type to stick to one girl for a long time. My statement didn't even faze him and he responded that he doesn't do relationships because he gets bored easily.
He always tells me how he'll like to have sex with me and the things he'll do to me. He doesn't even seem bothered that I have a boyfriend and never brings it up. He has invited me over to his place once and I declined because I don't know if I'll be able to control myself being alone in his apartment and I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend.
The problem is sometimes this guy just ghosts me for days and sometimes he doesn't even reply my texts, then out of nowhere he'll return and act all flirty and touchy. Our friendship is affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. I'm becoming more attracted to this new guy and I'm not comfortable.
[/b] I'm thinking of blocking his number and ceasing communication with him. [b] Is this the right step to take? I'm confused and I don't know what to do.
@ the bolded, dat is d right thing to do before u create another thread to say he used you and dump you. The handwriting is very clear!
Rawhumper: Nne if You noticed, i didnt reply immediately.
I wanted to Take some time and watch it and
from what i saw yesterday that [/b] Ozo is a real mountain He-goat on heat.... [b] He almost got third strike for staying in HOH room if he stayed there till 3.
I Hope he doesnt lose his supporters, if not for one Thing he would have left that Place since.
I now concur with You but i believe he will humiliate Nengi if he sleeps with her, i kinda think he wants to Play The fool to pull her panties down.
I know to bed or not a Lady, happens from the first day a guy approaches a lady, he didnt start well from day one with Nengi thats why he ended up worse than a simp.
Hope You are doing good.
quote author=Diamond23 post=94058999]Am not sure about about this ur observation. The guy just MUMU in the name of love. Don't be suprise when he gift Nengi that car he won as per love too . To be honest with u, dat guy knows no jack about been a SILENCER. HE is just over grown mummy's boy. He used to be my fav. Until he started this his IBERIBLOVEISM
SoiSoi13: He will do no such thing ,he is just playing a game of mumu love, check his reply to Dora when she ask him if he is to will the car to Nengi, Nengi herself is also playing a game, in my opinion, but by next week everyone will answer his father name, just watch
I just hope he keeps to his words cux dat guy is foolishly in love and Nnegi on the other sure know what she is doing. She is using mind game on Ozo who is too blind to see
Rawhumper: Have it in mind that Ozo is More shrewd than Kid, i have studied that guy closely, he is the type that gives ladies irreparable damages than Kid.
See how he is subtly biting Nengi and making headway.
I see it in his eyes, he doesnt love her, in his mind i Can hear him say This chic is really playing with fire.
He will pretends and acts as if he doesnt know what he is doing.
Ladies should dread Ozo More than Kid, Ozo is a SILENCER.
Mark my Observation!
Am not sure about about this ur observation. The guy just MUMU in the name of love. Don't be suprise when he gift Nengi that car he won as per love too . To be honest with u, dat guy knows no jack about been a SILENCER. HE is just over grown mummy's boy. He used to be my fav. Until he started this his IBERIBLOVEISM
silento: Am going straight to the point , met this girl on Facebook , unfortunately we live in same area we arrange and met from that day we started hanging out together most times she has no boyfriend but got two guys that wanted to date her but she refused , I told I don't want relationship stuff also , at a time I got this project I started working on and I hardly had time to see her or go out like before to her she see it as if I was avoiding her
She started calling I assured her once am free I will come by but that Sunday I promised to see her I ran into an old friends we all drink and chatted about life , and I didn't make it later in the week she called me since I know am not yet free I skipped her calls then the person I was working for called me I picked and as we are discussing this girl started disturbing me with call for a whole ten minutes I was on call she was calling , after the call I blocked her number coz I see it as distraction to my work she sent me sms that since I don't take her calls that she will frustrate my work with calls and chat till I see her
In fact I got angered by this and blocked her on all social media and blacked listed her contact
Few days I got calls from unknown person asking me what is the problem with me and my girlfriend and I asked the person who please
She called her name and I told her please ma am not dating her ooh we are just friends , and the person said ok no problem since I said I wasn't dating her then there is nothing she has to ask me again and cut the call
After months I unlock her after a friend pleased with me to do so
Since then she keep threatening me that she will die if I stop talking to her
Or stop seeing her , in fact most time I am with her she will try to force herself on me which I will find a way to escape and same time make her not feel less of a person
Now I had another project am working on the project is giving me sleepless night and this girl can't understand that she is not my girlfriend and I don't love her , but keep insisting that I see her or she will fall sick and die
In fact she smokes now , she has lost extremely weight cost of the last one I stopped seeing her
I have tried to hook her up with another guy no way , she always wants to be around me ,
She said I should keep staying and comforting her till she finds someone she can love
But seriously am just feed up on this
She will tell people that all she wants is for me to be around her but once w are together she will start to throw kiss and hugging me as if am her guy
It makes me mad ,in a recent chat we had few days ago she admitted that she knows that she is forcing herself on me but I should endure till she finds another guy or the feeling dies down or else she might fall sick and die in the process
She is using death to scare everybody , infact everybody keep advising me to pretend So that she will heal completely ,
I thought i was helping her but seriously I don't feel happy again ,[/b] I just feel like I will die before her [b]
But her dead threat is too much
Please I know she is not normal upstairs i think this has to do with mental issue than just merely feeling of loving anybody
I am been victimized here and everybody keep telling me to continue ,
Please anybody in anambra nnewi that can help me to get her to any rehabilitation center
Because for me am planning to leave town anytime from Monday just to have happiness in my life back since everybody keep forcing to do something out of my will without considering the effect it is having on me
I have turned to a mini drunker Just to help me forget stuffs it affects my work it effects me emotionally and mentally
Please insults are welcome , but please advise is much needed
As I am typing this am bleeding in my heart
@ the bolded, very funny I must say . She must be the female OZO of bbnija. Maybe keep pretending like they told you till she gets new boyfriend
silento: Am going straight to the point , met this girl on Facebook , unfortunately we live in same area we arrange and met from that day we started hanging out together most times she has no boyfriend but got two guys that wanted to date her but she refused , I told I don't want relationship stuff also , at a time I got this project I started working on and I hardly had time to see her or go out like before to her she see it as if I was avoiding her
She started calling I assured her once am free I will come by but that Sunday I promised to see her I ran into an old friends we all drink and chatted about life , and I didn't make it later in the week she called me since I know am not yet free I skipped her calls then the person I was working for called me I picked and as we are discussing this girl started disturbing me with call for a whole ten minutes I was on call she was calling , after the call I blocked her number coz I see it as distraction to my work she sent me sms that since I don't take her calls that she will frustrate my work with calls and chat till I see her
In fact I got angered by this and blocked her on all social media and blacked listed her contact
Few days I got calls from unknown person asking me what is the problem with me and my girlfriend and I asked the person who please
She called her name and I told her please ma am not dating her ooh we are just friends , and the person said ok no problem since I said I wasn't dating her then there is nothing she has to ask me again and cut the call
After months I unlock her after a friend pleased with me to do so
Since then she keep threatening me that she will die if I stop talking to her
Or stop seeing her , in fact most time I am with her she will try to force herself on me which I will find a way to escape and same time make her not feel less of a person
Now I had another project am working on the project is giving me sleepless night and this girl can't understand that she is not my girlfriend and I don't love her , but keep insisting that I see her or she will fall sick and die
In fact she smokes now , she has lost extremely weight cost of the last one I stopped seeing her
I have tried to hook her up with another guy no way , she always wants to be around me ,
She said I should keep staying and comforting her till she finds someone she can love
But seriously am just feed up on this
She will tell people that all she wants is for me to be around her but once w are together she will start to throw kiss and hugging me as if am her guy
It makes me mad ,in a recent chat we had few days ago she admitted that she knows that she is forcing herself on me but I should endure till she finds another guy or the feeling dies down or else she might fall sick and die in the process
She is using death to scare everybody , infact everybody keep advising me to pretend So that she will heal completely ,
I thought i was helping her but seriously I don't feel happy again , [/b][b] I just feel like I will die before her [b][/b]
But her dead threat is too much
Please I know she is not normal upstairs i think this has to do with mental issue than just merely feeling of loving anybody
I am been victimized here and everybody keep telling me to continue ,
Please anybody in anambra nnewi that can help me to get her to any rehabilitation center
Because for me am planning to leave town anytime from Monday just to have happiness in my life back since everybody keep forcing to do something out of my will without considering the effect it is having on me
I have turned to a mini drunker Just to help me forget stuffs it affects my work it effects me emotionally and mentally
Please insults are welcome , but please advise is much needed
As I am typing this am bleeding in my heart
@ the bolded, very funny I must say . She must be the female OZO of bbnija. Maybe keep pretending like they told you till she gets new boyfriend
So i went with a friend to a mechanic village to fix his car. When we got there I was able to find a cool spot under a tree to chill while we wait for the car.
I was alone with my thoughts so I decided to say some prayers. Basically I prayed for breakthrough..
The shock I got after praying was what lead to my thread.
I was about to get up when I felt this hot splash on both my hand and leg..
Pls my people i have heard about the implications of birds poo on humans.. Pls people help me shed light.
it's just a harmless poo.right place at the wrong time
Danielfx: The main reason why i have not exposed this to anyone since is because it sounds completely insane.
After my secondary school education, i had an health attack from an overdose of drug and was unconcious, after I was revived and discharged, i started hearing a girl talking to me in a cool voice. At first, i thought i was deluding but it becomes real and real, she introduced herself as my wife and that we got married. She asked me if i don't remember which i said "no", funny enough i developed an attitude relating with her without a problem and even started having sex with her, i feel her on me and then somehow ecstasy evoke building that sperm flow....
My major issue is that i can't date a girl more than three months. My spirit companion would leave atimes for days and eventually come back. All the ladies i ever loved could not stay even though i showed them love and care and spent money on them.
I have been so lucky with money, she knows my taste for money is insatiable and so she doesn't object that area at all but whenever i start crying or feeling hurt about heartbreak with my girlfriend, she would come and whisper to me that she told me to leave her alone, that she can't share me with anyone and that we belonged to each other...
My friend was able to use voodoo to hold his girlfriend that broke his heart and stole his money to elope with a guy, the girl came back and for years they have been together happily. The girl is so happy that i advised myself to do thesame. My friend took me to an Alfa that did thesame stuff for him. Mine didn't work, as a matter of fact, my girl left me to a guy that is not handsome as i am, not financially buoyant as i am and not even educated. I used drugs during sex and so i am sure the guy wouldn't be twice as good as i am in bed.
The last time i saw my ex, she was dried up from starvation as her dad had no job and she already lost her mom. I called her and sent money to her Account to make her hair but after meeting her at the saloon, she declined meeting again with me. It was as if one moment she was very jumpy to get back to me and another moment she was critically rude.
So, i called her today and she told me she has a visitor, a male visitor and that i should not call her and that she would call me when she is chanced. I was so angry and didn't know what to do, i withdrew money and bought codeine to forget her but just as i was about taking the codeine, the spirit lady came, i felt her presence and then she laughed jokingly at me and told me she warned me about the girl, that we(spirit and i) belonged together and that i should stop chasing ladies except for flings only....
I was so angry and then i told her i would commit suicide to end the frustration of being lonely all the time, she then threatened to paralyse me if i attempt doing it, and that the paralysis would stop me from putting myself in harms way but i will live for long, even to old age like that...
She seemed so intelligent giving me special advise and saying things that i don't even know of. She makes people see me like a highly intelligent young man. She advises me whenever she's around some of the advise are righteous and it makes me wonder if she is angel or something. At a time, she came to my exam hall once to sit with me and tell me some few answers while she joke...
People started thinking i am mad or deluded in some sort which i know was true. They say sometimes i talk to myself and behave strange and even walk like a deluded person...
The thing is that i don't really hate her but the fact that i can't see her is dreadful for me. I need a companion and no girl seems to be around me more than three months no matter how caring i am. I am so fucking romantic that people always compliment on my act....
My previous posts reflect on heartbreak and stupid relationships all of which were her handiwork.
I am unhappy with my life. No voodoo works for me. I can't even cast a spell on a girl and can't hold any girl around me and any male friend she doesn't like, she sends away somehow...
Please Nairalanders, this is not a story, this is real and to God in heaven i swear on my death. I don't know what to do again. Please someone should help.
Modified: My family dedicated me to an idol in sapele after they gave birth to me.
They claimed i was so sick after birth and that they tried everything possible and only the idol that saved me... I worshipped the idol till the age of 15
Ask ur family some questions. They got the right answer to ur misery and mystery
Palema007: That right there is the Typical Black Man thinking! Lack of foresight and Aspirations.
Instead of the man to use the ladder to cross to the other side of the wall, he'd rather remain where nothing happens, burn the ladder as firewood while expecting a miracle. I wonder what will happen when the ladder finishes and darkness crawls in.
AnonymousRebec: I have broken up with someone over text message because I had no other choice. (The story is below if you are interested)
So I dated this guy for about a year and the half before I brought myself to finally break up with him but I didn't have the courage to break up with him in person so I had to do it via text message.
In my life, I have dated 2 guys. With one of the guys, we both knew that long distance will not work for us, since we were both moving to different states. So we both decided to call it a day and move on peacefully. For the other guy I had to break up with him because he wasn't willing to compromise in some areas that were dear to me.
The background of this guy: The first woman he ever loved shattered his heart. She tore it into pieces. So for that reason, he has built so many walls around his heart to protect it. He was so broken to the extent that anytime he talks about her, he doesn't have nice words to say about her. He says he hates her. He has told me the story of that particular relationship and I normally tell him that maybe she is not so bad, maybe she is not the problem. I told him several times that he has to forgive her and move on. But I don't think he has forgiven her.
So now, a couple of years has passed after this heart break. It took him some time to get into another relationship because he was still healing. Then we met during a training. We became friends first, went on several outings together and eventually, we started dating. The realtionship while it lasted was a fantastic one. We always had each other's back. We always wanted and helped each other to grow and be happy. It was fantastic.
But there were some particular things he did that I didn't like. Whenever he saw he was becoming too attached emotionally to me, he will withdraw a bit. It's like he was scared to get emotionally and psychologically attached to me and I wasn't finding it funny. I asked him to improve in that aspect. I encouraged him to go for therapy if he needed one. My thought was that he was still struggling with the heart-break from the previous relationship, but nothing changed in that aspect.
Now, we didn't live in the same house but we met up very frequently. I told him so many times to improve in that area but I guess it was too much to ask. He told me he could not do that. That he doesn't want to be heart-broken a second time. It was left for me to decide if I wanted to continue or to move on. But I knew that a man being emotionally and psychologically detached from me is not what I want. Then I decided that I have to move on.
After he told me he wasn't going to change, I planned several times that whenever next we meet, I'll let him know that I couldn't accept his emotional detachment, and that I was going to move on. But I could never bring myself to tell him that in person. So many times, I decided I'll tell him in person but it never happened. I didn't have such courage. So one day, after I thought it through, I decided to send a text message explaining why I couldn't continue with the relationship and why I couldn't tell him in person. I apologised and wished him all the best in his future endeavors.
Sometimes, I wish he met me before this lady that broke his heart
I think u broke up with him over nothing, as if he knew u r going to do this to him. He told u everything, u knew y he behaved as such. Frm ur explanation, he is still struggling to accept and adapt. He might sound tough nd never buh with time nd love he will loosen up
soulstalker: Hi Landers, Tomorrow is my mom's birthday and I don't have much with me, I still have 7k with me, and I want to get her a lil cake and lil gift with. So I need ideas of things I can get with 2 or 3k.
Maybe i mis interpreted The picture you sent then.
Well as for me, i dont really wish to have something serious but The oxygen of Thing must worth it dear.
Lol....i wish You The Same honeypot.
quote author=Diamond23 post=93747083][color=#770077]I never said you are or did I? Exactly same, except flirt cuz what happened in vegas must remain in Vegas! Good luck on ur oxygen search buh make sure you don't end up with carbon monoxide
Rawhumper: Nah, nah nah i ain't ugly gurl that i can assure u.
What do You think gives me more confidence and boldness?
Changed my pic recently, anyways am just here to flirt, have fun and move on but i truly meet one my Heart beats with, then she will be my Source of oxygen.
I never said you are or did I? Exactly same, except flirt cuz what happened in vegas must remain in Vegas! Good luck on ur oxygen search buh make sure you don't end up with carbon monoxide
Romance › Re: My Pre Wedding Pictures by Diamond23(f): 8:26pm On Nov 12, 2020
