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ePoster:
Honestly, I think it's absurd!
In a country such as Nigeria, it's bizarre that anyone should identify as a 'feminist'.
Feminism isn't a movement or organization. It's a way of life. A belief in something that should be considered normal.
Regarding child marriages, Nigeria has the third highest number of child brides. Of all the countries in the world, it has the 11th highest rate of child marriages. 44% of females in Nigeria are married before the age of 18, while 18% are married before the age of 15.
In terms of education, age 15 and above, the rate of female literacy is 59.4% compared to that of males, 74.4%.
By the year 2012, 25% of females, age 15-49, had undergone female Instruments mutilation.
1 in 4 girls compared to 1 in 10 boys would experience sexual violence before the age of 18.
So I see no reason why anyone needs a fancy title or group to fight for a sane society where every individual is treated fairly regardless of gender! There should be a pressing need in everyone to advocate equality.

equality doesn't exist, what we should advocate for is justice and neutrality

IamLEGEND1:
and this rigid assignment of roles is what has made just as many marriages crumble.

I preach self sufficience. I cook, clean and do everything for myself, and others if I need to. There is no hard and fast rule to life. Stick to what works for you. Don't try forcing your idea of what a marriage should be on others.

but she says the truth. That's why women see , 50:50 men as a joke, because they never want to fulfill thier part of the 50:50

BigSarah:
Talking about food in dates, who declared that dates must happen at fast-food or grillers? No one!, if as a man you're not spontaneous enough to pick a non-food related venue for the date that's on you!

If a girl wants to pay for her own meal guess what she'd be doing? EATING IT ALONE!... Not having some guy giving interviews over lunch.
Sure some girls might take a date as a possible meal ticket, but if you can't bring up sharing of the bills before the date then you shouldn't complain, if you did the asking out.. I never get critical or judgmental about dates etiquette but this section of nairaland never hides it's gross misogyny.

I disagree.

Divanona:
I mean that's the only good memories of him. Not that I'm indebted to that. I do more for him as well.

then he has been a burden from day one. He has only done one great thing that you can remember?



This is simple maths, and the equation is not balanced in your favor. He wants a roof to stay and a vagina to Bleep until he finds something better and trust me, he will abandon you and your son when he does. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.

He's is not a positive in your life. Don't become sufferhead because of your mother complex to a grown man.

pocohantas:
Stay there and be doing mumu love. Men always looking for fixers like you.

After moving upandan like evil spirits in their youth, when they are old and broke- they will now come back to that virtuous woman. Same thing you see in marriages. Womanize in youth, come back to their wives with Nigerian used penis and damaged internal organs. Your work will now be to cook vegetable soup without pepper and spices. You will also learn to turn wheat and pound unripe plantain for him.

Ndi virtuous women. I don’t blame him, na you I blame. 8 fcking years... Pfftttt!!

She doesn't know that she is signing up to be a caretaker for free. These men will womanize in their youth and pretend to change like prodigal sons so that they don't die miserable and alone in old age the way they know they deserve to. They're plenty in the hospitals

Divanona:
Eight years ago, with tears in my eye, I held his hand, begged him to stay with me that we will struggle together and succeed, but he refused. He walked away living me pregnant. Now, he's back without anything.

We were friends from the University, I graduated before him because I was studying a 4years course. The very first time, we tried to take our relationship serious was after my graduation. We had s.e.-x for the very first time and I became pregnant.
The truth is, the guy have always been good to me throughout my stays in school.
I remembered that day he sacrificed his school fees for mine so I could be able to do my final clearance. But when I became pregnant, he walked away after convincing me to keep our baby.
I went through everything all by myself.
Since last year, he has been apologizing on phone, so last week, I asked him to come. He traveled down to my place. Without being afraid of anyone harming him from my family, he believed in me and came. He's around in my family house, staying in my brother's room for the past 3days.
He has opened up everything to me, my family members and have apologized.

now, I'm so confused with my life.

He couldn't graduate, he had problem in school after I left and all this years, he has been struggling, but now he wants to take responsibility and be with us, but he had nothing. No certificate, except diploma which he later did from another school, no job, no place of his own to stay. He had nothing. He wants us to get married and have a family.


I feel I'm about to add more burden to my already stressed life.
The only positive thing here now, is the excitement my son is having seeing his father and the relationship they're building.

A part of me wants to see this guy have a great life and have direction and not see him live like this, even if I don't settle down with him. because when I meant him, he was kind, a good person, he had dreams, vision and good plans.
But living us alone all this years, with all his explanations, I'm not contented.

Another part of me is confused, afraid and I feel ishould push him away and let him go back to his life and keep moving with my son because I don't have the strength to shoulder all these.

Please matured mind in the house, what do you have to say? This is my life and it's getting more confused.
What would you advise? What should I do?
I don't want to make more mistakes.

Sorry for my lengthy write-up

He is an additional burden and wants to leech off you because he knows your mumu button. It's a scam men play.

He can have a relationship with your son, but you are under no obligation to be in a relationship with him or have him stay at your house.

Amatarasha:
https://www.nairaland.com/2705292/seeing-demons-angels-fallen-angels/333#94226785

is your kpekus still smelling? How is your child. You single mother virgin?

Martinez39s:
Dr Funmi, I am curious to hear YOUR perspective. If a man's role is to provide, protect, and profess, what do YOU think should be the woman's role?

_{N.B: I am not asking for the sake of arguing. I just sincerely want to see your perspective.}

she is to nurture what the man brings home.

[quote author=GLYCOLYSISS post=94371673][/quote]just admit that you are nothing more than a sperm donor and waste to society.

People with your mentality have no value.

CosmicPhoenix:

they are not married

But he was sleeping with her? And collecting things from her. So he had nothing to bring to the table.

How can babe be a mumu like that for a guy that hasn't put in the work.

damis28crown:
i seriously hate it when ladies go extra mile for boyfriend even if its husband self now look at this shit

what is it gon gon i dont understand
why worship a guy because of love ehh

pls lets give ourself respect lets gather our dignity back please i beg
whether its film or not its happening

why are a number of today's men so entitled and lazy?


It is better to be single and relocate abroad in peace than to be with dead weight like that.

GLYCOLYSISS:
You just got a way to blame men for your choices.
Don't she have parents and relative to help meet her needs?
Don't she have an income generating job she does for a living?

I will start taking you guys serious the moment you start taking responsibility and being accountable for your poor choices in life.

What's your use as a man if you cannot provide, protect and profess?
abeg, learn to hold yourself accountable.

If I have an income generating job, what are you bringing to the table?

I didn't read the whole thing, but this is what happens when your man doesn't provide.

Tabasco23:
I went to a hospital yesterday, he gave me medicine, pretty expensive tho

Are you better now?

Tabasco23:
I'm posting this here cause this is where people are the most, so this started this even by 7pm and it's been disturbing me ever since and I've checked it's not cancer and if you're thinking it's because of masturbating too much it's not, i last masturbated on Monday this week and that's not the case, is there any medicine that anyone knows that can stop this cause it's also affecting my lower abdomen...... I can't sleep like this tonight cause I'm worried and every time I turn the pain comes back and I'm out of pain Killers

uncle, submot yourself to a hospital before your testicles become useless

sirjamesjnr:
. Best decision I ever made, falling in love with you. I am grateful to nairaland. Like I'm always tell you, I will love you forever.

love you my jollof.

Michelle55:
All this men you mentioned, are they on this platform? I know of efulefu, ermm sorry, I mean lefulefu our matter still dey oba palace.

But the rest, haven't heard of them before, by the way, how did you know that they are single?
Ayam beginning to suspect you Zzor.

Or are you pimping them out ni?

Jaubdu is taken.

So how do you convince customers that your products has more value than your competitors?[quote author= post=94315769]More about this Dm for Price issue,,
This is what we came about some weeks ago.....

A few days ago, I saw some locally handcrafted sandals being promoted on social media that caught my attention because of how beautiful and distinctive they were. I was pleasantly surprised.

So, when I saw a style that had somewhat unique detail and finishes, I was very interested and immediately posted a comment under the picture.

“Love these! How much are they?”

Two days later, when I’d almost forgotten them, I got a notification of a reply.

“Please DM for price.”

For those who don’t know, on social media, ‘DM’ means direct message and is the typical way to ask someone to contact you privately.
The delay and their response made me lose interest entirely, so I didn’t bother to ‘DM for price’. And yes, I found it a bother.

What’s most troubling is that this secrecy about price is not restricted to local sandal makers, but is a widespread practice.
Many companies with pages on Instagram and Facebook routinely post pictures without pricing or proper descriptions for a wide range of items, including clothing, shoes, bags, art, accessories, home decor, furniture, hair, skin care products, and even food, and instead ask that you ‘DM for prices’ if interested.

PRICE SECRECY

It is a critical teachable moment for business owners and consumers, particularly in this digital age where e-commerce, effective online communication and customer engagement are key pillars of the future of retail.

Many businesses will either see explosive business growth or devastating stagnation as they navigate the next few years. As a result, I posed the following question on social media:

Why should a customer DM for the price of a product you posted online?
Are you doing business, or keeping a secret?


I then explained key business principles behind transparency, which I will outline shortly.

My post triggered an avalanche of responses. I knew that several consumers had similar sentiments, but when over 1,000 people engaged me on Instagram alone, I was taken aback.

The responses from Facebook and Twitter were also incredible.
People were so vocal and passionate, it was clear I had struck a nerve for many.

I could barely keep up with the hundreds of comments bemoaning this practice of businesses withholding prices and asking customers to either send a private message, call for details, or, worst of all, visit the location.
Users even called out offending companies, tagging them in the comments and insisting they ‘read and learn’.

TRANSPARENCY IS THE BEST POLICY

Although some entrepreneurs had seemingly good reasons for withholding prices from the public, I believe many are losing money and damaging their brands in the process. Here’s why:

Customers love transparency.
They are less trusting of companies that hide prices and may feel that the business is shady and will increase the quoted amount if it perceives the customer can afford to pay more.

Customers like control and real-time information.
A basic customer-service principle is that customers like to feel and be in control.
They’ve become accustomed to real time information in the digital space.
They may also resent being asked to take several actions or steps based on company policies that appear mindless or don’t serve them.

Customers don’t need complexity or extra work. Businesses should make their customers’ lives easier at every opportunity.
In this highly competitive digital space, customers have many choices and lead complex lives.
The easier it is for a customer to buy, the more likely it is they will if they perceive utility.

Stop competing on price.
Compete instead on unique value as competing on price is almost always a race to the bottom.

It’s unproductive.
It can’t be the best use of a business’ time and resources to hide prices then respond to a wide net of people individually with the same answer ­ DM for price

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IvoryT:
Just thinking....A wife (working or not) receiving 200K Naira every month for her Upkeep (excluding food stuffs and bills) fair enough.

it's fair

Zzor:
iamplato:This one's own is very funny,hes obviously a simp ooo but has that boldness to sometimes claim alpha male,i wonder if alpha male got a new meaning,though he's still broke but he's kind of a hard worker,no lady wants an "e go better man" these days oga platto.May God pick your call so you can have that type of woman you deeply want.Ladies avoid him for now,i don't want him to loose focus.

Greatresearcher airforce1 swalormir righteousness89

Zzor:
Thats just the whole truth about him

pls we need more, i am plato and co

Zzor:
vyzz:This one is still trying to know if tramadol or weed works better for his sexual performance,dont look his way ladies,his mattress is still on the floor

Chai!! my chest!!!

MadeINchenzen2:
97% men in the world today are married to wh.ores and h.oes without knowing.

because they Bleep whores and hoes before marriage

WaterTheMonk:
Denying yourself further procreation because you want to please another gender. 21st century joke

You are the joke here

fineboynl:
my room and toilet is now smelling. there is this girl I'm seeing she frequently or sometimes visit me and stay for days. her pussy smell really bad.

before you all say it dirty girl. she is not. no matter how expensive her fix hair is, she removed it within a week or at most 2 weeks. she is not a dirty girl. but I don't understand how her pussy smell so bad. my bedsheets and guest towel which I give to girls is just bombing with smell. the toilet where she urinate. I am tired and already thinking of stopping her from coming.

what could be the problem? she get wet too easily when I touch her. sometimes while we are in public when i touch or romance her the next thing is that foul smell.

what is she not doing right? if it's an infection what is the treatment and how do I tell her? she isn't my real girlfriend neither would i like to date or marry her, but for the main time I like her company as she is helping me to kill boredness most times. there are other needful situation I am needing her for. if not I would have deleted her since.



I am tired of washing bedsheets and cleaning the house each time she visit. my wardrobe where she put her undies or trousers smells too. I'm tired

most likely your body chemistry (pheromones) and hers do not mix. You will be shocked that other guys will like the 'smell' as you put it.


But just in case it is malodorous, take her to the nearest general hospital to see a doctor.

Also, did she bleach?

olakan22:
Isnor the original toolz o

Ehen!!

Is ok.

CosmicPhoenix:

try using the sound of a wolf howling as your ringtone or message notification tone,it will scare the sh1t out of most people especially at night.

I'll try that

Timekeeper:
Dont you miss Amatarasha at all

Ehn funmisticqueen??

My monicker is DrFunmisticGlow, not funministicqueen.

I don't know but I am more focused on life offline than an online monicker who types like a delusional person

Settle your mom first. No brainer. You fiancee and her family can wait

Shr does have a point, but not all men of that age group have the qualities she listed, just a good number of them..

Edit: so many men triggered by her post. Toolz is married o, with a child.

luminouz:
I know sis...


I've been cool oh...u nko?

Just there, picking up the pieces of my life COVID left behind

luminouz:
Lmaoooo...
Nudes indeed.

no na!!

I just just refreshing her past history.

Ignore her biko.

How have you been?